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This case
https://www.nairaland.com/8622429/church-expels-new-bride-refusing/4#139829474

Just gave me this idea.

You see, marriage is a simple thing so divorce too should be simple for both of them are based on the Rights and Consents of the couple, primarily.

So if i. 21 days (if my memory serves me right) a couple can become husband and wife in the marriage registry then it should be that in 21 days the couple can become decoupled and single again.

The marriage registry should also be the divorce registry.

And all it takes is for the couple to go through the same process they used for marrying only this time the notice would be stating "divorce". And in the end they would be given a certificate of divorce. Shikena.

No need for lengthy costly divorce proceedings.

Court cases should be for issues that arose in the marriage.

And with this people trapped into marriage can quickly and easily run out. Marriage should never be by force and the parties should always be free to exit when they need to.

Besides maybe marital domestic violence would reduce and maybe people will be more cautious when they get married.

How una see am?

Dtruthspeaker:
This case
https://www.nairaland.com/8622429/church-expels-new-bride-refusing/4#139829474

Just gave me this idea.

You see, marriage is a simple thing so divorce too should be simple for both of them are based on the Rights and Consents of the couple, primarily.

So if i. 21 days (if my memory serves me right) a couple can become husband and wife in the marriage registry then it should be that in 21 days the couple can become decoupled and single again.

The marriage registry should also be the divorce registry.

And all it takes is for the couple to go through the same process they used for marrying only this time the notice would be stating "divorce". And in the end they would be given a certificate of divorce. Shikena.

No need for lengthy costly divorce proceedings.

Court cases should be for issues that arose in the marriage.

And with this people trapped into marriage can quickly and easily run out. Marriage should never be by force and the parties should always be free to exit when they need to.

Besides maybe marital domestic violence would reduce and maybe people will be more cautious when they get married.

How una see am?

Things like alimony, child custody, child support, joint assets and liabilities never enter before marriage. That is why that process is simple. After that it is not that simple and each circumstance is not exactly the same.

Although if there is no contest...that dissolution can be done quickly as you suggested.

otipoju:
Things like alimony, child custody, child support, joint assets and liabilities never enter before marriage. That is why that process is simple. After that it is not that simple and each circumstance is not exactly the same.

Although if there is no contest...that dissolution can be done quickly as you suggested.

Separation and Dissolution of marriage aka divorce is different and should be different from determination of the rights and liabilities of the parties arising from the effects of marriage. That is the part that should go to court like every other matter.

But divorce as presently constituted that is registry marriage (marriage under the Act) is evil to a spouse who needs to run away from a marriage they no longer want. Imagine that oga and the wife in this case up here have to wait 2yrs before they can initiate divorce proceedings. The law did not even provide for an exception eg that if they both consent to it. They just have to suffer for 2yrs in this mess which we know that GBV will take place, marital rape and a whole lot of evils.

Exiting a marriage should be free and easy as it might be life saving.

Marriage should have expired date of 5 years and in which couple can renew it if they wanted for another 5 years and should be make permanent certificates once it get to 20 years

Me i see divorce as normal thing when the partner don't understand each other for years then they should separate marriage is not by force

Dtruthspeaker:
This case
https://www.nairaland.com/8622429/church-expels-new-bride-refusing/4#139829474

Just gave me this idea.

You see, marriage is a simple thing so divorce too should be simple for both of them are based on the Rights and Consents of the couple, primarily.

So if i. 21 days (if my memory serves me right) a couple can become husband and wife in the marriage registry then it should be that in 21 days the couple can become decoupled and single again.

The marriage registry should also be the divorce registry.

And all it takes is for the couple to go through the same process they used for marrying only this time the notice would be stating "divorce". And in the end they would be given a certificate of divorce. Shikena.

No need for lengthy costly divorce proceedings.

Court cases should be for issues that arose in the marriage.

And with this people trapped into marriage can quickly and easily run out. Marriage should never be by force and the parties should always be free to exit when they need to.

Besides maybe marital domestic violence would reduce and maybe people will be more cautious when they get married.

How una see am?

So how will divorce lawyers make money? Will you feed their families?

A relationship that went through due process did not end up simple with a 21-day wedding notice at the registry, as the OP suggests above.
No one should go into marriage with divorce as an exit plan, but shit happens sometimes.

After marriage, lots of things have gotten entangled and it might take some legal battles to untangle them.

Some marriages didn't even reach any form of court before they dissolved. Both parties simply MOVED ON and maintained their stance for years.

Chaos. People will no longer be careful in choosing life partners. Even with the difficulty, see what we have!

Dtruthspeaker:
This case
https://www.nairaland.com/8622429/church-expels-new-bride-refusing/4#139829474

Just gave me this idea.

You see, marriage is a simple thing so divorce too should be simple for both of them are based on the Rights and Consents of the couple, primarily.

So if i. 21 days (if my memory serves me right) a couple can become husband and wife in the marriage registry then it should be that in 21 days the couple can become decoupled and single again.

The marriage registry should also be the divorce registry.

And all it takes is for the couple to go through the same process they used for marrying only this time the notice would be stating "divorce". And in the end they would be given a certificate of divorce. Shikena.

No need for lengthy costly divorce proceedings.

Court cases should be for issues that arose in the marriage.

And with this people trapped into marriage can quickly and easily run out. Marriage should never be by force and the parties should always be free to exit when they need to.

Besides maybe marital domestic violence would reduce and maybe people will be more cautious when they get married.

How una see am?

God says:
I hate divorce BUT you promote it and actually advocate for ease of divorce!
SMH!

UNA dey PARA OOo, well its will be great..
I SPENT 3 years on DIVORCE CASE.. IMAGINE

Dtruthspeaker:
This case
https://www.nairaland.com/8622429/church-expels-new-bride-refusing/4#139829474

Just gave me this idea.

You see, marriage is a simple thing so divorce too should be simple for both of them are based on the Rights and Consents of the couple, primarily.

So if i. 21 days (if my memory serves me right) a couple can become husband and wife in the marriage registry then it should be that in 21 days the couple can become decoupled and single again.

The marriage registry should also be the divorce registry.

And all it takes is for the couple to go through the same process they used for marrying only this time the notice would be stating "divorce". And in the end they would be given a certificate of divorce. Shikena.

No need for lengthy costly divorce proceedings.

Court cases should be for issues that arose in the marriage.

And with this people trapped into marriage can quickly and easily run out. Marriage should never be by force and the parties should always be free to exit when they need to.

Besides maybe marital domestic violence would reduce and maybe people will be more cautious when they get married.

How una see am?

In other words, executive arms of govt should take over role of judiciary?


In marriage, the 3 arms of govt involved in it, legislator(local level) makes laws governing coming together as wife and duties of couples and also the kind of people you can marry as wife or husband.

Executive involved in joining them together as couples

Judiciary involved in dissolution of marriage.


If two people want to end their union, you take it to people who dispense justices, in other to end it in such a way,the outcome won't shift too much on this side or that side.

One of the reason divorce process is cumbersome and delay is to give the couple opportunity to have rethink before making final decision. In most cases most couples who filed for divorce end up settle after case adjournment. If divorce process should be made the way marriage registry is done, divorce case would be on the high side and that will add more troubles to the already existing problems in our environment. The high point don't marry because of emotion or pity try to get one who will compliment you, bringing out the best in you, one who will not attack you, one who will not abuse you both physically, emotionally and mentally. But unfortunately, most ladies go for highest financial bidder without thinking about the future. rewrite and add

Here is a polished rewrite of your text with improved grammar, flow, and clarity, while keeping your original message intact:

One of the reasons the divorce process is often cumbersome and delayed is to give couples the opportunity to rethink their decision before making it final. In many cases, couples who file for divorce eventually reconcile after the case has been adjourned.

If the divorce process were made as simple as the marriage registry process, the number of divorce cases would likely increase significantly, adding to the already existing problems in our society.

The key point is this: do not marry out of emotion or pity. Instead, choose someone who complements you, brings out the best in you, and does not attack or abuse you physically, emotionally, or mentally. Unfortunately, many ladies choose based on the highest financial bidder without considering the future consequences.

Marriage is not just about money or feelings; it is about compatibility, respect, peace, and shared values. A good marriage should build both partners, not break them. Before saying “I do,” think carefully about the kind of life you want to live and the kind of person you want to build that life with.

i think govt must enforce LAW people must think before they talk

this era of elon musk money, people just say anything just for tariffic, likes n shares is becomig naesuating

Can two lefgally married divorce without Court present, every court dissolution goes into registr justbas every customary union goes into a registry

before the law there is witness to either union or dissolution .. so what is OPnlooking for agin

Dtruthspeaker:
This case
https://www.nairaland.com/8622429/church-expels-new-bride-refusing/4#139829474

Just gave me this idea.

You see, marriage is a simple thing so divorce too should be simple for both of them are based on the Rights and Consents of the couple, primarily.

So if i. 21 days (if my memory serves me right) a couple can become husband and wife in the marriage registry then it should be that in 21 days the couple can become decoupled and single again.

The marriage registry should also be the divorce registry.

And all it takes is for the couple to go through the same process they used for marrying only this time the notice would be stating "divorce". And in the end they would be given a certificate of divorce. Shikena.

No need for lengthy costly divorce proceedings.

Court cases should be for issues that arose in the marriage.

And with this people trapped into marriage can quickly and easily run out. Marriage should never be by force and the parties should always be free to exit when they need to.

Besides maybe marital domestic violence would reduce and maybe people will be more cautious when they get married.

How una see am?

Don't mind them. Oyibos that gave us stringent divorce laws and proceedings have since changed things to simplify things for themselves. Na we dey carry long proceedings for head.

Fiscus105:
In other words, executive arms of govt should take over role of judiciary?


In marriage, the 3 arms of govt involved in it, legislator(local level) makes laws governing coming together as wife and duties of couples and also the kind of people you can marry as wife or husband.

Executive involved in joining them together as couples

Judiciary involved in dissolution of marriage.


If two people want to end their union, you take it to people who dispense justices, in other to end it in such a way,the outcome won't shift too much on this side or that side.

At least you appreciate that It is not the judiciary that put the couple together. So, therefore, it stands to reason that since they did not join together, then they have no right to put asunder. It is even a law.that is he who hires, who fires. UBA cannot be the one to hire me, then GtB will now be the one to fire me. No. Its not correct.

The same marriage registry should be the same divorce registry under the same provision of law for marriage exactly how it is under natural and native law. The divorce proceedings is done in the place and person who did the marriage that is the parents of the couple. So, should it be in the marriage registry in 21days just like the marriage process.

All other things in dispute like asset splitting or sharing, children, debts etc are things that should go to court (the judiciary) like every other dispute.

Imagine the 2 misery full couple in the case up waiting for 2yrs instead of 21days before they can divorce. Many crimes would definitely take place.

Marriage is relatively easy. At its core, it is a formal recognition by families, the community, and society that a man and a woman have entered into a committed relationship with shared rights and responsibilities.

Divorce, on the other hand, is far more complex. By the time a marriage ends, children may be involved, assets may have been acquired jointly, and both spouses may have made significant financial and non-financial contributions to each other's success. Untangling all of this is rarely straightforward, especially in long-term marriages.

For example, one spouse may have used their income or savings to establish a business for the other. Years later, that business may have grown into a highly successful enterprise. In the event of a divorce, should the contributing spouse have no claim to that success? At the very least, should they not recover the money they invested? These are not questions that can be answered quickly or superficially.

Then there is the equally difficult issue of children. Decisions must be made regarding custody, financial support, education, healthcare, and the overall welfare of the children. These responsibilities continue long after the marriage itself has ended.

For couples who have been married for more than a decade, divorce often involves years of intertwined finances, shared achievements, and family obligations. Determining each person's contributions, entitlements, and ongoing responsibilities is a complicated process that cannot realistically be resolved in just a few months.

JuanDeDios:
Don't mind them. Oyibos that gave us stringent divorce laws and proceedings have since changed things to simplify things for themselves. Na we dey carry long proceedings for head.

For movie dey make am seem say na sharp sharp but from my brief check Britain where we get our laws from still takes about 8months. So, this 21days go beat their own.

Then, i heard Muslim own is even the fastest even though their own is one sided.

Dtruthspeaker:
For movie dey make am seem say na sharp sharp but from my brief check Britain where we get our laws from still takes about 8months. So, this 21days go beat their own.

Then, i heard Muslim own is even the fastest even though their own is one sided.

That's in America. And that's how it should be everywhere. But that of Britain is still ok compared to Nigeria's.

In Britain they recently changed the law to allow you to file for a divorce without reason shortly after marriage. In Nigeria, you still have to wait two years after getting married before you can file.

TenQ:
God says:
I hate divorce BUT you promote it and actually advocate for ease of divorce!
SMH!

Every reasonable person knows that God hates divorce but that in most cases of divorce, all the things God hates in the Bible are all in it and He would therefore endorse divorce as Moses had to judge.

Surely, it is not the will of God that couples should be in an evil marriage after all His Commandment is that you must love each other. But if people disobey God and hate each other, then divorce must be done to prevent further evils

JuanDeDios:
That's in America. And that's how it should be everywhere. But that of Britain is still ok compared to Nigeria's.

In Britain they recently changed the law to allow you to file for a divorce without reason shortly after marriage. In Nigeria, you still have to wait two years after getting married before you can file.

Oh! They have done so?

It is this 2yrs that made me create the post for i nearly went kpoof when I read the couples predicament and that they cannot get out for 2 years. Men, that is hel

wirinet:
Marriage is relatively easy. At its core, it is a formal recognition by families, the community, and society that a man and a woman have entered into a committed relationship with shared rights and responsibilities.

Divorce, on the other hand, is far more complex. By the time a marriage ends, children may be involved, assets may have been acquired jointly, and both spouses may have made significant financial and non-financial contributions to each other's success. Untangling all of this is rarely straightforward, especially in long-term marriages.

For example, one spouse may have used their income or savings to establish a business for the other. Years later, that business may have grown into a highly successful enterprise. In the event of a divorce, should the contributing spouse have no claim to that success? At the very least, should they not recover the money they invested? These are not questions that can be answered quickly or superficially.

Then there is the equally difficult issue of children. Decisions must be made regarding custody, financial support, education, healthcare, and the overall welfare of the children. These responsibilities continue long after the marriage itself has ended.

For couples who have been married for more than a decade, divorce often involves years of intertwined finances, shared achievements, and family obligations. Determining each person's contributions, entitlements, and ongoing responsibilities is a complicated process that cannot realistically be resolved in just a few months.

Actually, divorce is easy.

Its a case of "do you want to divorce this woman/man who you once married and called your wife/husband this day? "

Answer: Spouse 1: i do
Spouse 2: i do

So the minister now says, "by the authority vested in me i now declare you spouse 1/spouse 2 demarried and divorced from each other. And from today henceforth, ye shall no longer be husband and wife but are now single and unmarried persons"!

Things that have to do with the personal and joint rights of the couple, children, assets are things that can now go to court.

chidiokay:
i think govt must enforce LAW people must think before they talk

this era of elon musk money, people just say anything just for tariffic, likes n shares is becomig naesuating

Can two lefgally married divorce without Court present, every court dissolution goes into registr justbas every customary union goes into a registry

before the law there is witness to either union or dissolution .. so what is OPnlooking for agin

I don't think you know what you are taking about! Let me ask you this when you say people are legally married do you imagine that they went to a court somewhere to marry eg ikeja high court or sagamu magistrate court?

b0rn2fuck:
Marriage should have expired date of 5 years and in which couple can renew it if they wanted for another 5 years and should be make permanent certificates once it get to 20 years

Permanent after 20yrs? Aaah!!

ohosi4real:
Me i see divorce as normal thing when the partner don't understand each other for years then they should separate marriage is not by force

In legal marriages they said you would wait for 2years before you start divorce process

QuinQQ:
So how will divorce lawyers make money? Will you feed their families?

My brother they would still make money as the couple still need to go to court to settle rights and liabilities and ownership of property disputes.

JoeEeL:
Hope Nigerian ladies have all found their Mr Chike or was it just a social media trend?

Women always have Chikes for one side. If no be say dat guy open Edohor mess we for know?

Efuaye:
A relationship that went through due process did not end up simple with a 21-day wedding notice at the registry, as the OP suggests above.
No one should go into marriage with divorce as an exit plan, but shit happens sometimes.

This is where you see that based on the case up, it is not good to force a person into marriage if not exit plans must be made

AllBlack:
After marriage, lots of things have gotten entangled and it might take some legal battles to untangle them.

Some marriages didn't even reach any form of court before they dissolved. Both parties simply MOVED ON and maintained their stance for years.

This is where you see the Ajayi case is standing on and now see the confusion it is causing.

https://www.nairaland.com/8696874/ajayi-vs-ajayi-battle-inheritance

If only divorce was easy all these issues could have been voided