₦airaland Forum

She's the moneybag that changed his life.

immortalcrown:
Billing is the other way round over there.

Naija girls would rather suck you dry than changing your life. 😂

No be lie.
You are saying the whole truth.

franchasng:
He will if the woman is bringing as much goodies as this white lady brought to him, but unfortunately our Nigerian sisters hardly do this; there are plenty of them doing very well financially abroad, single to the core but to go back to Nigeria to marry one struggling young man and help his destiny and also help her own, they will rather die single and lonely abroad and waste that western citizenship and opportunities God gave to them which they ought to use to help other people's lives too, black women are too stingy honestly, I am sorry to say this

Many single Nigerian women full USA 🇺🇸, Canada 🇨🇦, and practically every country in Europe.

Most are successful in their careers, but extremely lonely and single. The main reason is, they claim they can't marry "below thier status". Out of extreme selfishness, they feel marrying a Nigerian back in Nigeria and filing for citizenship for him is giving out something precious that should only be reserved for her family members.

Even to marry a struggling Nigerian man or someone without papers who is already inside the country and to file for him, they find it impossible to do.

So the well to do Nigerian men, including married men, keep passing them around until they hit 50 yrs, then they develop full hatred for African men for the rest of thier lives.

It is really sad the kind of mindset and selfish mentality African women have😔. They will follow this path even if they lose at the end. As long as the man doesn't gain anything they are fine with it.

Pinnup:
Prayer point of so many people

People who are effectively thieves that can’t work for their ENVIRONMENT to be better for everyone’s benefit in terms of government services and public utilities, provided by well paid civil servants.

Abi, what are people who want to reap what they did not sow, or reap far more than they sowed

Pootle:
so rich women of that size that are nigerian who urna leave them for

it's all about mentality, you can marry a rich Naija woman and u will be poor, infact it's y that will be borrowing to fund her lifestyle... Naija women mentality when it comes to finance is bleeped up, I swear...

Proserpina:
So now imagine this here. After spending my resources to upgrade a man he will now have this mentality.

Franchisng will settle matter tire o

u aren't making sense.. This generation of men don't give an F about ur standards or opinion.. Men now do what they feel it's best for them, no be suffer head we come do for this life.. Ask yourself why rich guys no longer marry women from poor background u lie 10 years ago when it was common.. Ask yourself y men are no longer scared of asking what a woman brings to. The table, this generation of men are active and won't pretend with the manly rubbish you guys use to manipulate previous generation of men.. Most guys under 40 will rather remain single than to marry a woman without value go make your research.

Proserpina:
Franchasng

While you urge Nigerian women to take a leaf from the foreign woman's book have you taken a moment to think of the cultural shift that has occurred in the dynamics of this man and his woman's relationship? Have you had a one on one talk with the man a Nigerian how he feels to be taken care of by a woman. Is he truly happy or his online display just a facade.

Let me tell you this, no one understands a Nigerian man better than Nigerian women. So if Nigerian women don't take full financial responsibility of a man it's because they know better not to. Many wives in Nigeria who took over financial responsibility in their homes advise their younger ones never to make such mistakes. Nigerian men aren't build to be receivers. Even foreigners end up regretting it, I see them on socials sharing their stories.

Let a man be a man this I have learnt , I can help, support but no I'm not upgrading a man's life from scratch. Not one I will be romantically involved with.

shutup, this ur gaslighting can no longer work.. What differentiate Nigerian men from other men in the world, keep deceiving yourself.. Lol.

dominique:
A lot of Nigerian girls that size get married to talk slim men. The lady in question is not that big

Big fat lie.. A lot of Nigerian girls that size will never be able to get married to talk slim men.

Most tall slim men (Nigerian or not) will never marry a short fat woman

franchasng:
I didn't really get your message honestly, or maybe you are trying to code your message or something, but I didn't get where you are driving to lol.


My own is, anybody doing well financially, be it women or men, try and let your success touch many struggling people's lives, not just those in your family alone; be it your wife, husband, siblings, friends, neighbors, staffs, side chicks, kinsmen and women, or even strangers. Don't hold your help just because you believe the person you want to help won't appreciate it, dont worry, whether he or she appreciates it or not, the book of life and nature will never forget your genuine good deeds.

You don’t need to over explain yourself honestly. Time will teach everyone lessons to be learnt.

Pootle:
so rich women of that size that are nigerian who urna leave them for

Rich Nigerian women are not interested in marriage with men financially lower than them. And when they do, the man automatically becomes their footstool.

SixSeven:
Just know women and know peace. I agree with you, be a person of help and value no matter who but between man and woman, women like providers and that's man's natural state. A woman as a provider will remind you of what she does, most men just take it like that. For the men who do 50/50 which is what the West makes of men, they want to take the authority from them because they pay the bills. It's sad but that's the reality. Only a few women who were were properly trained and know the difference between building a home and a career can understand this.

If a man is not doing well, he should make sure he doesn't let the woman become the man of the house. He should try to work on himself. Again, women are not built to be providers. They are receivers. That's how God made them. Give a woman a sperm, make a baby. Giver her a house, she makes a home. The moment you let her do the work of a man, you will change her and she will become bitter. It's man's natural nature to build, it's her natural nature to nututre.

While you not are not wrong. A woman waiting for a man to the sole provider in this day and age, isn’t being realistic. I was speaking to a Nigerian born American lady recently, with a degree and an MBA in view, telling me that she wanted to be a SAHM when she gets married. That she was looking for a sole provider man. In my mind I wanted to ask her so why are you piling up degrees if you don’t want to work and that usually who will pay for her student loans if she has any.

When I asked several other persons in the US their opinion and if it was worth continuing the conversation, these persons including a woman I consider a second mother, were all appalled at her mindset and asked me not to continue the conversation, that I’ll not be missing anything.

The point is in this day and age, it takes two to tango.

Pinnup:
Prayer point of so many people

the news no get better caption


Nigeria man after catching is food supply chain.

Or Yahoo boy with is new mugu

franchasng:
He will if the woman is bringing as much goodies as this white lady brought to him, but unfortunately our Nigerian sisters hardly do this; there are plenty of them doing very well financially abroad, single to the core but to go back to Nigeria to marry one struggling young man and help his destiny and also help her own, they will rather die single and lonely abroad and waste that western citizenship and opportunities God gave to them which they ought to use to help other people's lives too, black women are too stingy honestly, I am sorry to say this

Some have done this but the struggling men dump them when they find their feet abroad because the intention from onset was not pure.
Even the black men marrying these older "out-of-shape" white women also have ulterior motives .
It's not out of sincerity

franchasng:
So our ladies doing well abroad should start helping our guys back home and at the same time help their own life too, it will go a long way in transforming Nigeria for good. When God bless us, it's not meant for you alone or you and your family alone to enjoy, it is meant to also uplift others. This has always been my motto and I can always beat my chest and say I have done well in this aspect and still doing with joy

I thought they say abroad is not good and Nigerians are suffering there. how come you say ladies are doing well abroad? 🤔

franchasng:
He will if the woman is bringing as much goodies as this white lady brought to him, but unfortunately our Nigerian sisters hardly do this; there are plenty of them doing very well financially abroad, single to the core but to go back to Nigeria to marry one struggling young man and help his destiny and also help her own, they will rather die single and lonely abroad and waste that western citizenship and opportunities God gave to them which they ought to use to help other people's lives too, black women are too stingy honestly, I am sorry to say this

Except for a real christian,can Nigeria man also be trusted, that he will keep to that woman alone, that he won't look for another woman or be cheating on the woman when his status change.

Pootle:
so rich women of that size that are nigerian who urna leave them for

Lol no try am ooo...you go suck t🍑 taya whether you ready or not , she go use ya preeq like toy whether you are feeling it or not, you go come understand the other side of woman 😆 and on top that na big juju she go take dey manipulate and frustrate ya life and if you no just strong at all, e done finish. Naija woman of that age, size and money? They're not here to play with you

Proserpina:
Sorry , who are you?

🤣 its gud you feign not to remember. Bawo ni life é

Pootle:
he will never agree to marry a nigeria woman of that size

Even if na you, Sizeable problem or Sizeable investment which one you choose

Vision101:
I attended a young man's wedding last Saturday. In my church sometimes we wed three in one Saturday. Keep lamenting.

It's not about "wedding" it's about the life after the ceremony. You think life na Zeb Ejiro productions? Keep playing

Pootle:
he will never agree to marry a nigeria woman of that size

How do you know his sexual preferences

U be him best friend??

Are we not even r@cists?

Give this same guy an African lady of this beauty, he will reject her and even curxe you on top.

MarketDispatch:
Peter OBi

😆 🤣 😂 funny guy.

Proserpina:
Even in your response to Steven, you don't like taking from women. There must be reasons for that.

Lol, me self dey formative stage, make somebody son build me My head no reject building fa.

There is something about receiving from women that kills the man's instinct to survive. I read your previous message, it's tricky to have one blanket rule for all situations but I kind of agree with what you said about helping a man. Help him but allow him to help himself too. This thing you say, you don't know how much mothers have spoiled their boys and they grow up entitled rather than being men. Some men will face challenges and they need that help but once you do his job, he will just take a backseat. The provider instinct in him is what I call the hunting spirit. That same man whose wife is giving him money will now go and find another girl to help. That will piss the woman off but it's the animal in him that is acting. His relevance is in providing and I have heard modern women say don't let's reduce a man to provider and I smh because that's utopia. While we should be more empathetic and reasonable, many of us forget our biological state and forget that people have lived before us for hundreds of years. I learned recently that even women who transgender into men stop crying due to the testerone while the men who change to women know how to cry, something they never used to do before. We must understand biology, nature and reality. A man is a man of his convictions, circumstances may challenge him but a true man is who he is.

They'd resent you because every error will be tied to the fact that you are paying the bills. Before you know it, they will start saying you are emasculating them abi what's the word. I can support financially but I can't build him from scratch. It takes a lot of energy, strength and patient dealing with a Nigerian man that can't provide. You'd forever walk on egg shells around him and it's not healthy. That's the point.

Funnily enough, a woman footing the bills will show the man shege. Emotional abuse from women is not always loud, it's subtle.

cuteboy2:
Many single Nigerian women full USA 🇺🇸, Canada 🇨🇦, and practically every country in Europe.

Most are successful in their careers, but extremely lonely and single. The main reason is, they claim they can't marry "below thier status". Out of extreme selfishness, they feel marrying a Nigerian back in Nigeria and filing for citizenship for him is giving out something precious that should only be reserved for her family members.

Even to marry a struggling Nigerian man or someone without papers who is already inside the country and to file for him, they find it impossible to do.

So the well to do Nigerian men, including married men, keep passing them around until they hit 50 yrs, then they develop full hatred for African men for the rest of thier lives.

It is really sad the kind of mindset and selfish mentality African women have😔. They will follow this path even if they lose at the end. As long as the man doesn't gain anything they are fine with it.

Good for them, na loneliness go kill them

I wish the guy all the best

Ashawoman82:
shutup, this ur gaslighting can no longer work.. What differentiate Nigerian men from other men in the world, keep deceiving yourself.. Lol.

Take several steps back, you came late to the party.

If the Lady was Nigerian, he wont marry her because of her Tatoos. She will be labelled Olosho.
Nigerians and hypocrisy

kiddaz:
It's not about "wedding" it's about the life after the ceremony. You think life na Zeb Ejiro productions? Keep playing

Keep giving excuses and lamenting. It's the usual thing with some people. Roll up your sleeves and face life. That's the mark of champions.

Alternative suggestion: keep lamenting until there is free gold to pick on the streets which will never be.

Vision101:
Keep giving excuses and lamenting. It's the usual thing with some people. Roll up your sleeves and face life. That's the mark of champions.

Alternative suggestion: keep lamenting until there is free gold to pick on the streets which will never be.

Excuses? You must be on some slow juice.. So married life is all about finances I only want you to know it's never about having so much wedding ceremonies in your church but rather how many still stay married after all is said and done. But you had to show yourself rowzU!

workchopNG:
Dey play

It is called strategic marriage for influence, resources, status, and power. Are you more of a man than Charles Spencer-Churchill, 9th Duke of Marlborough, who married Consuelo Vanderbilt in 1895 for her immense fortune?

Or Alexandra the great? Akbar the great? Napoleon Bonaparte and many other noble strong men?

It's only baby men with lots of emotions that a woman can control because she has money, marriage was frequently a strategic tool used to merge battlefield prowess with economic power. Strong men get married to wealthy heiresses or women of high status to secure land, fortune, or political legitimacy.

Dey play bro

Have you thought of being prayed for ?

Username2780:
Have you thought of being prayed for ?

No, I'm sure you must have been prayed for but the issue still persists... Wish you all the recovery you need mahn

Pinnup:
Prayer point of so many people

God forbid. No matter how poor I am I will not settle for this.. I can't manage.. I will just die 🤣🤣🤣