"If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists - Family

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"If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by UnlimitedNG(op): 6:47pm On Jun 25

“If You Cannot Submit to a Husband Then Don’t Marry” — Pastor Abel Damina Tells Feminists

The founder of Power City International, Pastor Abel Damina, has sparked reactions after sharing his views on feminism, marriage, and submission during a church service.

Speaking to his congregation, Damina described feminism as a positive ideology when it focuses on securing equal rights and opportunities for women in politics, the economy, and society.

“Feminism is ladies fighting for equal rights in society, which is ideal. It’s a very wonderful ideology, and it should be like that,” he said.

However, the cleric argued that some women have taken the concept beyond the pursuit of equality, adopting attitudes that reject male authority while still desiring marriage.

“If a lady doesn’t want to submit to a husband, don’t marry. It’s not a sin for you to be alone and d+e single. Don’t marry, because if you marry, you will submit one way or the other,” he stated.

Damina further linked the issue of submission in marriage to Christian faith, saying that believers are first called to submit themselves to Christ.

“What is salvation? Submission. It’s no longer I, but Christ. That’s submission. When you have submitted to Christ, submitting to your husband is not going to be an issue,” he said.

The preacher also claimed that resistance to submission in marriage reflects a deeper spiritual issue, adding, “Any lady’s problem with submission, she still has a problem with Christ. In fact, she’s far from Christ.”

“The ideology of feminism is ladies f+ghting for equal rights in society. That is the standard idea of feminism. But for African feminists, it goes beyond that… If a lady can’t submit to her husband, she shouldn’t marry” — Pastor Abel Damina

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Stephen0mozzy: 6:48pm On Jun 25

They're adults. They can do what they like and not submit. But as a man, you should not marry them.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by budaatum: 6:51pm On Jun 25

Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by CodeTemplar: 6:55pm On Jun 25

Copy n Paste pastors. Ride on.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by WhiteIverson: 7:27pm On Jun 25

budaatum:
Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

Why are you a man talking about marrying another man

Are you a homo😂

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Northernblood8(m): 1:34pm On Jun 26

Women should know that the best way to actually control a man is to be humble to him.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by dermmy(m): 1:34pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

Some people think submission means control, slavery and obsequiousness. SMHfu

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Procashtips(m): 1:35pm On Jun 26

Seriously? Damina copy and paste?

CodeTemplar:
Copy n Paste pastors. Ride on.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by PulaPower: 1:35pm On Jun 26

Submissiveness is part of the game

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by ohosi4real(m): 1:35pm On Jun 26

May God help all men in the hands of bad wife.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by bukatyne(f): 1:35pm On Jun 26

Northernblood8:
Women should know that the best way to actually control a man is to be humble to him.

Women are not obsessed with control, men are.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by ogolemati: 1:36pm On Jun 26

na only madness go make you not to submit to your loving husband that married you

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Gotocourt: 1:36pm On Jun 26

Motayoayinde just dey beg me, omorr I run oOoOO.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Elvis2kay: 1:36pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

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Feminist in the house.. No man want warrior .

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Wealthoptulent(m): 1:36pm On Jun 26

but HVNGER and POVERTY ALLEVATION PROGRAMMES no go GREE dem, ebi npa won ni ile waaan oo

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by ariesbull: 1:37pm On Jun 26

That is what the Bible said

IF YOUR WIFE CAN'T SUBMIT TO YOU... DIVORCE HER

Good News and Catholic Bible said

Book of Sirach Chapter 25 vs 24 - 27

. 24 Sin began with a woman, and we must all die because of her.

25 Don't let a bad wife have her way, any more than you would allow water to leak from your cistern.

26 If she won't do as you tell her, divorce her

Na Bible talk am

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Gotocourt: 1:38pm On Jun 26

bukatyne:
Women are not obsessed with control, men are.

Control over your finances, how much is your salary, buy me dis and that, am broke, my hair undecided

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by shortgun(m): 1:40pm On Jun 26

It's as simple as that. If you are too big to be under a man remain in your father's house

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by spencekat(m): 1:42pm On Jun 26

As simple as ABC. It is what it is.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by autoez: 1:44pm On Jun 26

Marriage is overrated as I always say. Every man should just consider having kids and not a wife. The new generation women aren't wife materials. They should be allowed to their lives the way they want to.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Dogalmighty17: 1:48pm On Jun 26

Simple! Stay in your father's house and be a proud feminist!

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by kell098: 1:50pm On Jun 26

lol marry dx one u r finish

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by prinsam30: 1:53pm On Jun 26

Na true U talk ride on pastor

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by budaatum: 1:53pm On Jun 26

dermmy:
Some people think submission means control, slavery and obsequiousness. SMHfu

Why would you want me to submit to you if you don't want to be my lord and master and control me?

In fact, explain how I submit to you so we can both assess if you don't mean "control, slavery and obsequiousness".

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Edusouls(m): 1:54pm On Jun 26

Hei shut up feminist no man Can keep you as a wife if u ain’t submissive, the man of God is right, change now and stop deceiving urself or please stay single…

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Leepeak(m): 1:56pm On Jun 26

Pastor forget ooo grin

We the members of bangers association
I like feminist they are my spec
Na just banging them need
Pastor one spoil market for we that wants things equal and loyal to a woman na
grin

Nawa ooo if u have any one please tell her am interested in her

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by chieveboy(m): 1:57pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

You cant escape it.

You submit to your boss at work. If that is slavery, then like I said...

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by budaatum: 1:58pm On Jun 26

Elvis2kay:
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Feminist in the house.. No man want warrior .

Actually, weak men don't want warriors.

Strong intelligent men would be delighted to have a warrior in their family fighting poverty and educating their children to be warriors together in this harsh world we live in.

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Waterlilly: 2:03pm On Jun 26

They pretend to submit, after wedding them true color show up

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by budaatum: 2:05pm On Jun 26

chieveboy:
You cant escape it.

You submit to your boss at work. If that is slavery, then like I said...

Sorry, but I do not "submit" to my boss at work!

I am at, or rather, was at a level where my bosses recognised my abilities and skills, and they were far too intelligent to require me to submit to them because I can very easily take my skills and abilities to where I am better appreciated.

They are are also intelligent enough to understand that we build the company or organisation together, so they wouldn't have stupidly required that I submit to them instead of flourishing in my own right.

That said, I understand if you submit. You are not me.

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by chieveboy(m): 2:12pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
Sorry, but I do not "submit" to my boss at work!

I am at, or rather, was at a level where my bosses recognised my abilities and skills, and they were far too intelligent to require me to submit to them because I can very easily take my skills and abilities to where I am better appreciated.

They are are also intelligent enough to understand that we build the company or organisation together, so they wouldn't have stupidly required that I submit to them instead of flourishing in my own right.

That said, I understand if you submit. You are not me.

You're explaining too much.

You in fact do submit as a matter of compulsion. Its called the organizational chart, KPIs, chain of reporting, etc...

Marriages too have its own.

Where you thinking submission in the corporate sense was anything outside of that?

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by dominique(mod): 2:16pm On Jun 26

Northernblood8:
Women should know that the best way to actually control a man is to be humble to him.

Lolol😂, that's the lies your fathers told to mothers of yesteryears and successfully turned them to doormats grin

. We ain't falling for that BS this 21st century

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