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Age is generally your state of health and vitality.
You can be chronologically 36 and yet be younger biologically.

All Nigerian women are the same. Dont gurk it onto that this one girl is usually indoors. I bet she spends all that time masturbating anyways. If she doesnt align, sharperly find another target.

That bro that mentioned how she could be already strategizing on how to handle you na OG. Listen to him.

Be a good person but Dont be a nice guy.

Fix your waist, stabilize your finances and Consensually/mercilessly yansh those girls.

I am an advocate of semen retention as much as possibly and yet when its time to yansh, jade taan bii digbolugi.

All the best.

Kalulu44:
Good day ladies and gentlemen of the great NL house!
Before I go into the main gist. I want to first apologize to those who thinks I write stories too much and they're sometimes long and boring to them.
Let me introduce myself first. I'm a single father of 3 who lost his Benin wife to their Japa syndrome since 2010 and never seen or heard from till today.
By God's grace, after 20yrs of driving commercially to survive and train the kids, I formally retired last year. Not bcus the job wasn't lucrative, but bcus I was warned to stop after having some series of severe back pain, neck pain and leg pain.
Thankfully, before retiring I managed to win over a hired purchased bus that's fending for my 3 kids who are staying with my aunt who at 60+ doesn't have a husband nor a child.
Not wanting to stay idle, I currently work as a security personnel at a Guest House from 7pm to 11pm, while taking care of the owners house which is just beside it during the day. The owner is in US. So I practically stay in the big house all alone. Honestly there's no much work for me to do there other than weeding and cleaning the compound once every week. The rest of the day is just for eating, browsing and sleeping. Not wanting to be lonely and depressed is why I am almost online everyday, writing stories and gossips about my surroundings.
Like I always said, 90 to 95% of my stories are real life stories with the other percents like adding maggi, salt and spices to make it sweet or interesting.
I love writing, reading, driving, music, movies, sports especially football and watching documentary on history and biographies.
.
Now to the main gist. I lived and work in an area fully surrounded by hostels occupied by students and youths working in Chinese companies in Ogun state.
Electricity in the area is epileptic and comes once every week. Luckily for me, due to the guest house, I have 24/7 light from either solar or generator which makes water abundance for me.
But the students and workers are not that lucky. So majority of them always looks for where to charge their phone and also gets water.
When lights come, they normally pump water in their hostels, but it doesn't last more than two days.
Like two to three compounds normally used generator to pump water where they always go to. Sometimes the owners of those places allows them, sometimes they rejecting them.
Another only source of water in the street is a well at the extreme end of the street, it's stressful for some of them.
.
I started working where I am now January this year, but I always stay on my own and just observing the students and workers.
For me to make friends with some of them, I started getting water for some of them that usually greets me. If I see they have walked and walked looking for water and didn't see, I will just tell the person to drop his bucket and then go inside and get water from them.
But anytime I do this, they always thank me with sir sir.
One among them, who was learning hairdresser and selling men clothes online, approached me one day and begged for her to use my compound to make videos of her clothes.
I obliged her and ever since then which was February, we have been friends.
.
With time I began to like her, but her constant good morning sir, good evening sir just like the other girls used to greet me always discouraged me from telling her my mind about her.
After Easter my phone got spoilt and for close to 3 weeks I didn't have chance to go to Lagos and repair it.
And it was the time my feelings for her became strong.
I didn't know how to approach her, so I used the opportunity of her giving me her phone to charge for her to write down my feelings for her on a sheet of paper and attached it at the back of her phone.
.
When it was time to collect it, I told her there's a note I attached in her phone that she should read it. She collected it, thank me and bade me goodnight sir while bowing down a little as a Yoruba girl she's.
Hoping to get answer the next day, even though I was apprehensive on how she will take or react about it.
My people, this is 3 weeks now since I wrote that letter and she hasn't said anything or confronted me on why I wrote such notes.
But we have been greeting and talking to each other since the next day after the note till date, and both of us pretending such never happened.
I said to myself once I repair my phone, I will send her a msg asking what she thought about my note and why hasn't she replied.
I got my done last week, and I still don't have the courage to ask her both in person or thru msg.
.
But there's a reason why I haven't.
In between those times my phone was still spoilt and the note sent to her. There was an electrician who came to do some repairs in my compound sent by my boss.
It was same time she too came to do videos of her clothes in my compound. The electrician told me he like her that I should run her for him. I told him I can't that he should go himself.
So he used the guise of wanting to buy her clothes and approached her.
I sha know they exchanged numbers.
This was 2 weeks ago, so last week when the electrician came to finish his work, he ask me of her. I told him I thought you collected his number the other day. He said he did, and that he has bought clothes of 30k from her.
But that when he tries to pushed further about dating her, she told him she has a guy.
.
Hmmmm.... I heave to myself and asked him his next line of action. He said he'll pushed further. I just mutter the words ok o.
So since that last week, hearing she has a serious guy, (even though she hasn't brought any guy home or any man came looking for her unlike some of the other girls)
It just makes my resolve of asking her what she thinks about my note weak.
But we do see and talk everyday, but her constant "es'e sir, ekaro sir" always puts me off. I don't know if she's deliberately doing that so I will know she respects me as an elderly person. By the way she's 28 while I'm in my early 40s.
.
To the other girls, I am getting closer to some of them. But they too wants to kill me with sir sir sir, and thereby knocking me off of asking any of them out. All these is bcus one of my child a girl who's 17 came to visit me one day.
But the truth is I am seriously lonely, bored and depressed at times. If not for NAIRALAND and Sportsnews and YouTube, only God knows what I would have done to myself. I really need one of them as an acquaintance and if it can lead to a serious relationship, I am ready for it.
Just that I don't know how to go about it with the over respect they're according me.
.
So I am asking for womanology experts who knows how to go about this to give me some tips. The pictures attached to this post are mine, am I too old in the true sense of it or what. Cus physically I look young and agile to most of the guys I see some of them hang around with and I am not mincing words here. I will welcome any thoughts from you all, both insults and good advice.
After all I made the post to get engagement and discussion to kill off boredom.
Thanks and good day to you all once again.

If you're not Bouyant, he go hard for you to knack any of the students


And you shouldn't be writing notes to any of the students. She fit don show her friends

But in all, the Koko is for you to have money, if you have money, you go knack dem tire

Sir, so you had to bring this matter to nairaland.

Something you could have just opened your mouth to tell me you want us to be an item.

And to think the following day after receiving your note, i was in your house purposely to see if you will have the boldness to ask me face to face. But you didn't do so. Till date.
Or do you expect me to be the one to ask you out.

Sir, wake up now.
Shoot your shot jare.
I am here waiting for you.

BTW, the other guy, I mean the electrician guy, boda Yemi, he is not my type at all, that was why I lied to him that I have a serious relationship.

But you, you are my type.
I like you.
Infact I love you.
But i can't ask you out now.

So you better speak now before it is too late.

For you to be sure I am serious, check outside, you will see me.
Please take advantage and shoot your shot.
I am waiting.

fyneboi79:
For someone who trades or hopes to trade on here,you lack the luxury of expression of opinion as you may be going against your own self indirectly. Ever wondered why the real billionaires in Nigeria never discuss political opinions?

No sense made here

u nor sabi work be dat!

Kalulu44:
Good day ladies and gentlemen of the great NL house!
Before I go into the main gist. I want to first apologize to those who thinks I write stories too much and they're sometimes long and boring to them.
Let me introduce myself first. I'm a single father of 3 who lost his Benin wife to their Japa syndrome since 2010 and never seen or heard from till today.
By God's grace, after 20yrs of driving commercially to survive and train the kids, I formally retired last year. Not bcus the job wasn't lucrative, but bcus I was warned to stop after having some series of severe back pain, neck pain and leg pain.
Thankfully, before retiring I managed to win over a hired purchased bus that's fending for my 3 kids who are staying with my aunt who at 60+ doesn't have a husband nor a child.
Not wanting to stay idle, I currently work as a security personnel at a Guest House from 7pm to 11pm, while taking care of the owners house which is just beside it during the day. The owner is in US. So I practically stay in the big house all alone. Honestly there's no much work for me to do there other than weeding and cleaning the compound once every week. The rest of the day is just for eating, browsing and sleeping. Not wanting to be lonely and depressed is why I am almost online everyday, writing stories and gossips about my surroundings.
Like I always said, 90 to 95% of my stories are real life stories with the other percents like adding maggi, salt and spices to make it sweet or interesting.
I love writing, reading, driving, music, movies, sports especially football and watching documentary on history and biographies.
.
Now to the main gist. I lived and work in an area fully surrounded by hostels occupied by students and youths working in Chinese companies in Ogun state.
Electricity in the area is epileptic and comes once every week. Luckily for me, due to the guest house, I have 24/7 light from either solar or generator which makes water abundance for me.
But the students and workers are not that lucky. So majority of them always looks for where to charge their phone and also gets water.
When lights come, they normally pump water in their hostels, but it doesn't last more than two days.
Like two to three compounds normally used generator to pump water where they always go to. Sometimes the owners of those places allows them, sometimes they rejecting them.
Another only source of water in the street is a well at the extreme end of the street, it's stressful for some of them.
.
I started working where I am now January this year, but I always stay on my own and just observing the students and workers.
For me to make friends with some of them, I started getting water for some of them that usually greets me. If I see they have walked and walked looking for water and didn't see, I will just tell the person to drop his bucket and then go inside and get water from them.
But anytime I do this, they always thank me with sir sir.
One among them, who was learning hairdresser and selling men clothes online, approached me one day and begged for her to use my compound to make videos of her clothes.
I obliged her and ever since then which was February, we have been friends.
.
With time I began to like her, but her constant good morning sir, good evening sir just like the other girls used to greet me always discouraged me from telling her my mind about her.
After Easter my phone got spoilt and for close to 3 weeks I didn't have chance to go to Lagos and repair it.
And it was the time my feelings for her became strong.
I didn't know how to approach her, so I used the opportunity of her giving me her phone to charge for her to write down my feelings for her on a sheet of paper and attached it at the back of her phone.
.
When it was time to collect it, I told her there's a note I attached in her phone that she should read it. She collected it, thank me and bade me goodnight sir while bowing down a little as a Yoruba girl she's.
Hoping to get answer the next day, even though I was apprehensive on how she will take or react about it.
My people, this is 3 weeks now since I wrote that letter and she hasn't said anything or confronted me on why I wrote such notes.
But we have been greeting and talking to each other since the next day after the note till date, and both of us pretending such never happened.
I said to myself once I repair my phone, I will send her a msg asking what she thought about my note and why hasn't she replied.
I got my done last week, and I still don't have the courage to ask her both in person or thru msg.
.
But there's a reason why I haven't.
In between those times my phone was still spoilt and the note sent to her. There was an electrician who came to do some repairs in my compound sent by my boss.
It was same time she too came to do videos of her clothes in my compound. The electrician told me he like her that I should run her for him. I told him I can't that he should go himself.
So he used the guise of wanting to buy her clothes and approached her.
I sha know they exchanged numbers.
This was 2 weeks ago, so last week when the electrician came to finish his work, he ask me of her. I told him I thought you collected his number the other day. He said he did, and that he has bought clothes of 30k from her.
But that when he tries to pushed further about dating her, she told him she has a guy.
.
Hmmmm.... I heave to myself and asked him his next line of action. He said he'll pushed further. I just mutter the words ok o.
So since that last week, hearing she has a serious guy, (even though she hasn't brought any guy home or any man came looking for her unlike some of the other girls)
It just makes my resolve of asking her what she thinks about my note weak.
But we do see and talk everyday, but her constant "es'e sir, ekaro sir" always puts me off. I don't know if she's deliberately doing that so I will know she respects me as an elderly person. By the way she's 28 while I'm in my early 40s.
.
To the other girls, I am getting closer to some of them. But they too wants to kill me with sir sir sir, and thereby knocking me off of asking any of them out. All these is bcus one of my child a girl who's 17 came to visit me one day.
But the truth is I am seriously lonely, bored and depressed at times. If not for NAIRALAND and Sportsnews and YouTube, only God knows what I would have done to myself. I really need one of them as an acquaintance and if it can lead to a serious relationship, I am ready for it.
Just that I don't know how to go about it with the over respect they're according me.
.
So I am asking for womanology experts who knows how to go about this to give me some tips. The pictures attached to this post are mine, am I too old in the true sense of it or what. Cus physically I look young and agile to most of the guys I see some of them hang around with and I am not mincing words here. I will welcome any thoughts from you all, both insults and good advice.
After all I made the post to get engagement and discussion to kill off boredom.
Thanks and good day to you all once again.

Hmn
So that young face has children up to 18, 20 years old?

Kalulu44:
Lolz! eepeepook, I was expecting such from your type that's why I apologise from the beginning. But I'm not sure you have read this before commenting, cus I just drop it now now and here comes your comment.
Well it's what it's, yours and others comments keeps me engaged and kills my loneliness

Bro look into her eyes n tell her "I love u or I like u"
Then after that, if small change dey, make una drink n eat fish........dazzzoll

Nor be Yoruba girls? They are loyal and respectful

Women should come to this thread and see how men prioritise themselves. A single father or 3 oo, 4th hand. I hope the girl gives herself sense.

If your daughter was the girl or the girls in question, will you agree?

U dont know how to toast a girl? So how did u marry ur runaway wife? Or maybe ure just rusty from being out of the dating game for 20 years taking care of ur kids. Roll up ur sleves and dive back in sir.

First time reading your work lol. good write up. ro early 40s unmarried can be like that. i clock 41 today and my wife clocked 21 last week. great woman. keep pushing and dont let the sir sir sir fool you. some of them actuall want a matured man.

Kalulu44:
I just think she's not interested.
But I am ready to hit the bull and damn the consequences. I will send her WhatsApp msg asking why she hasn't responded to my letter. If that will stop our friendship, so be it.

Is this real or fiction?
You mean u are afraid to ask her physically, someone u see everyday, but will rather send her a message through Whatsapp at your age?? What sort of a man are u?

Parachoko:
If you're not Bouyant, he go hard for you to knack any of the students


And you shouldn't be writing notes to any of the students. She fit don show her friends

But in all, the Koko is for you to have money, if you have money, you go knack dem tire

Hmmm... You're right in a way. But they're some basic amenities they lack that I can offer them. Like for example, it was two weeks ago I learnt the majority of them coming to my compound to fetch water and charge phone are staying 4 person per one room in the house a Chinese company rented for them.
Two I have toasted, I gave them the opportunity of coming to sleep over at my place with enough rooms, water, shower, clean toilets to use unlike the the one toilet and bathroom over 40 of them are sharing.
.
There's one that looks like she's responding somehow, since on Sunday which was 3days ago, I have given her food when she was hungry. Gave her place to bath and do whatever she wants. But she's still dragging her feet about my request.
And bcus of her and the other ones that have snub my request, I am thinking of stopping all of them from getting water from my place. To think I have been doing such with a big risk. My boss told me specifically that I shouldn't allow anyone into the compound for anything.

Bluearrow:
Is this real or fiction?
You mean u are afraid to ask her physically, but will rather send her a message through Whatsapp at your age?? What sort of a man are u?

Bro if you insult me anyhow you want, you are spot on. I won't even reply your insult.
But the truth is I grew up having girls at my beck and call. I have never toasted any girl in my life. My youthful, handsome and intelligent self always attract these girls to me.
And thru it I have my 3 wonderful kids. I thought it will continue like that until the genz generation. If no be money you no fit get genz girls o. I can talk to a girl face to face, but I have a phobia for someone rejecting my advances. So I like doing it in writing, if you like gree or not, e no concern me. So far you didn't tell me in my face

Cum4me:
I laughed at this you wonderful write up bro . But honestly you're in a very good position to have multiple women but you lack the courage to tell them. Strike without feeling remorse never tell them your real age. Just tell them you're above 30. Many want you there but you lack courage. Immediately you start knacking some of them to write all this episode go tire you

He need to have courage and not put himself on pressure. Everyone has their own challenges in life so their is always solution to everything. I might not be in his shoe but it's not every personal issue you bring online. The country is hard; people are just managing their Life so you should different reactions when u come online.

Delete yo pinsure. Kpele

Kalulu44:
Good day ladies and gentlemen of the great NL house!
Before I go into the main gist. I want to first apologize to those who thinks I write stories too much and they're sometimes long and boring to them.
Let me introduce myself first. I'm a single father of 3 who lost his Benin wife to their Japa syndrome since 2010 and never seen or heard from till today.
By God's grace, after 20yrs of driving commercially to survive and train the kids, I formally retired last year. Not bcus the job wasn't lucrative, but bcus I was warned to stop after having some series of severe back pain, neck pain and leg pain.
Thankfully, before retiring I managed to win over a hired purchased bus that's fending for my 3 kids who are staying with my aunt who at 60+ doesn't have a husband nor a child.
Not wanting to stay idle, I currently work as a security personnel at a Guest House from 7pm to 11pm, while taking care of the owners house which is just beside it during the day. The owner is in US. So I practically stay in the big house all alone. Honestly there's no much work for me to do there other than weeding and cleaning the compound once every week. The rest of the day is just for eating, browsing and sleeping. Not wanting to be lonely and depressed is why I am almost online everyday, writing stories and gossips about my surroundings.
Like I always said, 90 to 95% of my stories are real life stories with the other percents like adding maggi, salt and spices to make it sweet or interesting.
I love writing, reading, driving, music, movies, sports especially football and watching documentary on history and biographies.
.
Now to the main gist. I lived and work in an area fully surrounded by hostels occupied by students and youths working in Chinese companies in Ogun state.
Electricity in the area is epileptic and comes once every week. Luckily for me, due to the guest house, I have 24/7 light from either solar or generator which makes water abundance for me.
But the students and workers are not that lucky. So majority of them always looks for where to charge their phone and also gets water.
When lights come, they normally pump water in their hostels, but it doesn't last more than two days.
Like two to three compounds normally used generator to pump water where they always go to. Sometimes the owners of those places allows them, sometimes they rejecting them.
Another only source of water in the street is a well at the extreme end of the street, it's stressful for some of them.
.
I started working where I am now January this year, but I always stay on my own and just observing the students and workers.
For me to make friends with some of them, I started getting water for some of them that usually greets me. If I see they have walked and walked looking for water and didn't see, I will just tell the person to drop his bucket and then go inside and get water from them.
But anytime I do this, they always thank me with sir sir.
One among them, who was learning hairdresser and selling men clothes online, approached me one day and begged for her to use my compound to make videos of her clothes.
I obliged her and ever since then which was February, we have been friends.
.
With time I began to like her, but her constant good morning sir, good evening sir just like the other girls used to greet me always discouraged me from telling her my mind about her.
After Easter my phone got spoilt and for close to 3 weeks I didn't have chance to go to Lagos and repair it.
And it was the time my feelings for her became strong.
I didn't know how to approach her, so I used the opportunity of her giving me her phone to charge for her to write down my feelings for her on a sheet of paper and attached it at the back of her phone.
.
When it was time to collect it, I told her there's a note I attached in her phone that she should read it. She collected it, thank me and bade me goodnight sir while bowing down a little as a Yoruba girl she's.
Hoping to get answer the next day, even though I was apprehensive on how she will take or react about it.
My people, this is 3 weeks now since I wrote that letter and she hasn't said anything or confronted me on why I wrote such notes.
But we have been greeting and talking to each other since the next day after the note till date, and both of us pretending such never happened.
I said to myself once I repair my phone, I will send her a msg asking what she thought about my note and why hasn't she replied.
I got my done last week, and I still don't have the courage to ask her both in person or thru msg.
.
But there's a reason why I haven't.
In between those times my phone was still spoilt and the note sent to her. There was an electrician who came to do some repairs in my compound sent by my boss.
It was same time she too came to do videos of her clothes in my compound. The electrician told me he like her that I should run her for him. I told him I can't that he should go himself.
So he used the guise of wanting to buy her clothes and approached her.
I sha know they exchanged numbers.
This was 2 weeks ago, so last week when the electrician came to finish his work, he ask me of her. I told him I thought you collected his number the other day. He said he did, and that he has bought clothes of 30k from her.
But that when he tries to pushed further about dating her, she told him she has a guy.
.
Hmmmm.... I heave to myself and asked him his next line of action. He said he'll pushed further. I just mutter the words ok o.
So since that last week, hearing she has a serious guy, (even though she hasn't brought any guy home or any man came looking for her unlike some of the other girls)
It just makes my resolve of asking her what she thinks about my note weak.
But we do see and talk everyday, but her constant "es'e sir, ekaro sir" always puts me off. I don't know if she's deliberately doing that so I will know she respects me as an elderly person. By the way she's 28 while I'm in my early 40s.
.
To the other girls, I am getting closer to some of them. But they too wants to kill me with sir sir sir, and thereby knocking me off of asking any of them out. All these is bcus one of my child a girl who's 17 came to visit me one day.
But the truth is I am seriously lonely, bored and depressed at times. If not for NAIRALAND and Sportsnews and YouTube, only God knows what I would have done to myself. I really need one of them as an acquaintance and if it can lead to a serious relationship, I am ready for it.
Just that I don't know how to go about it with the over respect they're according me.
.
So I am asking for womanology experts who knows how to go about this to give me some tips. The pictures attached to this post are mine, am I too old in the true sense of it or what. Cus physically I look young and agile to most of the guys I see some of them hang around with and I am not mincing words here. I will welcome any thoughts from you all, both insults and good advice.
After all I made the post to get engagement and discussion to kill off boredom.
Thanks and good day to you all once again.

Wadoboy:
Bro look into her eyes n tell her "I love u or I like u"
Then after that, if small change dey, make una drink n eat fish........dazzzoll

Nor be Yoruba girls? They are loyal and respectful

Hahahaha, that girl na witch or should I say smart. Like I said, I have known she has boyfriend which I haven't seen though.
But since I wrote that note to her, she has increase the respect for me. Ordinary to charge her phone, when she collect it, the way she bow down or bend down and say "es'e sir, modupe sir" hahaha. The thing don tire me I swear. But don't worry, today today I will man up and send her a WhatsApp msg on why she hasn't said anything about the note I sent her. I will give you feedback on what she says

sacajawea:
Hmn
So that young face has children up to 18, 20 years old?

Omoh, sometimes I disbelief it myself bro.

Kalulu my Man United brother I dey feel u

Kalulu44:
Bro if you insult me anyhow you want, you are spot on. I won't even reply your insult.
But the truth is I grew up having girls at my beck and call. I have never toasted any girl in my life. My youthful, handsome and intelligent self always attract these girls to me.
And thru it I have my 3 wonderful kids. I thought it will continue like that until the genz generation. If no be money you no fit get genz girls o. I can talk to a girl face to face, but I have a phobia for someone rejecting my advances. So I like doing it in writing, if you like gree or not, e no concern me. So far you didn't tell me in my face

You misconstrued my comment, it is not an insult. There are certain things we should naturally outgrow with age, at 46 u shouldn't be afraid to ask a girl out, these are things teenage boys should experience, not an adult. I will still suggest when next u see her, tell her u will like to have a word with her, ask her about the letter u sent. It's a better approach than sending message on Whatsapp.

AMI3:
We
U want show us that u are handsome.
If the story is true then u have inferiority complex
If the story is true how did u woo your Benin girl?
What makes u feel that those girls are not in love with u? Or are u waiting for them to fight because of u?

To test your love. Stop rendering those services to them and see their reaction.

Or behave like Mumu close your eyes and call by her name and tell her Titi I love you
And see her reaction

Or tell her to make dinner or lunch when next she comes.

Or asked her what type of movies does she likes then u guys can watch it together.

Ask her questions about her family after all u guys are friends.
Ask her about her future.

Or asked her about Facebook handle and approached her from there.
If u are too shy to talk to her physically.


But u the mugu. If your boss come catch u unexpectedly what excuse will u give

Lolz! My Gee, I am not trying to show anyone I am handsome or not. I just want people's opinions if I am truly that old that they call me sir sir or is it the mistake that my daughter came to visit me.
Now to the main girl I first asked out, she's an indoor person. Infact she has increase her indoor staying ever since I wrote that note to her.
.
Truth be told I have moved passed her and going for the other ones. My annoyance is that the other girls are forming hard to get even though I am offering them what they're not getting in their present abode.
Ok, 3 weeks ago I got to know the hostel directly in front of my compound is rented by a Chinese company that puts all their workers there. It's a 10 room face me I face you house with over 40 workers both boys and girls staying there. The bizarre thing is that they're staying 4 or 5 in one room with no privacy.
.
And I told the ones I spoke to that I can offer them where to always lay their heads with clean bathroom, toilets, water and 24/7 light to go with, unlike where they're staying and sharing one bathroom and toilet.
.
Lastly, you talked about me having inferiority complex. That's not true, none of them are richer or have money than I. But the truth is I am not genZ like them and I hate anything No to my request. I grew up having girls at my beck and call, I don't toast girls but they toast me. But the genZ are proving difficult

Kalulu44:
Omoh, sometimes I disbelief it myself bro.

Your First child is how old?

Yugoslavia247:
You have passed the age of loving girl or making a girl love you without money.


Even if it is food buy for her each time she comes.

Give her money.

Or simply look for a young guy around who is open to mature talks. He will get a girl for you.

But you need to show that you can Atleast spend.


Stop giving them water freely.
Stop letting her come and do video again
Girls are smart
Let her know the reason is because she is not useful to you.

You must be ready to play games with her.
Ask her to cook for you.
Show gestures
You just need her as a companion.
Dress smartly around the area.
Let people see you and assume you own the house Atleast once a while.

Lolz! Dressing smartly, I have done. Infact bcus of them I started wearing most of these genZ clothes that people term "Yahoo guys clothes".
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Now it's not about her again cus I have forgotten about her even though we are still on talking terms.
It's the other girls at the compound closed to her I am trying to run one of them, I have tried 3 of them separately. It's the last one that's somehow responsive, but she's still dragging her feet. On Sunday which was 3days ago I cooked and gave her food when she was really hungry. On Monday when she said she was ill or maybe pretending to be. I gave her some money to get food then take drugs.
She promised to come to my side that Monday night but fail.
Ystday I boned her, and she came to me and was saying she knows I am angry.
I told her I am not angry o, she went out again and didn't come as she promised.
So bcus of her, I am thinking of blocking every one of them from assessing water or charging phone in my compound.
My boss didn't even want it, even though I was taking a risk doing it.
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I told some of the girls ystday that wanted water that I am not allowing them again that one of them has offended me. They wanted to know the person but I decline telling them.
I pityingly allow them ystday, but I have made my resolve that I won't allow anyone again including her.

Give the girl like #100,000 and let's see how the next move will be, until then

Kalulu44:
Mehn I have tried everything possible but to no avail. You won't believe I got to know the house opposite my place is rented by a Chinese company who puts their workers there.
It's a 10 room face me I face you, to my surprise they're staying 4 people per room.
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It's my place they all fetched water, I have tried using that to woo some of them. Even as far as offering them where to lay their heads with 24/7 light that we do have.
The street gets light once every week.
But right now, I am thinking of stopping all of them from fetching water in my compound.
It was even risk I was taking doing that, cus my boss who's in the States warned me against it

Allowing all of them at once wasnt ideal. Stopping it will make you look bad.

You should have picked the ones you liked and let then have the access..then tell them your mind. But remember that going after students who stay on the same area as you, will drain your pocket. Na you go dey feed that one...Infact, once she gets comfortable with you, na your place she go dey spend most of her days due to constant light, water, food and soft drinks..cos you need to stock up your fridge too.

Pls anything concerning settling with then should be erased from your mind. You should be doing it for fun and to ease off konji. Trust me, any girl that agrees to you is also there fornthe benefits, and she will bounce as soon as she is done with school.

The love letter you wrote is so old school and made you look weak. Best thing would have been to try and make her comfortable around you.. gist, laugh and fllirt sometimes. You can even playfully ask her to be your company sometimes. Her reactions will tell you whether to push further or abort mission. Atleast You have your pride intact cos you never professed any true intention.

Writting love letters or going all out sometimes will give her the edge and the room to reject you, and then brag about it to her friends. Cos most women do that.

Kalulu44:
Good day ladies and gentlemen of the great NL house!
Before I go into the main gist. I want to first apologize to those who thinks I write stories too much and they're sometimes long and boring to them.
Let me introduce myself first. I'm a single father of 3 who lost his Benin wife to their Japa syndrome since 2010 and never seen or heard from till today.
By God's grace, after 20yrs of driving commercially to survive and train the kids, I formally retired last year. Not bcus the job wasn't lucrative, but bcus I was warned to stop after having some series of severe back pain, neck pain and leg pain.
Thankfully, before retiring I managed to win over a hired purchased bus that's fending for my 3 kids who are staying with my aunt who at 60+ doesn't have a husband nor a child.
Not wanting to stay idle, I currently work as a security personnel at a Guest House from 7pm to 11pm, while taking care of the owners house which is just beside it during the day. The owner is in US. So I practically stay in the big house all alone. Honestly there's no much work for me to do there other than weeding and cleaning the compound once every week. The rest of the day is just for eating, browsing and sleeping. Not wanting to be lonely and depressed is why I am almost online everyday, writing stories and gossips about my surroundings.
Like I always said, 90 to 95% of my stories are real life stories with the other percents like adding maggi, salt and spices to make it sweet or interesting.
I love writing, reading, driving, music, movies, sports especially football and watching documentary on history and biographies.
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Now to the main gist. I lived and work in an area fully surrounded by hostels occupied by students and youths working in Chinese companies in Ogun state.
Electricity in the area is epileptic and comes once every week. Luckily for me, due to the guest house, I have 24/7 light from either solar or generator which makes water abundance for me.
But the students and workers are not that lucky. So majority of them always looks for where to charge their phone and also gets water.
When lights come, they normally pump water in their hostels, but it doesn't last more than two days.
Like two to three compounds normally used generator to pump water where they always go to. Sometimes the owners of those places allows them, sometimes they rejecting them.
Another only source of water in the street is a well at the extreme end of the street, it's stressful for some of them.
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I started working where I am now January this year, but I always stay on my own and just observing the students and workers.
For me to make friends with some of them, I started getting water for some of them that usually greets me. If I see they have walked and walked looking for water and didn't see, I will just tell the person to drop his bucket and then go inside and get water from them.
But anytime I do this, they always thank me with sir sir.
One among them, who was learning hairdresser and selling men clothes online, approached me one day and begged for her to use my compound to make videos of her clothes.
I obliged her and ever since then which was February, we have been friends.
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With time I began to like her, but her constant good morning sir, good evening sir just like the other girls used to greet me always discouraged me from telling her my mind about her.
After Easter my phone got spoilt and for close to 3 weeks I didn't have chance to go to Lagos and repair it.
And it was the time my feelings for her became strong.
I didn't know how to approach her, so I used the opportunity of her giving me her phone to charge for her to write down my feelings for her on a sheet of paper and attached it at the back of her phone.
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When it was time to collect it, I told her there's a note I attached in her phone that she should read it. She collected it, thank me and bade me goodnight sir while bowing down a little as a Yoruba girl she's.
Hoping to get answer the next day, even though I was apprehensive on how she will take or react about it.
My people, this is 3 weeks now since I wrote that letter and she hasn't said anything or confronted me on why I wrote such notes.
But we have been greeting and talking to each other since the next day after the note till date, and both of us pretending such never happened.
I said to myself once I repair my phone, I will send her a msg asking what she thought about my note and why hasn't she replied.
I got my done last week, and I still don't have the courage to ask her both in person or thru msg.
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But there's a reason why I haven't.
In between those times my phone was still spoilt and the note sent to her. There was an electrician who came to do some repairs in my compound sent by my boss.
It was same time she too came to do videos of her clothes in my compound. The electrician told me he like her that I should run her for him. I told him I can't that he should go himself.
So he used the guise of wanting to buy her clothes and approached her.
I sha know they exchanged numbers.
This was 2 weeks ago, so last week when the electrician came to finish his work, he ask me of her. I told him I thought you collected his number the other day. He said he did, and that he has bought clothes of 30k from her.
But that when he tries to pushed further about dating her, she told him she has a guy.
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Hmmmm.... I heave to myself and asked him his next line of action. He said he'll pushed further. I just mutter the words ok o.
So since that last week, hearing she has a serious guy, (even though she hasn't brought any guy home or any man came looking for her unlike some of the other girls)
It just makes my resolve of asking her what she thinks about my note weak.
But we do see and talk everyday, but her constant "es'e sir, ekaro sir" always puts me off. I don't know if she's deliberately doing that so I will know she respects me as an elderly person. By the way she's 28 while I'm in my early 40s.
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To the other girls, I am getting closer to some of them. But they too wants to kill me with sir sir sir, and thereby knocking me off of asking any of them out. All these is bcus one of my child a girl who's 17 came to visit me one day.
But the truth is I am seriously lonely, bored and depressed at times. If not for NAIRALAND and Sportsnews and YouTube, only God knows what I would have done to myself. I really need one of them as an acquaintance and if it can lead to a serious relationship, I am ready for it.
Just that I don't know how to go about it with the over respect they're according me.
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So I am asking for womanology experts who knows how to go about this to give me some tips. The pictures attached to this post are mine, am I too old in the true sense of it or what. Cus physically I look young and agile to most of the guys I see some of them hang around with and I am not mincing words here. I will welcome any thoughts from you all, both insults and good advice.
After all I made the post to get engagement and discussion to kill off boredom.
Thanks and good day to you all once again.

From your long epistle, it is obvious you talk too much.

Kalulu44:
Lolz! Dressing smartly, I have done. Infact bcus of them I started wearing most of these genZ clothes that people term "Yahoo guys clothes".
.
Now it's not about her again cus I have forgotten about her even though we are still on talking terms.
It's the other girls at the compound closed to her I am trying to run one of them, I have tried 3 of them separately. It's the last one that's somehow responsive, but she's still dragging her feet. On Sunday which was 3days ago I cooked and gave her food when she was really hungry. On Monday when she said she was ill or maybe pretending to be. I gave her some money to get food then take drugs.
She promised to come to my side that Monday night but fail.
Ystday I boned her, and she came to me and was saying she knows I am angry.
I told her I am not angry o, she went out again and didn't come as she promised.
So bcus of her, I am thinking of blocking every one of them from assessing water or charging phone in my compound.
My boss didn't even want it, even though I was taking a risk doing it.
.
I told some of the girls ystday that wanted water that I am not allowing them again that one of them has offended me. They wanted to know the person but I decline telling them.
I pityingly allow them ystday, but I have made my resolve that I won't allow anyone again including her.

Don’t tell her you are not angry
Even if you are not
Form anger.
They need your money and food
So just make sure.

amazonguru001:
Sir, so you had to bring this matter to nairaland.

Something you could have just opened your mouth to tell me you want us to be an item.

And to think the following day after receiving your note, i was in your house purposely to see if you will have the boldness to ask me face to face. But you didn't do so. Till date.
Or do you expect me to be the one to ask you out.

Sir, wake up now.
Shoot your shot jare.
I am here waiting for you.

BTW, the other guy, I mean the electrician guy, boda Yemi, he is not my type at all, that was why I lied to him that I have a serious relationship.

But you, you are my type.
I like you.
Infact I love you.
But i can't ask you out now.

So you better speak now before it is too late.

For you to be sure I am serious, check outside, you will see me.
Please take advantage and shoot your shot.
I am waiting.

Shey na cruise Kalulu44 use una the catch here. Posting with two accs

faithfull18:
Women should come to this thread and see how men prioritise themselves. A single father or 3 oo, 4th hand. I hope the girl gives herself sense.

If your daughter was the girl or the girls in question, will you agree?

The wife that dumped her kids and travel out, prioritized who?

It is men that needs to learn from women on how to put thenselves first

I have a lady for you..

She is 36years old and single...

Dm me if yoy are truly interest ...

She stays at Agbara Lagos...

Plus, SHe is very beautiful....

Kalulu44:
Lolz! My Gee, I am not trying to show anyone I am handsome or not. I just want people's opinions if I am truly that old that they call me sir sir or is it the mistake that my daughter came to visit me.
Now to the main girl I first asked out, she's an indoor person. Infact she has increase her indoor staying ever since I wrote that note to her.
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Truth be told I have moved passed her and going for the other ones. My annoyance is that the other girls are forming hard to get even though I am offering them what they're not getting in their present abode.
Ok, 3 weeks ago I got to know the hostel directly in front of my compound is rented by a Chinese company that puts all their workers there. It's a 10 room face me I face you house with over 40 workers both boys and girls staying there. The bizarre thing is that they're staying 4 or 5 in one room with no privacy.
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And I told the ones I spoke to that I can offer them where to always lay their heads with clean bathroom, toilets, water and 24/7 light to go with, unlike where they're staying and sharing one bathroom and toilet.
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Lastly, you talked about me having inferiority complex. That's not true, none of them are richer or have money than I. But the truth is I am not genZ like them and I hate anything No to my request. I grew up having girls at my beck and call, I don't toast girls but they toast me. But the genZ are proving difficult

Nice one
The fact is that if u make them to feel so important they will mess u up.

Just play along once u knack one of them all those "shakara' pamper them once but don't be so emotional ur aim is to get down with her once u succeed one the rest will be running after u.
Women hate competition and they are jealous type.
Or just make one of them your closet friend without attaching any emotional feelings to her

U can get what u want if u know how to play it

Start another business, get busy leave woman
Try older women 30plus