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Tekashi89:
bro I've done all these I'm tired of letting go every time none seems to click that's why I think it's something spiritual

Tekashi89:
so you mean I should go on with single mothers somebody else's left over

Tekashi89:
that normally works for me I've been with girls that we just flow naturally but once I tell them I like them they become distant

BigEnergy16:
There is something I learnt sha. When you verbally tell someone you like them the game is over because they feel they have won you, it you are at their power. I know it sounds foolish or childish but sadly that's how the psychology works. As someone said you have to vibe instead of telling them.

Also you are too short for your weight.

Hungrychicken:
Me at 6’’0 and 60kg was skinny and hungry looking. Thats just puberty in Nigeria anyways. Add some weight, level up your drip and socialize more with girls

One important thing:
NEVER tell a girl you like her. Do everything together but never say the four letter words unless the feeling is mutual.
Relationships these days is mind games. So, be smarter!

Bendeco02:
So, you expect girls to be toasting you?

Normally Nigerian type of dating is different. Most girls stick to guys they benefit financially.

Do you think guys dropping comments for you here have good relationship with women either?

Tekashi89:
Bro I've spent money chasing different girls do their beddings taking them out, there was one I took out only for me to get home to discover she has blocked me, there was also one that I did transfer for and all the nice things a guy normally does for a girl only for her to end up insulting and blocking me this happened early January this year

BigEnergy16:
Yeah bro. Your thoughts align perfectly with mine. You can even spend on her when in person, do anything you want but don't utter that word. To make matters worse some guys even tell girl they like them over text which is worse. If she didn't like you before, now she will see you as a spineless piece of shit.

When you tell someone you like them different 3 things can happen.
1. They outrightly reject you because they are not attracted to and you don't have anything to offer them. (This might be the OP case because 60kg at 180cm is obviously a poverty signal)
2. They accept you even though they don't like you but they see that can benefit from you, money or connection etc
3. They accept because they are attracted to you (This is why the some people can get away with telling the opposite sex they like them).

If you are an objectively attractive person you can get lots of women by just telling them directly you like them and 40-70% of the time it will work.
I found out looks also mattered for women but not to the same level as men. They can over-look your looks if you have something else of benefit.

And women are masters of this game.
This is the same reason women always say they don't like to tell guys they like them directly because aside from the fact that rejection hurts, the guy might not real like them but will still agree to date them because of sex (I am guilty of doing this too).

BigEnergy16:
Yeah bro. Your thoughts align perfectly with mine. You can even spend on her when in person, do anything you want but don't utter that word. To make matters worse some guys even tell girl they like them over text which is worse. If she didn't like you before, now she will see you as a spineless piece of shit.

When you tell someone you like them different 3 things can happen.
1. They outrightly reject you because they are not attracted to and you don't have anything to offer them. (This might be the OP case because 60kg at 180cm is obviously a poverty signal)
2. They accept you even though they don't like you but they see that can benefit from you, money or connection etc
3. They accept because they are attracted to you (This is why the some people can get away with telling the opposite sex they like them).

If you are an objectively attractive person you can get lots of women by just telling them directly you like them and 40-70% of the time it will work.
I found out looks also mattered for women but not to the same level as men. They can over-look your looks if you have something else of benefit.

And women are masters of this game.
This is the same reason women always say they don't like to tell guys they like them directly because aside from the fact that rejection hurts, the guy might not real like them but will still agree to date them because of sex (I am guilty of doing this too).

Bendeco02:
Do you think guys dropping comments for you here have good relationship with women either?

bigpriik:
broski I don see pass all this ones the problem is you are being rejected and it' lowering your selfesteem,work on you mind and physical appearance, to win Nigerians girls now just look rich and have solid Confidence, you will definitely see one that will fall for you just believe.

EvilMerodack:
So, all of them dey gather struggle

Uchenna10:
OP,let's talk privately on tëlegram,I'm going thru the same tin.

Tekashi89:
okay drop your telegram handle

bigpriik:
It happens to all guys not just you but they don't talk about it much nothing spiritual about it. when they tell you that gender in complicated you think it's a joke abi?
what you don't know is that by default when you ask a girl out her normal reaction is to start playing hard to get, [b]she will want to prove to you she is not cheap so she will test the hell out of you [/b]this is where most guys quit.
I will advice you not to be desperate she is testing your confidence to see if you are man enough to handle pressure, let women play their mind games, keep toasting her for at least 2weeks then pull out if she is not reciprocating,If she has fallen for you she will come back for you.

Adasun:
may God help him, gyming gets me Hot AF

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.
I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.
Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.
I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.
So guys I need your advice on this issue pls

PinkNature:
tbh if you’re tall, girls seem to assume you’re a player and won’t want to take you seriously but regardless, you should still be able to bag young girls.

Tekashi89:
Bro I've spent money chasing different girls do their beddings taking them out, there was one I took out only for me to get home to discover she has blocked me, there was also one that I did transfer for and all the nice things a guy normally does for a girl only for her to end up insulting and blocking me this happened early January this year

Tekashi89:
Hey guys, my dating life sulks, I haven't been really lucky with girls ever since my secondary School days. Since I was born I've only dated two girls and that was way back in 2016 and last year in 2025.

I tend to attract more guys, single mothers or older women (very old women tend to like me).
I don't know what's it with me that tends to push away younger girls (note I'm 180cm 60kg) light skin most people say I'm handsome. But I don't know why I can't attract young single girls.

Where ever I go I tend to attract only single mothers and when a young girl even start getting attracted to me I'll later discover that she acts that way to every other guy around so there's nothing special about me.

I'm thinking of going spiritual but I just thought I should post it here first.

So guys I need your advice on this issue pls