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My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

Leave am alone.

Some people only tend to change when the reality of life hits them so hard.

6 years ago,if I was told that I,Obax would break out of the bondage of chronic gambling today,I wouldn't believe. But today,even to watch football matches self na hardly.

Only your brother can help himself...


I think they is very little (I don't want to be gloomy and say nothing) you can do for him.



Only he can help himself out of the problem when he decides.

This situation perfectly describes that phrase life is a personal race.

You may talk to him but he might not even be seeing the issue/addiction as a problem!

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.


Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.


Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?


This is ridiculous!!!

Bros is that what they asked you...?

No way out onless you can collect his phone and monitor is movements.

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

I was once a chronic gambler between 2018 to 2024, I go as far as stealing small money from my parents account and delete the transaction receipt just to play bet,
Until I found a good hustle that gives me serious money, I realized I was not addicted, but I need money
Now I rarely play bet
Maybe when money has become excess, I bet small money, but I rarely play bet again

It may not be addiction, Nigeria is tough, everybody is trying various means to enter the status quo


Trust me, it will be hard to stop him, if you are just advising him, without helping him to improve in his financial, na that time he go proof stubborn, I have been there before

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.


Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

Rubbish wetin you talk no even correlate
U won talk say you dey make money

Powerbandooo:
I was once a chronic gambler between 2018 to 2024, I go as far as stealing small money from my parents account and delete the transaction receipt just to play bet,
Until I found a good hustle that gives me serious money, I realized I was not addicted, but I need money
Now I rarely play bet
Maybe when money has become excess, I bet small money, but I rarely play bet again

It may not be addiction, Nigeria is tough, everybody is trying various means to enter the status quo


Trust me, it will be hard to stop him, if you are just advising him, without helping him to improve in his financial, na that time he go proof stubborn, I have been there before

Which online work can u help us the underprivileged cc like us.

More than 30% of Nigerian guys are into betting. If you think I'm lying, check their phones, you will see multiple betting apps installed there.
The bottom-line is betting responsibly.
Know when to stake.
Know how to stake
And know when to take a break.

If you can't do the above, then don't start in the first place.

You see Gambling and Womanising
Once e enter you
Devil go leave you alone
Because wertin go kukuma kill you don already set
Why waste efforts and energy on you again
People full ground to deal with

gambling is the younger brother of faith, so what is faith?

Faith is a complete trust, confidence, or firm belief in a person, idea, or religion, often without tangible proof. It also signifies loyalty to a person or cause.

faith bible version: the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen

Anything done irresponsibly always causes problem. Betting is a very volatile trade, where nothing is in your hands, not your illusion of head to head Analysis.

The more you compound odds, the higher the odds are against you winning.

The problem with people who lose so much is that TRYING TO RECOVER LOST BET.

He can swap the addiction/betting problem with a more healthy thing... Or gradually wean himself off of it.

Maybe doing ajo where he has to pay a monthly contribution for savings, then set a fixed monthly budget for bets - if he wins, good, if not wait till next month.

But above all, DOES HE THINK HE HAS A PROBLEM, OR DOES HE THINKS HIS LUCK GO SOON SHINE.

Ok. They blame gambling. U lack self control and u are blaming gambling. Joker

It took me 10 years and a total loss of over 21 million in naira to break free.

It's never easy to break free from any form of addiction. When you think you have abstained and are free, then something triggers a relapse.

It's a battle of the mind but you will lose many things along the way; relationships, mental health, happiness, financial stability, personal success etc. Because all the monies you are supposed to channel into productive ventures will be channeled into gambling. Chasing losses makes what is already bad even worse.

I should have migrated a long time ago, I gambled away the funds I set aside for that. I abandoned my Masters program because I couldn't fund it. Not that I didn't have the means but all I saw in my head was how to double any available funds. The dopamine was real. I started stealing from my fiancee at some point and it formed part of why my relationship broke. I am only just getting my life together after abstaining last year. It's not been easy repaying unending debts and living frugally because of past mistakes. But it's the prize that has to be paid for my lack of discretion in the past.

As for your brother, you cannot stop him, he will either realize he needs to stop or he will gamble till he becomes suicidal. I know how many times I reported myself to GambleAlert, a gambling addiction reform organization. I started therapy but relapsed thrice. Then I quit. I just woke up one day after squandering the 4m left in my account and decided ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

If not stupidity, I have 4m at hand, I am chasing 500k or 1m. I then lose the entire 4m in the process.

Religion done irresponsibly is what becomes terrorism. Take responsibility for ur life oga and stop blaming gambling

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.


Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

Is this the same brain you're using to make 960k a month? Bloody liar!

You left the main content of the post and started spewing bullcrap! Who asked for your opinion on the guy's salary? Who asked how much you earn monthly?

It's like you have another motive for replying.

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

Tell your brother that gambling will make him lose his job and that when this happens that he should be ready to suffer

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temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

Sorry to hear about your brother fate. I believe the problem with your brother is that he bet recklessly and greedy. I am a pundit myself (person that bet on the outcome of games) l bet responsible and l can say l lose money at a stretch at times but just 2 wins l recoup my lost and make handsome profit on it. To some it pays and to others is a no go area.

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

Soon he is going to win N200m on sportybet

webincomeplus:
Is this the same brain you're using to make 960k a month? Bloody liar!

You left the main content of the post and started spewing bullcrap! Who asked for your opinion on the guy's salary? Who asked how much you earn monthly?

It's like you have another motive for replying.

D guy na 419; he's looking for somebody to ask him how so he will tell the person to send him a token for him to teach the person Way

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.


Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

Nobody cares if you make N1 billion, a topic was posted, and you came here to tell us what you make, like who cares?

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

if the dude no hit jackpot he won't Stop....so make the family dey pray mk he hit jackpot.. Nigeria is a tough place to live....some are doing olosho to survive...so don't blame him

Pootle:
gambling is the younger brother of faith, so what is faith?

Faith is a complete trust, confidence, or firm belief in a person, idea, or religion, often without tangible proof. It also signifies loyalty to a person or cause.

faith bible version: the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen

Oh well, this your take is quite interesting!

Betting has been assisting me. Be like side-hustle. Lol.

You need to consider him a baby...go to the place of work and speak to someone that would listen. Then work on collecting his salary and paying him. He will still gamble, but you can at least start helping him pay the bills.

Alternatively, the place of work can work with him to pay his rent and bills directly, then give him the rest to gamble. Unless something drastic is done, he will bring everyone down with him, and may even kill or kidnap to fund his gambling ambition.

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

Them no dey tell person, just allow him he will soon smell the coffee.

As Nigeria hard so na em person dey use the small one wey eh get dey hand over to betting companies with the hope of making times 3 or 4 of it.

lol
ndi over 4.5 goal goal

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

Your brother own na joke. Only yesterday I lost about 35 million naira on sportybet

He will learn the hard way, with time.