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Ladies especially the ones with poor past will never settle for less. They all want a man with a secured future!

If you didn't secure your past how do you want his own future to be prosperous?

And you can't ask about their past. They can ask about your future!

This is the imbalance nobody wants to name out loud.

She arrives with a history she will not discuss, expects you to ask nothing, and then sits across from you interviewing your five year plan like she is a venture capitalist with clean hands.

Her past is sealed, your future is open for inspection.

A woman who has made every wrong choice in her youth will still hold out for a man who made every right one. No accountability for what she brought to the table. Full expectations for what you must deliver.

This is why a man must develop discernment early, not bitterness. Learn to read what a woman is, not just what she is presenting because what she is will eventually surface inside your home, inside your finances, and inside your peace of mind.

A secured future built with the wrong woman is still a destroyed future. Choose carefully.

HEED

AntiChristian:
Ladies especially the ones with poor past will never settle for less. They all want a man with a secured future!

If you didn't secure your past how do you want his own future to be prosperous?

And you can't ask about their past. They can ask about your future!

Poor or rich, there is an element of gold digging in every woman

Hypnotise:
Poor or rich, there is an element of gold digging in every woman

Some people fail to distinguish between valuing stability and gold digging. Many women simply value stability. It is irresponsible for a man or woman to enter marriage without being reasonably prepared for its responsibilities. That is why many responsible people, both men and women, focus on achieving their core goals before marriage because they understand the importance of building a good life.

Merry100:
Some people fail to distinguish between valuing stability and gold digging. Many women simply value stability. It is irresponsible for a man or woman to enter marriage without being reasonably prepared for its responsibilities. That is why many responsible people, both men and women, focus on achieving their core goals before marriage because they understand the importance of building a good life.

Lies!
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Why don't you people stabilize yourself?

Merry100:
Some people fail to distinguish between valuing stability and gold digging. Many women simply value stability. It is irresponsible for a man or woman to enter marriage without being reasonably prepared for its responsibilities. That is why many responsible people, both men and women, focus on achieving their core goals before marriage because they understand the importance of building a good life.

I guess you failed the comprehension part,
A ladys past is equivalent to the future of a man.

tanigororo:
I guess you failed the comprehension part,
A ladys past is equivalent to the future of a man.

You clearly missed the point. I clarified the difference between stability and gold digging to address; and dismiss the flawed generalization.

Dtruthspeaker:
Lies!
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Why don't you people stabilize yourself?

The problem with many of you is that you assume every woman is like your sisters or girlfriends who aren't intentional about their lives.

Merry100:
The problem with many of you is that you assume every woman is like your sisters or girlfriends who aren't intentional about their lives.

Ad hominem/ad feminam fallacy.

Dtruthspeaker:
Ad hominem/ad feminam fallacy.

Fair point on tone. That said, I don't agree with how your comment came across as a generalization either. My point is simply that it is important for both sides to be reasonably prepared, especially financially, before marriage.

Merry100:
Fair point on tone. That said, I don't agree with how your comment came across as a generalization either. My point is simply that it is important for both sides to be reasonably prepared, especially financially, before marriage.

Generalization is as a result of the majority conduct, so we must generalize. And in every generalization we are aware of its exceptionalization. However, the exception is the one with the burden of proving itself.

And nonetheless your point is correct.

Dtruthspeaker:
Generalization is as a result of the majority conduct, so we must generalize. And in every generalization we are aware of its exceptionalization. However, the exception is the one with the burden of proving itself.

And nonetheless your point is correct.

Your generalization is completely invalid. Assumptions, whether individual or collective, are not facts. Facts require evidence.

Less than 10% of Nigeria population can boast of having 10 million naira and above?

In the absence of widespread gold, how exactly did you arrive at the conclusion that the majority of women are gold diggers?

Given Nigeria's economic reality, there isn't even enough "gold" in circulation for most women to dig. The majority of Nigerian women don't have access to gold, so your claim is not logical. You can't accuse the majority of women of something they haven't done based on assumptions about what you think they would do.

Merry100:
Your generalization is completely invalid. Assumptions, whether individual or collective, are not facts. Facts require evidence.

Less than 10% of Nigeria population can boast of having 10 million naira and above?

In the absence of widespread gold, how exactly did you arrive at the conclusion that the majority of women are gold diggers?

Given Nigeria's economic reality, there isn't even enough "gold" in circulation for most women to dig. The majority of Nigerian women don't have access to gold, so your claim is not logical. You can't accuse the majority of women of something they haven't done based on assumptions about what you think they would do.

These threads prove you are a liar.

https://www.nairaland.com/4155106/why-more-nigerian-girls-becoming#62035529

https://www.nairaland.com/1146407/men-blamed-female-gold-diggers#13607224

https://www.nairaland.com/2985435/counter-thread-why-lagos-ladies#43701461

And where before you said that women should be financially prepared to come to the table now you are trying to defend gold diggers. And you were saying that not all women.

As I always, na phu dey biliv woman

Dtruthspeaker:
These threads prove you are a liar.

https://www.nairaland.com/4155106/why-more-nigerian-girls-becoming#62035529

https://www.nairaland.com/1146407/men-blamed-female-gold-diggers#13607224

https://www.nairaland.com/2985435/counter-thread-why-lagos-ladies#43701461

And where before you said that women should be financially prepared to come to the table now you are trying to defend gold diggers. And you were saying that not all women.

As I always, na phu dey biliv woman

leave that one. E go learn the hard way. Dem no dey tell person.

Tenrack:
leave that one. E go learn the hard way. Dem no dey tell person.

I don waka leave am

Dtruthspeaker:
These threads prove you are a liar.

https://www.nairaland.com/4155106/why-more-nigerian-girls-becoming#62035529

https://www.nairaland.com/1146407/men-blamed-female-gold-diggers#13607224

https://www.nairaland.com/2985435/counter-thread-why-lagos-ladies#43701461

And where before you said that women should be financially prepared to come to the table now you are trying to defend gold diggers. And you were saying that not all women.

As I always, na phu dey biliv woman

You are the one being inconsistent here. You keep shifting the claim from "every woman" to "majority of women" to "gold diggers." You are simply dancing around the actual point.

There is no contradiction in what I said. Saying women should be financially prepared is about personal responsibility in relationships. That is not the same as labeling women as gold diggers. You are mixing two different ideas to avoid addressing the actual point.

And whether you say "every woman" or "the majority of women," it is still a broad generalization about women as a group, which includes me.

To make a serious claim, you need to have actual evidence, not assumptions. Random forum posts are not data, not research, and not proof of anything beyond individual opinions. Selective links from biased discussions do not establish any population-wide conclusion.

If you want to be taken seriously, provide actual evidence; not all this fanfare 🤣

Merry100:
You are the one being inconsistent here. You keep shifting the claim from "every woman" to "majority of women" to "gold diggers." You are simply dancing around the actual point.

There is no contradiction in what I said. Saying women should be financially prepared is about personal responsibility in relationships. That is not the same as labeling women as gold diggers. You are mixing two different ideas to avoid addressing the actual point.

And whether you say "every woman" or "the majority of women," it is still a broad generalization about women as a group, which includes me.

To make a serious claim, you need to have actual evidence, not assumptions. Random forum posts are not data, not research, and not proof of anything beyond individual opinions. Selective links from biased discussions do not establish any population-wide conclusion.

If you want to be taken seriously, provide actual evidence; not all this fanfare 🤣

See dis one is looking for who to have useless argument with. 🤣🤣🤣.

Tenrack:
leave that one. E go learn the hard way. Dem no dey tell person.

There are absolutely no life lessons to be learned from this narrative. Stop projecting such nonsense onto me; such assumption doesn't apply to me, save them for those your desperate femaIe relatives. I don't see men as something I need to survive. My happiness is my priority, whether married or unmarried.

Dtruthspeaker:
See dis one is looking for who to have useless argument with. 🤣🤣🤣.

I wasn't arguing, just correcting a baseless claim. That is it. 🙂

You can't just throw open an unfounded claim and then cry wolf that someone wants to argue with you when you are corrected.

An argument requires a valid point to engage with. Which isn't the case here.

Merry100:
There are absolutely no life lessons to be learned from this narrative. Stop projecting such nonsense onto me; such assumption doesn't apply me, save them for those your desperate femaIe relatives. I don't see men as something I need to survive. My happiness is my priority, whether married or unmarried.

okay na.