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AntiChristian:
A man was asked:

Would you marry a single mom?

And he answered:

Men was created to start a family not to join.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/4MF7PGWZop8

Even single mothers won't like it if their son marries a single mother

AntiChristian:
A man was asked:

Would you marry a single mom?

And he answered:

Men was created to start a family not to join.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/4MF7PGWZop8

This guy. 😁😁 Even though I'm not a fan of allahu and his wicked ways, I don dey gbadun you nowadays.

As a man don't even date a single mom. They are useless.

Have you seen a football match that start with 1-0 ?

Just want to clarify that single mums and widows are not the same thing.

There are single mums as a result of youthful recklessness, or single mum that left due to domestic violence, or single mums that are widow.

Although it’s safe to marry a single mum that is a widow and the kid’s paternity have been settled.

Every single mum should not be put in the same basket, doing that robs us of our ability to be empathetic and humane.

If you want grace for your shortcoming and/or unfortunate circumstances, you must extend it to your fellow man, and woman.

If you can sok her boobies then I see no reason why you can't marry her

Single mom are sweeter than sweet

Don't try it o. Especially single moms in their 30's. The one I dated was 33 with series of male orbiters and friends. She had her baby daddy calling and kept contact with her exes(3 out of 6) ..hahaha.

She abandoned her 13yr old with the grand parents for 13yrs despite her financial stability, all just to avoid being a responsible woman. I tried so many times to have her daughter stay over at hers , for holidays even if it was 3days. She wouldn't allow it. The poor child would beg me to speak to her mom to let her come over.

She still prioritizes night life (night club and night parties) with her unmarried friends( circle of one female and multiple male).

I've never been so insecure my life. What's worse was I even wanted to wed her .

In the end , the same male friends she told me not to worry about were the same guys she went to sleep at their houses for 7 consecutive nights(3 different male friends ) because she was depressed and needed to be cheered up cuz we fought and I said harsh things to her . Really ?

She confessed this and still claimed nothing happened because she saw I was all in and still wants to manipulate me.

I even recalled sending her tp to transport the industrial machines she bought, and alongside her was a male friend who assisted her with the machines. Guess what? She told me the guy helped her set them up and couldn't go back home so she let him pass the night . She said nothing happened. Lol cuz I'm dumb.


Flee from single mothers pls!!! They are unrepentant. She's a single mother for a reason.

Thank your goodness you didn't get diseases

ErnestNc:
Don't try it o. Especially single moms in their 30's. The one I dated was 33 with series of male orbiters and friends. She had her baby daddy calling and kept contact with her exes(3 out of 6) ..hahaha.

She abandoned her 13yr old with the grand parents for 13yrs despite her financial stability, all just to avoid being a responsible woman. I tried so many times to have her daughter stay over at hers , for holidays even if it was 3days. She wouldn't allow it. The poor child would beg me to speak to her mom to let her come over.

She still prioritizes night life (night club and night parties) with her unmarried friends( circle of one female and multiple male).

I've never been so insecure my life. What's worse was I even wanted to wed her .

In the end , the same male friends she told me not to worry about were the same guys she went to sleep at their houses for 7 consecutive nights(3 different male friends ) because she was depressed and needed to be cheered up cuz we fought and I said harsh things to her . Really ?

She confessed this and still claimed nothing happened because she saw I was all in and still wants to manipulate me.

I even recalled sending her tp to transport the industrial machines she bought, and alongside her was a male friend who assisted her with the machines. Guess what? She told me the guy helped her set them up and couldn't go back home so she let him pass the night . She said nothing happened. Lol cuz I'm dumb.


Flee from single mothers pls!!! They are unrepentant. She's a single mother for a reason.

Can marry a widow but if not a widow, I can't marry a single mum. She's a single mum for a reason. If she's gold, her bobo would have kept her.

ErnestNc:
Don't try it o. Especially single moms in their 30's. The one I dated was 33 with series of male orbiters and friends. She had her baby daddy calling and kept contact with her exes(3 out of 6) ..hahaha.

She abandoned her 13yr old with the grand parents for 13yrs despite her financial stability, all just to avoid being a responsible woman. I tried so many times to have her daughter stay over at hers , for holidays even if it was 3days. She wouldn't allow it. The poor child would beg me to speak to her mom to let her come over.

She still prioritizes night life (night club and night parties) with her unmarried friends( circle of one female and multiple male).

I've never been so insecure my life. What's worse was I even wanted to wed her .

In the end , the same male friends she told me not to worry about were the same guys she went to sleep at their houses for 7 consecutive nights(3 different male friends ) because she was depressed and needed to be cheered up cuz we fought and I said harsh things to her . Really ?

She confessed this and still claimed nothing happened because she saw I was all in and still wants to manipulate me.

I even recalled sending her tp to transport the industrial machines she bought, and alongside her was a male friend who assisted her with the machines. Guess what? She told me the guy helped her set them up and couldn't go back home so she let him pass the night . She said nothing happened. Lol cuz I'm dumb.


Flee from single mothers pls!!! They are unrepentant. She's a single mother for a reason.

If your story not a figment, the character you described above, not particular to single mother, single girl or even married woman can do it.

Meanwhile, I don't wish to marry single mother because of two reasons.

If husband is alive, thre is high tendency they will still be sleeping with each other.

2. The step son/daughter, she will not allow me to train him/her, the way I would have loved to train my son or daughter.

ErnestNc:
Don't try it o. Especially single moms in their 30's. The one I dated was 33 with series of male orbiters and friends. She had her baby daddy calling and kept contact with her exes(3 out of 6) ..hahaha.

She abandoned her 13yr old with the grand parents for 13yrs despite her financial stability, all just to avoid being a responsible woman. I tried so many times to have her daughter stay over at hers , for holidays even if it was 3days. She wouldn't allow it. The poor child would beg me to speak to her mom to let her come over.

She still prioritizes night life (night club and night parties) with her unmarried friends( circle of one female and multiple male).

I've never been so insecure my life. What's worse was I even wanted to wed her .

In the end , the same male friends she told me not to worry about were the same guys she went to sleep at their houses for 7 consecutive nights(3 different male friends ) because she was depressed and needed to be cheered up cuz we fought and I said harsh things to her . Really ?

She confessed this and still claimed nothing happened because she saw I was all in and still wants to manipulate me.

I even recalled sending her tp to transport the industrial machines she bought, and alongside her was a male friend who assisted her with the machines. Guess what? She told me the guy helped her set them up and couldn't go back home so she let him pass the night . She said nothing happened. Lol cuz I'm dumb.


Flee from single mothers pls!!! They are unrepentant. She's a single mother for a reason.

So you came to the conclusion that all single mothers are bad because of your experience with just one person?

single ladies, must every relationship be about marriage?

I see nothing wrong in marrying a single mother. The only thing I don't like with most single mothers is that they will always put their child/children above their partners. Aside that, I see nothing wrong with marrying a single mother who has good character.


What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Kobicove:
So you came to the conclusion that all single mothers are bad because of your experience with just one person?

take am play first.

Smiles

*“Men were created to start a family not to join”* – that line goes viral every month because it hits 3 raw nerves: ego, biology, and culture.

Let’s break it down without Twitter insults or simp/defender energy.

*1. What the man is really saying*
1. *Territorial instinct* – He wants to be “first.” His name, his bloodline, his story from chapter 1. Raising another man’s child feels like “joining a movie halfway.” For some men, that’s a dealbreaker. It’s not logic, it’s primal.
2. *Risk calculation* – Stats: Stepchildren homes have higher divorce rates. Baby-daddy drama is real. Child support, custody battles, ex still in the picture. He’s saying “I don’t want extra complexity I didn’t create.”
3. *Cultural script* – In Nigeria/Africa, lineage + “blood” is huge. “Who go bear my father name?” Marrying single moms was historically stigmatized – “used goods,” “another man’s leftover.” That mindset still runs deep, even in 2026.

*2. Why the statement is flawed/incomplete*
1. *“Start a family” ≠ “start from zero only”* – Family is people who choose each other. Adoption, step-parenting, marrying widows – all valid ways to “start” something new. Jesus wasn’t Joseph’s biological son, but Joseph “started” that family.
2. *It assumes the child is baggage, not human* – The kid didn’t ask to be born. Reducing them to “joining another man’s project” dehumanizes both mom and child. A man can choose not to date single moms, but the framing matters.
3. *Men “join” families all the time* – You marry a woman, you join her family. Her parents, siblings, problems become yours. In-laws are literally “joining.” So the line is selective.

*3. The reality for single moms*
Most men who say “no” aren’t evil. They’re honest about capacity. Single mom dating pool is smaller because:
- *Fewer men willing* → she has less leverage → some hide the kid → trust issues → cycle continues.
- *The good single moms* – left abusive men, widowed, or made a mistake young but now stable – often make the _best_ wives. They’ve seen life, less delulu, grateful for a real man. But they get lumped with “hookup single moms” from Badoo.

*4. The reality for men who say “no”*
Valid reasons:
1. *You want your own biological kids first* – Fair. Resources are finite. Diapers are expensive.
2. *You don’t want baby-daddy drama* – Also fair. Some exes are weapons-grade problems.
3. *You’re not ready to be dad yet* – Parenting in 1 day vs 9 months prep is different.

Bad reasons:
1. *Ego: “I can’t raise another man’s seed”* – But you’ll raise a company another man founded. Pride, not principle.
2. *Slut-shaming* – “She had sex so she’s damaged.” Meanwhile you’ve had your own body count.

*5. Nuanced take: It’s about standards, not slogans*

*You can say “no” without the quote.*
“I’m not open to dating single moms because I want to experience fatherhood from day 1 with my own child, and I don’t want the complexity of an ex in our lives. I wish them well.”
That’s honest. No one can drag you.

“Men were created to start not join” sounds like you’re speaking for all men. You’re not. Plenty men married single moms and built great families. Odell Beckham Sr, Russell Wilson, even in Nigeria – many pastors, businessmen. Their legacy didn’t shrink.

*6. If you’re a single mom reading this:*
1. *Don’t hide the kid* – The right man won’t be scared. The wrong man would have left anyway. Hiding = starting with lies.
2. *Vet harder* – Any man who accepts your child has passed a huge character test. That’s rare. Don’t waste him.
3. *Your value isn’t “damaged”* – You’re a mom, not a charity case. You bring maturity, multi-tasking, loyalty. The man who sees that wins.

*7. If you’re a man deciding:*
Ask yourself 3 questions:
1. *Can I love the child like my own?* If no, don’t try. Kids know. You’ll damage them.
2. *Can I handle the ex being in our lives forever?* If no, don’t start.
3. *Am I saying no from wisdom or ego?* Wisdom is peaceful. Ego needs to announce it online.

*Bottom line:*
“Start not join” is a _preference_, not a commandment from heaven. You’re allowed to have it. But framing it as universal truth makes you look insecure, not alpha.

Marriage is already hard. Adding step-parenting makes it expert mode. If you’re not built for expert mode, stay at beginner level. No shame.

But don’t insult people who play the game on hard and win.

Tenrack:
As a man don't even date a single mom. They are useless.

Watin make them useless please. Because I have a baby mama currently which I'm planning to run and leave her

Tenrack:
As a man don't even date a single mom. They are useless.

Not all of them are useless.

Smiles

Is there anything wrong with single mothers? You don't have any in your family? So who should marry that your family members who is a single mother?

No, I will not. I will never.

It is not a crime for a man not to want a single mother for a wife, it doesn't make him a good or bad man. It's about personal choice and desires.

Marriage is about individual choice and wants, it's not a pity party or compensation for people to make them happy

helinues:
Is there anything wrong with single mothers? You don't have any in your family? So who should marry that your family members who is a single mother?

There is nothing bad in being a single mother o.

However,Single mothers should be married by single fathers or a Man who already has a wife and wants to marry second wife . They fit each other

If you as a single Man marries a single mother means aiye e ti bajeee niyen and you are suffering from the highest level of low self esteem

Single mothers won't like it if their son wants to marry a single mother. They will resist it with all their strength

You see now

Hmmmm run for ur dear life ..... My own chronicles terrible

If she is very good in bed ..why not

We've screamed over time that they should be avoided at all cost.
They're damaged (99.9%).

I'm unapologetic.

brutustech:
Marriage is about individual choice and wants, it's not a pity party or compensation for people to make them happy

And you refused to answer my questions.

What's wrong with a single mother?

Do you have any at all in your family? If yes, who should get married to her

Sonofgod1990:
Watin make them useless please. Because I have a baby mama currently which I'm planning to run and leave her

Why you wan run, I guess her character

Negroid001:
Have you seen a football match that start with 1-0 ?

Yes when first leg has been played.