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| Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Nairaland111(op): 10:30am On Jun 19 |
Giving Is a Gift, Not a Geographical Location Have you ever asked yourself why some people in the diaspora do not send money home to their friends? Many people argue that it is because of the struggles and sacrifices involved in earning money abroad. Others believe that people back home often assume that everyone overseas is picking money like fruit from trees. To be fair, both arguments have some truth to them. Sometimes, when you see how hard people work just to survive abroad, you may even wonder how they manage to support others financially. Despite these arguments, I decided to carry out a little experiment this morning. I called a few friends back home and told them I urgently needed ₦5,000 to complete a transaction. I promised to repay the money the following week. Out of 10 close friends, only one was willing to help immediately and even told me not to worry because we are friends. Imagine that. Ten friends, eight of whom work in government institutions and the remaining two are businessmen. Some people may ask about the nature of our relationship. These are people I consider brothers, and we had been together for more than five years before I travelled. That experience led me to a conclusion: giving is a gift, and it has little to do with geographical location. Before calling people in the diaspora stingy, how often have we helped those around us with the little we have? You do not have to live overseas before you can help someone. Generosity is a way of life. While it may be true that some people abroad become more cautious because of the stress involved in making money, I would argue that we should also ask what they were like before they travelled. Were they naturally generous? Or were they often taken advantage of because of their kindness? At the end of the day, kindness is not determined by where you live but by the condition of your heart. The willingness to help others is a character trait, not a geographical advantage. Let us all try to support one another, regardless of our location. As said: "It is not how much we give, but how much love we put into giving." 34 Likes 2 Shares
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| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by ednut1(m): 12:14pm On Jun 19*. Modified: 5:52pm On Jul 02 |
Yes we are stingy. They can enter canal for all i care 👹 After i don pay rent/mortgage, car loan, and other bills. I should send you 100 dollars like na only you dey ask. Ogun kill you 23 Likes |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by eepeepook: 9:07am On Jun 20 |
Okay, good. Carry on. xxxxxx |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by UkoAnnang(m): 5:44pm On Jul 02 |
 Make I booked space fess |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by givedemwotowoto: 5:46pm On Jul 02 |
Most (if not all) Nigerians are very entitled. 13 Likes |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Firstcitizen: 5:48pm On Jul 02 |
I often visit Nigeria and no one offers even a small gift like a tuber of yam to take back but they know how to ask for help from time to time. A tuber of yam is nothing but the heart behind it matters. I have stopped giving out money to people in Nigeria, no matter the reason. 42 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by BlocksNG(m): 5:48pm On Jul 02 |
Test data dey or we use escrow or pay afterdelivery? Hdata: 1 Like |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Angelfrost(m): 5:49pm On Jul 02 |
Anyone who has the audacity to call another stingy has a ridiculous and silly entitlement mentality... Which basically sums up most average Nigerians, especially those down the economic spectrum. No one owes you a damn thing... If you ask for money, and the request is turned down or ignored, there is absolutely no need getting wrung out of shape about it. No matter your situation, no one was created or born to carry your burdens... Especially when not even bound to you by blood. I deeply hate the begging culture in every sector and cranny of this nation... Who bewitched you people with this Bambiala spirit?!! 18 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by JoeEeL(m): 5:49pm On Jul 02 |
Nairaland111:It is mostly diasporan nigerians that do this thing alot. When they travel, they begin to ask their fellow japarians about any app used for sending money that gives the best transfer rates: apps like LemFi or SendWave. Most other nationalities don't remit as much. After Nigerians, maybe some other african countries. All these mullatos and carribean people no really send anybody papa for here. And by diasporan nigerians, Im strictly talking about nigerian men, and not women. Instead, women will not mind billing you wey dey nigeria, and them dey diaspora. If u doubt me, go ask Roby Ekpo wey cry for Daddy Freeze live' honest bunch podcast. Liabilities both home and away! 16 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Smartjeezy01(m): 5:49pm On Jul 02 |
Happy new month Nigeria. People in diaspora are going through a lot and bills is killing them. 1 Like |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Nebes: 5:50pm On Jul 02 |
I opened this thread hoping to read one of those articles bashing people abroad, but I was genuinely surprised by the angle you took. Nice one! 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Tingotoe: 5:51pm On Jul 02 |
Its called the black tax and there's no escaping it 1 Like |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by tiswell(m): 5:52pm On Jul 02 |
Not all in diaspora is stingy  It depends on the mindset of the individual involved. 3 Likes |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by ogolemati: 5:56pm On Jul 02 |
ednut1:  frustration is laughing at you like this,who the hell are you talking to 9 Likes
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| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by MatrixCircle: 5:57pm On Jul 02 |
Black tax. Immediately month ends, Nigeria diaspora in Uk 🇬🇧, Canada 🇨🇦, U.S.A ,Australia etc Starts receiving texts messages, calls etc from family, freinds and unknown people putting forward one problem or the other thinking money is picked from the streets. Me sef dey protect my end. Forgetting the level of bills guys abroad pay no be here o. 7 Likes |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Angelfrost(m): 5:57pm On Jul 02 |
Firstcitizen:It's a serious societal and moral decay in this nation. Everybody starts begging right from the boarding or arrival gate, down to the checkpoints, even within churches... BEGGARS everywhere, both among the rich and the poor. All they do is take, take, and try to take more... Everyone is trying to outsmart the other. Bunch of greedy and self-serving human beings. 15 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by femi4: 5:57pm On Jul 02 |
My whatsapp is on steady blocking. Why will every "hi, how you dey" get "should I send my aza" as a response 7 Likes |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by helinues: 5:58pm On Jul 02 |
Lol. Some people actually think the Nigerians outside the country are plucking money from the tree Their stories are unending 7 Likes |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Ezeama400: 6:00pm On Jul 02*. Modified: 6:40pm On Jul 02 |
Even if you give them, give them one month, they will come back again and make a different request. Self entitled mentality.. Average Nigerian needs to work on his perception about life .. Everyone has his own problem to solve.. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by ednut1(m): 6:00pm On Jul 02 |
ogolemati:this person don dey find money again. You born boy and girl as first two children. The person added 2 more and lost their job after. Monthly billing o 4 Likes
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| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by ayandee: 6:03pm On Jul 02 |
Firstcitizen:some family members would intentionally take out a debt expecting you to pay on their behalf. They know your parents will intervene and beg you to pay eventually. The black tax is real and requires a conscious firmness. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Angelfrost(m): 6:03pm On Jul 02 |
MatrixCircle:After collecting the "black tax" monthly, these same entities will come online to brag that it is cheaper and better/easier to live in Nigeria compared to abroad. How won't it be cheaper, when those abroad are slaving away and sending you monthly or quarterly "taxes"?! Yeye people. 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by ogolemati: 6:04pm On Jul 02 |
ednut1: like seriously chai for this agbero chairman regime.its well help the little you can people are confused in Nigeria now 6 Likes
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| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Bluna: 6:05pm On Jul 02*. Modified: 7:22pm On Jul 02 |
In your circle of friends, if it is just only 1 out of 10 that could help you with 5k, it means your friendship is terrible 8 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Celepope: 6:05pm On Jul 02 |
Be like Tinubu economy don reach you for abroad. No person doing well abroad will request assistance for such amount even if it’s a test (fake btw) Na iron condemn friends dey your circle. The apple don fall far from its tree . 3 Likes |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by SixSeven: 6:08pm On Jul 02 |
Despite these arguments, I decided to carry out a little experiment this morning. I called a few friends back home and told them I urgently needed ₦5,000 to complete a transaction. I promised to repay the money the following week.There is a famous word for this in the picture below but if you have a relationship that is not built on money or material exchanges, that is a treasure to keep because most people don't want what you give them, they want what you have. Leaving Nigeria or changing environment is a good test of any friendship or relationship so you can know if it is conditional, environmental, transactional or physical. May we find good helpers when we need them that is God sent and does not come with IOU or bondage. Amen Repost 👇 What you are sharing sounds like you're getting exhausted with the help you are giving because it keeps returning. One of the things you learn as you grow is not to be bothered by people's reaction but be bothered by your own intention. This will change the way you do things. You ask yourself why you do what you do. Why? Are you doing it for them or you are doing it for your purpose on earth? It's with that understanding that you will never bother about human beings and their reactions. You won't be distracted by their distraction too. Many people put too much reliance on gratefulness (which is a good thing to have) but sometimes I ask myself, ifManbeGod, do you know how the world would have ended since? How many times do I thank my Creator for my lungs, my eyes, my brain, my nerves, my blood, my lungs, my skin, my hair, my nose, my nails, my eyebrow, my tongue and so many things I took for granted but when you take time to study it, you see the perfection in which you were created and took for granted? If I don't do that and I can't be as merciful as God, then who am I to complain about man to man? In Buddhism, giving with the expectation of gratitude, praise, or a reward from the recipient is recognized as a common human impulse, but it is considered an inferior or impure form of giving.If you keep receipts of those you have "helped", it is not giving, it was business you were doing. I don't keep scores. I score my goal and go to the next match. It is for this reason I don't bother about the games of the receiver because me I am playing a different champions league. And I know that my favor is not from them because in most religious books I have studied and in spiritual life, the givers never lack but the givers who put condition go slack. If you grew up with grandmas, grandpas and elderly, you'll understand the concept of giving more. They are not dumb when they give but they learned some things from African spirituality in giving. I also don't get carried away by all the money in the world because the concept of money is man made, so we continue In the endless pursuit of paper currency, expecting it to solve problems money will never solve! https://www.tiktok.com/video/7564773023190945046? 3 Likes 2 Shares
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| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by HacheNoire: 6:12pm On Jul 02 |
It’s not the fault of those at home but the fault of those abroad. They never tell them the blatant truth and make it look like money grows on trees abroad, and those ones also reciprocate by asking for money. The same class of people that will tell people back home to sell their houses in Nigeria as they would be able to make X10 in a year abroad. |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by IamPlato(m): 6:15pm On Jul 02 |
If e easy travel go hustle there 1 Like |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Ameboperoo(m): 6:16pm On Jul 02 |
ednut1:I never asked for 100 dollars, I only asked for 98 dollars uncle  2 Likes |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by Jeezuzpick(m): 6:19pm On Jul 02 |
Nairaland111:I get money from my diaspora friends anytime I ask, and it's for a reason. I borrow, and return it. When you understand that money is much more precious over there than it is here, that they cannot afford to lose what we can lose here, that no one is coming to help them if they're in a bind, you will understand that you need to give back every penny you take from them. Funny enough, there are times when I ask for a loan, and they just give me and tell me it's a gift, but mostly, I keep it as a transaction, and honour it. 3 Likes |
| Re: Before Calling The Diaspora Stingy, Ask Yourself This by gracias124: 6:21pm On Jul 02 |
Nairaland111:gimme that 5k wey you collect from that dude por favor 4 Likes |
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