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Good evening everyone.

Lately, so I decided it was high time I tried my luck with other ladies since my fiancee broke up with me. I must really confess, it has been hectic after meeting a couple of single ladies.

The first lady, a lady of 27 years was the first one I encountered and she was introduced to me by my cousin. M After texting and chatting on Whatsapp for a week, we decided to finally meet. We booked a date and I paid for her transport. On the day of our date, I noticed she wasn't paying attention to everything I was saying and that really killed the vibes I was expecting from our first date. Funny and awkward thing was that she didn't even spend more than 20 minutes on the date and I was the only one asking all the questions. After she left, I only called her to make sure she got home safely and afterward, I didn't bother to call or text her because that wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted.

Then, what actually buried the whole thing was that, even after everything, I was trying to build up a relationship with her even though I wasn't really feeling the vibes. The question that dug the final grave was--"Since the day I left your place, you haven't sent me any money for food and upkeep".

At first, I kept quiet for a while and then replied her--"haven't you been eating before we met?". That was when hell was let lose. The insults I received on that day from her were so much and annoying that the only way I thought I could pay her back was to block her ASAP.

This lady was someone who had her own hairdressing saloon business and I thought I could build something meaningful with her. But to my greatest surprise, she wasn't different from the hungry, younger ladies out there.

I don't think I will commence on my mission on the dating pool from now on because it seems most of these ladies nowadays are hungry and only looking for men who will bail them out of their poverty

So single guys in the house, has anyone of you had a similar experience with single ladies?

Dear Single Men, if you meet someone from a referral or online, and the first time you guys are having a conversation is on phone, make sure, make sure, make sure that there is some vibes from the conversation before you schedule physical date.

If e nor day when they still have a fantasy of you in their head, e nor go still dey if they meet you in person.

If you force a date with an uninterested female, and she comes she immediately assumes that you owe her compensation for her time.

Good thing I have a beautiful and great babe, mehn, me for just end up doing surrogacy for a child. I too get pride to tolerate rubbish. 🤧

most people dating girls these days are pressing serious funds to sustain that relationship.
those that can’t press funds are going through hell in their relationship, if you think i’m lying ask any of your friend that’s seriously committed.

ever since late buhari spoilt these country, nigerian girls entered survival mode.
the worst are those corporate ladies. they bill without conscience.

Traay:
most people dating girls these days are pressing serious funds to sustain that relationship.
those that can’t press funds are going through hell in their relationship, if you think i’m lying ask any of your friend that’s seriously committed.

ever since late buhari spoilt these country, nigerian girls entered survival mode.
the worst are those cooperate ladies. they bill without conscience.

You're so right my brother. The thing jux tire me. But how guyman wan take see wife marry now?

Stephen0mozzy:
Dear Single Men, if you meet someone from a referral or online, and the first time you guys are having a conversation is on phone, make sure, make sure, make sure that there is some vibes from the conversation before you schedule physical date.

If e nor day when they still have a fantasy of you in their head, e nor go still dey if they meet you in person.

If you force a date with an uninterested female, and she comes she immediately assumes that you owe her compensation for her time.

Good thing I have a beautiful and great babe, mehn, me for just end up doing surrogacy for a child. I too get pride to tolerate rubbish. 🤧

. You're lucky bro, to have found a responsible woman. These days,it's almost becoming more or less like a Herculean task to find a woman who's responsible to tick all the boxes of a healthy relationship.

OlaOfLagos:
Hahahahahahaha

Just thank your creator, you just dodge a bull£t

Exactly the same thing my elder bro told me. Anyways thank you bro.

No be just the ladies wey dey do am now. Even small thing get price tag for this life. The girl no even spend 20 minutes and she don start billing you like say una don enter relationship. That one na scam wey masquerade as dating.

Imagine say she dey pretend to you. Omo, you for don enter one chance be that

Na that date una take dey spoil the girls. Keep copying oyibo in Africa setting.

Girl when go get head ,you can spot it from phone conversation already.

They are always hungry. Choi!

The average Nigerian girl is frankly a bundle of horribleness. Rude, extremely poor in communicating, beggarly and entitled, lacking in appealing feminine energy... It's easy to see why men patronize hookups, but sex alone will not make up for the need for companionship and genuine connection.

My brother, relationship is transactional now, the memo was out long time ago.

I had a similar experience some years ago when I was still single. The first date was mainly she ordering everything like somebody that hasn't eaten for ages. The vibes weren't there. She visited with a friend after the first date and started packing everything I had in the kitchen when she was about leaving🤣. Then she finally sent me a list of everything she needed in school, even up to her project expenses 🤣. I finally realized she has suddenly turned to an orphan since she met me🤣. Since the vibes weren't there, I just had to ignore her list and ended everything. The babe developed anger and bitterness for me ever since because I stopped picking her calls after the list 🤣.

Toolegit123:
Good evening everyone.

Lately,so I decided it was high time i tried my luck with other ladies since my fiancee broke up with me. I must really confess,it has been hectic after meeting a couple of single ladies.

The first lady,a lady of 27 years was the first one I encountered and she was introduced to me by my cousin. After texting and chatting on Whatsapp for a week,we decided to finally meet. We booked a date and I paid for her transport. On the day of our date,I noticed she wasn't paying attention to everything I was saying and that really killed the vibes I was expecting from our first date. Funny and awkward thing was that she didn't even spend more than 20 minutes on the date and I was the only one asking all the questions. After she left,I only called her to make sure she got home safely and afterward,I didn't bother to call or text her because that wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted.

Then,what actually buried the whole thing was that,even after everything,I was trying to build up a relationship with her even though I wasn't really feeling the vibes. The question that dug the final grave was--"Since the day I left your place,you haven't sent me any money for food and upkeep".

At first,I kept quiet for a while and then replied her--"haven't you been eating before we met?". That was when hell was let lose. The insults I received on that day from her were so much and annoying that the only way I thought I could pay her back was to block her ASAP.

This lady was someone who had her own hairdressing saloon business and I thought I could build something meaningful with her. But to my greatest surprise,she wasn't different from the hungry, younger ladies out there.

I don't think I will commence on my mission on the dating pool from now on because it seems most of these ladies nowadays are hungry and only looking for men who will bail them out of their poverty

So single guys in the house,have anyone of you had a similar experience with single ladies?

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na so everywhere oh, if you try 20, 18 of them na the same, the remaining two will get one weird attitude

The signs was there but you ignored it.

From the chats and how she responds, and that she request you pay her transport should have turned you off. If you have to pay for transport on the first date for a lady to see you, it usually will not end well.

The only exception to the transport thing is if it’s an interstate travel, or you guys already met and as a courtesy, you booked a ride for her this time.

Also, make sure there is a phone conversation before actual meet-up. As in, call her. You guys should talk for mins, possibly hours. So you can have a profile of her mindset and see if there is a match.

Don’t be wasting money on dates. Cut things off earlier on, and don’t let things escalate to meet up and you get disappointed. Be in control from the onset, you’re the man.

Stephen0mozzy:
If e nor day when they still have a fantasy of you in their head, e nor go still dey if they meet you in person.

You suppose hold cane for one hand and microphone for the other hand as you dey talk this thing because some coconut head guys go still fail this thing wey you talk.

Let’s a quick, breezy assessment of this romance. Pretty straightforward. A little sassy, definitely. A solid, confident endorsement.

Toolegit123:
Good evening everyone.

Lately,so I decided it was high time i tried my luck with other ladies since my fiancee broke up with me. I must really confess,it has been hectic after meeting a couple of single ladies.

The first lady,a lady of 27 years was the first one I encountered and she was introduced to me by my cousin. After texting and chatting on Whatsapp for a week,we decided to finally meet. We booked a date and I paid for her transport. On the day of our date,I noticed she wasn't paying attention to everything I was saying and that really killed the vibes I was expecting from our first date. Funny and awkward thing was that she didn't even spend more than 20 minutes on the date and I was the only one asking all the questions. After she left,I only called her to make sure she got home safely and afterward,I didn't bother to call or text her because that wasn't the kind of relationship I wanted.

Then,what actually buried the whole thing was that,even after everything,I was trying to build up a relationship with her even though I wasn't really feeling the vibes. The question that dug the final grave was--"Since the day I left your place,you haven't sent me any money for food and upkeep".

At first,I kept quiet for a while and then replied her--"haven't you been eating before we met?". That was when hell was let lose. The insults I received on that day from her were so much and annoying that the only way I thought I could pay her back was to block her ASAP.

This lady was someone who had her own hairdressing saloon business and I thought I could build something meaningful with her. But to my greatest surprise,she wasn't different from the hungry, younger ladies out there.

I don't think I will commence on my mission on the dating pool from now on because it seems most of these ladies nowadays are hungry and only looking for men who will bail them out of their poverty

So single guys in the house,have anyone of you had a similar experience with single ladies?

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once a lady only reply with one word during a conversation and she agrees to go out on date, know she isnt really interested in you or a serious relationship. Na money for hand bow for ground.

If they ask her, she'll say she was in a relationship/situationship with you.

Their idea of love is a man that does everything while they do nothing, infact, they even do this in marriage.

To many of these women, life is just vibes.

Many of these new generations girls have become something else.

Wahala for who dey for dating market. Most girls just want a guy they can leech o. Even the older ones are not excluded

I was casually chatting with one who posted a meme that anything a man does for a woman is charity to God.

I then said , let's flip the question, "Anything a woman does for man is what?"

She said it's "Na for the man"

It might seem like innocent banter but na from there person dey extrapolate

Na from here I know say this one nor get head

Na from small small comments like this you can guage the orientation of girl

It would be foolish for an reasonable man to pursue a relationship with that kind of girl

You can obviously see the reason she's still single...

I also broke up with my girl.... We dated for almost 2yrs...i dint date for a few months so I decided to date again...

I met a lady about 40+... I wanted to try older ladies cos I wanted maturity... This one was worse than the last.... This was when I noticed "conditional love"

Everytime there was a wedding to attend and she was always a part of the bridal shower... Every month I got a billing of 20 30k for materials and all...

And if you no give her that money she go squeeze face for you like a week or two.. That's not all..

She's always hungry, never has data or transport, always has one family issue, always sick.... To top it all, she's working oo

I'm already done with her in my mind.... No difference with the smalla them... Imagine a 40+ man that hasn't gotten his stuff together...

This relationship matter taya me abeg...

Traay:
"...Nigerian girls entered survival mode.
the worst are those cooperate ladies. they bill without conscience."

You really be OG for the game.

Cooperate ladies are wolves in sheep clothing. If you lose guard, them go bill you so tey you go sell your property.

Most times when they gather at work and start bragging about how they are billing guys, I can't help but feel sorry for their supposed boyfriends.

Some guys life don scatter for woman hand. How an adult comfortably carries the responsibility of another adult in the name of dating beats my imagination.

#Picks_tooth

AllBlack:
You suppose hold cane for one hand and microphone for the other hand as you dey talk this thing because some coconut head guys go still fail this thing wey you talk.

😅 Person wey nor learn from signs go cry when e see wonders.

Why did she leave 20-minutes into the date? The purpose of a date is to talk and get to know each other and ask questions. If she wasn't fully paying attention or she left 20-minutes, then she's not interested and you yourself should have the dignity to not contact her again. I'm assuming you didn't go to an eatery or restaurant and weren't eating, and perhaps this's why she left 20-minutes into it, otherwise if you were eating or waiting for food to come, I doubt she would've left.

Lol ...You don't know women have a WhatsApp group , where they update each other on new billing techniques . ...Ona go crryyy

Na you dey carry dem for head. As a fine bad boy wey I be, na dem dey rush me and the more I no send them d more dem dey come so forget. Shishi dem no go see

ravensckar:
You really be OG for the game.

Cooperate ladies are wolves in sheep clothing. If you lose guard, them go bill you so tey you go sell your property.

i no wan share too much, but you see ehh i will never advise anyone to date a lady that works in a bank or those big accounting firm. in fact, avoid any lady exposed to an organization where they readily deal on heavy currencies figure.

Those large money, and ceo’s account balance they see on a steady ends up f**king up their mentality. An average guy is seen as less to them. that’s why their oga are chopping them rigorously because these women chases hypergamy.

Omor e be like my babe wey I wan dump (for being emotionally manipulative and ungrateful) better pass many other gals oo. God abeg oo. I'm damn confused af

Traay:
i no wan share too much, but you see ehh i will never advise anyone to date a lady that works in a bank or those big accounting firm. in fact, avoid any lady exposed to an organization where they readily deal on heavy currencies figure.

Those large money, and ceo’s account balance they see on a steady ends up f**king up their mentality. An average guy is seen as less to them. that’s why their oga are chopping them rigorously because these women chases hypergamy.

you are going too far, A girl thats working in a spa,supermarket, fancy restaurant or just a sale girl at wine store has a bloated ego thinking working in those places makes her big, then she will start looking for love at wrong place instead of her to go for guy within her reach.