"If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists - Family (2)

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by MissOpe(f): 2:16pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

If I was meant to be controlled, I would have come with a remote...

Omo that one enter..Chai😂😂😂😂

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by APOPTOSIS: 2:17pm On Jun 26

SimpLe
I have always sounded this here.
I preach this everyday.
Marriage is not for everyone.
It's no crime to stay alone. Keep of men!
If you can't take shittttt please avoid MEN.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by MissOpe(f): 2:18pm On Jun 26

ariesbull:
That is what the Bible said

IF YOUR WIFE CAN'T SUBMIT TO YOU... DIVORCE HER

Good News and Catholic Bible said

Book of Sirach Chapter 25 vs 24 - 27

. 24 Sin began with a woman, and we must all die because of her.

25 Don't let a bad wife have her way, any more than you would allow water to leak from your cistern.

26 If she won't do as you tell her, divorce her

Na Bible talk am

Eno go beta for bible and the people wey write am....

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by ariesbull: 2:21pm On Jun 26

Wetin concern me ....

MissOpe:
Eno go beta for bible and the people wey write am....

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by ariesbull: 2:21pm On Jun 26

Deal with God that inspires them

MissOpe:
Eno go beta for bible and the people wey write am....

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by keemsleek(m): 2:22pm On Jun 26

I think when preaching some topics clerics need to specify that the message is not for everyone but christ followers strictly for the body of Christ and those who wants to enjoy marriage.

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Proserpina: 2:30pm On Jun 26

Pastor leave marriage first, give us 5 tips to survive this economy without running mad. embarassed

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by MissOpe(f): 2:30pm On Jun 26

ariesbull:
Deal with God that inspires them

Eno go beta for the imaginary Inspo

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by ogascomax: 2:34pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

All men needed their wife to be submissive include a gentleman like me. Submission is what the Bible says a woman must do. The man is commanded to love the wife and if possible die for the wife. So every body must know their role in marriage. This is why it's getting hard for marriage to be successful nowadays. To submit to your husband does not mean that marriage will not be sweet. Play go dey, jokes go still dey banter go still dey but it takes wisdom to navigate all the various levels of relationship. What you need is wisdom for marriage.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by budaatum: 2:39pm On Jun 26

chieveboy:
You're explaining too much.

You in fact do submit as a matter of compulsion. Its called the organizational chart, KPIs, chain of reporting, etc...

Marriages too have its own.

Where you thinking submission in the corporate sense was anything outside of that?

Are you are comprehending far too little.

All you have listed is not submission. It's just doing ones job, but I do not expect you to understand the difference.

You've already recognised me for the feminist I am, so do you seriously think I'd be wasting my time with some insecure man who needs me to submit? And do you think I will bring up weak daughters who need to submit to some di%?

I am not "compelled". No one came to my house and ordered me to work for any particular organisation (or marry any particular man). I applied by showing my worth to them, and they saw I could be valuable to them so they hired me (or married me). And if I feel unvalued, I can very easily submit my resignation and go work elsewhere (or kick the man out of my house).

But perhaps I should help you with definitions.

Submission generally refers to the act of yielding to a higher authority, or the presentation of a document, proposal, or artwork for consideration. The term carries distinct meanings depending on the context in which it is used.

Common Definitions by Context Everyday Usage:
The act of submitting a physical or digital item (such as a manuscript, application, or competition entry) for review or judgment. It can also denote the condition of being humble or obedient to another person's control.

Combat Sports & Martial Arts: The act of forcing an opponent to yield or tap out due to the application of a painful lock, choke, or hold (common in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, wrestling, and MMA).

Psychology & Sociology:
Behaviours that signal a lower social rank or the acceptance of another's dominance.

Man! Are you a higher authority that I must yield to, or do you plan to force me to be humble or obedient and yield to you?

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by ogascomax: 2:40pm On Jun 26

MissOpe:
If I was meant to be controlled, I would have come with a remote...

Omo that one enter..Chai😂😂😂😂

That is the mistake you ladies are making. Nobody wants to control you. Submission does not mean that they want to control you it's about you as a woman understanding your role, your position and how to navigate in playing your role. The man is the leader and as the wife you are to carry the man's ideas and drive it in the home.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by ClassicMan202(m): 2:44pm On Jun 26

All these feminists crying on the post... Please if you don't want to submit, remain single Na

Wetin dey bring quarrel now?

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by pocohantas(f): 2:48pm On Jun 26

You are assuming every man is a christian, every feminist wants to marry a christian man or every feminist is married to a christian man.

Which is fallacy of hasty generalization.

On another thread you guys said church women are not marrying or marriageable. Today it is feminists. 😂😂😂

Marry your kind and rest.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by pussyphilia(m): 2:51pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

Can I submit to you? In a ship there can only be one captain

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by budaatum: 2:57pm On Jun 26

ogascomax:
All men needed their wife to be submissive include a gentleman like me. Submission is what the Bible says a woman must do. The man is commanded to love the wife and if possible die for the wife. So every body must know their role in marriage. This is why it's getting hard for marriage to be successful nowadays. To submit to your husband does not mean that marriage will not be sweet. Play go dey, jokes go still dey banter go still dey but it takes wisdom to navigate all the various levels of relationship. What you need is wisdom for marriage.

First, you are not "all men". And who told you the Bible is some sort of authority and not your comprehension of your reading it? Did Christ not send you the Holy Spirit of discernment for a reason?But let me.

I'm sure you've heard of Adam. The Adam that was commanded not to acquire knowledge or he will die? Eve the woman came along and acquired knowledge and freed herself and her ignorant naked Adam from slavery, and they went on to not die as they'd been lied to believe, but became self employed, hence not submitting to no one, and populated the earth with, eventually, you.

Play is not all we will be doing when we marry, you see. We'd instead be building a family of very powerful non-submissive sons and daughters who will go on to rule and subdue and multiply and be blessed, instead of rearing ignorant children that will submit to some imaginary fear and be naked slaves in a garden.

The below says girls, but read "our sons" too, and let me know if we are getting married please. I'm too old to have kids now but we can always adopt.

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by pocohantas(f): 2:58pm On Jun 26

bukatyne:
Women are not obsessed with control, men are.

If the best way to control a man is be humble to him, why are men not being humble to me. So they can control me that way too? 😂

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by chieveboy(m): 3:06pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
Are you are comprehending far too little.

All you have listed is not submission. It's just doing ones job, but I do not expect you to understand the difference.

You've already recognised me for the feminist I am, so do you seriously think I'd be wasting my time with some insecure man who needs me to submit? And do you think I will bring up weak daughters who need to submit to some di%?

I am not "compelled". No one came to my house and ordered me to work for any particular organisation (or marry any particular man). I applied by showing my worth to them, and they saw I could be valuable to them so they hired me (or married me). And if I feel unvalued, I can very easily submit my resignation and go work elsewhere (or kick the man out of my house).

But perhaps I should help you with definitions.

Man! Are you a higher authority that I must yield to, or do you plan to force me to be humble or obedient and yield to you?

You understanding is indeed amazing

In the corporate setting, its you being subjected to do all manner of work and you must do it. Its compulsory.

Just the way you signed up for getting a corporate job where the boss you must submit to advertises their vacancy is the way your husband advertised their proposal and you willfully agreed.

There are unwritten policies: You must open you legs, cook, clean the house and do dishes and others..When you give birth, you're the one to bath the baby, wash, clean, and it goes on.

The must not always have their way, but then his decisions mostly may overrule yours.

These are what occurs as submission.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by pocohantas(f): 3:09pm On Jun 26

APOPTOSIS:
SimpLe
I have always sounded this here.
I preach this everyday.
Marriage is not for everyone.
It's no crime to stay alone. Keep of men!
If you can't take shittttt please avoid MEN.

We don't have to avoid MEN. We simply avoid you and your fellow men who were trained to give shit.

This is what you should be preaching;
"Avoid me, I was trained to release shitttt"

Don't speak for MEN. Some have good upbringing or are trying to be better humans. Some don't give their wife shittt. Okay?

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by budaatum: 3:31pm On Jun 26

chieveboy:
You understanding is indeed amazing

In the corporate setting, its you being subjected to do all manner of work and you must do it. Its compulsory.

Just the way you signed up for getting a corporate job where the boss you must submit to advertises their vacancy is the way your husband advertised their proposal and you willfully agreed.

There are unwritten policies: You must open you legs, cook, clean the house and do dishes and others..When you give birth, you're the one to bath the baby, wash, clean, and it goes on.

The must not always have their way, but then his decisions mostly may overrule yours.

These are what occurs as submission.

You are assuming you and I are the same category when it us obvious that we are not.

First, my work is not compulsory. It is an obligation I take on for the wage I am paid, and which I can walk away from whenever I like. I am no one's slave.

Second, I am far too developed for marriage to me to be "open you legs, cook, clean the house and do dishes and others... bath the baby, wash, clean, and it goes on", which on reading actually made me laugh.

My parents, you see, educated me to be a boss in my own right, so all those things you listed are joint duties in my house, since the man is not the only one bringing home our bacon. We make decisions together too, since our joint resource is involved. And thankfully he is not arrogant and stup¹d enough to think only him did God give a brain.

Those "policies" you mention might work with the uneducated girl you went to your village to marry, but that's not me, thank you very much.

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by victoryenergy: 3:33pm On Jun 26

ariesbull:
That is what the Bible said

IF YOUR WIFE CAN'T SUBMIT TO YOU... DIVORCE HER

Good News and Catholic Bible said

Book of Sirach Chapter 25 vs 24 - 27

. 24 Sin began with a woman, and we must all die because of her.

25 Don't let a bad wife have her way, any more than you would allow water to leak from your cistern.

26 If she won't do as you tell her, divorce her

Na Bible talk am

Not divorce her, but touch her away😁😁😁😁😁

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Joybeau: 3:34pm On Jun 26

This pastor is bias. How do the society constantly preach submission on the part of the women and never always teach men their roles in the family. Many men have fallen short of their glories in their homes. Many men are weak and lazy to lead the home. Financially, emotionally, spiritually, physically they are lagging behind in their various home and a lot of women have taken up the mantle in their homes to provide, sustain and protect the family all for the sake of her children and the undeserving husband will always be shouting "submit to me" like werey. We submit to something. Respect and submission is earned and not forced.

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by APOPTOSIS: 3:39pm On Jun 26

Dogalmighty17:
Simple! Stay in your father's house and be a proud feminist!

SimpLe.
I encourage them everyday to stay in their Father's house so that men will take out time to focus on wife materials around.
Staying at home will make it easier for men to distinguish such characters from others.

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Jeezuzpick(m): 3:41pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
Actually, he means don't marry him. And of course I wouldn't.

Thankfully he's not the only man out there, and not all men need their wife to submit to them.

Besides, I bet his children do not submit to him, but he wants to make a slave of someone else's daughter!

Feminists should please not turn an innocent, nice dude into a train wreck.

There's no way a feminist can have a happy home.

Feminists, just stay single, abeg!

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Jeezuzpick(m): 3:44pm On Jun 26

Dogalmighty17:
Simple! Stay in your father's house and be a proud feminist!

No!

De papa sef na man.

She should MOVE HER ASS DAFUQ OUT and go be a "proud, independent woman"

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by APOPTOSIS: 3:44pm On Jun 26

Joybeau:
This pastor is bias. How do the society constantly preach submission on the part of the women and never always teach men their roles in the family. Many men have fallen short of their glories in their homes. Many men are weak and lazy to lead the home. Financially, emotionally, spiritually, physically they are lagging behind in their various home and a lot of women have taken up the mantle in their homes to provide, sustain and protect the family all for the sake of her children and the undeserving husband will always be shouting "submit to me" like werey. We submit to something. Respect and submission is earned and not forced.

What is Bais about what he said?
He just made it easier for you to continue staying in your Father's house peacefully and respectfully.
Is that a problem also?
Allow Ladies who want to genuinely settle down do it peacefully but for those who don't want....please stay in your Father's house

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by budaatum: 3:44pm On Jun 26

Jeezuzpick:
Feminists, just stay single, abeg!

But we thankfully don't need to as there are lots of strong intelligent men out there looking to marry strong queens who will build massive kingdoms with them.

As for you week immature boys who need submission, there's always the uneducated weak village girl you can go marry and dominate.

Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by pocohantas(f): 3:45pm On Jun 26

Jeezuzpick:
Feminists should please not turn an innocent, nice dude into a train wreck.

There's no way a feminist can have a happy home.

Feminists, just stay single, abeg!

I am a dangerous feminist, I have a happy home. My husband is not the one crying on NL or bothered over the choices of other women. If you are so happy in your homes, you would tell us more about those homes. We would see the evidence of submission and maybe learn one or two.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by pocohantas(f): 3:46pm On Jun 26

APOPTOSIS:
What is Bais about what he said?
He just made it easier for you to continue staying in your Father's house peacefully and respectfully. Is that a problem also?
Allow Ladies who want to genuinely settle down do it peacefully but for those who don't want....please stay in your Father's house

Marry the ones that want to marry you or tell us more about the one submitting to you!

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Jeezuzpick(m): 3:49pm On Jun 26

pocohantas:
I am a dangerous feminist, I have a happy home. My husband is not the one crying on NL or bothered over the choices of other women. If you are so happy in your homes, you would tell us more about those homes. We would see the evidence of submission and maybe learn one or two.

You are NOT a feminist, because you clearly don't know what it means.

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Re: "If You Can't Submit To A Husband, Don't Marry"---Pastor Damina Tells Feminists by Jeezuzpick(m): 3:50pm On Jun 26

budaatum:
But we thankfully don't need to as there are lots of strong intelligent men out there looking to marry strong queens who will build massive kingdoms with them.

As for you week immature boys who need submission, there's always the uneducated weak village girl you can go marry and dominate.

Go and enjoy your "strength"

I'm fine in my marriage of almost 20 years.

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