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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by AllBlack: 12:26pm On Jun 26

publicenemy:
One day she will find someone richer amd dump you too. Tjats how women are.

That day you will hear that their famous line

"WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR ME THAT ANOTHER MAN HAS NOT DONE FOR A WOMAN BEFORE?"

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by McLizbae: 12:28pm On Jun 26

Nothings is too much for a deserving woman and mother or future mother of your kids.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Amalekki: 12:29pm On Jun 26

So what happened to her own family here? They can't afford her basic needs & expenses?

If things go well and you get married, this same girl will carry her own family for head while busy destroying your relationship with your own family that saw you through from childhood to independence.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by MarketDispatch: 12:29pm On Jun 26

AccidentedCars:
You will find love without money, but only when you're a boy. When
That grace is removed when you become a man.

These words here in written have never failed.

If she gives, she will be given

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by udemzyudex(m): 12:29pm On Jun 26

AccidentedCars:
People confuse this with "women are materialistic."

No.

I'm telling you that YOU as a man won't be able to function in a relationship the way you want to without baseline financial capacity.

It's not about her demands. It's about YOUR standard.

I couldn't watch my partner prepare for the most important interview of her year while stressing about how she'd get there, where she'd sleep, and whether she'd look presentable. That wasn't possible for me. My brain doesn't work that way.

So the bus ticket, the hotel room, the blouse – those weren't gifts to her.

They were the minimum I could offer someone I claimed to love in a moment that mattered.

If you can't afford that minimum, the relationship doesn't die because she leaves. It dies because YOU start resenting yourself.

And that resentment eats everything.

SIMP don drop quote

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by JuanDeDios: 12:29pm On Jun 26

TechCapon:
the kind of simps we have these days make me wanna laugh

What's simp about stocking your fridge, subbing Spotify or paying bus fare for your girl if she can't afford them by herself and you can?

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by JuanDeDios: 12:30pm On Jun 26

McLizbae:
Nothings is too much for a deserving woman and mother or future mother of your kids.

Exactly.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by QuinQQ: 12:31pm On Jun 26

AccidentedCars:
People confuse this with "women are materialistic."

No.

I'm telling you that YOU as a man won't be able to function in a relationship the way you want to without baseline financial capacity.

It's not about her demands. It's about YOUR standard.

I couldn't watch my partner prepare for the most important interview of her year while stressing about how she'd get there, where she'd sleep, and whether she'd look presentable. That wasn't possible for me. My brain doesn't work that way.

So the bus ticket, the hotel room, the blouse – those weren't gifts to her.

They were the minimum I could offer someone I claimed to love in a moment that mattered.

If you can't afford that minimum, the relationship doesn't die because she leaves. It dies because YOU start resenting yourself.

And that resentment eats everything.

You people always generalize from your own narrow situation, forgetting that the world is a very big and complex place. There are women who can't love a man that spends money on them. Then just as a baby doesn't have to give anything to get all that love and nurturing, there are women who'd be yours and spend on you if you have a tendency to bring out their nurturing side. Then there are submissive women who make money or already have money and looking for a dominant man who'll spend it. They can't love you if you have the mindset of giving them money! So it's not one size fits all

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Gotocourt: 12:33pm On Jun 26

AccidentedCars:
Someone will read this and think "so poor people can't love?"

Of course they can. I literally said you will FIND love without money.

But preserving it? Sustaining it? Being the person who shows up when it counts – not with grand gestures, but with ₦85,000 that makes the difference between her walking into that room defeated or walking in ready?

That requires money.

Not luxury. Not Lekki Phase 1 money.

Just "the kitchen is stocked, the lights are on, we're not trekking in the sun, and when something important comes up, I can MOVE" money.

If that sounds like luxury to you, then you understand the problem even better than I do.

Because "there's nothing at home" is a sentence I don't allow in my house.

Responsible man📍💯

Be like bro

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by lagonovo: 12:35pm On Jun 26

I agree with you. This guy needs to calm down with his husband role playing. He is not her husband, at least not yet. We know he thinks he is being smart by marking territory with what he could afford but he is toying with his own future.

Focusmind:
I will have to digress a little bit o

If you are a struggling young man, dont follow the Op's story

Focus on your job hunting and how to scale on whatever you are doing

Relationship derails and distract people, especially when focus is required

I am not saying you should NOT date a girl if an opportunity present itself but dont be consumed in maintaining a relationship when you have a PRIZE you are pursuing, which is your career

However, if you are already made, you can go ahead and accommodate relationship and the distractions that comes with it.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by chatinent: 12:36pm On Jun 26

"You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy" still sounds like the statement of a boy.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Dzzzz: 12:37pm On Jun 26

Na poor people marriage dey even suprise people pass rich people own..I saw a broke guy and his wife,I nearly cry..A very beautiful woman he married and do you know what he does!!?..This guy hawks bread and they are comfortable..Sometimes no be buy money,Na just grace to marry better woman..

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by lagonovo: 12:40pm On Jun 26

Amalekki:
So what happened to her own family here? They can't afford her basic needs & expenses?

If things go well and you get married, this same girl will carry her own family for head while busy destroying your relationship with your own family that saw you through from childhood to independence.

Sad reality of many families.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Fujiyama: 12:49pm On Jun 26

Ishilove:
See better person. I hope she values what she has.

^^^

Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by LibertyRep: 12:50pm On Jun 26

socoharley:
This is why you don't have a car yet but jumping cab and keke. You spend almost all your earnings on a lady you are not married to and expect to be called a "big guy"? Bros wake up abeg and better your life first. What you narrated here no make sense.
BTW,how much do you give your parents and siblings?

The bolded is worthy of interrogation. But one is independent of others sha.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Classicals: 12:52pm On Jun 26

Everybody believes it's his own standard that makes Sense.

Those that spend more than him are simps.
Those that spend less than him No get level.

It's his own standard that is the best template.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by emmaodet: 12:54pm On Jun 26

You have written well but all you wrote are just BASIC amenities expected in a 21st century country.
It is the basic anyone breathing should have and shouldn't even be that expensive.
But it is what it is. We are in Africa

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by dauntless15(m): 12:57pm On Jun 26

Nice one mr. Pick me, my only question is as you spend 2 million a year as bare minimum to make a woman comfortable, what is she spending in return or the whole thing is one sided as usual, and because she's in a relationship she can't handle basic things for herself again, she becomes a child you have to take care of, thats a liability not a partner, as it is you're only my responsibility if I'm married to you, imagine expecting someone to make sure you goto a job interview in comfort, is she even capable of bathing herself, you should hire someone to be bathing her too, when you can't afford the 2mil again we will know whatsup then, your healing go long no worry.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by regenerateman(m): 12:59pm On Jun 26

Your definition of love is money. Your eyes will clear when this money finishes. It is good to make your woman happy, but one thing I realize in life is that money may not necessarily make a person happy.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by chicfarmer: 1:00pm On Jun 26

Op, you dey try, but relationship and marriage no dey straight forward like that o.

Our people say, the thing when you take treat woman well na im Dem still take dey displease am grin

That one mean say, the moment you stop doing any of these things for her FOR ANY REASON, Omo .. Dem don start to dey count am for you as offense o.. grin

Just find better and understanding woman sha..

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by ReacherSaidNoth: 1:07pm On Jun 26

NassBoy:
Kingdom: simpae
Phylum:Simpson
Gene; Simp

Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Akalia(m): 1:10pm On Jun 26

AccidentedCars:
Someone will read this and think "so poor people can't love?"

Of course they can. I literally said you will FIND love without money.

But preserving it? Sustaining it? Being the person who shows up when it counts – not with grand gestures, but with ₦85,000 that makes the difference between her walking into that room defeated or walking in ready?

That requires money.

Not luxury. Not Lekki Phase 1 money.

Just "the kitchen is stocked, the lights are on, we're not trekking in the sun, and when something important comes up, I can MOVE" money.

If that sounds like luxury to you, then you understand the problem even better than I do.

Bro you seem to be fixated on what you can offer to your woman rather than in actually setting standards for yourself. Every account of spending money in your story revolves around your woman.
Ask yourself if you ain't got no money would she stick with you?
Try test that your woman's loyalty with a challenging life, you seem to have it all rolling soft and easy for her.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by aestake: 1:15pm On Jun 26

Ishilove:
See better person. I hope she values what she has.

If it is bro, na fight u go go fight.

Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Dancebreaker: 1:16pm On Jun 26*

WhiteIverson:
"The things that make a woman feel like she's with someone who has capacity. Not wealth. CAPACITY"

This is the funniest thing I've read all year. So women don't wealthy men again. They now want men with CAPACITY 😂

Same way they've been hopping back and forth from "real men to intentional men"

What the OP, the "intentional dude," doesn't know is that doing the #2m per year thing does not mean she won't have another dude, if she's that type of girl.

Life is not black and white.

So the girl's parents did not have "capacity" to make her "feel like a human being" all these years. Until she met you. So, if she meets a man through her work that lives in Lekki Phase 1 and makes her a jet-setter nko? Will she stay loyal to you? grin

OP is promoting the typical 9ja transactional relationship. We need a serious re-orientation.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Legitbeauru: 1:17pm On Jun 26

You concluded in your mind she’s completely satisfied based on the basic provisions you offer her.? There are men who did way more than you are currently doing for their ex girlfriend but got ridiculed when they went broke. This pattern is a constant variable in almost 99% case of relationship. Better shine your eyes and invest those little change on yourself before it’s too late…

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by eagleonearth(m): 1:17pm On Jun 26

AccidentedCars:
People confuse this with "women are materialistic."

No.

I'm telling you that YOU as a man won't be able to function in a relationship the way you want to without baseline financial capacity.

It's not about her demands. It's about YOUR standard.

I couldn't watch my partner prepare for the most important interview of her year while stressing about how she'd get there, where she'd sleep, and whether she'd look presentable. That wasn't possible for me. My brain doesn't work that way.

So the bus ticket, the hotel room, the blouse – those weren't gifts to her.

someone I claimed to love in a moment that matteredThey were the minimum I could offer .

If you can't afford that minimum, the relationship doesn't die because she leaves. It dies because YOU start resenting yourself.

And that resentment eats everything.

You did noble, question is if she can do same for you if the table flipped @bolded?

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Smithwilliams826: 1:19pm On Jun 26

As I dey read, I just dey laugh. Op no worry, u go soon cry cry

.
Ur story Neva sweet. E just dey funny.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by odimbannamdi(m): 1:21pm On Jun 26

Cum4me:
This one get job Na why him dey make noise here. Make your hand cool you go see the monster in that girl.

God no go allow him hand "cool". AMEN.

Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Greystone: 1:22pm On Jun 26

Cum4me:
This one get job Na why him dey make noise here. Make your hand cool you go see the monster in that girl.

He should marry her first.
You can spend spend 50 years dating a woman but the day you marry her, you begin to see sides to her you never saw.

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by Dancebreaker: 1:23pm On Jun 26

NassBoy:
Kingdom: simpae
Phylum:Simpson
Gene; Simp

So, the species is Simpae hominis?

Chai! You be Yaba Left, nothing anybarry go tell me.

grin

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Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by professore(m): 1:25pm On Jun 26

Properly said.

I agree completely.

Re: You'll Find Love Without Money. But Only When You're A Boy by olaNL: 1:27pm On Jun 26

Please don't take my comment personal. It was just for this specific write-up and I am not accusing the OP of always using AI.

Note that I did not use any AI checker to come to this conclusion but if you are familiar with AI text or speech there is a pattern to it and this write-up has similar pattern. An example is the following paragraphs

"
The bus ticket, the hotel, the blouse – maybe ₦85,000 total. Not a fortune. But it was the difference between her showing up stressed, underprepared, and exhausted from an overnight bus… and showing up rested, sharp, and confident."

"I keep a stocked kitchen whenever she's around. Not fancy things – eggs, bread, rice, the basics. But ALWAYS stocked. Because "there's nothing at home" is a sentence I don't allow in my house.

I handle data and subscriptions without being asked. Netflix, the Wi-Fi router, her Spotify. Small things. Maybe ₦15,000 a month combined. But she never has to think about them. That's the point."

AllBlack:
Hello, some people actually possess the ability to write multiple paragraphs with all the pointers in the right places and the structure intact, especially when they actually mean to write.

Everything should not be easily attributed to the modern presence and dominance of AI. It is an insult and rather unfair to someone like me who has even disabled AUTO-CORRECT on all devices for many years now.

Writing is still a valid skill.

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