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Bishops under the aegis of the Ecumenical Synods of Bishops, Archbishops, Apostles and Senior Clergy have disagreed with the General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor Enoch Adeboye, over his warning that men should not marry women who cannot cook.

Adeboye gave the warning while sharing marital guidelines for young men during the May edition of the Holy Ghost Service on Saturday.

He cautioned that marrying based solely on beauty or ignoring practical considerations could lead to what he described as a “deep trap.”

The cleric stressed that spiritual discernment and domestic competence should take precedence over physical attraction and social status, warning men not to be carried away by outward appearance.

He said, “There are many demons that are very beautiful. If you marry because of beauty, you might choose a demon. I’m not saying all beautiful people are demonic. If it’s beauty alone that leads you into marriage, it’s a deep trap.

Citing Sarah and the Shunamite woman as biblical examples of hospitable cooks, Adeboye said, “Don’t marry a girl who cannot cook. We are talking of excellent counsel. Only I can tell you these things. Even if a prophet says this is your wife, if she can’t cook, say ‘Thank you, keep her.’”

Commenting on the warning, the International Secretary of the Bishops, Archbishop Osazee William, disagreed with Adeboye’s position, describing it as an opinion rather than a scriptural standard.

William, while speaking with Sunday PUNCH said, “Is it scriptural for a man not to marry a woman who cannot cook? Even men can cook. This is not directly opposing the father of faith, who is a revered God’s general, but this is an opinion.”

The President of the International Fellowship of Ecumenical Ministries argued that cooking ability should not be used as a major yardstick for marriage, noting that character and values are more important.

He added that individuals who lack cooking skills could learn over time, stressing that marriage decisions should be based on broader qualities.


“What about a good cook that is a witch? What about a woman who can cook and becomes obsessed with cooking to the extent that she loses character? You can know how to cook and not be neat or hygienic. Man shall not live by bread alone.

“If a person does not know how to cook, the person can learn. You can even buy a cookery book. I think the yardstick for marrying is a good, godly and industrious character.”

According to him, economic realities have also reshaped family roles, with some women serving as breadwinners and having limited time for domestic duties.

“There are so many women who are breadwinners and do not have time to cook. You can be a good cook and all you know is cooking and nothing else. Men need more than delicious meals. Such a career woman only needs to employ a good cook,” he added.


Earlier at the programme, Adeboye also advised men to reconsider marriage plans if a prospective bride insists on a wedding that could plunge them into debt.

On personal appearance, the cleric warned against excessive use of cosmetics, including false hair, eyelashes and nails, urging men to look beyond outward beauty.

“Don’t marry a girl who does not do things in moderation. No matter how close you are to a wedding and your girl is suggesting a wedding that is going to cost you everything you have and get you into debt, call it off.

“The girl you are going to marry must not be heavily made up. If you look at the girl, the hair on her head is from India. The eyelashes are false. The nails of the hand are false. The nails of the toes are false. You must ask yourself the question, ‘What is behind the mask?”

Citing the Bible, he added that excessive makeup could be a sign of concealment, referencing the character Jezebel in 2 Kings 9:30–37.

Source: https://punchng.com/bishops-disagree-with-adeboye-on-marriage-advice-to-men

So, this bishop's daughters cannot cook or will not be willing to be cooking for their husbands? Let the bishop tell his sons-in-law that Adeboye is wrong in this case.

Insisting that a woman must cook for her husband may not be biblical. But a woman insisting on getting married and not cooking for her husband is also not biblical.

David Ibiyeomie said that it is poverty that makes a man to expect his wife to cook for him. No bishop disagreed with David despite the fact that that statement is not a biblical standard. This is simply because what David said is what many Gen z ladies want, and in most cases, church leaders are interested in what will bring more members and not what is biblical.

Adeboye has now said what many Gen z ladies do not want, a bishop disagrees with him.

As Adeboye's statement is not a biblical standard, is David's statement a biblical standard?

If you like, as a man, marry a woman who can't cook.

I don't share bills at all, I pay 100%. If I want to support with household chores, that's my own prerogative.

But if you share bills, you should also share chores too.

immortalcrown:
David Oyedepo said that it is poverty that makes a man to expect his wife to cook for him. No bishop disagreed with Oyedepo despite the fact that that statement is not a biblical standard. This is simply because what Oyedepo said is what many Gen z ladies want, and in most cases, church leaders are interested in what will bring more members and not what is biblical.

Adeboye has now said what many Gen z ladies do not want, a bishop disagrees with him.

As Adeboye's statement is not a biblical standard, is Oyedepo's statement a biblical standard?

and what exactly is your point?
Both men are write or wrong?

princepee:
and what exactly is your point?
Both men are write or wrong?

The bishop that disagrees with Adeboye because Adeboye's statement is not a biblical standard should equally disagree with David because David's statement is not a biblical standard. This is my point.

I get his angle 💯. It’s obvious his daughters probably can’t cook, so he’s worried that if men actually follow this advice, his kids will remain unmarried at 40.

Go and teach your kids how to cook!!!

How can I marry a woman, and when I’m heading home from work and she says there's food, I’m not even excited or rushing back just to taste my wife’s meal?

Employing a cook is the absolute last thing on my mind. Even if I do get one, and my wife still can't prepare a special dish once in a while just to make me happy, I'd honestly sack the cook.

Of all the problems plaguing Nigerian Christians, this is the nonsense that is of priority to their leaders.

These so-called Christian leaders are saboteurs to Christianity.

obiekunie01:
Of all the problems plaguing Nigerian Christians, this is the nonsense that is of priority to their leaders.

These so-called Christian leaders are saboteurs to Christianity.

Good Family is the foundation of every successful Christian home and good marriage is the foundation of every successful Christian family. So they are right tackling the "problems plaguing Nigerian Christians" from the root cause. Leave Christian matter for the Christians and concentrate on ur Iran. Thanks and God bless.

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SpencerForbes:
I get his angle 💯. It’s obvious his daughters probably can’t cook, so he’s worried that if men actually follow this advice, his kids will remain unmarried at 40.

Go and teach your kids how to cook!!!

How can I marry a woman, and when I’m heading home from work and she says there's food, I’m not even excited or rushing back just to taste my wife’s meal?

Employing a cook is the absolute last thing on my mind. Even if I do get one, and my wife still can't prepare a special dish once in a while just to make me happy, I'd honestly sack the cook.

The rich culture of we Yorubas can never condone a daughter that cannot cook.
Infact it's a shame for a lady in yorubaland not to know how to cook because there's an an adage that "Olobe lo lo ko" meaning the one with soup owns the husband, so it's highly expected of mothers to teach their daughters how to cook so they can have an happy home.

Obakoolex:
The rich culture of we Yorubas can never condone a daughter that cannot cook.
Infact it's a shame for a lady in yorubaland not to know how to cook because there's an an adage that "Olobe lo lo ko" meaning the one with soup owns the husband, so it's highly expected of mothers to teach their daughters how to cook so they can have an happy home.

How many Yoruba girls can really cook delicious delicacies?😏 if we’ve never dated Yoruba girls, we’ll actually take your words to be true😮‍💨

Only Yorubas can really enjoy your ladies food. I’ll actually prefer dating an Igbo lady than Yoruba and I’m not from both sides.

Diamond098454:
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diamond, abi aluminium, u no talk spoil for dis one. 🥱🥱

Why do you always call me aluminum ?

LIVINGICONREBOR:
diamond, abi aluminium, u no talk spoil for dis one. 🥱🥱

Diamond098454:
Why do you always call me aluminum ?

First of all you are not a "diamond".
Second of all, if you gave yourself "diamond" which obviously you are not, then I can as well call you "aluminium" which obviously you are not also.🥱🥱

But I'm Diamond. It's easy to know who is who in this forum smiles smiles smiles

LIVINGICONREBOR:
First of all you are not a "diamond".
Second of all, if you gave yourself "diamond" which obviously you are not, then I can as well call you "aluminium" which obviously you are not also.🥱🥱

SpencerForbes:
How many Yoruba girls can really cook delicious delicacies?😏 if we’ve never dated Yoruba girls, we’ll actually take your words to be true😮‍💨

Only Yorubas can really enjoy your ladies food. I’ll actually prefer dating an Igbo lady than Yoruba and I’m not from both sides.

I don't know how many Yoruba girls you dated to come to that assumption. You only need to date a real one to give you a brain lift

That must be the fastest bishop reaction ever in Nigerian history, probably their wives threatened them to?

Most men of God will disagree with many of Adeboye's teachings and utterances nowadays. That guy doesn't seem to be hearing from God on many occasions.

Even Jesus talk am...
Man shall not live by food bread alone.

There are more important factors to consider in choosing a woman to marry.

Adeboye needs to modify his teachings

The bishop should go and rest.
Mr Adeboye advice is very valid. Only married men can understand well.

A good wife need to cooook

An unnecessary distraction
In the face of existential threats
To the Church of Christ!

Is this what we should be talking about
In these perilous times?

men should slave it out under the sun and rain and still slave it @home.?
DNT MARRY THOSE JEZEBELS WITH DEMONIC NSILS. Dey can't cook.All they sabi is IG,TIKTOK WHATSAPP,CHICKEN REPUBLIC ETC

obiekunie01:
Of all the problems plaguing Nigerian Christians, this is the nonsense that is of priority to their leaders.

These so-called Christian leaders are saboteurs to Christianity.

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Happy Sabbath Day!

I stand with Adeboye on this one. Other ones are simps, as long as a man knows how to provide for his family a woman must know how to cook and do house chores for her family too. It's a vice versa.

Don't listen to every advice from these pastors, they will mislead you.


When I met my girlfriend (now my wife), her cooking skills weren’t very good and I discovered that the problem stemmed from her mother.

She hadn’t been given the freedom to cook at home because her mother preferred to do all the cooking herself, forgetting that her daughter would get married someday.

She was willing to learn so I taught her everything she knows today. Now, you can hardly tell the difference in taste between her food and mine.

Don’t lose your life partner and end up with the wrong person because of trivial issues you can easily fix.

Adeboye said he was talking to his Children not some attention seeking group.

A man is not free to address his children again.

"Some people become popular by propounding a law; others become popular by providing the law wrong."

It's obvious that these group of bishops have nothing to do with their time. Just seeking cheap popularity by riding on Pst. Adeboye's back.

Please how many of you can marry a woman that can't cook.

Everybody just wanna trend