How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This - Romance (2)

How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This - Romance (2) - Nairaland

Nairaland Forum › Nairaland General › Romance › How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This (26382 Views)

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by NOETHNICITY(m): 2:13pm On Jun 10

Blizzy300:
Hey guys I need advise

I'm going through adult life relationships crisis

For the first time in life I'm double dating

First one - Success insanely cute, chocolate, tall with killer slim fit shape, smart, reads alot of books, does not do tiktok understands my jokes intelligent

Redflag: she's very quiet and I have not seen what's she's like when she's angry.

She's really into me

Second one - Mmasi, very fair with good face card, always smiling, a cheerful giver, (the first day we met, she paid the bill)
Gists alot

She has big bunda ( like that type that makes you turn twice)

Sadly She shakes it on Tiktok 😞(not the seductive type) but still.

At first I wanted to run because she was given me 1 word responses but when she saw I drew back she added fire.

That's the period success came in

Now I'm in the middle of this quagmire

I want the two but unfortunately the society frowns at.

What do I do at these point.

Go for success. She will give you peace of mind. I know why.

1 Like

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Dancebreaker: 2:13pm On Jun 10

SmartMaster001:
Go for the one who respects you and gives you peace of mind.

E get why.

No long story. All that ebony or fair skin, quiet or gist-loving type, na just surface, QED.

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Blizzy300(op): 2:14pm On Jun 10

Emeskhalifa:
You want the two?

How much is in your bank account if I may ask?

People go use their own hand cause wahala for themselves

Doesn't matter.

They say 2 heads are better than 1

Imagine 3 heads grin

1 Like

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Walz001: 2:15pm On Jun 10

Women are not shoes or cloths
They are human that is tag with change
We talk from experience but you have the reality with you both ladies
So go for what makes yiu happy
Life is a gift so enjoy it while it last
And lastly try to get money or business to support them if tou dont want to see the other aide of weemen

1 Like

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Blizzy300(op): 2:16pm On Jun 10

tritt:
Go hustle abeg no dey worry us, cos wetin we dey face for this regime no be child's play.

Everytime "go hustle, go hustle"

But still the GDP is not improving

We can actually make money and still discuss other aspect of life

3 Likes

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Dididrumz(m): 2:17pm On Jun 10

Blizzy300:
Hey guys I need advise

I'm going through adult life relationships crisis

For the first time in life I'm double dating

First one - Success insanely cute, chocolate, tall with killer slim fit shape, smart, reads alot of books, does not do tiktok understands my jokes intelligent

Redflag: she's very quiet and I have not seen what's she's like when she's angry.

She's really into me

Second one - Mmasi, very fair with good face card, always smiling, a cheerful giver, (the first day we met, she paid the bill)
Gists alot

She has big bunda ( like that type that makes you turn twice)

Sadly She shakes it on Tiktok 😞(not the seductive type) but still.

At first I wanted to run because she was given me 1 word responses but when she saw I drew back she added fire.

That's the period success came in

Now I'm in the middle of this quagmire

I want the two but unfortunately the society frowns at.

What do I do at these point.

Be a man, package the two bannies.
F**ck society.

2 Likes

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by bjfred: 2:18pm On Jun 10

First, I hear you. Double dating feels like “soft life” at first... until your brain starts doing maths at 2am. You’re not a villain for feeling attracted to two people. You’re just human. The crisis starts when you know _they_ don’t know about each other.

*1. Let’s call the red flags by name*
*Success:* Quiet + you’ve never seen her angry = mystery, not a red flag yet. But “never seen angry” also means “never seen how she handles conflict”. That’s the real test of relationships. Books + no TikTok = deep, but quiet people can also bottle stuff till it explodes.

*Mmasi:* Cheerful giver + big energy = fun, light, easy. But TikTok shaking + 1-word replies at start = she was testing if you’ll chase. Now she’s adding fire because competition came. Question: Is she into _you_, or into _winning you_?

Both have pros/cons. No perfect woman exists. The question is: which “flaw” can you live with for 5 years?

*2. The hard truth about “I want the two”*
Society frowns for a reason: 3 people can’t build 1 relationship. Someone will get hurt. Right now it’s fun because it’s secret + new. But when Success finds out, or Mmasi sees her TikTok duet with another guy, or both demand “where are we going?”... that’s when the crisis becomes a war.

You can’t marry two. You can’t build trust with two. You’ll end up with zero. I’ve seen this movie too many times.

*3. 3 questions to ask yourself tonight, alone:*
1. *If I must introduce one to my family tomorrow, who comes to mind first?* That first name = your gut already chose.
2. *Who do I respect more when I’m stressed, broke, or sick?* Cute face + bunda is 10pm energy. Character is 3am fever energy.
3. *Am I dating them, or dating the idea of “not missing out”?* FOMO makes us collect people like sneakers.

*4. What to do next - 2 options, no middle ground:*

*Option A: Choose and commit*
Spend 2 weeks with just one. Delete the other’s number for 14 days. No “let me keep both as options”. At end of 2 weeks your heart will be clear. Then end things with the other one _kindly but firmly_. “You deserve someone who can give you 100%, and right now I can’t. I respect you too much to lie.” Yes it’ll hurt. But less than a scandal later.

Option B: Stay single for 3 months*
Tell both: “I like you, but I’m not ready to date anyone properly. I need to sort my head.” If they’re real, they’ll wait or move on. If they leave, they were only here for the chase. Either way, you win clarity.

Option C does not exist:* “Manage both secretly”. That’s borrowing trouble with interest.

Bro, “adult life crisis” is just code for “time to grow up”. The man you want to become in 5 years won’t be proud of playing two women. He’ll be proud of choosing with courage.

So tell me honestly: If Success and Mmasi swapped faces/bodies, but kept their character... who would you pick then? Character over packaging.

4 Likes 1 Share

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Blizzy300(op): 2:20pm On Jun 10

McLizbae:
Success seem like my type. Well, I cannot even double date. I just cannot fit! I am too busy and careless for that venture.

Bro same here, never planned for it.

If I met success first, I would have been off the market by now.

Just that there's this type of joy mmasi brought to my life.

2 Likes

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by kimjessey2019: 2:22pm On Jun 10

Too much weak men nowadays. Ordinary two girls you can't control and bang the hell of them.

1 Like

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Lovit(m): 2:23pm On Jun 10

choose the first one if you want it to end in marriage

if you just want to date and pass later, choose the fair second one

I am married and I can tell what both will be to you in the long run

1 Like

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Exceed15: 2:23pm On Jun 10

I just dey laugh you

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Blizzy300(op): 2:23pm On Jun 10

Teeneyo:
Las las

Na gen z full dis nairaland..

Bro when you guys use the term "Gen Z" do you guys mean it in a derogatory way or something else?

Please I will love it if you can answer

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by tritt(m): 2:24pm On Jun 10

So na me wan improve GDP for you or this country?

Blizzy300:
Everytime "go hustle, go hustle"

But still the GDP is not improving

We can actually make money and still discuss other aspect of life

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by meetmohammed(m): 2:24pm On Jun 10

Blizzy300:
Hey guys I need advise

I'm going through adult life relationships crisis

For the first time in life I'm double dating

First one - Success insanely cute, chocolate, tall with killer slim fit shape, smart, reads alot of books, does not do tiktok understands my jokes intelligent

Redflag: she's very quiet and I have not seen what's she's like when she's angry.

She's really into me

Second one - Mmasi, very fair with good face card, always smiling, a cheerful giver, (the first day we met, she paid the bill)
Gists alot

She has big bunda ( like that type that makes you turn twice)

Sadly She shakes it on Tiktok 😞(not the seductive type) but still.

At first I wanted to run because she was given me 1 word responses but when she saw I drew back she added fire.

That's the period success came in

Now I'm in the middle of this quagmire

I want the two but unfortunately the society frowns at.

What do I do at these point.

give them 2000k each no tell them anything lock-up make wuna dey gist normal gist anyone wey mentions business withe the money hold am na wife material she can bring something to the table buh you see that wan we dey tell you say i went to market bought hand bag,new hair,new cloath, or i borrow my parent out it or sent to my kidbro that in school or not filling fine/swallor spoon or kpomo...... omo i repeat drop her nor matter how she fine grin

......

make i no just suspect person wey dey shake naysh for truetalk ahbi na tukutalk...
i forget say javis and yuruba boi meet for tukutalk sha cheesy

........

2 Likes

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Blizzy300(op): 2:25pm On Jun 10

Walz001:
Women are not shoes or cloths
They are human that is tag with change
We talk from experience but you have the reality with you both ladies
So go for what makes yiu happy
Life is a gift so enjoy it while it last
And lastly try to get money or business to support them if tou dont want to see the other aide of weemen

This is an elderly advice

Thank you

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by ashawopikin(m): 2:26pm On Jun 10

Screw society, society has enough problems as it is. Date both if possible . In betting terms, its called both teams to score

1 Like

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by ukfootwear: 2:27pm On Jun 10

I’ll advise you to choose peace and remember who was there for you

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Fiscus105(m): 2:28pm On Jun 10

Blizzy300:
Hey guys I need advise

I'm going through adult life relationships crisis

For the first time in life I'm double dating

First one - Success insanely cute, chocolate, tall with killer slim fit shape, smart, reads alot of books, does not do tiktok understands my jokes intelligent

Redflag: she's very quiet and I have not seen what's she's like when she's angry.

She's really into me

Second one - Mmasi, very fair with good face card, always smiling, a cheerful giver, (the first day we met, she paid the bill)
Gists alot

She has big bunda ( like that type that makes you turn twice)

Sadly She shakes it on Tiktok 😞(not the seductive type) but still.

At first I wanted to run because she was given me 1 word responses but when she saw I drew back she added fire.

That's the period success came in

Now I'm in the middle of this quagmire

I want the two but unfortunately the society frowns at.

What do I do at these point.

Two of them, I hope, you won't come back here to regret marrying either of them, most especially if you don't have enoumous financially resource to take care of her.
Beautiful ladies are extremely difficult to tame in other for you to be having access to their holes ALONE, sooooo many admirers disturbing, and definitely they will fall for one or two.
DON'T FORGET THE WAY LOVE IS SPARKLING CURRENTLY, IT WON'T BE AS SUCH AFTER 10 YEARS OF MARRIAGE

If you want to enjoy your woman maximally, after good character, go for a lady who is in between "a little above average ------- just a little below average

2 Likes

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by LofP(m): 2:30pm On Jun 10

Success is it for me, if I were you. But I am not you, so pick Mmasi.

1 Like

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Blizzy300(op): 2:32pm On Jun 10

bjfred:
First, I hear you. Double dating feels like “soft life” at first... until your brain starts doing maths at 2am. You’re not a villain for feeling attracted to two people. You’re just human. The crisis starts when you know _they_ don’t know about each other.

*1. Let’s call the red flags by name*
*Success:* Quiet + you’ve never seen her angry = mystery, not a red flag yet. But “never seen angry” also means “never seen how she handles conflict”. That’s the real test of relationships. Books + no TikTok = deep, but quiet people can also bottle stuff till it explodes.

*Mmasi:* Cheerful giver + big energy = fun, light, easy. But TikTok shaking + 1-word replies at start = she was testing if you’ll chase. Now she’s adding fire because competition came. Question: Is she into _you_, or into _winning you_?

Both have pros/cons. No perfect woman exists. The question is: which “flaw” can you live with for 5 years?

*2. The hard truth about “I want the two”*
Society frowns for a reason: 3 people can’t build 1 relationship. Someone will get hurt. Right now it’s fun because it’s secret + new. But when Success finds out, or Mmasi sees her TikTok duet with another guy, or both demand “where are we going?”... that’s when the crisis becomes a war.

You can’t marry two. You can’t build trust with two. You’ll end up with zero. I’ve seen this movie too many times.

*3. 3 questions to ask yourself tonight, alone:*
1. *If I must introduce one to my family tomorrow, who comes to mind first?* That first name = your gut already chose.
2. *Who do I respect more when I’m stressed, broke, or sick?* Cute face + bunda is 10pm energy. Character is 3am fever energy.
3. *Am I dating them, or dating the idea of “not missing out”?* FOMO makes us collect people like sneakers.

*4. What to do next - 2 options, no middle ground:*

*Option A: Choose and commit*
Spend 2 weeks with just one. Delete the other’s number for 14 days. No “let me keep both as options”. At end of 2 weeks your heart will be clear. Then end things with the other one _kindly but firmly_. “You deserve someone who can give you 100%, and right now I can’t. I respect you too much to lie.” Yes it’ll hurt. But less than a scandal later.

Option B: Stay single for 3 months*
Tell both: “I like you, but I’m not ready to date anyone properly. I need to sort my head.” If they’re real, they’ll wait or move on. If they leave, they were only here for the chase. Either way, you win clarity.

Option C does not exist:* “Manage both secretly”. That’s borrowing trouble with interest.

Bro, “adult life crisis” is just code for “time to grow up”. The man you want to become in 5 years won’t be proud of playing two women. He’ll be proud of choosing with courage.

So tell me honestly: If Success and Mmasi swapped faces/bodies, but kept their character... who would you pick then? Character over packaging.

Why do you write like chatgpt with so much human touch?

Thank you for the options you provided, it gave me a good idea on what to do next

Well if they swap faces, I will still go for the 2

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Mitsurugi(m): 2:32pm On Jun 10

jubrilELsudan:
CHOOSE THE ONE THAT CAN FORK YOU VERY WELL

😂😂😂😂😂

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Blizzy300(op): 2:33pm On Jun 10

Lovit:
choose the first one if you want it to end in marriage

if you just want to date and pass later, choose the fair second one

I am married and I can tell what both will be to you in the long run

Please tell me

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Mitsurugi(m): 2:34pm On Jun 10

Blizzy300:
Why do you write like chatgpt with so much human touch?

Thank you for the options you provided, it gave me a good idea on what to do next

Well if they swap faces, I will still go for the 2

Because it's Chat GPT. The *** is a giveaway 😂😂😂

1 Like

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Basic123: 2:35pm On Jun 10

Blizzy300:
Hey guys I need advise

I'm going through adult life relationships crisis

For the first time in life I'm double dating

First one - Success insanely cute, chocolate, tall with killer slim fit shape, smart, reads alot of books, does not do tiktok understands my jokes intelligent

Redflag: she's very quiet and I have not seen what's she's like when she's angry.

She's really into me

Second one - Mmasi, very fair with good face card, always smiling, a cheerful giver, (the first day we met, she paid the bill)
Gists alot

She has big bunda ( like that type that makes you turn twice)

Sadly She shakes it on Tiktok 😞(not the seductive type) but still.

At first I wanted to run because she was given me 1 word responses but when she saw I drew back she added fire.

That's the period success came in

Now I'm in the middle of this quagmire

I want the two but unfortunately the society frowns at.

What do I do at these point.

Society kọ society ni
Na european society frown at it.
If you are stinkinly rich,the two of them will not mind marrying you and the society with shot the hell up

2 Likes

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by RillJ(m): 2:35pm On Jun 10

Blizzy300:
Bro, in that aspect, I meant the two will not gree to date me at once.

As for me am down for it

You seeking for their consent to double date?

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Blizzy300(op): 2:36pm On Jun 10

meetmohammed:
give them 2000k each no tell them anything lock-up make wuna dey gist normal gist anyone wey mentions business withe the money hold am na wife material she can bring something to the table buh you see that wan we dey tell you say i went to market bought hand bag,new hair,new cloath, or i borrow my parent out it or sent to my kidbro that in school or not filling fine/swallor spoon or kpomo...... omo i repeat drop her nor matter how she fine ......

make i no just suspect person wey dey shake naysh for truetalk ahbi na tukutalk...
i forget say javis and yuruba boi meet for tukutalk sha ........

Good idea

But I already know who will discuss business and who will ball the money grin

1 Like

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by Jayhome24: 2:37pm On Jun 10

See wetin pikin wey pesin born dey asked? So make I leave my business dey advise you who to choose in oubke dating ba? Buhari was right calling fellow like you lazy youth.

Re: How Do You Guys Handle Stuffs Like This by EDUECO(m): 2:38pm On Jun 10

Blizzy300:
Hey guys I need advise

I'm going through adult life relationships crisis

For the first time in life I'm double dating

First one - Success insanely cute, chocolate, tall with killer slim fit shape, smart, reads alot of books, does not do tiktok understands my jokes intelligent

Redflag: she's very quiet and I have not seen what's she's like when she's angry.

She's really into me

Second one - Mmasi, very fair with good face card, always smiling, a cheerful giver, (the first day we met, she paid the bill)
Gists alot

She has big bunda ( like that type that makes you turn twice)

Sadly She shakes it on Tiktok 😞(not the seductive type) but still.

At first I wanted to run because she was given me 1 word responses but when she saw I drew back she added fire.

That's the period success came in

Now I'm in the middle of this quagmire

I want the two but unfortunately the society frowns at.

What do I do at these point.

Go for the first!

The first one will give your peace of mind.Nothing beats ladies who read a lot.

Never you underestimate readers; because most readers are problem solvers and leaders.

1 Like