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Something happened in my house this evening that’s been bothering me, and I’d like your honest advice.

My wife went out for a girls hangout. When she came back, she didn’t notice I was in the parking lot watching.

She called the gateman over, brought out her leg, and told him to remove her shoe. He took off the first canvas shoe, then the second. She didn’t notice I was there.

After he removed the shoes, she told him to take them to the cobbler for repair.

I just watched and didn’t say anything at the time. It looked to me like she was overusing the gateman, and it didn’t sit right with me.

Later, I called her aside and told her what she did was wrong but she said she didn’t know it was wrong and didn’t see the issue. I asked her what she meant by “it’s not wrong,” and she just repeated that she didn’t know.

Now I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, overstepping, or making too much of it.

Nairalanders, please tell me honestly — is this wrong, or am I out of line here?

Thank you.

menaxe:
Something happened in my house this evening that’s been bothering me, and I’d like your honest advice.
My wife went out for a girls hangout. When she came back, she didn’t notice I was in the parking lot watching. She called the gateman over, brought out her leg, and told him to remove her shoe. He took off the first canvas shoe, then the second. She didn’t notice I was there. After he removed the shoes, she told him to take them to the cobbler for repair. I just watched and didn’t say anything at the time. It looked to me like she was overusing the gateman, and it didn’t sit right with me. Later, I called her aside and told her what she did was wrong but she said she didn’t know it was wrong and didn’t see the issue. I asked her what she meant by “it’s not wrong,” and she just repeated that she didn’t know.
Now I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, overstepping, or making too much of it. Nairalanders, please tell me honestly — is this wrong, or am I out of line here? Thank you.

I hope you do not already have any house help? If yes, please send the innocent soul back to his mother and father make we don't have to read a horror story next. 😒😒

Women, very lazy gender.
You mean she can not remove her own shoes..
Be careful before she starts asking the gateman to remove her bra and undies

Hehe.... It's hard to really say something about that singular action. But some questions to understand:

1. Is she very bossy?
2. Does she treat the domestic staff rudely

Because, it's very weird other than to try to demean/belittle people would anyone ask a staff to take of their shoes...

Also, that she didn't see anything wrong with it, could mean that she's either:
A. Too carefree
B. Subject to questions 1 and 2 above

menaxe:
Something happened in my house this evening that’s been bothering me, and I’d like your honest advice.

My wife went out for a girls hangout. When she came back, she didn’t notice I was in the parking lot watching.

She called the gateman over, brought out her leg, and told him to remove her shoe. He took off the first canvas shoe, then the second. She didn’t notice I was there.

After he removed the shoes, she told him to take them to the cobbler for repair.

I just watched and didn’t say anything at the time. It looked to me like she was overusing the gateman, and it didn’t sit right with me.

Later, I called her aside and told her what she did was wrong but she said she didn’t know it was wrong and didn’t see the issue. I asked her what she meant by “it’s not wrong,” and she just repeated that she didn’t know.

Now I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, overstepping, or making too much of it.

Nairalanders, please tell me honestly — is this wrong, or am I out of line here?

Thank you.

Don't tell her directly, get a video or skit that address the issue and tell her to watch it, then ask her what she learned from it. Then you can talk to her, but if you want to get the best result speak good of her in areas you know she is doing well and how you want her to add that to the list.

Bro,you aren't overacting at all.

Now imagine what that gatekeeper of your's must be going through in the hands of your wife when you aren't around

Please sit her down,and talk to her. This isn't good .

Women cha.

Nah dis your Ugandan tale I go use take sleep dis night.🥱🥱

LIVINGICONREBOR:
Nah dis your Ugandan tale I go use take sleep dis night.🥱🥱

Not a tale bro.

That’s how she will treat you if you are broke, she’s a horrible woman

Different upbringings. Welcome to marriage.

menaxe:
Something happened in my house this evening that’s been bothering me, and I’d like your honest advice.

My wife went out for a girls hangout. When she came back, she didn’t notice I was in the parking lot watching.

She called the gateman over, brought out her leg, and told him to remove her shoe. He took off the first canvas shoe, then the second. She didn’t notice I was there.

After he removed the shoes, she told him to take them to the cobbler for repair.

I just watched and didn’t say anything at the time. It looked to me like she was overusing the gateman, and it didn’t sit right with me.

Later, I called her aside and told her what she did was wrong but she said she didn’t know it was wrong and didn’t see the issue. I asked her what she meant by “it’s not wrong,” and she just repeated that she didn’t know.

Now I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, overstepping, or making too much of it.

Nairalanders, please tell me honestly — is this wrong, or am I out of line here?

Thank you.

You are not overreacting sir. What she did was wrong and she cannot pretend not to know about it.

SixSeven:
You are not overreacting sir. What she did was wrong and she cannot pretend not to know about it.

Thank you

What's wrong with you? Please stop that already.

insidelife22:
Women, very lazy gender.
You mean she can not remove her own shoes..
Be careful before she starts asking the gateman to remove her bra and undies

Get her a house help and she will forget about the gate man

ayoncox:
Don't tell her directly, get a video or skit that address the issue and tell her to watch it, then ask her what she learned from it. Then you can talk to her, but if you want to get the best result speak good of her in areas you know she is doing well and how you want her to add that to the list.

As a primary school kid or what...?


Op don't overflog or make a fuss out of the issue. You already made your point by talking to her about it!

That's very low and demeaning to the gateman.
In truth, she may not know it's wrong,some people are like that, just let her know that what she did is an abuse of her privilege as an employer
Did she think if the gateman have a choice,he will chose to be a gateman?No, everybody wants to be in position of authority.She finds herself in that position today,she should tread carefully.

brain54:
As a primary school kid or what...?


Op don't overflog or make a fuss out of the issue. You already made your point by talking to her about it!

You see most of those ladies including our mama they aren't different from kids oh, their rate of processing information for most of them is weak so if you want to achieve peace and ensure she changes it requires taking subtle approach but if what you want is chaos and wahala you can as well go and slap her or beat her, I think that is what you are suggesting right?

Divorce her ASAP, because she'll sleep with the gateman one day

insidelife22:
Women, very lazy gender.
You mean she can not remove her own shoes..
Be careful before she starts asking the gateman to remove her bra and undies

😀😃😄😁😆😆😆😆😆😆😚😚🤣😭ol can't stop laughing

menaxe:
Something happened in my house this evening that’s been bothering me, and I’d like your honest advice.

My wife went out for a girls hangout. When she came back, she didn’t notice I was in the parking lot watching.

She called the gateman over, brought out her leg, and told him to remove her shoe. He took off the first canvas shoe, then the second. She didn’t notice I was there.

After he removed the shoes, she told him to take them to the cobbler for repair.

I just watched and didn’t say anything at the time. It looked to me like she was overusing the gateman, and it didn’t sit right with me.

Later, I called her aside and told her what she did was wrong but she said she didn’t know it was wrong and didn’t see the issue. I asked her what she meant by “it’s not wrong,” and she just repeated that she didn’t know.

Now I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, overstepping, or making too much of it.

Nairalanders, please tell me honestly — is this wrong, or am I out of line here?

Thank you.

She's a little power drunk.

Sometimes, when you don't have any power growing up and you suddenly come into power, it goes to your head a bit.

Wealthy people from nice backgrounds are actually nice to their staff. In Festac, they say "people wey sleep for night bus wake up in Lagos, na dem dey misbehave".

Treating your staff with decency is a must. You don't have to like them, but treat them with decency.

Nobody should be taking her shoes off when she's not King Charles of England or a Korean Chaebol from a Kdrama.

Is the gate man's name Chike?

Why did you reveal yourself so fast,maybe after the removal of shoes,next would have be bra and pantu

Oga don go marry wifi

BigYash:
Is the gate man's name Chike?

Why did you reveal yourself so fast,maybe after the removal of shoes,next would have be bra and pantu

Oga don go marry wifi

No, lol

Of course it's wrong. She treated the man like a slave. Definitely don't get a househelp. If she can treat a gateman like that and says there's nothing wrong with her behaviour, I can't imagine how she will treat a househelp inside the house. Good people don't treat others like they're beneath them.

Very very very very wrong !

menaxe:
Something happened in my house this evening that’s been bothering me, and I’d like your honest advice.

My wife went out for a girls hangout. When she came back, she didn’t notice I was in the parking lot watching.

She called the gateman over, brought out her leg, and told him to remove her shoe. He took off the first canvas shoe, then the second. She didn’t notice I was there.

After he removed the shoes, she told him to take them to the cobbler for repair.

I just watched and didn’t say anything at the time. It looked to me like she was overusing the gateman, and it didn’t sit right with me.

Later, I called her aside and told her what she did was wrong but she said she didn’t know it was wrong and didn’t see the issue. I asked her what she meant by “it’s not wrong,” and she just repeated that she didn’t know.

Now I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, overstepping, or making too much of it.

Nairalanders, please tell me honestly — is this wrong, or am I out of line here?

Thank you.

Don't stress your wife, allow her to enjoy her husband's money. But don't let them get too close, or she'll start fantasising something nasty

It's your home, deal with it.
When you are sleeping with your wife, do you call nigeria to come help you?
Bro, wake up and take charge of your home

menaxe:
Something happened in my house this evening that’s been bothering me, and I’d like your honest advice.

My wife went out for a girls hangout. When she came back, she didn’t notice I was in the parking lot watching.

She called the gateman over, brought out her leg, and told him to remove her shoe. He took off the first canvas shoe, then the second. She didn’t notice I was there.

After he removed the shoes, she told him to take them to the cobbler for repair.

I just watched and didn’t say anything at the time. It looked to me like she was overusing the gateman, and it didn’t sit right with me.

Later, I called her aside and told her what she did was wrong but she said she didn’t know it was wrong and didn’t see the issue. I asked her what she meant by “it’s not wrong,” and she just repeated that she didn’t know.

Now I’m confused. I don’t know if I’m overreacting, overstepping, or making too much of it.

Nairalanders, please tell me honestly — is this wrong, or am I out of line here?

Thank you.

Your wife appears lazy. Can't she remove the shoes and hand them to him for repair

Either you married a lazy woman or she’s aspiring to recieve the gateman’s gadget..

Oga investigate well oo
Dat gateman fit dey chop your wifey

Gbam. This is the best comment on this issue here so far.

Muhammed ali said i dont trust a person who is nice to me but rude to the waiter cos if the roles were reversed, he would be treated the same.

All in all, just try to work on her. And boy, you have WORK to do.

Peace.

FortCavazosKnox:
That’s how she will treat you if you are broke, she’s a horrible woman

BigYash:
Is the gate man's name Chike?

Why did you reveal yourself so fast,maybe after the removal of shoes,next would have be bra and pantu

Oga don go marry wifi

Na so the thing Dey start bro. she’s either lazy or wants the gateman to decorate her inner interior..