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Of course, it's all about the little things – a good laugh, a cozy evening, and a comfortable routine. Simple pleasures, really.

Every year, this question.

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Children. After that... NOTHING

Onegai:
Peace, Love, Respect, Wisdom, Shared Values and Stability.

A lot of men don't know what peace looks like so they think a woman who leaves them to do what they feel like is "peace".

A quiet house isn't always peace, sometimes it's "I've made myself a monster so now my wife and kids disappear once I show up and that silence is deafening".

Respect doesn't mean she never challenges you, she'll do so in love.

Wisdom: see, a man, no SEVERAL MEN, have told me that "the day I didn't listen to my wife, what happened na me suffer am". Biblically, your wife is meant to counsel you, good or bad.

Love: someone's marriage packed up and he began missing his kids but didn't want his wife back (he fought for custody). His kids always looked so happy with his wife in her videos she sent him and they seemed happy (in his eyes) when they visited. When he eventually got custody, he realized his wife was the reason they were happy. Even as he hurt his wife, her love surrounded him and the kids and once she was gone, it was gone. Now he's trying to undo what he did.

Stability: knowing your woman can handle things on her own is vital. Knowing there's someone backing you is vital

keep quiet let men speak

gigabyte13:
Which kind yeye question be this.....
Married for 7 years now, l never do laundry or dishes since then before then.
I fit wash human being if e turn clothes
If l no cook my food , how l wan take chop.
No even mention restaurant, the money wey l go spend for restaurant in a week, my wife fit help me manage am for 3 week.

If l broke now, e sure for me say, my wife go save me, na you no the witch wey you marry

Not everyone can be as lucky as you bro enjoy it while it lasts bro

Nothing

Mariangeles:
A home.
Stability.
Continuity in bloodline.
Sense of purpose.
Motivation to succeed.
Growth.

The list goes on.

All that, you can get, if you marry right.

So when a man is not married, na for tree or pavement hin dey sleep? Aside thay continuity in bloodline which means nothing to someone who's dead and gone, other ones you mentioned are of no significant importance

I don’t even know

If u lucky get good wife, guy u go ball till u perish. Woman wey go treat u like king, if u dey outside to go home go dey hungry u. Women dey, genuine love dey

PheelzAlmighty:
The answer is Nothing

You can argue with your oesophagus

😂😂
You took this thread personal broo😅

gigabyte13:
Which kind yeye question be this.....
Married for 7 years now, l never do laundry or dishes since then before then.
I fit wash human being if e turn clothes
If l no cook my food , how l wan take chop.
No even mention restaurant, the money wey l go spend for restaurant in a week, my wife fit help me manage am for 3 week.

If l broke now, e sure for me say, my wife go save me, na you no the witch wey you marry

You better pray not to go broke. Abi no be woman you are talking about ?

gigabyte13:
Which kind yeye question be this.....
Married for 7 years now, l never do laundry or dishes since then before then.
I fit wash human being if e turn clothes
If l no cook my food , how l wan take chop.
No even mention restaurant, the money wey l go spend for restaurant in a week, my wife fit help me manage am for 3 week.

If l broke now, e sure for me say, my wife go save me, na you no the witch wey you marry

Keep this screen shot alaye

Enjoy it while it lasts
Nd I pray u don't go broke in the future, because na that time u go understand woman

Imagine marrying a struggling lady/man in this present Nigeria..

Omoooo

I can't do marriage with a Nigerian in Nigeria


Me wey my mental health dey important to me

I’ve read through all the comments, and honestly, no one is wrong here. Everyone is just speaking from their own perspective, and that’s completely fair. For me, I see marriage as a social setup that brings fulfillment by basically taming the "alpha" man making him more modest, honest, and respectful in how he treats others, especially women. It’s more about fitting into societal standards than following raw human nature. That’s probably why some top-tier companies actually reserve certain leadership positions for married people; it’s seen as proof that you're well-behaved and responsible. Like it or not, marriage forces you to grow up and face real responsibility. And honestly? Whether a home stays together or breaks ultimately depends on the man, not the woman. But like I said, everyone’s take here is totally valid

Nothing absolutely nothing. Everything you feel you enjoy inside marriage can be well achieve outside marriage.

Carry the load of herself and her family.

Men loose very much in marriage.They feel resentment and trapped because the woman,the partner had a different reasons for wanting marriage.Most women weren't in love and that becomes obvious as you start living together.Most people might disagree but your parents aren't much in love to each other.Also,the resources to provide to keep the marriage working,comes very much from the man and that can be much draining for the most part.The odds are stacked against men in the concept or union called marriage.

kentycom:
I’ve read through all the comments, and honestly, no one is wrong here. Everyone is just speaking from their own perspective, and that’s completely fair. For me, I see marriage as a social setup that brings fulfillment by basically taming the "alpha" man making him more modest, honest, and respectful in how he treats others, especially women. It’s more about fitting into societal standards than following raw human nature. That’s probably why some top-tier companies actually reserve certain leadership positions for married people; it’s seen as proof that you're well-behaved and responsible. Like it or not, marriage forces you to grow up and face real responsibility. And honestly? Whether a home stays together or breaks ultimately depends on the man, not the woman. But like I said, everyone’s take here is totally valid

To answer the question what do men enjoy in marriage. They enjoy to be tamed to be more modest, honest and responsible chikena. That is why some men, cannot totally be tamed, some are still cheating, some are not honest enough and it is affecting the children, while some are not responsible leading to broken homes. If you know that you dont want to be tamed, remain single and enjoy your untamed nature and nothing spoil.

Kobojunkie:
Most men are not forced into marriage or relationships, for that matter. The vast majority of men out there choose for themselves whether or not to enter into marriage, whereas the same cannot be said for women who, to this day, in many parts of the world, are literally forced or sold into marriage. Marriage, for men, has never been compulsory, making it of no need to ask this useless question time and time again.

God said, it's not good for the man to be alone.
Also for this reason, a man must leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh.
It's a divine order for those who want to take it up.

Mariangeles:
Depends on the choice you made.

No, you got it all wrong. Every man in marriage is going through one heeeel of problem. There's this guy that is husband to my cousin, the guy was a banker before he married her, the girl works with one govt agency; they got kids now; you can never see the guy laugh or smile again. He wash and even wash bra and pants join, though nor my business and concern; the girl just dey, to sweep house na big problem to her. You can never see both of them standing together to take a picture even during the time of her wife's birthday. I don't want to go far. And you say it depends on the choice.. A Jezebel that was Sarah before marriage and after marriage the real Nathalia start displaying herself and there was no red flags seen during the courtship. All men are going through one heeeel and some use smile, football, outings and beer to cover it up while some don't know how it all started.

ohosi4real:
Sex and joy of children that what made a marriage

Is that not the most basic for even lower animals?
To you,it is akin to male rabbits nah. Smh

Just family-man bragging rights.

Starz825:
Imagine marrying a struggling lady/man in this present Nigeria..

Omoooo

I can't do marriage to a Nigerian in Nigeria


Me wey my mental health dey important to me

That's a good choice

Don't let me hear anybody saying sex here.

Because it is meant for both parties and both parties enjoy it. Even the women enjoys it the most.
Men benefit nothing, not even their children.
That's how life is wired

No enjoyment make no body lie give you

kentycom:
I’ve read through all the comments, and honestly, no one is wrong here. Everyone is just speaking from their own perspective, and that’s completely fair. For me, I see marriage as a social setup that brings fulfillment by basically taming the "alpha" man making him more modest, honest, and respectful in how he treats others, especially women. It’s more about fitting into societal standards than following raw human nature. That’s probably why some top-tier companies actually reserve certain leadership positions for married people; it’s seen as proof that you're well-behaved and responsible. Like it or not, marriage forces you to grow up and face real responsibility. And honestly? Whether a home stays together or breaks ultimately depends on the man, not the woman. But like I said, everyone’s take here is totally valid

most people are not answering the questions here, same with you and others. The question is what do men enjoy in marriage. Straight forward question.
Not beating about the bush

*Troubles, headache, thinking, unrest, struggling and death at the end.

Nothing.

Makes me wonder why they marry, remarry and covet multiple wives. Because they gain nothing.

Nothing ooo.
Absolutely nothing.