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franchasng:
Okay ma, epele ma, ema bi nu

Proserpina:
O su mi o

Ewo logun epistle

SixSeven:
Have you heard women say even if she is earning her own money, she still wants to enjoy his own? Don't women openly say my money is my money, his money is our money? These women want to war their cake and have it. Which woman no like enjoyment?

Being a provider cannot be an underrated ability and that is what the western style system wants to achieve. Once you share your responsibilities with her, you lose the provider status as a man. It's not like women should not earn and do well but what women back then did was to know that when they leave their offices and get home, that boss lady ends there. In the house, one person is the head, the woman is not, no matter how they want to change things. I even hear them now say we are partners. Women like deceiving themselves. Let him be your partner and we'll see how that goes. He's your husband and head of the family. Know that and know peace.

SixSeven:
Being a provider cannot be an underrated ability and that is what the western style system wants to achieve. Once you share your responsibilities with her, you lose the provider status as a man. It's not like women should not earn and do well but what women back then did was to know that when they leave their offices and get home, that boss lady ends there. In the house, one person is the head, the woman is not, no matter how they want to change things. I even hear them now say we are partners. Women like deceiving themselves. Let him be your partner and we'll see how that goes. He's your husband and head of the family. Know that and know peace.

franchasng:
I didn't really get your message honestly, or maybe you are trying to code your message or something, but I didn't get where you are driving to lol.


My own is, anybody doing well financially, be it women or men, try and let your success touch many struggling people's lives, not just those in your family alone; be it your wife, husband, siblings, friends, neighbors, staffs, side chicks, kinsmen and women, or even strangers. Don't hold your help just because you believe the person you want to help won't appreciate it, dont worry, whether he or she appreciates it or not, the book of life and nature will never forget your genuine good deeds.

immortalcrown:
Billing is the other way round over there.

Proserpina:
So now imagine this here. After spending my resources to upgrade a man he will now have this mentality.

Franchisng will settle matter tire o

Pootle:
he will never agree to marry a nigeria woman of that size

franchasng:
My dear sister (I am guessing u are a lady from your replies so far lol), there is nothing wrong in this. Go to Facebook and see thousands of Nigerian guys married to foreign women genuinely and now living their dream lives as interracial families, most of them started like this before getting married and the guy joining her abroad.


I also know a lot of successful marriages between Nigerian guys in Nigeria and Nigerian ladies abroad, dont say never okay?


You guys should stop seeing these things as big deal. Do you know how we Nigerian men doing well financially enjoy splashing money on our women? It gives us joy. One of my friends just sponsored his wife on a trip to tour Europe next month. She is going alone, he said he will stay with the kids that let her go and enjoy life life a single lady. The joy of being financially successful is in spending it, making people genuinely happy, uplifting people including side chics, etc.


Free your mind my dear, there is nothing in this life okay, whenever u can help anybody with what you have, pls do it and don't bother much about if they would appreciate it or not, heaven and the book of life will never forget your good deed

SixSeven:
Just know women and know peace. I agree with you, be a person of help and value no matter who but between man and woman, women like providers and that's man's natural state. A woman as a provider will remind you of what she does, most men just take it like that. For the men who do 50/50 which is what the West makes of men, they want to take the authority from them because they pay the bills. It's sad but that's the reality. Only a few women who were were properly trained and know the difference between building a home and a career can understand this.

If a man is not doing well, he should make sure he doesn't let the woman become the man of the house. He should try to work on himself. Again, women are not built to be providers. They are receivers. That's how God made them. Give a woman a sperm, make a baby. Giver her a house, she makes a home. The moment you let her do the work of a man, you will change her and she will become bitter. It's man's natural nature to build, it's her natural nature to nututre.

Pinnup:
Prayer point of so many people

Pootle:
he will never agree to marry a nigeria woman of that size

immortalcrown:
Billing is the other way round over there.

franchasng:
Any man saying he won't spend his money on his wife or lover or side chick if the wife isn't spending her own on him is still a poor man struggling to survive.


Once a man becomes financially successful, maybe let me use my people I can vouch for, once an Igbo man becomes financially successful, the first place you will notice it is through his wife and kids. Na broke unmarried guys de argue about how to spend their wife's salary or how their wife must spend her income lol.


My wife can afford anything she desires as a woman today, but I can proudly tell you that that cute lady have never bought a handbag before by herself, have never bought a car or fueled one, have never bought hair wig or attachment, I buy them all and I buy the best cos I love seeing women carry quality handbag, put on good jewelry, cute shoe, hair and drive amazing car. And there are millions of Nigerian married men doing more than I am doing for my wife. So stop paying attention to online talks, na just for convo, in real life, men spend most part of their money on the women in their life (wife, daughters, mother, lovers, mistresses, side chicks, sisters), thats the reality, so stop worrying about what guys say online, wait until they marry, na today, go and collect her salary na

Pootle:
he will never agree to marry a nigeria woman of that size

Proserpina:
Franchasng

While you urge Nigerian women to take a leaf from the foreign woman's book have you taken a moment to think of the cultural shift that has occurred in the dynamics of this man and his woman's relationship? Have you had a one on one talk with the man a Nigerian how he feels to be taken care of by a woman. Is he truly happy or his online display just a facade.

Let me tell you this, no one understands a Nigerian man better than Nigerian women. So if Nigerian women don't take full financial responsibility of a man it's because they know better not to. Many wives in Nigeria who took over financial responsibility in their homes advise their younger ones never to make such mistakes. Nigerian men aren't build to be receivers. Even foreigners end up regretting it, I see them on socials sharing their stories.

Let a man be a man this I have learnt , I can help, support but no I'm not upgrading a man's life from scratch. Not one I will be romantically involved with.

MarketDispatch:
Peter OBi

Proserpina:
Me self want to enjoy like your wife, so I'm building no damn man

I no be bob....

Nigerian man expresses gratitude as he shares his life transformation after meeting his white lover

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— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) May 7, 2026

franchasng:
Lol, let me now shock you.


My friend that I said is about sponsoring his wife on an European tour next month, it was his wife that made him. This guy was damn broke, this girl from a kind of semi rich family agreed to date and marry him, and gradually she transformed his life. I wouldn't want to go into details here cos this is an open forum, but she made him kind of but the guy is well focused, hardworking and ambitious, only needed a leap and his wife gave him that and today both of them are living their dream life as happily married couple, and young naira billionaire family



So please dont write off guys still in their formative years. Pls dont despise the days of little beginnings of anybody, be it a man or fellow woman. My life too is a big testimony that God can bless anybody


The only advice I would give to you like a brother is this before u start building or working to build with any guy, please study his personality, is he kind hearted, does he have human conscience? you will know from how he relate with people, friends, strangers. Then find out if he is genuinely interested in going on a life journey with you or not. Check his friends too, are they sensible and focused or are they cultists and hediots?

Proserpina:
No we don't. So?

reddingtonblack:
Meow ! Meow ! 🤣🤣🤣 this one still dey single and blacklisted

Proserpina:
Even in your response to Steven, you don't like taking from women. There must be reasons for that.

Lol, me self dey formative stage, make somebody son build me My head no reject building fa.

Pootle:
he will never agree to marry a nigeria woman of that size