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L1TTLE:
Theres this girl i am getting along with, we had a connection so i thought cuz everything was easy, she likes talking to me, she gave me her number without me asking for it, we got along very easily like I've known her for long, i had the feeling that things are getting serious so i asked her if she's single before i waste my time, lo and behold she's not, i then asked her whats the purpose of all this then? She then shamelessly said we can be besties, i told her point blank with disgust that I don't need a bestie, someone she can be billing while her boyfriend stays wherever he is, boyfriend duties but you're the besty, naso this girl vex and started saying everything has changed simply because she told me she's in a relationship, what was once a delightful interaction is now resentment, we don't talk again sef.

WantsandMore:
chill, you're too hot headed, you should have played her game up until she reveals her true intentions, for e.g.when she suggested you become besties, you should have playfully asked "what type of besties ?" Followed by "the one you are been taking care off or the one you are taking care of her?" Make sure to settle for the one you are been taking care of, when she uploads cute friends or introduced you to one, focus on those. But then sometimes rage is good.

L1TTLE:
Awesome, waste my time on games that'll lead nowhere while getting used the whole time, you don consider wetin I go loose playing the yeye games.

L1TTLE:
Theres this girl i am getting along with, we had a connection so I thought cuz everything was easy, she likes talking to me, she gave me her number without me asking for it, we got along very easily like I've known her for long.

I had the feeling that things are getting serious so I i asked her if she's single before I waste my time, lo and behold she's not, I then asked her what's the purpose of all this then? She then shamelessly said we can be besties, I i told her point blank with disgust that I don't need a bestie, someone she can be billing while her boyfriend stays wherever he is, boyfriend duties but you're the besty, naso this girl vex and started saying everything has changed simply because she told me she's in a relationship.

What was once a delightful interaction is now resentment, we don't talk again sef.

L1TTLE:
Theres this girl i am getting along with, we had a connection so I thought cuz everything was easy, she likes talking to me, she gave me her number without me asking for it, we got along very easily like I've known her for long.

I had the feeling that things are getting serious so I i asked her if she's single before I waste my time, lo and behold she's not, I then asked her what's the purpose of all this then? She then shamelessly said we can be besties, I i told her point blank with disgust that I don't need a bestie, someone she can be billing while her boyfriend stays wherever he is, boyfriend duties but you're the besty, naso this girl vex and started saying everything has changed simply because she told me she's in a relationship.

What was once a delightful interaction is now resentment, we don't talk again sef.

Precious201010:
So what exactly is Ur problem? Why are u wailing uncomfortably?..

At least she was honest with you, many girl won't even tell you that they are in a relationship?. ... Every friendship must not be sexual relationships na...

And as for billings, no girl will put a gun on Ur head to give her money.... I give when it's convenient for me.

Precious201010:
So what exactly is Ur problem? Why are u wailing uncomfortably?..

At least she was honest with you, many girl won't even tell you that they are in a relationship?. ... Every friendship must not be sexual relationships na...

And as for billings, no girl will put a gun on Ur head to give her money.... I give when it's convenient for me.

Diamond098454:
Can't you express yourself without insult? You don't have to be toxic everytime
Is not good for your health. Enjoy your weekend

spiceadole:
If you are the bestie, you can still have sex with her na
.so why the annoyance ? Or are women no longer sleeping with their besties?

indigenous234:
Men are becoming boys and boys becoming babies nowadays. Who hear as you dey talk go think say you be wan just marry the girl asap. If you’re a good baller, you’d have known She told you to wait your potential turn. If you’re not a baller at all, you probably just lost a potentially good friend. Either way, you lost out.

L1TTLE:
thanks, i figured out she's looking for who to use from the onset, didn't see why she got upset because i refused her offer.

Imindmybusiness:
Unless you are in your 30s, I will say you did the right thing but if you are an undergraduate or still in your early 20s, I will not forgive you for missing a golden opportunity. Boyfriend has responsibilities but a bestie that is a good strategist understands the fact that he has no single responsibility and still has the master key to the strait of hormuz.

CocaineLord:
You dy game
Dear brother,

You think she'll open the strait of hormuz for free? 🤣🤣🤣 She'll definitely be billing him once in a while.

The billing I fear the most is Iphone,Birthday or Wig Billing.....Other stuffs like Data,Food,Groceries etc I can do it effortlessly but you see those Birthdays,Wigs or New Phones billing are Brazyyyyyyyyy 😂😂😂😂😂

indigenous234:
Men are becoming boys and boys becoming babies nowadays. Who hear as you dey talk go think say you be wan just marry the girl asap. If you’re a good baller, you’d have known She told you to wait your potential turn. If you’re not a baller at all, you probably just lost a potentially good friend. Either way, you lost out.

Diamond098454:
You would have told her how you feel , you want her as your girlfriend.

Telling you she's in a relationship and want you as her bestie means she wants to have a serious conversation with you.

L1TTLE:
Theres this girl i am getting along with, we had a connection so I thought cuz everything was easy, she likes talking to me, she gave me her number without me asking for it, we got along very easily like I've known her for long.

I had the feeling that things are getting serious so I i asked her if she's single before I waste my time, lo and behold she's not, I then asked her what's the purpose of all this then? She then shamelessly said we can be besties, I i told her point blank with disgust that I don't need a bestie, someone she can be billing while her boyfriend stays wherever he is, boyfriend duties but you're the besty, naso this girl vex and started saying everything has changed simply because she told me she's in a relationship.

What was once a delightful interaction is now resentment, we don't talk again sef.

essentialone:
That one stings. You felt the connection, thought it was mutual, then the rug pull came.

What happened here is classic: she liked the attention and easy vibe, but wasn’t offering anything back. The second you asked “what’s the point?”, she downgraded you to “bestie” — which in that context usually means: emotional labor + billing rights, zero relationship responsibility. And you called it out.

Her getting vexed isn’t because you misunderstood. It’s because the plan didn’t work. Things changed _for her_ when you set a boundary. For you, things just got clearer.

You didn’t lose a relationship — you avoided becoming the “best friend” funding the boyfriend’s absence. The resentment you feel now? That’s your brain catching up to the fact that the easy connection was one-sided from the jump.

ReacherSaidNoth come and vibrate to this also.

ReacherSaidNoth:
It's clear to see you have no life outside of here, your AI spamming is a cry for attention and validation. I almost feel sorry for you, what a waste

Bendeco02:
Everything is not about sex

Did the op told you he is sex starve ?

He is a discipline guy that knows what he want.

Predictor3:
E be like say the girl bill am but no let am near the strait of Hormuz.

L1TTLE:
Theres this girl i am getting along with, we had a connection so I thought cuz everything was easy, she likes talking to me, she gave me her number without me asking for it, we got along very easily like I've known her for long.

I had the feeling that things are getting serious so I i asked her if she's single before I waste my time, lo and behold she's not, I then asked her what's the purpose of all this then? She then shamelessly said we can be besties, I i told her point blank with disgust that I don't need a bestie, someone she can be billing while her boyfriend stays wherever he is, boyfriend duties but you're the besty, naso this girl vex and started saying everything has changed simply because she told me she's in a relationship.

What was once a delightful interaction is now resentment, we don't talk again sef.

spiceadole:
He has stated that the girl bill am.
Wetin dey pain am be say she no gree open towtow

spiceadole:
When did having sex start making men indiscipline?

And yes! It's sex that men need from women.
Nothing else.
Many men on this platform attest to it