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marlow1962:
Is 8 months not too soon to date and get married. I feel a year and half or 2 (max 3 years) is okay.
So many ladies can be on pretence mode for that 8 months or 1 year.

Honestly.
Maybe she was desperate to get married.
What's 8 Months?

Date someone u want to marry for at least two years first. You see why most marriages are crashing these days?

Were you also a virgin then?

spiceadole:
That was what me and my husband practised.
We dated for 8 months.No sex, no spending.

It's greedy and broke ladies that can't agree to no spending.
I was working and contended.

We have 3 children now

spiceadole:
That was what me and my husband practised.
We dated for 8 months.No sex, no spending.

It's greedy and broke ladies that can't agree to no spending.
I was working and contended.

We have 3 children now

They would still claim "if you love me and are really serious about marrying me, you will spend on me to make sure I look good for you at all times 😂😂😂😂"

tosyne2much:
I no know say baba no dey use Opueh play

Yes ke. You unko? Lol

GboyegaD:
Do you date prostitutes?

Please what's your opinion on wives who intentionally starve their husbands of sex?

spiceadole:
That was what me and my husband practised.
We dated for 8 months.No sex, no spending.

It's greedy and broke ladies that can't agree to no spending.
I was working and contended.

We have 3 children now

I believe you were a virgin?

Julibet:
I'm surprised you were not angry with his clap back because once a man says no spending, ladies immediately blackmail them and say 'if you love someone, you'll want to take care of the person'

She's probably sleeping with another man somewhere why will she be angry?
Oga the last person on earth that can deceive me is woman.
No woman can deceive me.

And the good news was that you are not a virgin.


[quote author=spiceadole
post=139154996]Why should I be angry?
I had met guys who didn't agree to "no sex" even when I accepted they should not spend on me.
Finding someone who agreed to my condition was perfect.
I was working and spending on myself.
I didn't just want to be passed around in the name of relationship.[/quote]

YoshihideSuga:
Please what's your opinion on wives who intentionally starve their husbands of sex?

Does she ask for money before sex?

spiceadole:
That was what me and my husband practised.
We dated for 8 months.No sex, no spending.

It's greedy and broke ladies that can't agree to no spending.
I was working and contended.

We have 3 children now

While you were gbenshing another guy,and left him with no sex before marriage scam.
I pity him sha

stan4b:
If no sex before marriage, then no spending or billing of any kind before marriage. Case closed.

Marriage is not transactional. The wrapped-up view of marriage is what's killing the institution.

If all what you have written are true, and with the tone of your writings, you aren't really sexually attracted to your husband (I mean the type where you just want to get bûtt nàked and make love spontaneously to your man) and he doesn't really know how to seduce women. You marriage seems to be 100% logical... which is usually the case when women don't have high sexual attraction for their husbands.

spiceadole:
I'm done with child bearing.
I cannot risk being infected with incurable diseases.
Married men, especially,are not faithful.

DeclanR:
Honestly.
Maybe she was desperate to get married.
What's 8 Months?

Date someone u want to marry for at least two years first. You see why most marriages are crashing these days?

There's no fixed time to date. My uncle didn't date and they're still doing just fine. The length of dating is not related to how successful your marriage will be.

Ashirioluwa:
I will respect her decision only if the lady in question is a virgin and she wants to remain that way till our marriage.

If the lady is not a virgin, I will term her decision as deception and believe that she probably doesn't have feelings for me and that she is possibly having fun or involved with someone else outside our relationship.

You don't know the circumstances in which she lost her virginity. Sex and love are not always related.

If u no be virgeen, u have not moral right to tell me say no xes before marriage...

U dey crayz...?!

No sex till marriage is for children not for adults
You need to taste what you are going to eat for the rest of your life to avoid "WHAT IS THIS" either P€NI$ is too small or too big for your liking or the Woman KPEKUS is too wide or too tight or even has an offensive Odour what will you say?
Any woman that said so is maybe hiding something from the man and no man can ever said that to any lady the possibility is 10/100
Nobody can tell me that
Am too big for that nonsense
Man cannot do without sex
You can ask your grandfather

79733139:
If all what you have written are true, and with the tone of your writings, you aren't really sexually attracted to your husband (I mean the type where you just want to get bûtt nàked and make love spontaneously to your man) and he doesn't really know how to seduce women. You marriage seems to be 100% logical... which is usually the case when women don't have high sexual attraction for their husbands.

The most important thing is that I have children and I'm happy.

Kenobsky:
And the good news was that you are not a virgin.

I didn't need to be a virgin to decide what I wanted to do with MY BODY,who I wanted to share it with,how and when I wanted to.

spiceadole:
I didn't need to be a virgin to decide what I wanted to do with MY BODY,who I wanted to share it with,how and when I wanted to.

Thank God I don wise.
Left for a simp to go into that blind contract.

Rutherinspace:
You don't know the circumstances in which she lost her virginity. Sex and love are not always related.

I do believe that I do not know about how she lost her virginity. Additionally, I understand that sex and love do not always correlate. But what I know is that I will not allow anyone to deceive me.

I am not crazy as to whether a girl is a virgin or not because I myself am not a virgin. However, I have decided that if a lady is not a virgin, she cannot ask me to wait until marriage for sex. I am not going to buy that from her, and I would prefer not to hear her elaborate explanations regarding her past and how she lost her virginity.

The solution will be to go our separate ways.

YoshihideSuga:
This is where it really gets unfair and a major loss on the man's side. No sex before marriage only to be starved of it inside marriage.

Omo, such men are trying.

Justice for those men

Ashirioluwa:
I do believe that I do not know about how she lost her virginity. Additionally, I understand that sex and love do not always correlate. But what I know is that I will not allow anyone to deceive me.

I am not crazy as to whether a girl is a virgin or not because I myself am not a virgin. However, I have decided that if a lady is not a virgin, she cannot ask me to wait until marriage for sex. I am not going to buy that from her, and I would prefer not to hear her elaborate explanations regarding her past and how she lost her virginity.

The solution will be to go our separate ways.

..which is very fine.
A lot of guys I met went their ways.
I didn't feel bad about it. I didn't beg any of them.
Your stand is valid.

Ashirioluwa:
I do believe that I do not know about how she lost her virginity. Additionally, I understand that sex and love do not always correlate. But what I know is that I will not allow anyone to deceive me.

I am not crazy as to whether a girl is a virgin or not because I myself am not a virgin. However, I have decided that if a lady is not a virgin, she cannot ask me to wait until marriage for sex. I am not going to buy that from her, and I would prefer not to hear her elaborate explanations regarding her past and how she lost her virginity.

The solution will be to go our separate ways.

Well, that's fair enough. I do agree that nobody should be deceived in a relationship.

Before a girl tells me no sex before marriage, she must be a virgin. Kpekus she distributed round, e reach my turn you said no sex till marriage. I look like mumu abi? If you are not a virgin, anytime you are visiting, please don't wear pants.

DeclanR:
Honestly.
Maybe she was desperate to get married.
What's 8 Months?

Date someone u want to marry for at least two years first. You see why most marriages are crashing these days?

Two years is too long to tie a woman down, abi are you studying her to-to so you can write a thesis on it?

DuttyChuks:
No sex before marriage, no expenses before marriage; i take accountability of every kobo.

No marriage is a bed of roses

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spiceadole:
In my opinion, there is nothing like sexual incompatibility for adults who have no medical /health issues. Fornication does not confirm sexual compatibility,it's a mindset thing.
Men will say they are testing sexual compatibility by sampling different ladies ,then turn around to shame ladies for having high body count.Lol

Secondly, I wasn't a virgin. Despite, maintaining sexual purity all through my teenage years till early adulthood,I lost my virginity in my final year in university in a painful and heartbreaking manner. It took a great toll on me and I had to see a psychologist.

Thankfully,I was able to overcome the bitter experience and graduated.

I met a lot of guys who didn't agree to "No sex, No spending" and after few weeks of talking / hanging out (which I always paid my bills to avoid them feeling entitled to sleep with me),the friendship will die a natural death...and I will move on quickly...No tears,you no waste my time,you no chop me.

was it a case of rape in your final year?

I don't even understand why sex is now a big deal , all the major religions are against fornication, even traditions forbid it.

That should tell you something.

Like I always say No sex before marriage is still the best for both sexes and for my fellow ladies it will save you from so much drama.

It's so alarming that all on our young ones mind these days is sex sex sex. Na real wa.

You no chop me, and I no chop you.

spiceadole:
In my opinion, there is nothing like sexual incompatibility for adults who have no medical /health issues. Fornication does not confirm sexual compatibility,it's a mindset thing.
Men will say they are testing sexual compatibility by sampling different ladies ,then turn around to shame ladies for having high body count.Lol

Secondly, I wasn't a virgin. Despite, maintaining sexual purity all through my teenage years till early adulthood,I lost my virginity in my final year in university in a painful and heartbreaking manner. It took a great toll on me and I had to see a psychologist.

Thankfully,I was able to overcome the bitter experience and graduated.

I met a lot of guys who didn't agree to "No sex, No spending" and after few weeks of talking / hanging out (which I always paid my bills to avoid them feeling entitled to sleep with me),the friendship will die a natural death...and I will move on quickly...No tears,you no waste my time,you no chop me.

Honestly

IamAsiri:
Na broke people you fit use that one scare.