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lovediehatelive:
What I can say is that it depends on the situation.


This is the difference between reading the book and living it out. Sometimes you overlook it, other times you call her out.


For instance if you tell her you don't like her placing an object on the Fridge, she'll definitely do it over and over to test you.

In such kind of situation you can overlook it at times or lightly call her out.



Then there are some things you don't overlook and always call her out. Let's say you let her know that you don't like her dancing seductively on the internet for likes and all. If she does that you shouldn't overlook it. Or something like she starts putting leg chains knowing that you don't like such.

These are just examples, the main thing is about what she's testing you on. If it's not a major deal breaker you can overlook it and sometimes act enraged over it. This way you become unpredictable.


However if it's a major deal breaker, call her out immediately you find out. If she still instist don't even argue with her, just cut off.

Just my opinion though

Panda7:
As a guy you need to be nicer to the lady you intend to keep for a serious r/ship but not overly nice, appearing needy, forcing yourself, doing it too oftenly.
Reasons:
1. It takes women some times to be fully committed to a guy while it takes a guy few minutes to ask her out. She need reasons to be committed to you over other guys
2. Other guys are hitting up on her, if the other guy is nicer, humorous, more presentable than you. She will definitely wants to be with the other guy.
3. If she's already in a r/ship with you but later finds a guy who is better than you she will definitely break up with you or worst cheats on you with the other guy that's if you weren't good enough for her.

I tell guys if you keep another woman outside your main woman, never let your main woman finds out because women never forgets, if opportunity presents itself she will do worse but if she has no evidence fear of God won't let her especially if she has kids with you.

You will argue women have no emotions, they are worst than some men yet a wise guy will take her, set her and get that good girl working and starts making kids with her while you are shouting I can never date a second hand girl forgetting you weren't good enough. worst case you will dream of taking her away again but that's in your fantasy. Point is no one is perfect and you cannot afford the most perfect person cos someone made them perfect.

Pukkalolo:
“As a guy you need to be nicer to the lady you intend to keep for a serious relationship…”

I disagree with that part.

As a Man, You’ve already lost the moment you think you need to “be nicer” to secure her commitment.


Men Are The Gatekeepers of “Serious” Relationships, Not Women.

A man with real sexual options does not really care for a serious relationship. He doesn't even have that goal from his own end

So if a woman wants a “serious” thing with him, she has to earn that position by being better than the other options he has.

As a Man, when you make “serious relationship” your goal from early on, you’re telling her: “I don't have sexual options. Please choose me.”

In her mind, she thinks: “This one is easy. I don’t need to bring my best self.”

That’s why she starts billing you harder while, and keeping her options open.

Men, here's the correct mindset is:


You should be the one always scanning for a better woman: the one who is nicer, more humorous, more submissive, more sexually enthusiastic, and more willing to invest in you.

While she should be the one waking up every day trying to make sure you don’t find that better woman.

She should be the one nicer. She should be the one funnier. She should be the one dressing better, cooking better, fucking better, supporting you better… because she knows you can walk away at any moment and still be fine.

That fear keeps her on her toes. That doubt keeps her loyal. That tension keeps her wet.


Be wise brothers.

Kaczynski:
Every day you see men bankrupting themselves renting cars, wearing native wear they can't afford, and throwing cash around just to simulate viability a path-etic, high overhead game and if you play it, you are letting a broken culture dictate your settings.

In a society where almost everyone is lying about their bank account, their devotion to a sky deity and their social standing, absolute and brutal honesty is a shock. You don't have to impress her. You state what you want, you show you aren't desperate, and you remain indifferent to her response.

If she’s looking for a guy to buy her hair extensions and pay her rent, you should walk away. Hopefully your system just filtered out resource drain. But if she has any actual intelligence, your lack of performative bummer will stand out like a cli in a sea of ads.

Panda7:
I laugh in swahili!
What you wrote would definitely happen in a well scripted movie whose aim is to portray male dominance over the opposite sex. In real life, this will never happen no matter what she intends to get from you, be it monetary gain, value, promotion, or material thing. Every female from birth are wired to believe she holds dominance over the male due to her pu.ssy. No normal man turns a down a pussy, even those who patronize brothels yet complains of poor service and not enjoying the s.ex still goes back there in a matter of second. When you see a man walks out of a relationship, it is definitely because he wasn't getting the sex. If you think you will manipulate a woman because you wants her to worship you then trust me a young guy is out there fuckin svckin and taking her to cloud 9 while she enjoys with you while it last.

Panda7:
I laugh in swahili!
What you wrote would definitely happen in a well scripted movie whose aim is to portray male dominance over the opposite sex. In real life, this will never happen no matter what she intends to get from you, be it monetary gain, value, promotion, or material thing. Every female from birth are wired to believe she holds dominance over the male due to her pu.ssy. No normal man turns a down a pussy, even those who patronize brothels yet complains of poor service and not enjoying the s.ex still goes back there in a matter of second. When you see a man walks out of a relationship, it is definitely because he wasn't getting the sex. If you think you will manipulate a woman because you wants her to worship you then trust me a young guy is out there fuckin svckin and taking her to cloud 9 while she enjoys with you while it last.

Pukkalolo:
Again… You’re wrong.

And this “be nicer to win her” nonsense proves you still don’t truly understand women.


Do you think Chike was “nicer” to Frank Edoh’s wife before he slept with her?


Hell no.

Frank Edoh was the nice one. He was the one trying to secure the relationship.
He built a whole business for her. He provided. He committed. And she still stung him: cheated on him.

That’s brutal female nature when a man makes himself too available and nicer to her.

Any girl who accepts you because you’re nicer to her isn’t genuinely interested. She’ll enjoy your niceness, then sting you the moment a more exciting or higher-value man appears.

If being nice was the secret, every guy would have women chasing him.
Instead, women consistently leave or cheat on the men who are nicer to them than anyone else.

Wait, let me even ask you…

When women masturbate, do you think they do so thinking about the guy who's nicer to them?

Of course No.

They fantasize about the man who’s slightly out of reach. The men who make her nervous and make her wet. The men don't care about being in a relationship with them.


Here’s the truth most men are too scared to accept:

If a woman truly wants you, she will make it easy for you.

She’ll invest. She’ll make time for you. She’ll move mountains to keep you.

If she’s not making it easy, then she’s not that into you. If you have to be nicer to her in order to secure a relationship with her, then she doesn't like you.

If you think being nicer to her is the solution, you'll regret it. You'll probably learn the hard way.

There's literally no long-term benefits of being nice to a girl. I mean, literally... none.



Look, I love women. But I also deeply understand their wicked, deceptive and manipulative side.

A lot of women are like cobras in human form: feminine, seductive, poisonous and ready to strike the moment you lower your guard.

Panda7:
I never suggested been nicer to a girl you've already got but been nice to a lady you intend to win over, that way, she will think you are different from the other guys who's begging to get her attention. Once she is committed you set in the manipulative game, this makes her think she is not good enough for you and tries to up her game to please you.

'Philosopher' guy was talking about nagging a lady and also getting all the benefits he could get from her and I strongly disagree with that as it would only lead to domestic violence, broken home and cheating.
Same is the case with frank edoho and chike, I believe at a point he was definitely nagging, playing mind games and keeping malice. After enough self-servicing she will definitely look for an easy prey and that's where chike came into play. On a normal dating level, chike won't be able to keep her as his main chick that's why you see him settle for the side guy role.

Panda7:
I never suggested been nicer to a girl you've already got but been nice to a lady you intend to win over, that way, she will think you are different from the other guys who's begging to get her attention. Once she is committed you set in the manipulative game, this makes her think she is not good enough for you and tries to up her game to please you.

'Philosopher' guy was talking about nagging a lady and also getting all the benefits he could get from her and I strongly disagree with that as it would only lead to domestic violence, broken home and cheating.
Same is the case with frank edoho and chike, I believe at a point he was definitely nagging, playing mind games and keeping malice. After enough self-servicing she will definitely look for an easy prey and that's where chike came into play. On a normal dating level, chike won't be able to keep her as his main chick that's why you see him settle for the side guy role.

Pukkalolo:
The bolded part shows you’re still missing the point entirely.


I want you to understand that, Frank Edoh’s wife didn’t cheat because he kept malice.

She cheated BECAUSE SHE WANTED TO CHEAT

That’s the ugly truth most Naija men refuse to swallow.

When a woman decides to sting you, whether through cheating, disrespect, betrayal, sudden breakup or withdrawal… she will always cook up a perfect excuse to play the victim and paint you as the villain.

She’ll cry to family, friends and the public:

“He’s toxic.”

“He keeps malice.”

“He’s too controlling.”

“He’s whatever story that makes her look innocent and you look like the monster who failed her.

It’s a classic, calculated move.
Even when the man did everything: provided, sacrificed, loved hard, stayed loyal… she’ll twist the narrative so she can leave with a clean conscience and public sympathy.

Bro, have you even asked why Frank Edoh started keeping malice? Do you know what got him to that breaking point?

I’m not defending him, but let’s be genuinely honest right now: if she was truly submissive, respectful, and honoured him as her husband, do you think he would have reached that breaking point?

A lot of women are masters at manipulation and emotional blackmail.

They can take a good man who gave his blood, sweat, and future for her and still make him feel like he was never enough.
They can turn a devoted provider into the villain of the story.. both in her head and in the eyes of the world.

This is why so many good men leave relationships feeling broken, guilty, and lost, asking themselves in the dead of night:

“What did I do wrong?”

The painful answer most men are too scared to accept is this:

Most times, women don’t cheat or leave because of something you did.

They cheat or leave because they want to… and then rewrite history to make themselves the victim and you the monster.

Be wise, brothers.

Kaczynski:
Every day you see men bankrupting themselves renting cars, wearing native wear they can't afford, and throwing cash around just to simulate viability a path-etic, high overhead game and if you play it, you are letting a broken culture dictate your settings.


In a society where almost everyone is lying about their bank account, their devotion to a sky deity and their social standing, absolute and brutal honesty is a shock. You don't have to impress her. You state what you want, you show you aren't desperate, and you remain indifferent to her response.

If she’s looking for a guy to buy her hair extensions and pay her rent, you should walk away. Hopefully your system just filtered out resource drain. But if she has any actual intelligence, your lack of performative bummer will stand out like a cli in a sea of ads.

Yvngex:
so you are saying we should continue to overlook the bad habits she intentionally exhibit just because I want to be unpredictable? Please make me understand better.

Pukkalolo:
Again… You’re wrong.

And this “be nicer to win her” nonsense proves you still don’t truly understand women.


Do you think Chike was “nicer” to Frank Edoh’s wife before he slept with her?


Hell no.

Frank Edoh was the nice one. He was the one trying to secure the relationship.
He built a whole business for her. He provided. He committed. And she still stung him: cheated on him.

That’s brutal female nature when a man makes himself too available and nicer to her.

Any girl who accepts you because you’re nicer to her isn’t genuinely interested. She’ll enjoy your niceness, then sting you the moment a more exciting or higher-value man appears.

If being nice was the secret, every guy would have women chasing him.
Instead, women consistently leave or cheat on the men who are nicer to them than anyone else.

Wait, let me even ask you…

When women masturbate, do you think they do so thinking about the guy who's nicer to them?

Of course No.

They fantasize about the man who’s slightly out of reach. The men who make her nervous and make her wet. The men don't care about being in a relationship with them.


Here’s the truth most men are too scared to accept:

If a woman truly wants you, she will make it easy for you.

She’ll invest. She’ll make time for you. She’ll move mountains to keep you.

If she’s not making it easy, then she’s not that into you. If you have to be nicer to her in order to secure a relationship with her, then she doesn't like you.

If you think being nicer to her is the solution, you'll regret it. You'll probably learn the hard way.

There's literally no long-term benefits of being nice to a girl. I mean, literally... none.



Look, I love women. But I also deeply understand their wicked, deceptive and manipulative side.

A lot of women are like cobras in human form: feminine, seductive, poisonous and ready to strike the moment you lower your guard.

Pukkalolo:
The bolded part shows you’re still missing the point entirely.


I want you to understand that, Frank Edoh’s wife didn’t cheat because he kept malice.

She cheated BECAUSE SHE WANTED TO CHEAT

That’s the ugly truth most Naija men refuse to swallow.

When a woman decides to sting you, whether through cheating, disrespect, betrayal, sudden breakup or withdrawal… she will always cook up a perfect excuse to play the victim and paint you as the villain.

She’ll cry to family, friends and the public:

“He’s toxic.”

“He keeps malice.”

“He’s too controlling.”

“He’s whatever story that makes her look innocent and you look like the monster who failed her.

It’s a classic, calculated move.
Even when the man did everything: provided, sacrificed, loved hard, stayed loyal… she’ll twist the narrative so she can leave with a clean conscience and public sympathy.

Bro, have you even asked why Frank Edoh started keeping malice? Do you know what got him to that breaking point?

I’m not defending him, but let’s be genuinely honest right now: if she was truly submissive, respectful, and honoured him as her husband, do you think he would have reached that breaking point?

A lot of women are masters at manipulation and emotional blackmail.

They can take a good man who gave his blood, sweat, and future for her and still make him feel like he was never enough.
They can turn a devoted provider into the villain of the story.. both in her head and in the eyes of the world.

This is why so many good men leave relationships feeling broken, guilty, and lost, asking themselves in the dead of night:

“What did I do wrong?”

The painful answer most men are too scared to accept is this:

Most times, women don’t cheat or leave because of something you did.

They cheat or leave because they want to… and then rewrite history to make themselves the victim and you the monster.

Be wise, brothers.

mablie:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY UBUNJA!!!

I hope you are in good health,safe and thriving at your location.I also wish you many more years to come.

Pukkalolo:
The bolded part shows you’re still missing the point entirely.


I want you to understand that, Frank Edoh’s wife didn’t cheat because he kept malice.

She cheated BECAUSE SHE WANTED TO CHEAT

That’s the ugly truth most Naija men refuse to swallow.

When a woman decides to sting you, whether through cheating, disrespect, betrayal, sudden breakup or withdrawal… she will always cook up a perfect excuse to play the victim and paint you as the villain.

She’ll cry to family, friends and the public:

“He’s toxic.”

“He keeps malice.”

“He’s too controlling.”

“He’s whatever story that makes her look innocent and you look like the monster who failed her.

It’s a classic, calculated move.
Even when the man did everything: provided, sacrificed, loved hard, stayed loyal… she’ll twist the narrative so she can leave with a clean conscience and public sympathy.

Bro, have you even asked why Frank Edoh started keeping malice? Do you know what got him to that breaking point?

I’m not defending him, but let’s be genuinely honest right now: if she was truly submissive, respectful, and honoured him as her husband, do you think he would have reached that breaking point?

A lot of women are masters at manipulation and emotional blackmail.

They can take a good man who gave his blood, sweat, and future for her and still make him feel like he was never enough.
They can turn a devoted provider into the villain of the story.. both in her head and in the eyes of the world.

This is why so many good men leave relationships feeling broken, guilty, and lost, asking themselves in the dead of night:

“What did I do wrong?”

The painful answer most men are too scared to accept is this:

Most times, women don’t cheat or leave because of something you did.

They cheat or leave because they want to… and then rewrite history to make themselves the victim and you the monster.

Be wise, brothers.

MetalJigsaw:
"Being nice to a lady you intend to win over".. How are you different from the other guys who are playing the same card?

That alone is a clear sign you're begging to have her and it will be crystal clear to her bro.

Be different: Logical because alot of men deal with women with their brains upside down and their dicks upright.

Strike a convoy with her about something you find in common with her. Let her talk more while you listen. Women love men who listen to them. It shows intellect and humility.

Work on your looks. Its very important.

lovediehatelive:
Not that you should overlook bad habits, but more of you shouldn't react to everything she does because they're majorly wired to do things you don't like.

The main point I'm trying to make is that you focus more on core issues and leave pettiness aside.

Because if you keep on reacting to every thing she does you are fueling her because that's what she wants.


Now tell a child stop making noise.

The child stops for a while and later starts again.

You might want to ignore the child or still tell the child to keep quiet especially if the noise is becoming louder.


This is just an idea about things you might want to overlook.


Now tell the child don't go close to the swimming pool.

No matter what, if the child dares go across, heads towards or touches water in the pool you don't overlook it.

You act immediately because this is a redlines as the child's life is in danger.


There are several examples to use concerning relationship but I think you get the drift here.

Let her know your Stands yes, but remember:

The More You React And Try To Enforce Rules Or Authority, The Less Powerful You Appear.

Pukkalolo:
Very true, bro.

If you’re always reacting and trying to enforce authority, the less powerful you actually look.

There’s a massive difference between enforcing authority and demonstrating it.

Enforcing authority comes from a place of frustration and lost control.

Examples:

- “If you talk to me like that again, I’m leaving!”

- “You will respect me or else!”

- “No sex? Then no money for your hair or bills!”

- “If you reply with ‘k’ again, I’ll stop chatting with you.”

Women see straight through this. They know you’re only enforcing rules because you’ve already lost control. And once she sees what triggers you, she’ll keep doing that exact thing just to watch you emotionally react and prove she still holds the power.

Demonstrating authority is quietly dumping her on the spot without without giving her the satisfaction of seeing you emotional, and You simply walk away.

I’ve had women blow up my phone after I did exactly that:

“You suddenly left me at that place … please reply my chats… did I do something wrong?”

“what's going on. At least pick my call and tell me what I did… please!”

“You’ve been ignoring me… just say something, babe!”

This happens because I quietly dump them and walk away the moment they cross a line.

And that move is dangerous for women.
The mystery kills them. The sudden loss of power frustrates them. They start craving me harder because they feel like they lost control. When I eventually reply (if I choose to), they’re forced to drop the bad behavior because they tasted what it feels like to be actually dumped by REAL MAN.


Women love to be the ones doing the dumping. It gives them the power narrative. When YOU dump them quietly and walk away, it shatters their ego.


Most men don’t have the BALLS to do this.
Instead, they see her disrespect as a “shit test” or “normal woman behavior.”

They make excuses for her because they're desperate for her pussy and companionship. So they tolerate her bad behavior, and hope she changes.

That’s why most men are the ones getting dumped.

If a woman dumped you, it’s often because she tested you repeatedly with her bad behavior, hoping you’d have the spine to quietly WALK AWAY from her forever… but you didn’t. She lost respect for that weakness and pulled the plug herself.

One beautiful lady once told me proudly that NONE of her exes had ever dumped her. She said was always the one doing the dumping. She even showed me screenshots of her exes begging and crying after she told them she was no longer interested in the relationship. I was disappointed, not surprised.

This lady has now become saucy, egotistical, and entitled because no man ever had the balls to quietly dump her and walk away. During those relationships, she shit-tested them relentlessly, hoping one would finally show strength by suddenly leaving the relationship. None did. They were too desperate and soft. So she lost respect and dumped them herself.

It’s no wonder so many women see no reason to work on themselves. This is because too many men give them the impression they’re perfect… no flaws, no consequences

ubunja:
Alpha Beta
Alpha Fuccs, Beta Bucks

As we have explained before and will continue to do so, The Alpha of the redpill has nothing to do with leadership, being an outstanding member of the community or being a pillar of society - that's not the redpill Alpha.

The original meaning of Alpha in the Greek alphabet is "first", or "primary", or "principal" (most significant) occurrence or status of a thing. see the 1st picture below.

In relationships and male/female dynamics, "alphas" then are those men that women choose FIRST, the guys that ladies go to FIRST, the males that females deal with FIRST before everyone else have their turn.

Now who are these men that women deal with first, who women give first preference?
Easy!
Look at the 2nd picture below and read the words "the more you delay to marry us the more they eat us"
Who are THEY who get to eat before women get married?
Well it's the same ones the woman in the 3rd picture is talking about: "I fucced everybody I wanted to fucc. Time to get married now".
Who is EVERYBODY that this woman WANTED TO FUCC? And who are THEY who eat women the longer men delay to marry women?

It's the alphas. The men who get to fucc the puccy first before the others are given a chance to put a ring on it.

Now which class of men in society do we all know of that is always fuccing women but never marries them? Well strictly speaking there are TWO CLASSES who get that privilege: (1) the Bad Boys, Thugs, Players & their ilk, and (2) the rich men.

(with the rich men a lot has to be clarified but I'll do so another time)

The rich men are not especially good at sex but get puccy thrown at them because they've money, while the bad boys, Thugs etc, don't have money but get puccy thrown at them because they can lay the pipe. So a woman looking for fun, especially in her younger years who doesn't want anything serious deals either with rich men or with players and Thugs. Hence the rich man in his mansion and the thug on the street FUCC THE SAME WOMEN. Difference being that women deal with the rich man publicly but deal with the thug player usually secretly.
Now this 20% of men that women fornicate with goes by different names. It used to be called the Ćöćk Ćäröuśėl. Nowadays it's called the Hoe Phase or more commonly "The Streets". Hence we say of a hoe "she belongs to the streets". The streets ARE the alpha Fuccs. That's where women have the most fun. It's every guy's worst nightmare. Because not every guy is invited. Which is why men shame women for it, cause it's to discourage the Alpha Fuccs of women's lives.

Now the rich man and the thug player are the top 20% of men (collectively called The Streets) who are the cream of society (as far as sex is concerned) who all women give unlimited sex to, while the rest of the Male population, the other 80%, aka the Betas, will get their chance of (almost) unlimited sex inside marriage.

By now it must be clear that women very much want to enjoy dick first before settling down in marriage. The men the women sleep with before marriage are their first and primary choice. Their favorites. IF WOMEN DIDN'T HAVE TO MARRY, THEY WOULD HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH BETAS.. In other words, IF WOMEN DIDN'T NEED MONEY THEY'D HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH 80% OF MEN. It's for this reason why many men are forcing marriage down women's throats. The reason many men want marriage to matter, because it's the only way they'll get a woman to give them unlimited sex.

A woman who doesn't wish to marry renders Betas powerless. They have zero chances with her. Because what they hope to give her in exchange for sex (lifelong commitment, lifelong financial support) the woman doesn't want. So the Beta, in his infinite wisdom, wants women's opportunities, such as education and employment, to be severely limited so women are kept at a disadvantage which then gives the Betas a chance to get the women. It's why Betas populate religions and other moral movements which promotes monogamy and marriage. Now this is not me taking a swipe at religion.
Anywho If there's one thing to realize, it's this:
The Streets = the Alpha Fuccs. Because that's where women go to first, or where they end up again after failed relationships and marriages.