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Dpsychologist:
Synopsis: She Slapped Him In Public and Everybody Defended Her. But What Happened Next Changed The Mood Instantly.

One thing I've noticed about human beings is that many people love consequences in theory until consequences actually arrive.

There was an argument in a market earlier yesterday between a lady and a man. Voices were raised, tempers flared, and before anyone could properly intervene, the lady suddenly slapped the man. This is not a playful tap o, it is mot the kind of slap people dismiss as harmless. It was a loud, angry slap that immediately drew attention from everyone around.

Predictably, the crowd reacted the way crowds usually do.

People rushed to the man's side, not to ask what happened, but to restrain him. Some told him to calm down. Others reminded him that she was a lady. A few even looked at him as though he had already committed an offence simply because he was the man in the situation.

Unsurprisingly, he didn't react.

He adjusted his clothes, sat down quietly and said nothing. The tension gradually disappeared. People returned to their businesses. The lady looked victorious. The spectators concluded the matter had ended exactly the way they wanted it to end.

Then came the twist.

A few minutes later, when nobody was paying much attention anymore and the atmosphere had completely relaxed, the man stood up, walked over and delivered series of slaps of his own that reconfigured the lady's brain.

The shock was not even the slap itself.

The shock was how quickly public opinion changed.

The same people who had watched the first slap without much outrage on why the lady slapped him suddenly became defenders of morality. The same voices that were silent when the man was hit became very loud when the woman was hit. People began shouting. Some tried to hold the man. Others demanded explanations.

What made the whole scene remarkable was not the violence. Violence is ugly regardless of who starts it.

What stood out was the inconsistency.

Nobody had physically restrained the woman when she struck first. Nobody had gathered around to lecture her about keeping her hands to herself. Nobody seemed particularly concerned about violence until the recipient of the violence changed.

This is where many people get themselves into trouble.

Some individuals genuinely believe that being a woman automatically shields them from physical consequences, even when they initiate physical aggression. They mistake restraint for inability. They assume every man, regardless of temperament, upbringing or self control, will simply absorb the humiliation and walk away.

Most men will.

Some won't.

That is why the smartest rule remains the oldest one: keep your hands to yourself.

Once an argument becomes physical, you lose the ability to control how it ends. The moment you decide to hit someone, you are gambling on their reaction. Sometimes you win that gamble. Sometimes you discover too late that the other person was willing to return the favour.

The real lesson here is not that retaliation is right. It is that people should stop treating physical aggression as acceptable when it comes from one gender and unacceptable when it comes from the other.

If hitting someone is wrong, then it should be wrong before and after the comeback. Not only when the score becomes level.

meobizy:
Nairaland is a waste of valuable time.

Mandem05:
I agreed with your assertation but "still on still" if i nor retaliate e go turn police/court case. The aggressor must receive punishment.

Eastcoastboy:
This is one of my greatest fear.

Kevineleven:
You are very correct, God designed women for the pleasure of men, he made their body extremely soft and sensitive, their bone , muscle and strength is no where close to men , so to challenge a man to a fight is just stupid.

samwash:
Una wen dey defend the man now , what if his actions leads to serious injuries or even death, Una nor go talk like this.
I use God take beg Una, if person offend you and it's almost leading to a physical fight, just use wisdom and leave or involve it doesn't make you a coward, rather you an heto.
Many pple are half death, nursing different heath issues, small thing it will leads to something else.

Dpsychologist:
Synopsis: She Slapped Him In Public and Everybody Defended Her. But What Happened Next Changed The Mood Instantly.

One thing I've noticed about human beings is that many people love consequences in theory until consequences actually arrive.

There was an argument in a market earlier yesterday between a lady and a man. Voices were raised, tempers flared, and before anyone could properly intervene, the lady suddenly slapped the man. This is not a playful tap o, it is mot the kind of slap people dismiss as harmless. It was a loud, angry slap that immediately drew attention from everyone around.

Predictably, the crowd reacted the way crowds usually do.

People rushed to the man's side, not to ask what happened, but to restrain him. Some told him to calm down. Others reminded him that she was a lady. A few even looked at him as though he had already committed an offence simply because he was the man in the situation.

Unsurprisingly, he didn't react.

He adjusted his clothes, sat down quietly and said nothing. The tension gradually disappeared. People returned to their businesses. The lady looked victorious. The spectators concluded the matter had ended exactly the way they wanted it to end.

Then came the twist.

A few minutes later, when nobody was paying much attention anymore and the atmosphere had completely relaxed, the man stood up, walked over and delivered series of slaps of his own that reconfigured the lady's brain.

The shock was not even the slap itself.

The shock was how quickly public opinion changed.

The same people who had watched the first slap without much outrage on why the lady slapped him suddenly became defenders of morality. The same voices that were silent when the man was hit became very loud when the woman was hit. People began shouting. Some tried to hold the man. Others demanded explanations.

What made the whole scene remarkable was not the violence. Violence is ugly regardless of who starts it.

What stood out was the inconsistency.

Nobody had physically restrained the woman when she struck first. Nobody had gathered around to lecture her about keeping her hands to herself. Nobody seemed particularly concerned about violence until the recipient of the violence changed.

This is where many people get themselves into trouble.

Some individuals genuinely believe that being a woman automatically shields them from physical consequences, even when they initiate physical aggression. They mistake restraint for inability. They assume every man, regardless of temperament, upbringing or self control, will simply absorb the humiliation and walk away.

Most men will.

Some won't.

That is why the smartest rule remains the oldest one: keep your hands to yourself.

Once an argument becomes physical, you lose the ability to control how it ends. The moment you decide to hit someone, you are gambling on their reaction. Sometimes you win that gamble. Sometimes you discover too late that the other person was willing to return the favour.

The real lesson here is not that retaliation is right. It is that people should stop treating physical aggression as acceptable when it comes from one gender and unacceptable when it comes from the other.

If hitting someone is wrong, then it should be wrong before and after the comeback. Not only when the score becomes level.

tonystark007:
Although, like they say, everybody with their own opinion.

But I believe avoiding or not escalating situations to violence is the best. And even if it does, it better to just leave the scene and let sleeping dog lie.

Yes, I know as human being, and as a man... Our ego might feel bruise, and we want to retaliate to satisfy that ego, but think about the result of your actions and how it would affect you before you make the move.

The best that would happen is you attack back successfully, and feel great, but the worse is you attack or simply just push the person, they collapse, and pass to the great beyond from there 😂,

At that time, nobody will remember that you were defending yourself, the story becomes you push as killed someone. All your anger, ego, and everything becomes regret, "if I have known, I wouldn't have."

Or the person counter attack with a weapon or fatally injures you.

So what I'm trying to say is let's be guided, some people are just working dead moving around.

Your freedom is much important that your ego

samwash:
Una wen dey defend the man now , what if his actions leads to serious injuries or even death, Una nor go talk like this.

Emeka71:
But some women are so strong o.

Epurogonogono:
Kudos to the man, he did well.

It's time to start treating ladies like adults.

As a man, if I have any issues with a another man, I wouldn't make the first physical assault on that man. I would only fight if I need to defend myself, my loved ones or my honour.

Everyone should be able to know which boundaries to cross and which shouldn't be crossed.

tonystark007:
That's the fear of very living person with conscience. Something like this happen in Benin years ago, the driver was just defending himself against a reckless agbero that was young enough to be his son. Agbero collapse and past out blank... they shoke him, pour water on him, agbero no move again... you should have seen the way the driver was crying and shouting, "Jesus take control", "na only slap I slap am o" 😂😂 luckily the agbero later woke up (so I heard). And the driver spent more than the money he didn't want to give in the first place. Turns out the agbero had been smoking and taking illegal substances with little or no food.

tanigororo:
Moral of the story?

Goodadvice01:
Ladies please try to control your temper.. the country is too hard and not every man would ignore such acts.. so sad.. i feel for the lady rn