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Sonnobax15:

Stop wasting your time trying to woo her directly bro. Confront her pastor . If he agrees to you,then,it's finish . Girl wey dey attend every church activity from Monday to Saturday .

I know her type

Lol.
This is the quickest route but I won't take it. It means submitting my authority to the pastor.

I think the lady just wants to know where she is heading to. My only concern is that I can't be going to church everyday like her. If she doesn't agree to that fact, then I will log out of the relationship

Goo0dHardDick:
Oga, the OP should simply asked the lady if she's a virgin and watch her insult him.

Only a foolish man will answer such nonsense questions from a lady. Imagine a woman asking Elon musk those stupid questions. The thing is.. the non virgin girl don see the op finish, she wants to use the guy for retirement after enjoying her youth very well hence the reason she believes she's doing the op a favour by marrying him.

Pathetic! May I never have a friend, let alone a family member like this op

There is a reason why men exist

Lets talk privately, if you really want to.

Ask her if she's still a virgin.

Where is lalami?

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

She is a mad fellow.
You need to send her a list too.
All the best for you, don’t seek validation online. Do what works for you, we’re different people actually.
My pride will not give the time to answer to such questions and if I do I’ll ask similar questions and be blunt to her where she flops.
Do what works for you and don’t follow internet advice that would ruin your relationship

GorillaApp:
Lol.
This is the quickest route but I won't take it. It means submitting my authority to the pastor.

I think the lady just wants to know where she is heading to. My only concern is that I can't be going to church everyday like her. If she doesn't agree to that fact, then I will log out of the relationship

It’s that your problem? So you don’t want to ask her what plan she has for herself?
You don’t want to ask her what skill does she have?
You don’t want to know how close she is to her dad?
You don’t want to investigate the toxicity of her feminism?
Her body count?
How broad her knowledge is, ask her who is the deputy governor of her state. Ask her who is the vice president of Nigeria.
Ask her to name four planet in our solar system or don’t you want to raise intelligent kids ?

To the OP.Did you sit down to think it through very well and weigh thoroughly because it is one thing to have interest in someone and for that person to have interest in you. Already l am seeing something here that may not sit right rather may not sit well (Note :it is an observation).

The questions that she is asking should be asked when you meet face to face on a date or date(s). Even if the lady is heavily involved in church work she could squeeze out time to see, meet and know this person.

Na you get time dey answer question, woman dey use info from you for bad tin. Either gossip, or how to magarise

This one na retire os abeg run ooj

you have entered one chance

you have presented yourself like a mumu
and she will treat you like one

there are people in that church that have bleeped her
and there is someone that is still fucking her

that did not answer any of these questions


this is not how to get married to a wife
this is how to get married to the concept of a wife in your head
when you get married to a woman like this
your entire marriage will be a lie
she will keep pretending to keep up with the image you have of her in your head

learn from what is happening with frank edoho and chike
men, learn or perish

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

See as my guy dey find tutorials, as e don tay wey he write exam.

Bro, be truthful and answer every question in truth.

Married life no be cruise. A serious girl wants to know what she's going into.

It's better to remain single than to rush in and rush out of marriage with a dented self image, emotional and physical baggage.

If you no fit answer the questions, just gently move on.

She hasn't asked you to buy iPhone and bone straight. She knows what she wants, and she's serious about it.

opicgif:
you have entered one chance

you have presented yourself like a mumu
and she will treat you like one

there are people in that church that have bleeped her
and there is someone that is still fucking her

that did not answer any of these questions


this is not how to get married to a wife
this is how to get married to the concept of a wife in your head
when you get married to a woman like this
your entire marriage will be a lie
she will keep pretending to keep up with the image you have of her in your head

learn from what is happening with frank edoho and chike
men, learn or perish

It's like you're one of them, abi?

He should leave her, but he shouldn't judge her, either.

Neither should you, by the way.

The usual girls start asking for money, treats, gifts, etc.

She asked about spirituality and future plans.

If that's bad, then guys should just stick to girls who are already hookup specialists, play the game, and leave those who still want to marry to marry each other.

tollyboy5:
It’s that your problem? So you don’t want to ask her what plan she has for herself?
You don’t want to ask her what skill does she have?
You don’t want to know how close she is to her dad?
You don’t want to investigate the toxicity of her feminism?
Her body count?
How broad her knowledge is, ask her who is the deputy governor of her state. Ask her who is the vice president of Nigeria.
Ask her to name four planet in our solar system or don’t you want to raise intelligent kids ?

I don't know what's wrong with guys these days! Haba!

He should answer her questions, and ask his own. Dasall!

ravensckar:
So many red flags in her actions;

1- To address you as a "Mr." shows a lack of emotional connection.

2- The brazen manner in which she's asking the question is already a pointer as to the kind of control freak you're dealing with.

3- There's nothing feminine in her message to suggest that she has any iota of emotion for you. This one really meant business!

If you eventually enter a relationship with that Margaret Thatcher, anything your eyes see, take am like that. Don't say you weren't warned.

Meanwhile, in my "playing days", if my hand touch this kind lady, e sure me die sey I go count double digit knacking for her opueh. Na those hot headed ones dey make my dick rise.

#Picks_tooth

I didn't think they are friends or she knows him in anyway besides attending same church. So what emotions do u expect her to show?

He didn't follow the friend route, he came for a serious relationship so she's responding based on same serious energy. lol

As a man, you should be able to answer these questions, not even for her alone but for yourself. If you don't know the answer or a reasonable answer to these questions for yourself, then you actually have no foresight. If your daughter comes home with a man, wouldn't you want to at least know where he's coming from and where he's going to so you can guarantee your daughter's safety and security? Why do we make a mountain out of a mole hill?

Cum4me:
Some men are really trying. Imagine me have time for all this nonsense because I want to spend my life savings on you my only benefits is just a child you will born for me. Sometimes some hardly get pregnant. Most ladies will die single if many men are my type.

And u too will not die single? What are u bragging about? After all this u will still look for a woman somewhere to marry or bear u kids so?

One thing I will advice you is, Do not find the woman you want to marry in a church, find the church in your woman. I hope you understand this

Fuckyoumod:
So for your mind marriage na question and answer? You people will forever be deceived.

All those questions are nonsense, a smart man or play boy will provide perfect answer to those questions.

I will rather advise my daughter and sister to carefully study, pay attention and look out for the character, behavioral patterns and content of a man. Rather than throwing stupid questions like marriage is a question and answer thing.

If she was so good in all areas of her life, why is she not married yet? The OP said she is a matured woman.

If you are serious about marriage even the questions will make you reevaluate yourself. This kind of girl does not want a playboy and is less likely to have sex before marriage. By the time all the marital rites including court are done and the real marriage starts. If you lie to her type you go too suffer. If you know immaturity and accountability is not for you, leave her. Mature men will appreciate an intelligent woman like this.

Na so Frank Edoho do playboy reach. See how his life has been decimated outside by that lifestyle. Some things are not meant to be carried on as an adult. You have to grow up and mature. Over 50, almost 60 and at retirement with nothing to show for it. Thag is what happens to arrogant people who play with their wives and children.

She doesn't necessarily need the marriage for companionship,she just wants a man who can take good care of her.If you doubt me, you can go ahead and respond to her questions and ask her same questions she asked you and you would see that she doesn't have anything going in her life.Because no productive person can be in church every week throughout the year.

jaxxy:
I didn't think they are friends or she knows him in anyway besides attending same church. So what emotions do u expect her to show?

He didn't follow the friend route, he came for a serious relationship so she's responding based on same serious energy. lol

You're right though, but it still boils down to the lady's handling of the situation.

I've seen cases where a man would meet a lady on the road or in a social gathering and start professing love to her. It's now left to the lady to handle the issue with TACT, CLASS & STYLE.

Personally, ladies that do the fire brigade or Aura_For_Aura approach are a capital NO for me. A classy lady should have finnesse!

Again, there's everything wrong with the lady's response. It's cold and distasteful. A matured, sensible, classy or intelligent lady would never sound that way.

Women are called the salt of the Earth for a reason. This particular one just sounded like THE STONE of the EARTH.

#Picks_tooth

Josywhyte:
This thing wey you just talk now na wetin keep one girl for my church till today wey she never marry. Over 'religiousness' no good. As am talking to you the lady is approaching her late 40s. Leave all those their churchy attitude. We know them...

But you are not seeing the ones that divorce in less than two years. You are not seeing the ones that pretend to be good and at the end prove opposite. A girl cannot decently keep herself only to submit to one purposeless man that will useless her destiny.

ravensckar:
You're right though, but it still boils down to the lady's handling of the situation.

I've seen cases where a man would meet a lady on the road or in a social gathering and start professing love to her. It's now left to the lady to handle the issue with TACT, CLASS & STYLE.

Personally, ladies that do the fire brigade or Aura_For_Aura approach are a capital NO for me. A classy lady should have finnesse!

Again, there's everything wrong with the lady's response. It's cold and distasteful. A matured, sensible, classy or intelligent lady would never sound that way.

Women are called the salt of the Earth for a reason. This particular one just sounded like THE STONE of the EARTH.

#Picks_tooth

I agree with u but u are not putting the location or scenario of their meeting, they didn't met at the club or wedding but at church where alot of eyebrows are raised on make and female interactions. and from her response he went straight to I want a serious relationship leading to marriage cos u cab see her asking about our children.

So I can't blame her.

Sonnobax15:

Stop wasting your time trying to woo her directly bro. Confront her pastor . If he agrees to you,then,it's finish . Girl wey dey attend every church activity from Monday to Saturday .

I know her type

I will advice him to cut her off immediately. Girl that listen to pastors are disasters in marriage. He should do this only if he wants to lash and go...not marry... Church girls are menace to marriages

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

You can choose not to answer the question. You’re marrying her not the other way around. Tell her you’re getting a wife not a job. Moreover, you can have such conversation over a diner.

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

Leave her alone she is not your type.you cannot spend the whole day in church the way she does.i believe such questions should be answered as time goes on during courtship.why should she set jamb questions for you just because you want to marry her.with her attitude she will end up marrying a very pretentious bad guy

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

You're about entry into bondage that will make you live a sad life all your life. I won't say more.

jaxxy:
And u too will not die single? What are u bragging about? After all this u will still look for a woman somewhere to marry or bear u kids so?

Either you are not a man or you are new to this platform .. else you won't be surprised with such level of bragging aand toxicity.
And after all of this, men still look for women to marry or bear them kids.
You are right.
One would expect that no man will ever marry a a woman.. lol

tollyboy5:
It’s that your problem? So you don’t want to ask her what plan she has for herself?
You don’t want to ask her what skill does she have?
You don’t want to know how close she is to her dad?
You don’t want to investigate the toxicity of her feminism?
Her body count?
How broad her knowledge is, ask her who is the deputy governor of her state. Ask her who is the vice president of Nigeria.
Ask her to name four planet in our solar system or don’t you want to raise intelligent kids ?

So in your opinion, you think I don't know what I'm doing? You think I will marry a woman with out doing background research on her?
I won't even pay major attention to the things she will say. I will rather pay more attention to the unspoken issues, the nuances and signs. Capish?

spiceadole:
Either you are not a man or you are new to this platform .. else you won't be surprised with such level of bragging aand toxicity.
And after all of this, men still look for women to marry or bear them kids.
You are right.
One would expect that no man will ever marry a a woman.. lol

I don't subscribe to toxicity but even if u do for any trauma or experience u faced u shouldn't let it stop u from thinking logically.

if u say women will die single because u won't date them then who will u date? its either u date a man like u or u will also die single too

Kennitrust:
Good day my follow Nairalanders.

Everyday, life opens a new chapter of life to us. My own chapter had been opened and and it read... "it time to get married.

In the church I attended, there I met this girl so mature enough to be taken in as a wife. I approach her for the first time and I started asking her out. Seem she knew my intention, she started asking me about my church life, my family, my business and all that not.

To be honest with her, I did my best to answer every question in the language she could understand.

She seems not still satisfied with my account, she sent me this message at about 5am.
Said until I respond to those questions, she won't have anything to do with me again.

I'm truly confused on wether everyone that finds love 💕 really goes through this rigorous question.

And more about her life, she spent almost everyday in church after work. She said if I'm truly serious, I should also be as serious as she is in going and participating in all weekly activities in the church.

Please help, how do I answer this questions, since it the only options she said can bring us together?

Me i don't blame this girl at all!!!!
Marriage is a serious matter, and she's handling it seriously.

As a big brother to a 24 y.o, if you come to me to marry my sister, be rest assured you will answer more questions than that lady asked you.

Everybody wants to be safe; her inclusive.

Guy, Imagine yourself as a big brother or a father, and tell me if this lady is being 'too serious'. Absolutely NO

This is hilarious

The girl is a very insecure girl, probably having something she's hiding too

Even if she's a born again, this kind of questions aren't supposed to be asked like an interrogation

It's supposed to be a live discussion while both of you reveal personal informations together

++++++++

Since you said you attend same church why is that you both don't know each informally