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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Bahamas95(m): 2:37pm On May 06

There are some people you don't need to advice, at 27 he is no longer a baby.

Leave him alone let him learn the hard way, I don't give myself unnecessary stress.

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by eagleonearth(m): 2:41pm On May 06

gigabyte13:
You see Gambling and Womanising
Once e enter you
Devil go leave you alone
Because wertin go kukuma kill you don already set
Why waste efforts and energy on you again
People full ground to deal with

you did not mention drunkenness and drug addiction.

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by brosom(m): 2:49pm On May 06

TallNigerian:
It took me 10 years and a total loss of over 21 million in naira to break free.

It's never easy to break free from any form of addiction. When you think you have abstained and are free, then something triggers a relapse.

It's a battle of the mind but you will lose many things along the way; relationships, mental health, happiness, financial stability, personal success etc. Because all the monies you are supposed to channel into productive ventures will be channeled into gambling. Chasing losses makes what is already bad even worse.

I should have migrated a long time ago, I gambled away the funds I set aside for that. I abandoned my Masters program because I couldn't fund it. Not that I didn't have the means but all I saw in my head was how to double any available funds. The dopamine was real. I started stealing from my fiancee at some point and it formed part of why my relationship broke. I am only just getting my life together after abstaining last year. It's not been easy repaying unending debts and living frugally because of past mistakes. But it's the prize that has to be paid for my lack of discretion in the past.

As for your brother, you cannot stop him, he will either realize he needs to stop or he will gamble till he becomes suicidal. I know how many times I reported myself to GambleAlert, a gambling addiction reform organization. I started therapy but relapsed thrice. Then I quit. I just woke up one day after squandering the 4m left in my account and decided ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

If not stupidity, I have 4m at hand, I am chasing 500k or 1m. I then lose the entire 4m in the process.

Bro it's never really easy to stop once u re in to betting.

I learn a thing or few from u now, mine was I stop mid last year and was doing ok for myself, all my focus was making money without even thinking about betting, I'm a skilled worker, precisely a phone repair technician, I make close to 300k/month, and sometimes 400k, outside expenses. After expenses for family because from time to time family we call, I saved 1m+, and I set a daily target on opay to be deducting 5k each day because I want to save up to buy a land. All plans was going well until the thirt for more came back again through betting, at first it was just a bit, from there another and again to an extent I wanted to recover the ones I lost, before I could understand myself all money was gone including the ones in opay about 1.7m, this was from January till today 5th of may 2026, I felt suicidal, I became tired and weak even to go to work because of the loss, no appetite to eat well.

Just today is 6th of may, I've set another tegert on opay, I started afresh because I'm kobo less now, My point is that I think I need help because I can't keep in like this at 34.

I see money every day but I can't account for it.

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by temitope66(op): 2:53pm On May 06

TallNigerian:
It took me 10 years and a total loss of over 21 million in naira to break free.

It's never easy to break free from any form of addiction. When you think you have abstained and are free, then something triggers a relapse.

It's a battle of the mind but you will lose many things along the way; relationships, mental health, happiness, financial stability, personal success etc. Because all the monies you are supposed to channel into productive ventures will be channeled into gambling. Chasing losses makes what is already bad even worse.

I should have migrated a long time ago, I gambled away the funds I set aside for that. I abandoned my Masters program because I couldn't fund it. Not that I didn't have the means but all I saw in my head was how to double any available funds. The dopamine was real. I started stealing from my fiancee at some point and it formed part of why my relationship broke. I am only just getting my life together after abstaining last year. It's not been easy repaying unending debts and living frugally because of past mistakes. But it's the prize that has to be paid for my lack of discretion in the past.

As for your brother, you cannot stop him, he will either realize he needs to stop or he will gamble till he becomes suicidal. I know how many times I reported myself to GambleAlert, a gambling addiction reform organization. I started therapy but relapsed thrice. Then I quit. I just woke up one day after squandering the 4m left in my account and decided ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

If not stupidity, I have 4m at hand, I am chasing 500k or 1m. I then lose the entire 4m in the process.

It must have been a serious matter, thank you sir.

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Undisputed147: 2:59pm On May 06

Just continue to talk but don't force him to stop because more you force him d more power dey to continue gamble.. no body go tell am when d time come to stop. Na because e still dey see free food and free house to stay make am dey misbehave.. wen better hand don meet am, na only he brain go reset to normal

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by LIVINGICONREBOR: 3:03pm On May 06

uyi guobadia (guobe), see wetin your pple dey do dis guy. Dem wan send am go the most interior part of his village.🥱🥱

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Pueblaking1: 3:06pm On May 06

I too like women and I love designers . So money self never reach,how gambling go come take enter huh

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Futureyahooboi(m): 3:08pm On May 06

Nobody dey give advice to Ashawo, Gambler, Smoker, Thief, or person wey just fall in love. Them no dey hear word.

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by zikter(m): 3:13pm On May 06

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.

Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

Who asked you your monthly earnings? Unnecessary show off. Don't you think there are people on this topic that earn over 5 million a month?

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Kalulu44: 3:14pm On May 06

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.

Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

Nobody ask you how much you make. rever solution and leave the rest. Working 1am to 4am, no be bombing be that mtcheew

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Kalulu44: 3:16pm On May 06

brain54:
Bros is that what they asked you...?

Lolz! I think say na only me noticed am o. Him dey work 1am to 4am, no be Yahoo boy be that mtcheew

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by jidesp(m): 3:17pm On May 06

He is clinging on to Mayor of Ekiti dream

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Kalulu44: 3:18pm On May 06

Powerbandooo:
I was once a chronic gambler between 2018 to 2024, I go as far as stealing small money from my parents account and delete the transaction receipt just to play bet,
Until I found a good hustle that gives me serious money, I realized I was not addicted, but I need money
Now I rarely play bet
Maybe when money has become excess, I bet small money, but I rarely play bet again

It may not be addiction, Nigeria is tough, everybody is trying various means to enter the status quo

Trust me, it will be hard to stop him, if you are just advising him, without helping him to improve in his financial, na that time he go proof stubborn, I have been there before

Hmmm... Well said, if you're working and seeing money every now and then. To play the bet sef go be like disturbance. True talk

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by saintbillion(m): 3:18pm On May 06

brain54:
Bros is that what they asked you...?

Honestly the guy needs help more than the OP brother

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Kalulu44: 3:18pm On May 06

Powerbandooo:
Rubbish wetin you talk no even correlate
U won talk say you dey make money

No mind am, na Yahoo boy. Midnight bombers

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by jaxxy(m): 3:23pm On May 06

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

They don't usually stop until they hit rock bottom. one of my close friends was always borrowing money barely works after receiving his salary and the cycle kept repeating itself then I probed him and found he usually asked to borrow money when there were big games being played and I had to ask Jim one day does he gamble and he said yes. I told him to be careful cos it seems to be out if control and badly affecting his finances.

Surprisingly 2 year after that conversation and some tough love he's finally turn his life around and buying his 1st car worth several millions. I felt so proud.

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Kamalex2: 3:29pm On May 06

Sonnobax15:

Leave am alone.

Some people only tend to change when the reality of life hits them so hard.

6 years ago,if I was told that I,Obax would break out of the bondage of chronic gambling today,I wouldn't believe. But today,even to watch football matches self na hardly.

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Greatness09: 3:29pm On May 06

temitope66:
My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.

Omo it’s not easy to break that addiction ooo but at the same time it’s so easy…just make that decision and watch yourself grow

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by treasurenat(m): 3:53pm On May 06

Chai, betting is like believing what is not real to the extent that you will use all your money to play and lose.You will now realised how important the little money you have before which was not important before,you will now realised how important is and how hard to get it.
The only advice I can give is that start telling him about all negative things that have happened to people that were into it e.g how they committed suicide,run into debt, homeless,lack responsibilities, and those separate marriages.
You can even tell him that no matter the money he will win will not up to the one he has lost.
You can even lie by saying it happened to someone in your family which still affecting you and others,tell him about how those failed to help you financially be cause they involved in bet.
Upon all the method,if he refused yet ,tell me that is not that you don't want him to get money but he should NOT spend more than 1k only on weekend games a.that the maximum amount he should stake should not be more than 100naira or 50naira if possible otherwise he might ruin his life or even make person be mad self.
The reason why I said you should tell him about 1k on weekend games is not that am trying to let you support betting but you need to say it for someone who is addicted,so that he will be free from it little by little and not see you as enemy of progress.

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by meobizy(m): 3:55pm On May 06

Only he can change his situation. Gambling triggers the same parts of the brain that drugs do. Just like drug users, only he can decide to stop when he feels the need to.

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by meobizy(m): 3:58pm On May 06

Uyi Guobadia is a fellow addict in denial. Them plenty for Nairaland.

LIVINGICONREBOR:
uyi guobadia (guobe), see wetin your pple dey do dis guy. Dem wan send am go the most interior part of his village.🥱🥱

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Ade1177: 4:00pm On May 06

TallNigerian:
It took me 10 years and a total loss of over 21 million in naira to break free.

It's never easy to break free from any form of addiction. When you think you have abstained and are free, then something triggers a relapse.

It's a battle of the mind but you will lose many things along the way; relationships, mental health, happiness, financial stability, personal success etc. Because all the monies you are supposed to channel into productive ventures will be channeled into gambling. Chasing losses makes what is already bad even worse.

I should have migrated a long time ago, I gambled away the funds I set aside for that. I abandoned my Masters program because I couldn't fund it. Not that I didn't have the means but all I saw in my head was how to double any available funds. The dopamine was real. I started stealing from my fiancee at some point and it formed part of why my relationship broke. I am only just getting my life together after abstaining last year. It's not been easy repaying unending debts and living frugally because of past mistakes. But it's the prize that has to be paid for my lack of discretion in the past.

As for your brother, you cannot stop him, he will either realize he needs to stop or he will gamble till he becomes suicidal. I know how many times I reported myself to GambleAlert, a gambling addiction reform organization. I started therapy but relapsed thrice. Then I quit. I just woke up one day after squandering the 4m left in my account and decided ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

If not stupidity, I have 4m at hand, I am chasing 500k or 1m. I then lose the entire 4m in the process.

I quit the day I know I was stupid

I lost 200k just because a whole Man city could not score 1 Single goal

Then I rebet 500k and lost it that same day because real madrid could not win a bottom league team at Home, and mbappe, vini, Bellingham everyone is present o

Omo I wan craze that day

Nobody told me as I quit, I delete the app and even the triggers like telegram, reduce my dstv subscription to show only africa magic.

Lose 700k chasing 200k, because you want to play safe and bet on strong team at home embarassed

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Pipefitter: 4:12pm On May 06

Sonnobax15:

Leave am alone.

Some people only tend to change when the reality of life hits them so hard.

6 years ago,if I was told that I,Obax would break out of the bondage of chronic gambling today,I wouldn't believe. But today,even to watch football matches self na hardly.

My brother you are right....I stopped earlier this year after losing about 5m within the 1st three months... For the first time in 8years I have stayed 2months plus without any interest in betting. The thought of it makes me want to vomit, indeed it takes self discovery to flee from that evil

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by amazonguru001: 4:20pm On May 06*

Sonofgod1990:
Your brother own na joke. Only yesterday I lost about 35 million naira on sportybet

Blood of Zachariiah

Are you for real?
Because I am tempted to ask if you are related to Lie Mohammed or If your middle name is Lamba.

Bet and loose 35Meter.
Haaaaaaaaaaaaa

If na true baba come, make we arrange deliverance for you sharp sharp.

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Nytbelle: 4:25pm On May 06

Pls I’m interested in the online work, even if it’s 500k a month. I really need a job.

150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.

Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!![/quote]

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by zelnababa(m): 4:33pm On May 06

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.

Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

who ask you this? aproko.

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Xboss1: 4:38pm On May 06

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.

Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

Show me the way, bro

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by Sunny91(m): 4:39pm On May 06

My 27 years old brother has been a chronic gambler for years now, we just discovered he use a huge part of his Salary to play bets. Then after he make excuses when it comes to necessary bills payments. He work in a firm where he make 150k monthly but nothing to show off. I have tried talking to him but he won’t change. Please how can we help him.
My response is.
I'm suffering from it also but the only temporary solution you must give us is to pay us back our losses by doing so I promise you we will stop betting because like this I'm still chasing my losses since 2022 when there ate one of my allowee at the moment several dept how do you expect us to pay it I'm tired and need help 😥

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by soccerlite: 4:44pm On May 06

Someone earning 150k and gambling

Fast way to great beyond

After you commot tp, food money how much remain

He will now be looking for 2pts that he will put 5k, still everything go vapourise

........

Gambling especially football bet are for people that see free huge money

Eg politicians, musicians, etc

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by EmmyMaestro(m): 4:52pm On May 06

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.

Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

Oga abeg, teach me some of those jobs

Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by LIVINGICONREBOR: 4:53pm On May 06

meobizy:
Uyi Guobadia is a fellow addict in denial. Them plenty for Nairaland.

You are absolutely right. I neva see dat kind person for my life before. Guobe plays bet everyday of his life. D thing don enter him bone marrow and destiny.🥱🥱

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Re: Gambling Is Ruining My Brother’s Life, Please Help. by CyracksMrBlogger(m): 4:57pm On May 06

Kylekent59:
150k monthly?

Where I work online and from home from 1 am to 4 am and 12 pm to 5 pm ( daily) and total a salary of 960k a month.

Hmmm, what would 150k do for a young man?

Football is a scam. I'm sure he will play Chelsea to win today. Chelsea will lose.

Money you guys lose is what they use to pay players. I pity people who refuse to learn.

All you have to do is to make him take responsibility at home and when he remembers that, he would shy away from gambling.

This is ridiculous!!

so what kind of work do you do? Can you put me through?

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