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Hello Nairalanders,

This is what I just noticed in my friend's house each time I visit. His mother in law actually came to do omugwo, taking care and staying with the baby when his mum has gone to work. but to my surprise, I discovered she is the one doing the house chores, sweeping, watching both the husband's (my friend) clothes and the wife's clothes together with the baby's clothes.

She cooks and serves everybody's food while the wife only give the food to the husband. The wife seldom enter the kitchen even on weekends when everyone is around. I told my friend about my observation and he said he feels it strange to him too.

Please nairalanders how do you understand this scenario whether is normal or abnormal. The mother in-law is yoruba and my friend also is Yoruba.

Whwn will u learn to mind your business?? Aproko.

Doveheart:
Hello Nairalanders,
This is what I just noticed in my friend's house each time I visit. His mother in law actually came to do omugwo, taking care and staying with the baby when his mum has gone to work. but to my surprise, I discovered she is the one doing the house chores, sweeping, watching both the husband's (my friend) clothes and the wife's clothes together with the baby's clothes. She cooks and serves everybody's food while the wife only give the food to the husband. The wife seldom enter the kitchen even on weekends when everyone is around. I told my friend about my observation and he said he feels it strange to him too. Please nairalanders how do you understand this scenario whether is normal or abnormal. The mother in-law is yoruba and my friend also is Yoruba.

Doveheart:
➜Hello Nairalanders,
This is what I just noticed in my friend's house each time I visit. His mother in law actually came to do omugwo, taking care and staying with the baby when his mum has gone to work. but to my surprise, I discovered she is the one doing the house chores, sweeping, watching both the husband's (my friend) clothes and the wife's clothes together with the baby's clothes. She cooks and serves everybody's food while the wife only give the food to the husband. The wife seldom enter the kitchen even on weekends when everyone is around. I told my friend about my observation and he said he feels it strange to him too. Please nairalanders how do you understand this scenario whether is normal or abnormal. The mother in-law is yoruba and my friend also is Yoruba.

Why not direct your question to the woman herself? Or is she living as a slave that you are not allowed to directly interact with? Also, if your so-called friend is really inquisitive, he can always direct his question at his wife or his mother-in-law, for that matter. 😒

Kobojunkie:
Why not direct your question to the woman herself? Or is she living as a slave that you are not allowed to directly interact with? Also, if your so-called friend is really inquisitive, he can always direct his question at his wife or his mother-in-law, for that matter. 😒

The question is that is it normal or not. Just seeking for your opinion on this. Its a very simple question abi must you abuse?

Doveheart:
➜The question is that is it normal or not. Just seeking for your opinion on this. Its a very simple question abi must you abuse?

You think telling you to ask the woman directly is some sort of insult? Are you sure you are OK?

She is not committing a crime by her actions, and she knows best the why of her behavior, so why do you feel asking her would take something away from you? 😒

SoftChordz:
Whwn will u learn to mind your business?? Aproko.

Lol....I guess you don't have an idea of the importance of the subject discussion.

Doveheart:
➜Lol....I guess you don't have an idea of the importance of the subject discussion.

There's no importance to it since the person asking refuses to do due diligence. 😒

Kobojunkie:
You think telling you to ask the woman directly is some sort of insult? Are you sure you are OK?

She is not committing a crime by her actions, and she knows best the why of her behavior, so why do you feel asking her would take something away from you? 😒

Just listen to yourself. I should ask her?? I hope you eaten today sa .If you don't have the courtesy of responding to someone's question on a platform like this in a more civilized and respectable way, then I will advise you keep mute and don't discourage other audience from giving out their own opinion about the subject matter.

Doveheart:
✓ Just listen to yourself. I should ask her?? I hope you eaten today sa .If you don't have the courtesy of responding to someone's question on a platform like this in a more civilized and respectable way, then I will advise you keep mute and don't discourage other audience from giving out their own opinion about the subject matter.

I see now that you are a very unserious individual. You don't want to ask the person, but would rather ask complete strangers who are totally removed from the situation. 🥱

Kobojunkie:
There's no importance to it since the person asking refuses to do due diligence. 😒

Which due diligence??

You have not answered the question sir/ma. I need your candid and matured responses on the case I just relayed to the house. Thank you.

Doveheart:
Hello Nairalanders,
This is what I just noticed in my friend's house each time I visit. His mother in law actually came to do omugwo, taking care and staying with the baby when his mum has gone to work. but to my surprise, I discovered she is the one doing the house chores, sweeping, watching both the husband's (my friend) clothes and the wife's clothes together with the baby's clothes. She cooks and serves everybody's food while the wife only give the food to the husband. The wife seldom enter the kitchen even on weekends when everyone is around. I told my friend about my observation and he said he feels it strange to him too. Please nairalanders how do you understand this scenario whether is normal or abnormal. The mother in-law is yoruba and my friend also is Yoruba.

In old days that's how it used to be
She is teaching her daughter things so when she is gone her daughter will continue.

I heard it's apart of the baby nurse (omugwu) I don't know if i got the Ibo spelling correctly. But I think the lady should help out during weekends at least in preparing weekend delicacy

Even your friend thinks it’s awkward, yet he allows his mother inlaw wash his clothes.
He doesn’t have respect, at all.

Una stories na always “my friend.” E no dey ever happen for una lives.

At this point, just marry him and be the second husband. This one that you don’t have a life, you’re observing everything happening under another man’s roof.

The reason I believe this story is fabricated is because the woman washes clothes. No mention of a washing machine. Despite Nairaland insisting that washing machines are inferior to handwashing, almost every member utilizes the machine.

Doveheart:
Hello Nairalanders,
This is what I just noticed in my friend's house each time I visit. His mother in law actually came to do omugwo, taking care and staying with the baby when his mum has gone to work. but to my surprise, I discovered she is the one doing the house chores, sweeping, watching both the husband's (my friend) clothes and the wife's clothes together with the baby's clothes. She cooks and serves everybody's food while the wife only give the food to the husband. The wife seldom enter the kitchen even on weekends when everyone is around. I told my friend about my observation and he said he feels it strange to him too. Please nairalanders how do you understand this scenario whether is normal or abnormal. The mother in-law is yoruba and my friend also is Yoruba.

Doveheart:
Hello Nairalanders,
This is what I just noticed in my friend's house each time I visit. His mother in law actually came to do omugwo, taking care and staying with the baby when his mum has gone to work. but to my surprise, I discovered she is the one doing the house chores, sweeping, watching both the husband's (my friend) clothes and the wife's clothes together with the baby's clothes. She cooks and serves everybody's food while the wife only give the food to the husband. The wife seldom enter the kitchen even on weekends when everyone is around. I told my friend about my observation and he said he feels it strange to him too. Please nairalanders how do you understand this scenario whether is normal or abnormal. The mother in-law is yoruba and my friend also is Yoruba.

Amebo! It is called Omugwo for a reason. Tell your friend to employ a maid to support his wife. I don't know why you feel comfortable setting up your friends home on fire.

lilyheaven:
Even your friend thinks it’s awkward, yet he allows his mother inlaw wash his clothes.
He doesn’t have respect, at all.

Actually, is not the fault of my friend, its what his wife and her mum is cool with, At times, my friend said he will want to avoid the mother-inlaw washing his clothes but its the wife that will just pack and give her mum to wash, and its because is her mother that is washing her children.s clothes even now that they are adult

eepeepook:
Una stories na always “my friend.” E no dey ever happen for una lives.

At this point, just marry him and be the second husband. This one that you don’t have a life, you’re observing everything happening under another man’s roof.

The reason I believe this story is fabricated is because the woman washes clothes. No mention of a washing machine. Despite Nairaland insisting that washing machines are inferior to handwashing, almost every member utilizes the machine.

You did not tell us that you want to advertise your washing machine...dont worry we will patronise you. Lol
That's just on a lighter mood. The story is not a fabricated one, its true life story. This could happen to anyone. Its just what can be helpful to my friend if he could get some sensible responses from here. He can use that to prolly arrange some adjustment at home on the foregoing.

ceeceeuwa:
Amebo! It is called Omugwo for a reason. Tell your friend to employ a maid to support his wife. I don't know why you feel comfortable setting up your friends home on fire.

Aba! setting on fire kwa! You people should always learn to be polite in your responses. Must you pass a negative message on the poster.?? You are the one that wants to set the whole thing on fire here.
Am just trying to get a help for him here since the whole situation is a surprise to him and more so, he is not too comfortable about this extreme activities of his mother-inlaw at home.

Doveheart:
Aba! setting on fire kwa! You people should always learn to be polite in your responses. Must you pass a negative message on the poster.?? You are the one that wants to set the whole thing on fire here.
Am just trying to get a help for him here since the whole situation is a surprise to him and more so, he is not too comfortable about this extreme activities of his mother-inlaw at home.

Be rational with the truth! If you actually wanted to help, you would have sought for others opinion on the issue before bringing up the matter with your friend. I am sure you would have been advised to mind your business.
When it comes to people's marriages, you exercise caution before giving unsolicited advise or suggestions.

Doveheart:
Actually, is not the fault of my friend, its what his wife and her mum is cool with, At times, my friend said he will want to avoid the mother-inlaw washing his clothes but its the wife that will just pack and give her mum to wash, and its because is her mother that is washing her children.s clothes even now that they are adult

He should sort his dirty cloths and give to the laundry. He can do his underwear himself.
Why would he even keep his dirty cloths for his wife that just gave birth to wash alongside the children's cloths.
If his mother in-law where not around his wife would have seen shege pro max.
Let him get a help for his wife!

Mind your business and leave that couple alone. This is why people are careful who they open their home to. They said you should come and visit not come and assess and give opinion.

Go to your own house and focus on your family. If you dont have one, find something more productive to do with your life. You want to say you have more sense and you know better than 3 adults with mother in law having probably over 20yrs marriage experience with childbirth experience?

I’ve used this forum long enough to recognize you people’s lingo for backing up fabricated tales.

Doveheart:
This could happen to anyone.

No woman should do laundry for any man unless he is sick. OP, your friend and his wife are two pathetic duo lacking in respect. They have turned the poor woman into a main under the guise of omugwo.

ceeceeuwa:
Be rational with the truth! If you actually wanted to help, you would have sort for others opinion on the issue before bringing up the matter with your friend. I am sure you would have been advised to mind your business.
When it comes to people's marriages, you exercise caution before giving unsolicited advise or suggestions.

I came here to learn, not that I want to go and advise my friend on what to do. It could happen to me tomorrow or some else in this forum. There is nothing bad giving out your opinion for others to learn and be wise on some matters. We learn everyday.

We4all:
No woman should do laundry for any man unless he is sick. OP, your friend and his wife are two pathetic duo lacking in respect. They have turned the poor woman into a main under the guise of omugwo.

Its not really my friend that initiated it because he too is not really cool with it, thats why I brought the matter here for me/us to also see if its normal or not. Its actually the mother-inlaw with the cooperation of the wife that is making her to do all the extra work on their own ooooo, not my friend.

eepeepook:
I’ve used this forum long enough to recognize you people’s lingo for backing up fabricated tales.

For your information SIR! its not a fabricated story. Its REAL!. So do not debar other members from giving out their opinion about the matter.

2mch:
Mind your business and leave that couple alone. This is why people are careful who they open their home to. They said you should come and visit not come and assess and give opinion.

Go to your own house and focus on your family. If you dont have one, find something more productive to do with your life. You want to say you have more sense and you know better than 3 adults with mother in law having probably over 20yrs marriage experience with childbirth experience?

The bolded does not make a singular sense, its childish and totally out of context of the subject matter. If you say the mother inlaw knows what she is doing with her experience and age, then I may see a sense in this and rest my case.

ceeceeuwa:
He should sort his dirty cloths and give to the laundry. He can do his underwear himself.
Why would he even keep his dirty cloths for his wife that just gave birth to wash alongside the children's cloths.
If his mother in-law where not around his wife would have seen shege pro max.
Let him get a help for his wife!

The wife and the mother-inlaw volunteered to do it, not the husband, according to him, it even took some time before he knows that his wife's mother has been watching his clothes, not all his clothes though, becos he takes most of his natives to the laundry shop to wash and iron.

We are only living in very awkward times and societies this days. So many things that are actually sane and normal are now seen as abnormal and insane, while the craze, shameful, and abnormal stuffs are now glorified and celebrated.

Look at it in this basic ways: (1) Basically, both the lady that just gave birth and her husband are the old woman's children. (2) A loving mother is expected to go out of her ways to do all she possibly can, for her children.

Now put tjose 2 points together, and tell me if it doesn't still make sense to you that the old woman is willing doing all she can in that house.

In short, the mother is being a true loving mother, it will now rest on your friend and his wife to be true loving children.

Doveheart:
Hello Nairalanders,

This is what I just noticed in my friend's house each time I visit. His mother in law actually came to do omugwo, taking care and staying with the baby when his mum has gone to work. but to my surprise, I discovered she is the one doing the house chores, sweeping, watching both the husband's (my friend) clothes and the wife's clothes together with the baby's clothes.

She cooks and serves everybody's food while the wife only give the food to the husband. The wife seldom enter the kitchen even on weekends when everyone is around. I told my friend about my observation and he said he feels it strange to him too.

Please nairalanders how do you understand this scenario whether is normal or abnormal. The mother in-law is yoruba and my friend also is Yoruba.

They don't have a maid when do you expect

the man should be ready to reward her handsomely when she's going home

Mind your business op.

Thank you