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Why this video go online ?

He is right.
Don't visit people unannounced.
Relationship no be marriage

Konjiboii:
Not going to lie I have done this before, at the time I was financially down and needed space to just reason my life, having babe at that time was financially draining, I was managing my little change eating beans and drinking garri, didn't need a babe that will insist on sharwama and parfait and when I say I don't have the funds she will act like I am less of a man, even though she might not say I will see myself as a lesser man. If only women know what men deal with mentally ehn. Relationship no mean say everyday go dey rosy.

bros I'm on this table now with a lady I was considering getting married to. I have spent over 200k on her within about 7 months of dating her. when I was down, she could not spare me even 1k. This act made me to distance myself from her for about 4months now no communication. I am not sure that marriage will ever take place sef.

Mariangeles:
Don't try that with a woman you're not willing to lose.

men love to be respected and a man you as a woman cannot obey is not respected by you. Such a woman starts losing value in that man's eyes and will not be missed when she leaves. Character is the beauty of a woman who wants to settle down with a man. You can see the man is willing to let her go of course.

Many persons have this attitude of telling them before visiting, even the guy stated that he has told theady several times. However, I cannot send my lady whenever she comes around.

HenryStarlife:
This doesn’t look like a man in the first place, that’s just an unemployed misogynist.

His house, his rules.

decatalyst:
It may sound strange and weird, but I understand him.

I remember when I was in school, my gf then would just leave school and Come to my place, from Ede. One time I didn't let her in...I told her to just go to their home. Because I had early told her I don't like surprises.

No be me you go come put for trouble...If anything happened, nah me dem go dey ask questions.

Let me be the one to invite you, if anything goes wrong, I will take full responsibility because it was my decision.

Bros you were right with your decision, if na first time offence that can be forgiven. But if either party in a relationship has expressed their opinion about unannounced visits, that opinion should be respected. In this day and age of mobile phone, communication should not be an issue.

udeh3:
If you're not ready for relationship, just remain single. I don't understand the privacy issue for someone you're planning future with

This is a major red flag for me

She had been preinformed that she should not visit unannounced by her boyfriend but as per say she be woman na, she refuse to comply. She got served!!

brain54:
I'm a man and personally if I block a girl I'm dating from entering my home...


It means I do not love or value her. I don't even respect her. Simple.



There is a way I would convey my feelings to her if I'm unsatisfied about her sudden appearance. They are ways to handle such... respectfully.


People think differently I agree. But if I stand at my door and prevent you from entering just know that it's time for you to move on even if I haven't told you so orally.


It's even difficult for me to threat someone I'm not dating that way!

This can be very painful between two lovers who exhibit trust with one another.Hmm,l just feel European culture is gradually entering Africa continent unannounced.l used to have an ex police German officer as a friend in those days in Germany who taught me this hard lesson.This was man to man oo.! He had said l should come and visit him tomorrow by 3Pm. So,the following day,when it was 12pm,l was doing nothing,l said let me just go and play with my friend.Alas l got there by 1pm, began knocking,he wouldn't open while l was in the cold,"Mr Baumann open, please?" He refused.To make the matter worst l saw him directly looking at me without any response,He was giving me a sign that signifying may be, lam crazy.l have to go back home in anger.When it was 3pm l went back to know why? This time around he was at the door waiting,he held me,kissed me and told me not to be crazy again.A serious lesson was learned.Never you visit anyone against their will,not even your father / mother, daughter or son,talkless of your siblings or spouse to be,they have their privacies.

Jman06:
That guy does not love the girl! She's clearly the one forcing herself on him. No guy in love with his woman would treat her like that. In fact, if the guy was inlove with her, he'll be very happy to see her all the time.

But I'm sure that even with this sort of disgrace the guy meted out to her, she'd still continue throwing herself at him and facing all manner of humiliation and when he's done using her for sex and dumps her, she'll come to social media to tell us that men are scum.

Boundaries are vital.

It does not mean that she couldn't have been coming from another guy's house.

Love is overrated and very fickle. Basic rules and responsibilities are more important these days.

How are you sure she's not using him for sex?

I don't go to anybody's house without informing them first. No matter how close.

It's a matter of self-respect.

Dancebreaker:
Boundaries are vital.

It does not mean that she couldn't have been coming from another guy's house.

Love is overrated and very fickle. Basic rules and responsibilities are more important these days.

How are you sure she's not using him for sex?

I don't go to anybody's house without informing them first. No matter how close.

It's a matter of self-respect.

Gbam!! I have visited friends unannounced in the past and I'd be offended if I get turned away the first time, but if anyone specifically states that they would not entertain unannounced visits then their decision should be respected.

Diamond098454:
This is disrespectful .

Even with all this red flag she will still remain in that relationship.

That's women for you, them go talk say them like man wey go give them peace of mind, but there action says another thing.

starpower:
he repeatedly said, he had caution her multiple times, part of relationship is understanding boundaries. I actually think she owes him the dignity of calling him as requested.

I don't believe this. There's no need for you to be jumpy if your ways are right and you truly love her.

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=139683606]

“I have the right to my privacy” — Man says as he refuses girlfriend entry for showing up unannounced pic.twitter.com/eWmUwRisjO

— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) June 11, 2026

hope he's not among those guys that requires free access to his his girlfriend's phone too?

why go to a mans house without informing him, are you the one paying his house rent?

O this generation!

Na man de visit women or na woman de visit man.
The African I know: a woman must not soil her pride and value. Please women, preserve it.

O this generation!

Na man de visit women or na woman de visit man.
The African I know: a woman must not soil her pride, value and reputation. Please women, preserve it for you to be honored and respected.

Him don see her finish, no mind the werey forming alpha male.

MarketDispatch:
How can you give someone spare key to you apartment and still be telling the person to call if you are home? What is the purpose of spare key? Why will I have spare key and be calling?

That is not for you to decide. He may choose to give her his spare key so she can access the apartment when he's not around but only when he has authorised such a visit. Common sense.

SmartyPants:
That is not for you to decide. He may choose to give her his spare key so she can access the apartment when he's not around but only when he has authorised such a visit. Common sense.

Giving someone key to your apartment doesn't mean the person can come to your house without informing you

brain54:
That man doesn't love, respect or value that woman...


If I'm that woman that's the last time I will step my foot in his place.


I'd do same as a man. How can I pay you a surprise visit and you begin to quote law and constitution. I would leave without even saying anything but you would beg me to come again!

Don't come to my house unannounced, be it a man or woman, wether we are not dating or not... It's rude, only people with intentions do that.

Can an unemployed fellow be able to rent a flat and furnish it? Secondly, you need to visit your eye clinic for an eye examination because from your comment, it clearly shows that you are not seeing properly.

HenryStarlife:
This doesn’t look like a man in the first place, that’s just an unemployed misogynist.

I'm in support of the man's action towards the lady because he has already set his rules and he duly informed her of his rules as it concerns visitation.
And according to the man, this is not the first time this is happening. So the lady is at fault and that is my personal opinion on this issue. Some people don't like surprise visits and I happen to fall into that category.

Oshin56:
Giving someone key to your apartment doesn't mean the person can come to your house without informing you

Gbam!!

MarketDispatch:
How can you give someone spare key to you apartment and still be telling the person to call if you are home? What is the purpose of spare key? Why will I have spare key and be calling?

What exactly is wrong with calling to inform someone you will be coming?

It won't take more than 2 minutes of your life, that's unless you have some ulterior motive.

And spare keys are for the time when you might not be at home to welcome them and not a cache blank to do as you please.

EBEk101:
Him don see her finish, no mind the werey forming alpha male.

See her finish because he already pre informed her not to visit without informing him and she decided to do it anyway?

She's insecure and has ulterior motives and should get out.

SmartyPants:
That is not for you to decide. He may choose to give her his spare key so she can access the apartment when he's not around but only when he has authorised such a visit. Common sense.

Exactly, don't mind them.

Oshin56:
Giving someone key to your apartment doesn't mean the person can come to your house without informing you

Gbam!

Maybe baba keep another babe for inside house

The ladies knows, but they like toxic relationship

brain54:
I'm a man and personally if I block a girl I'm dating from entering my home...


It means I do not love or value her. I don't even respect her. Simple.



There is a way I would convey my feelings to her if I'm unsatisfied about her sudden appearance. They are ways to handle such... respectfully.


People think differently I agree. But if I stand at my door and prevent you from entering just know that it's time for you to move on even if I haven't told you so orally.


It's even difficult for me to threat someone I'm not dating that way!

Boundaries must be set and respected in relationships.

brain54:
That man doesn't love, respect or value that woman...


If I'm that woman that's the last time I will step my foot in his place.


I'd do same as a man. How can I pay you a surprise visit and you begin to quote law and constitution. I would leave without even saying anything but you would beg me to come again!