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.. I don't hate my junior sister but she wants to live large whereas I'm a low key person. Our mentality about life is far different from each other. So I just have to do the needful (distance myself) blocked her everywhere .. But to her, I hate her!

Marriage......my own senior sister was very loving,caring to everyone before marriage. Immediately after marriage she became hostile to everyone

Parents parents,

See finish

Too much familiarity

parents are the major reason. they treat some deliberately as scapegoat, some as sacred cows, clear bias etc

Saturnalia:
Mostly Envy and seeds of discord sown by the Enemies of the Family.

Pls o is it possible to just have agrrement with a woman to give birth without marriage then take the child afterwards

Woman and money
Psquare as case studies

Different mothers, inheritance mostly, jealousy...

Sirchiboy:
What causes most siblings to hate each other?

...You should ask their mothers.

Sirchiboy:
What causes most siblings to hate each other?

Upbring, I blame the Parent because in almost ALL cases it started when the children were small

Its not as if parent don't notice, but they wave it off with na kids dey do dem ... adulthood will auto fix it

Sirchiboy:
What causes most siblings to hate each other?

Betrayal

Upbringing, comparison from the parents etc

Parents...........
Na parents dey cause hatred among siblings
Either consciously or unconsciously.
One of the greatest error parents does that is by comparing their achievements to each other and rubbing it on their faces, instead of promoting unity among their children....
Teach them how to celebrate each other's achievements and how to be of help to each other

When when, most times, issues linger more than they should. I've seen it many times

helinues:
Poor upbringing. Chai God bless my sister for me

Back then, before I asked jack, she has done normal. She looks after me like anything

There was a time my landlord gave me eviction notification within short period of time because I wasn't around, my sister left her place for me to be squatting with her friend

God bless her. That is how siblings are supposed to be

Some are caused by parents liking and loving one above the others, e.g Joseph in the bible

Very much what has been the situation between my siblings in my family.
Lol. This topic hit home. Impeccable timing, I must say.

The Parents can cause siblings to hate one another. Surprised? Well, don't be, because it happens ever so often than not. At least, in my family this happened. Also, the siblings may envy one another over one positive peculiar talent or the other, which either of them possesses.

Happy new month of June you everyone. A beautiful month. #TeamJune

Afriifa:
Remarkable. How long were you both raised by her?

Even after tertiary. God bless her too for me

Different fathers

Parental influence.

Parents who openly compare siblings and create a home that lacks love

Everyone is talking about brothers, what happens when twins fight and become enemies ot each other, transcending into their children?

Selfishness and self centered

In my case it was greedy and jealousy. In my teen days I built a place that houses my parent. Over time they call it family house why they have theirs. It was a very dirty confrontation. I am not in good times with any of them. I was being fair but this people never wished me well

Thobby02lawbar:
.. I don't hate my junior sister but she wants to live large whereas I'm a low key person. Our mentality about life is far different from each other. So I just have to do the needful (distance myself) blocked her everywhere .. But to her, I hate her!

Why block her and claim you still love her?

Speaking from the perspective of brothers.

If one is more successful than the other, it is a recipe for resentment, especially when the successful one is the younger one.

Its like a rich wife and a poor husband, where the wife have to walk on eggshells to accommodate the fragile ego of her broke husband, and her legitimate concern seen as a dagger to her husband.

The successful sibling may fall into the hole of overhelping and carrying the weight of family responsibilities, eg taking care of parents, but his overhelping will be seen as him showing himself and undermining the rest.

It doesn't matter if the younger one is more hardworking, have more drive and fought against all odds, his success will be a mirror to the failure of the siblings.

This sibling rivalry is irreconcilable, and the only way out is distance. Although blood is thicker than water, you will realise that love is thicker than blood.

Your new family will be those that loves you, from your wife, children, friends, and your God.

helinues:
Poor upbringing. Chai God bless my sister for me

Back then, before I asked jack, she has done normal. She looks after me like anything

There was a time my landlord gave me eviction notification within short period of time because I wasn't around, my sister left her place for me to be squatting with her friend

no wonder u keeping worrying us here like a spoilt brat

12345baba:
no wonder u keeping worrying us here like a spoilt brat

I was raised by community because dad was so respected like anything

I wasn't even close to a spoilt kid, me that started working part time when I was in Jss2

Sirchiboy:
What causes most siblings to hate each other?

mothers are responsible for that. who causes siblings to hate each other.

DEROXMAN:
Pls o is it possible to just have agrrement with a woman to give birth without marriage then take the child afterwards

that’s surrogacy

bluefilm:
Their wives, usually if they are men

The wives can easily sow some seeds of jealousy and/or wicked competition between them

Most especially if any or all of the guys is a SIMP

Sometimes, their moms if their mom happen to show favoritism to some of the sibling/s over others

Some other times, the issue of inheritance can also trigger this siblings hatred

I don't know about females 'cause I ain't one

DJ please play me "Wahala Dey" by PSquare

This one I fear most is the wife's own, women, hmmmm

Sirchiboy:
What causes most siblings to hate each other?

To be specific, since you're curious, once siblings don't get along, there is a narcissistic parent or parents in the bloodline.

When siblings don’t get along, it’s rarely just about personality clashes or childhood rivalries. Often, it’s the aftermath of something much deeper, which is the invisible fingerprints of a narcissistic parent somewhere in the family line.

Narcissistic parents don’t raise children to love each other. They raise them to compete, to perform, and to earn affection that was never freely given. And this results to adults, who carry invisible scars from growing up in a house where love was conditional, and comparison was constant.

A narcissistic parent plants division early. They might play favorites by showering one child with praise while quietly criticizing the other, and then switch roles when it suits them. This creates confusion, jealousy, and a lifelong sense of “never being enough.” Then, the golden child, and the scapegoat dynamic, is born.

The golden child learns to seek validation through pleasing the parent, while the scapegoat becomes the emotional dumping ground, blamed for everything that goes wrong. Neither role is love. Both are manipulation.

Over time, those roles solidify.
As adults, siblings may find it nearly impossible to connect authentically. One may still crave approval from the narcissistic parent, unconsciously siding with them and dismissing the other’s pain. The other may go low or no contact, trying to heal but feeling guilty for breaking the unspoken family rules of silence and loyalty.
The parent, meanwhile, sits at the center, often pretending confusion: “Why can’t you two just get along?” As if they didn’t light the fire themselves.

The saddest part is that, many siblings never realize the root of their disconnection. They see each other as enemies instead of fellow survivors. They replay the same toxic dynamics, not knowing that the real puppeteer is the emotional legacy of narcissistic parenting.

I speak as a person with raw experience, and until someone sees it clearly and breaks the cycle, the dysfunctionality and profound disunity, would echo through generations.
Resentment, rivalry, and emotional distance would be passed down like heirlooms.