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supereagle:
Boundaries must be set and respected in relationships.

Boundaries must be set no doubt...


I'm more concerned about the way the guy reacted which I said he could have handled better!

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“I have the right to my privacy” — Man says as he refuses girlfriend entry for showing up unannounced pic.twitter.com/eWmUwRisjO

— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) June 11, 2026

problem Mr. boyfriend..just remember you are the one that set up this rule.

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“I have the right to my privacy” — Man says as he refuses girlfriend entry for showing up unannounced pic.twitter.com/eWmUwRisjO

— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) June 11, 2026

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HenryStarlife:
This doesn’t look like a man in the first place, that’s just an unemployed misogynist.

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Lazy youth, not everyone is jobless like you

brain54:
That man doesn't love, respect or value that woman...


If I'm that woman that's the last time I will step my foot in his place.


I'd do same as a man. How can I pay you a surprise visit and you begin to quote law and constitution. I would leave without even saying anything but you would beg me to come again!

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Lazy youth, wait until you are man enough to ask a woman out

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“I have the right to my privacy” — Man says as he refuses girlfriend entry for showing up unannounced pic.twitter.com/eWmUwRisjO

— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) June 11, 2026

one in this world that truly loves a person or their company around them will ever turn them back from surprise visits, in a relationship or not. Red flag is that the guy might not love her company or he is tired of her, this shouldn't have been in the public space though. Another babe might visit unannounced & you will see him laughing with joy & shaking like a jelly fish. Da ti e mo (know who luv you)

DarkJeddi:
See her finish because he already pre informed her not to visit without informing him and she decided to do it anyway?

She's insecure and has ulterior motives and should get out.

From the beginning of their relationship I can tell you for free he always wanted her close in the said house, But now he’s pulling back and hiding behind the word privacy. From the look of, it feels less like a boundary and more like someone who’s getting tired of the relationship. When a partner suddenly starts asking for unusual levels of privacy in a committed relationship, it means something deeper is going on.

And secondly why even record it for the world to see ?
That act alone is very childish.

MarketDispatch:
How can you give someone spare key to you apartment and still be telling the person to call if you are home? What is the purpose of spare key? Why will I have spare key and be calling?

U dey mind d idiotaa

I'm surprised men here are saying the guy was wrong. Look, in dating, there's a place for privacy. Who says because we are dating, tge we are automatically compatible?
I hundred percent agree with the guy that he be informed vrior to visits. Not because he's cheating, but people fail to understand that others have the right to thier privacies.

She does not not even sound respectful even after several warnings. If you think he's cheating on you, why are you still seeing him? Your even given the opportunity to search and you went ahead.. Ishiadiginma..!
It's not just about love, it's also about respect and honor.

When love grows dry....

On the other hand, if this isn't a Content but a real life event, this girl should sue the life out of this guy for uploading the video without censoring her face.
His façe looks like yesterday ogi abi akamu

I cant stand people who feel entitiled to overstep their partners boundaries.

Being in a relationship or marriage doesnt mean ur partner loses all their rights to their boundries even when they ask for it with good reason. Disrespecting ur partners boundries only confirms u dont deserve access to their space.

decatalyst:
It may sound strange and weird, but I understand him.

I remember when I was in school, my gf then would just leave school and Come to my place, from Ede. One time I didn't let her in...I told her to just go to their home. Because I had early told her I don't like surprises.

No be me you go come put for trouble...If anything happened, nah me dem go dey ask questions.

Let me be the one to invite you, if anything goes wrong, I will take full responsibility because it was my decision.

The ones wey she dey come and you dey allow her in, if anything happen dem no go ask you questions?

SmartMaster001:
That's own standard. Whatever rocks his boat.
But Oga see how you dey peep for window as she dey go?? I no wan hear say you regret losing a good woman if she decides to end the relationship oo.

But the relationship is ending very soon naa..

Diamond098454:
This is disrespectful .

Even with all this red flag she will still remain in that relationship.

She’s the one disrespecting herself. For a man to be sending you away like this is because the girl comes too often unannounced and he’s tired and sick of it. Your boyfriend’s house is not your family house. This is mostly done by ladies living with their parents and siblings, you cannot visit them at theirs but they want to be at yours any free time of the day.

MarketDispatch:
How can you give someone spare key to you apartment and still be telling the person to call if you are home? What is the purpose of spare key? Why will I have spare key and be calling?

If she is not living in the house with me, why giving her the spare key?
Is there any logically justified reason for letting her have my spare key?
(like, coming around to cook for me, do the dishes, do the laundry, and keep the house in order when I am not around)?

Do I also have the spare key to her own apartment?

HenryStarlife:
This doesn’t look like a man in the first place, that’s just an unemployed misogynist.

But he's living in an apartment your dad, brothers and the you can't afford the rent?

MarketDispatch:
How can you give someone spare key to you apartment and still be telling the person to call if you are home? What is the purpose of spare key? Why will I have spare key and be calling?

To know if it is convenient for the owner of the house to receive you

brain54:
I'm a man and personally if I block a girl I'm dating from entering my home...


It means I do not love or value her. I don't even respect her. Simple.



There is a way I would convey my feelings to her if I'm unsatisfied about her sudden appearance. They are ways to handle such... respectfully.


People think differently I agree. But if I stand at my door and prevent you from entering just know that it's time for you to move on even if I haven't told you so orally.


It's even difficult for me to threat someone I'm not dating that way!

If you ever watched that video, you will not blame the guy . He has told her severally to always call before visiting. . One time can be taken as surprise but consistently badging in on someone's privacy is wrong. They are still dating not married

I pity all these vegetable men supporting the nanny.

Tell me, why will a lady barg into your home without notifying you she was coming to see you?

Secondly, the young man had repeatedly previously told her he doesn't accept such unannounced visits.

It it called setting a standard, it's called rules. One of the rules of love is understanding your boy or girlfriend or even in marriage have right to their privacy. Know this and know peace.

Finally, the lady that invades your privacy is only suffering from entitlement mentality and it must not be accepted.

Most of these girl are always quick to set boundaries and set rules for men to follow but are never willing to follow same rules when it applies to them.

Na man wey that guy be. A man with clear Standards and that's a man that can also manage his family in marriage.

Na man you be...

starpower:
he repeatedly said, he had caution her multiple times, part of relationship is understanding boundaries. I actually think she owes him the dignity of calling him as requested.

I love that guy, he is a disciplined person. That lady is very stubborn. If I'm the guy, i will end that relationship, she won't be a submissive wife

Gbam. If you s3nd her back bow, she gets accudent and dies, na gbege. Its food to be wise in every decision you take my brother. Well done.

brain54:
I'm a man and personally if I block a girl I'm dating from entering my home...


It means I do not love or value her. I don't even respect her. Simple.



There is a way I would convey my feelings to her if I'm unsatisfied about her sudden appearance. They are ways to handle such... respectfully.


People think differently I agree. But if I stand at my door and prevent you from entering just know that it's time for you to move on even if I haven't told you so orally.


It's even difficult for me to threat someone I'm not dating that way!

Having the spare key doesn't mean you shouldn't take permission to Visit. He's simply asserting his manly authority which is important in courtship. Boundaries are important, I'm sure this is not the first time or situation where set boundaries were threatened. Let's be intentional ✌🏽

APOPTOSIS:
Why give her SPARE key and not expect her to arrive at any time?
Spare Key is Spare Key.

Decryptor:
To know if it is convenient for the owner of the house to receive you

Giving a spare key means she can come in anytime to clean, cook, wash without telling you.

fykes:
Men should set boundaries and know its not your place to deal and tolerate a woman's insecurities.

Boundaries are a healthy sign of self respect and confidence.

Would you have said this same thing if a man comes to visit his girlfriend unannounced? Wouldn't you have accused such girl of cheating? Should women set boundaries too?

Kwinesther:
Would you have said this same thing if a man comes to visit his girlfriend unannounced? Wouldn't you have accused such girl of cheating? Should women set boundaries too?

I leave you to your opinion

fykes:
I leave you to your opinion

You go hold me before? If you can't answer simple question then f-off.

starpower:
he repeatedly said, he had caution her multiple times, part of relationship is understanding boundaries. I actually think she owes him the dignity of calling him as requested.

Then he shouldn't have given her a spare key in the first place.

Surprise visit na only when the tfare no cost lol, if the tfare na around 40k hope the babe will still be paying surprise visit without asking for tfare 😂😂

Konjiboii:
Not going to lie I have done this before, at the time I was financially down and needed space to just reason my life, having babe at that time was financially draining, I was managing my little change eating beans and drinking garri, didn't need a babe that will insist on sharwama and parfait and when I say I don't have the funds she will act like I am less of a man, even though she might not say I will see myself as a lesser man. If only women know what men deal with mentally ehn. Relationship no mean say everyday go dey rosy.

I can relate with you.

It's the pre informed that I'm having issues with. This generation just feels marriage is a joke or a movie. We're talking about someone you will be spending the rest of your life with. This single decision can make or mar you for life and someone is pre informing me on what exactly? Whether you later divorce or not, a broken home has scars and for that not to happen, leave this kind of weak guys out of your life if you have a future to protect

Mandem05:
She had been preinformed that she should not visit unannounced by her boyfriend but as per say she be woman na, she refuse to comply. She got served!!