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Is it right for a wife to prevent her husband from bathing her little daughters? Is it also right for a wife to monitor her husband in the name of protecting her daughters? It is wrong.

If you married a responsible husband, such actions should be out of it. It is like an insult restricting or monitoring your husband when he is with your daughters. You may go rent another apartment and stay with your daughters. But if in any way you notice any funny behaviour from him, deal with it to the root.

How can a male bath a female child well

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My father used to bathe me as a child every once in a while and there was never anything unusual about it... He also has never had any issues with us walking around the house in just our underwears, given that we cover up when going outside or have a guest.

I mean if male nurses could bathe female patients, then I don't see anything wrong with a father bathing his female minor child... Predators don't need to bathe their female children or see their unclothedness before preying on them.

This may be off by topic, but let me state that people hardly report sexual abuse within the family. That said, it is very easy to spot a man who is a sexual pervert, but most ladies are too careless to notice, or desperate to care.

If you have a partner that often breathes unusually or heavily, then you may be in trouble because that is one of the behaviours of a sexual pervert.

Additionally, he is either always holding or scratching down there when he thinks no one is watching. This particular behaviour is characteristic of sexual perverts, and women should be very observant.

Also, if your husband is fond of placing little girls on his laps. They could be his kids or that of neighbours. If you notice something like that, just continue to observe him because you may have married a sexual pervert.

Oh! I almost forgot this behaviour...If you have a man that is fond of rubbing your daughter's palm during father-daughter bonding moments, watch out because that is a typical behaviour of a sexual pervert.

Now back to the topic... Fathers bathing their female kids is not a problem. The real problem is whether you are married to a sexual pervert or not because it is only perverts that will find their daughters sexually attractive.

noskcid:
How can a male bath a female child well

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If the mother travels, won't you do it?

Neddstark:
If the mother travels, won't you do it?

She Dey travel with them

We4all:
This may be off by topic, but let me state that people hardly report sexual abuse within the family. That said, it is very easy to spot a man who is a sexual pervert, but most ladies are too careless to notice, or desperate to care.

If you have a partner that often breathes unusually or heavily, then you may be in trouble because that is one of the behaviours of a sexual pervert.

Additionally, he is either always holding or scratching down there when he thinks no one is watching. This particular behaviour is characteristic of sexual perverts, and women should be very observant.

Also, if your husband is fond of placing little girls on his laps. They could be his kids or that of neighbours. If you notice something like that, just continue to observe him because you may have married a sexual pervert.

Oh! I almost forgot this behaviour...If you have a man that is fond of rubbing your daughter's palm during father-daughter bonding moments, watch out because that is a typical behaviour of a sexual pervert.

Now back to the topic... Fathers bathing their female kids is not a problem. The real problem is whether you are married to a sexual pervert or not because it is only perverts that will find their daughters sexually attractive.

I wonder how some of you feel so confident dishing out unverified statistics in public space.
What does heavy breathing in men have to do with someone being a pervert? A man with belle as big as 4gallon will always breathe heavily pervert or no pervert.
Men have been scratching their scrotum since the days of Adam, how does that translate to being a pervert? I expected that you would back your claims with medical research results or something but no, you just dish out fake statistics just like that or are you personalizing it based on experience?
What is wrong with a father carrying his daughter in his laps too? Nawao.

Imindmybusiness:
I wonder how some of you feel so confident dishing out unverified statistics in public space.
What does heavy breathing in men have to do with someone being a pervert? A man with belle as big as 4gallon will always breathe heavily pervert or no pervert.
Men have been scratching their scrotum since the days of Adam, how does that translate to being a pervert? I expected that you would back your claims with medical research results or something but no, you just dish out fake statistics just like that or are you personalizing it based on experience?
What is wrong with a father carrying his daughter in his laps too? Nawao.

My claims are based on real life interactions with sexual perverts, and victims of sexual perverts.

This is simple logic: I said that sexual perverts mostly exhibit some of the aforementioned behaviours. I didn't say all men who exhibit such behaviours are sexual perverts.

But you cleverly refused to acknowledge my use of words such as 'may', 'observe', and 'watchout'. You read what you wanted to believe and based your arguments on that because you just wanted to undermine my post.

Men should not bath their daughters. There are very many other house chores to help your wife do, focus on those ones. The childs mother will bath the child.

It depends on the intention of the so called father and what age the daughter is..practically if you say men should not bath their daughter but can change diapers what difference is that
I bath my new born girl child when ever the mother is out to the market. I change her diapers.
But I stoped as soon as she hits 2 going up not because I can't but it's the duty of the mother. Naturally girl child do have hormonal changes at early stage of puberty, let the girl child not assume the father have right over her body whilst growing.

Nonsense man na nonsense man 🤷🏿

No!
Or else mothers should also be restricted from bathing their male children

Rephrase the question, is it okay for a mother to bathe their little sons? That answers the question.

A dad can bath his daughters when the mum is busy or not around

- For *very young children*, it’s common for either parent to help with bathing. As daughters grow older, around age 5-7 and beyond, most families naturally shift so that only the mother or a female caregiver handles bathing for privacy and comfort. That’s less about distrust and more about age-appropriate boundaries and the child’s own sense of privacy.
- If a wife feels uncomfortable, the healthiest approach is to *discuss it openly with her husband* rather than impose a ban without conversation. The decision should be about the child’s well-being and comfort, not suspicion alone.

*On monitoring a husband “in the name of protecting daughters”*
- *Trust is foundational in marriage*. Constant monitoring or restrictions without cause can erode that trust and create resentment, especially toward a husband who has shown no signs of harmful behavior. Calling it an “insult” reflects how that can feel on the receiving end.
- At the same time, *a parent’s primary duty is child protection*. If there are red flags — inappropriate comments, behavior, or boundaries being crossed — then vigilance isn’t just right, it’s necessary. That doesn’t mean public suspicion; it means addressing it directly, privately, and if needed, involving trusted counselors, family elders, or child protection authorities.

*The balance*
- If the husband is *responsible and has given no reason for doubt*, then restricting him or monitoring him can damage the marital relationship and also confuse the child about family trust.
- If there _is_ genuine concern or “funny behavior,” then ignoring it for the sake of marital peace is the bigger risk. In that case, the wife should act decisively — whether that’s setting clear boundaries, seeking counseling, or in extreme cases, separating the child from the situation while investigating.

*Bottom line*: Healthy marriages run on both *trust and boundaries*. Trust your partner until there’s reason not to, but never ignore instincts when a child’s safety is involved. The key is communication first, and action if real warning signs appear.

If you’re in a situation where you feel unsafe for your children, you can contact Nigeria’s *Child Protection Network* or the *NSCDC Child Protection Desk* for confidential guidance.

Maybe mothers should not bathe their sons again. Nonsense topic

LilMissFavvy:
Men should not bath their daughters. There are very many other house chores to help your wife do, focus on those ones. The childs mother will bath the child.

This is not a normal practice but we have to acknowledge the fact that circumstances differ. A couple that is living abroad would have no option here due to work patterns.

Samantha125:
My father used to bathe me as a child every once in a while and there was never anything unusual about it... He also has never had any issues with us walking around the house in just our underwears, given that we cover up when going outside or have a guest.

I mean if male nurses could bathe female patients, then I don't see anything wrong with a father bathing his female minor child... Predators don't need to bathe their female children or see their unclothedness before preying on them.

What is a xenophobic person doing in Nairaland, or you guys want to start such act here

We4all:
This may be off by topic, but let me state that people hardly report sexual abuse within the family. That said, it is very easy to spot a man who is a sexual pervert, but most ladies are too careless to notice, or desperate to care.

If you have a partner that often breathes unusually or heavily, then you may be in trouble because that is one of the behaviours of a sexual pervert.

Additionally, he is either always holding or scratching down there when he thinks no one is watching. This particular behaviour is characteristic of sexual perverts, and women should be very observant.

Also, if your husband is fond of placing little girls on his laps. They could be his kids or that of neighbours. If you notice something like that, just continue to observe him because you may have married a sexual pervert.

Oh! I almost forgot this behaviour...If you have a man that is fond of rubbing your daughter's palm during father-daughter bonding moments, watch out because that is a typical behaviour of a sexual pervert.

Now back to the topic... Fathers bathing their female kids is not a problem. The real problem is whether you are married to a sexual pervert or not because it is only perverts that will find their daughters sexually attractive.

Answer the question if you have an opinion and stop drooling about with a personal opinion, that cannot be used for knowing all predators.

Neddstark:
If the mother travels, won't you do it?

Na travel you dey talk? what if the mother dies and the daughters are left alone with their fathers?

Imindmybusiness:
I wonder how some of you feel so confident dishing out unverified statistics in public space.
What does heavy breathing in men have to do with someone being a pervert? A man with belle as big as 4gallon will always breathe heavily pervert or no pervert.
Men have been scratching their scrotum since the days of Adam, how does that translate to being a pervert? I expected that you would back your claims with medical research results or something but no, you just dish out fake statistics just like that or are you personalizing it based on experience?
What is wrong with a father carrying his daughter in his laps too? Nawao.

The idiocy of the post was just too disgusting to read.

noskcid:
How can a male bath a female child well

To it wrong

But a woman can bathe a male child right?The truth is we have more responsible fathers that wouldn't defile their daughters than the irresponsible ones.

Samantha125:
My father used to bathe me as a child every once in a while and there was never anything unusual about it... He also has never had any issues with us walking around the house in just our underwears, given that we cover up when going outside or have a guest.

I mean if male nurses could bathe female patients, then I don't see anything wrong with a father bathing his female minor child... Predators don't need to bathe their female children or see their unclothedness before preying on them.

I don't think I need to comment again cos you've said it all.

I do bathe for my daughter, wash her bumbum when she poo and even rinse her V whenever she wee. SHE'S MY DAUGHTER

LilMissFavvy:
Men should not bath their daughters. There are very many other house chores to help your wife do, focus on those ones. The childs mother will bath the child.

By this analogy mothers should also not bathe the male child right?

ebubeson:
Is it right for a wife to prevent her husband from bathing her little daughters? Is it also right for a wife to monitor her husband in the name of protecting her daughters? It is wrong.

If you married a responsible husband, such actions should be out of it. It is like an insult restricting or monitoring your husband when he is with your daughters. You may go rent another apartment and stay with your daughters. But if in any way you notice any funny behaviour from him, deal with it to the root.

its not a big deal, its nothing wrong

noskcid:
How can a male bath a female child well

To it wrong

Any Father with your type of mindset, is a "Sexual Pervert" and should be nowhere near any Child!
I bath my two daughters all their Baby-Life.
It does not feel different, to bathing my Boys or even a Doll, for that matter.
What is this world turning into?

I understand that wicked Women are doing everything they can, to demonize Men, and fathers in particular but good Fathers, Husbands and Men out there must resist this Nonsense.
I know most White Men are 'raised differently' (they dont have natural boundaries) but we are NIGERIANS, we dont do such 'Shyt to, or with our Children

Sexualizing ones daughter is a mental related illness of not been able to see that it's a one way ticket to doom and should never be imagined. Yes!! Only mothers should bath the girl child..

The system is so rigged against men. There is just as much sexual perversion in females as there is in males.

Sexual perversion (paraphilic disorders) is a mental disorder and it’s not a gender thing, it’s a human problem just like every other disorders. It happens to both male and female.

Society just underreport females perversion and that’s why women get away with a lot of things.

My friend is still looking for the house maid that sexually abused his son. He found out very late.


So If you want to make it a gender thing then don’t make it one sided.




Women perversion is underreported
Women perversion is underreported
Women perversion is underreported
Women perversion is underreported

Rubbish Even i use to bath my wife talkless of my daughter. The bond between me and my daughter eh, even heaven and earth no get am
Any man that will marry my daughter eh, must prepare o. Am the kind of father that can visit his daughter often. Any move to move my daughter eh, go collect