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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Folubaba(m): 9:06am On May 26

Please investigation should be done for both families

Family history & patterns like they do in the past may be the reason for stronger relationships and long lasting marriages

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Solofresh2: 9:09am On May 26

A daughter learns how to be a wife by watching her mother. Not from books. Not from sermons,from observation.You are not marrying a woman. You are marrying her family system. Her mother is the blueprint. The daughter is the copy.A woman can hide her true nature during courtship. Her mother cannot hide hers. Study the mother. That is your preview."If her mother is bitter, the daughter will fight bitterness her whole life — and often lose. If her mother is peaceful, the daughter has a head start.

Exceptions exist. But betting on an exception is like betting on a lottery ticket. Most daughters become their mothers

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Solofresh2: 9:12am On May 26

dominique:
What if the wife is her father's replica both in looks and personality? No be one chance you don enter so?

A daughter who is her father's replica is not a 'one chance' situation. It just means you need to study both parents.The original post was incomplete. You do not just study the mother. You study the whole family system — mother, father, how they interact, and who the daughter resembles most.
A woman is not only her mother's daughter. She is also her father's daughter. Study both. Then decide

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by ukfootwear: 9:22am On May 26

Bendeco02:
Calm down

Some women resemble their Dad on character as well.

Hard woman can give birth to calm or quiet girl. Calm woman can also give birth to hard or sturbbon girl.

Some of you don't really think before opening topic and at same time claim to know it all.

@ Op, so you haven't seen arrogant or rude girl while her mom is very nice and calm? A young girl can resemble her Dad in character as well.

You are actually right with this , but you don’t have to blaim the person who brought out the topic . We are all here to learn new ways to examine marriage before we dive into it. You are right

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Haeg: 9:28am On May 26

Sermwell:
Opposite ke? You get sense so?

Go back to sleep, seems your brain is yet to start up

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by giantstar: 9:31am On May 26

On Point. Kudos

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Lumig: 10:07am On May 26

You are a wise and intelligent one, not controlled by emotions

kenn4rill:
You have said it all and I was smart enough to study this pattern and I dodged a heavy bullet.

My ex mother never had a single respect for her husband, I mean the few hours I spent at their house revealed so much because the man was never respected by either his wife or the children, like they couldn't even pretend it sef seeing that they had a prospective in-law around.
From that moment I just knew that was the ending of everything.

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by pocohantas(f): 10:41am On May 26

You guys know so much until you pick a wife for yourself. Then the wailing in Family section would begin.

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by onehope: 11:21am On May 26

Urgent1Million:
What if her father is no longer alive?
Chances are that her mother poisoned her father? Stressed her father to death?
What if her mother pretends any time you are around?
Best is to make friends around their neighbourhood, ask questions from their neighbours.
It's a compulsory stage in most cultures.
It's just this generation that meet a woman and marry her even before meeting her parents.

Solution to this problem is simple: Pick a wife from your neighborhood where you already know everybody there. It is not bad to marry your neighbor, forgive their few mistakes and marry! Everyone displayed their true self without fear of losing or winning anybody so chose from among them. If you think you know a woman because you have dated her for 10 years then you are greatest fool of the century.

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by dododawa1: 11:22am On May 26

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Fiscus105(m): 11:28am On May 26*

Solofresh2:
A daughter learns how to be a wife by watching her mother. Not from books. Not from sermons,from observation.You are not marrying a woman. You are marrying her family system. Her mother is the blueprint. The daughter is the copy.A woman can hide her true nature during courtship. Her mother cannot hide hers. Study the mother. That is your preview."If her mother is bitter, the daughter will fight bitterness her whole life — and often lose. If her mother is peaceful, the daughter has a head start.

Exceptions exist. But betting on an exception is like betting on a lottery ticket. Most daughters become their mothers

What did you want to say about a mother who has four daughters, 2 well-behaved and 2 ill-mannered?

The good and the bad, where did they learn the characters, even though from they are from same mother? Abi u never see it before?

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Bimpe29(m): 11:36am On May 26

This is true to a greater degree. But there's always an exception 😕

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by kenn4rill(m): 11:39am On May 26

My guy this is a true life story. I dated this my ex for almost 5 years although it was a kind of distance relationship because we never really had much time to bond and due to the nature of my job. Although I've been seeing signs of disrespect but I just brush it off due to my assumptions that maybe she's missing me much because I've never really spent one full month with her.
She's always quick to anger but my own anger they always pass her own and these are things that I just do subconsciously.f
Never doubt your instincts my brother.

Lumig:
You are a wise and intelligent one, not controlled by emotions

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by themanderon: 11:40am On May 26

Some of my relatives who married nonsense women found out this fact albeit too late. A lady in most cases inherits the character of her mother. My own mother was a very disciplined, loving and honorable woman who put her family first in all she did. My own sisters learnt well and they are also carrying their families just like she did.

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by VaginaAcademic: 11:46am On May 26

Sermwell:
So we don't have female professors with very bad character?

dey play ludo you hear grin

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Donjuan77: 12:21pm On May 26

Not tru at all, haven't you seen a bad mother given birth to a good daughter or a good mother given birth to a bad daughter, so you are not 100% correct it's 50/50.

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by adecares(f): 12:23pm On May 26

This is not entirely true because this recent generation is changing lot of narrative.
You’d be shocked to see that your wife is entirely the opposite of her mum.

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by faithfull18(f): 1:11pm On May 26

ukaface:
Una no go rest for this life of una never carry topic about women.

Lol😂

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Druss(m): 1:20pm On May 26

Not always. My wife takes after her father .. strongly..

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Olaola26: 1:29pm On May 26

Nice 😊 write up but I disagree with your opinion about this.
What will you say about the ones who lose their mother at a tender age, and those who don’t even know their mother at all,
I have experienced from both,
I will tell you that a lady looking up to her mum when growing up can develop another character different from her parent,
At adult stage of a lady, many things reflect in her, is now left for her to see good things with good thoughts 💭 and behave accordingly.
While the one who’s don’t even know her mother when growing up develops another character entirely and see things differently.
This is not a theory justification, it is practical cos it doesn’t ends on paper,
We live with them and they live with us,
I know someone, her mother is still the one pleading on her behalf by now she would have been out of marriage with 3 kids,
You will wonder where this lady takes her own character from, the mother is too good.
But she doesn’t see anything good with people in her surroundings, she’s jealous of everyone around, she would love to have what you have and you be the one to be looking up to her has a boss.
So individual character when growing is what is sees here
Thanks

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by SixSeven: 3:30pm On May 26

MEGA4BILLION:
This mostly happened when the lady in question is a big fan of her mother. Totally in support of her mother's character and attitude

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Solofresh2: 3:43pm On May 26

Fiscus105:
What did you want to about a mother who has four daughters, 2 well-behaved and 2 ill-mannered?

The good and the bad, where did they learn the characters, even though from they are from same mother? Abi u never see it before?

The mother is a blueprint. But she is not the only blueprint. The father, the environment, and the child's own choices matter too.A woman can be her mother's daughter. She can also be her father's daughter. She can also be her own woman — shaped by rebellion, trauma, or grace
Your reply is correct. Two daughters from the same mother can be opposites. That means the mother alone does not determine the daughter.

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by ijayebonyi(f): 6:21pm On May 26

Exactly
And your man’s father is showing you the kind of husband you are about to have

Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by antoniobaresi(m): 8:14pm On May 26

This is VERY misleading. There are a lot of ladies who have had terrible mothers but have turned out to be quite the opposite. Contrary to your opinion, not every mother has a negative control over their children, some of those children tend to become better adults.

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Fujiyama: 9:24pm On May 26*

mjblinks:
Yes, upbringing matters. Family patterns matter too. But people also grow, heal, unlearn, and become their own person.

Some women watched their mothers suffer and decided:
“I will never build a home like this.”

Some men grew up with absent or toxic fathers and still became loving husbands and responsible fathers.

^^^
You have made some good points. But it is revealing that the mothers in your comment above are presented as long suffering victims - while the fathers are depicted as irresponsible perpetrators. undecided

Of course the OPs comments are not an absolute truth - every adult above a certain age knows that. But what he says holds true for a sizeable number of men who ended up regretting bitterly - after falling into the trap he speaks about. His advice is sagely even if it is unpopular among some people.

mjblinks:
Instead of studying only her mother, study HER

^^^
There you go.

The wise thing to do is to study her and her mother.

There are nuggets of wisdom being given for free all over this thread but sadly, many will miss them and learn a terrible lesson too late.

Instead of getting into unnecessary arguments about 'absolutes versus relatives', or 'rules versus exceptions' (like some are doing here on this thread) the smart thing (for any man seeking to get married) is to take the advice given here - and err on the side of caution. The red flags in a woman's mother (that have been mentioned here) are a clear, unmistakable, God sent warning. A man who ignores them is likely to bitterly regret it.

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Fujiyama: 9:44pm On May 26

Solofresh2:
A daughter learns how to be a wife by watching her mother. Not from books. Not from sermons,from observation.You are not marrying a woman. You are marrying her family system. Her mother is the blueprint. The daughter is the copy.A woman can hide her true nature during courtship. Her mother cannot hide hers. Study the mother. That is your preview."If her mother is bitter, the daughter will fight bitterness her whole life — and often lose. If her mother is peaceful, the daughter has a head start.

Exceptions exist. But betting on an exception is like betting on a lottery ticket. Most daughters become their mothers

^^^
Very well said.

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Fujiyama: 9:46pm On May 26

ijayebonyi:
Exactly
And your man’s father is showing you the kind of husband you are about to have

^^^
True.

That's a fair argument to make.

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by Fujiyama: 9:48pm On May 26

pocohantas:
You guys know so much until you pick a wife for yourself. Then the wailing in Family section would begin.

^^^

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by ijayebonyi(f): 3:05am On May 27

Fujiyama:
^^^
True.

That's a fair argument to make.

I’m glad you agree with me

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by nonix22(m): 9:08am On May 27

What if the father was toxic that resulted to the mother being single??

Harddiskng:
Beware of daughters of single mothers

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Re: Your Wife's Mother Is Showing You Exactly Who Your Wife Will Become by ultraviolet27(f): 4:20pm On May 27

Not every female child possesses their mothers characters I and my 3rd younger sister has our fathers characters and even look(resemblance)so what will you say about that?

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