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Oftentimes, we fail to realise that there is a connection between the character of the person we are dating and the people he or she must have dated in the past.

We sexualize relationships so much to the extent where we begin to feel that these affairs are just about sex, romance, and escapades. Relationships are like schools. The difference is that they can teach you both bad things and good things, meaningful things and senseless things. It all depends on the type of people you date.

I have seen young innocent-looking girls who are so deep in hard drugs and wild parties. They weren't born to be wayward, but because they dated guys of low value and questionable character, they ended up that way. A man who beats his partners must have dated strings of women who tolerated such abnormal behaviour. If his former partners did not tolerate that, he would not dare raise his hands on you that does not tolerate such.

Most young people today hardly consider character when choosing who to date today. Young guys do not care to observe the character of a lady. Does she exhibit respect, sincerity, high moral value, or dignity of person? These questions are necessary, but now look irrelevant in today's society. Young men are now more concerned with big ass, fine face, and a pair of perky boobs. Young women on the other hand are more concerned with what the guy can offer. How much does he have and what does he drive? What amount can he cough out if I bill him? With these, people learn little or almost nothing good in relationships.

If I meet a woman close to 30, who has dated several people in the past, and she exhibits a high level of disrespect and a loss of value, it clearly shows that she has been dating men of poor character in the past. You must be of poor character to teach another person how to behave poorly, while still tolerating their poor character.

My opinion is that people should date their type because relationships are interactive and contagious, and as such, characters and habits are learned. Disrespectful men should date disrespectful women. Morally depraved men should date morally depraved women. People should not just accept others as they are as far as commitment is involved.

Your duty is not to manage harmful habits in relationships, but to leave!

If one's exes could influence his/character what then happens to the parent's gene?

Just asking o

This op na můmů talk just full him mouth

If I meet a woman close to 30, who has dated several people in the past, and she exhibits a high level of disrespect and a loss of value, it clearly shows that she has been dating men of poor character in the past. You must be of poor character to teach another person how to behave poorly, while still tolerating their poor character.

So in your eyes a woman is incapable of being bad on her own. She's incapable of doing anything wrong. It must be a man that spoilt her.

Very anyhow person talk naim you dey talk

Oh Stella, u broke my tender heart Nd led me into the hands of my ex wife that used her office as an army officer to keep me in her control

Chai! Singles, how market?

See long stories ontop relationship matters!

Meanwhile, na economy wey don spoil be de real problem, o.

Daz y plenty gehs don turn olosho, and guys turn yahoo finish.

That being said, emotions (love, betrayal, heartbreak, bitterness, etc.) are real, yet a lot of people want to settle down and have peaceful homes. Too bad, the past experiences due to bad choices almost always come back to bite one in the ass.....

How una wan take do now?

Abi una no go marry again?

Spot on with your submission

Na so i don't like the alphabet X.

Bluntguy:
If one's exes could influence his/character what then happens to the parent's gene?

Just asking o

In your elementary Social Studies, you were taught that both family and peer group are agents of socialization.

If your family has influence on you, it also means that your peer group, which includes relationships can influence you as well.

Rapmoney:
Oftentimes, we fail to realise that there is a connection between the character of the person we are dating and the people he or she must have dated in the past.

We sexualize relationships so much to the extent where we begin to feel that these affairs are just about sex, romance, and escapades. Relationships are like schools. The difference is that they can teach you both bad things and good things, meaningful things and senseless things. It all depends on the type of people you date.

I have seen young innocent-looking girls who are so deep in hard drugs and wild parties. They weren't born to be wayward, but because they dated guys of low value and questionable character, they ended up that way. A man who beats his partners must have dated strings of women who tolerated such abnormal behaviour. If his former partners did not tolerate that, he would not dare raise his hands on you that does not tolerate such.

Most young people today hardly consider character when choosing who to date today. Young guys do not care to observe the character of a lady. Does she exhibit respect, sincerity, high moral value, or dignity of person? These questions are necessary, but now look irrelevant in today's society. Young men are now more concerned with big ass, fine face, and a pair of perky boobs. Young women on the other hand are more concerned with what the guy can offer. How much does he have and what does he drive? What amount can he cough out if I bill him? With these, people learn little or almost nothing good in relationships.

If I meet a woman close to 30, who has dated several people in the past, and she exhibits a high level of disrespect and a loss of value, it clearly shows that she has been dating men of poor character in the past. You must be of poor character to teach another person how to behave poorly, while still tolerating their poor character.

My opinion is that people should date their type because relationships are interactive and contagious, and as such, characters and habits are learned. Disrespectful men should date disrespectful women. Morally depraved men should date morally depraved women. People should not just accept others as they are as far as commitment is involved.

Your duty is not to manage harmful habits in relationships, but to leave!

Very Beautiful piece, but genZ won't like this

Person wey him partner dey give am peace and respect no know wetin God do for am. I appreciate my sweetheart oo.

I don't use to eat maggi but since I met her na so so maggi dey full my food. Now I can't do without maggi. Even when we have broken up i still d eat maggi like say my life depend on it.

In summary, your partner can influence your lifestyle. So choose wisely.

Host78:
This op na můmů talk just full him mouth



So in your eyes a woman is incapable of being bad on her own. She's incapable of doing anything wrong. It must be a man that spoilt her.

Very anyhow person talk naim you dey talk

You should not blame your warped way of reasoning on my post. It was never stated in the post that it is only a man who can spoil a woman.

Go and wash her pants abeg

Rapmoney:
You should not blame your warped way of reasoning on my post. It was never stated in the post that it is only a man who can spoil a woman.

Host78:
Go and wash her pants abeg

The guilty will always feel uncomfortable when a post hits them.

You were making sense until the bolded second to the last paragraph. I am responsible for my own character. I cannot be held responsible for the behaviour of another adult. Gender has nothing to do with character

Did you just try me in a court in your mind

Rapmoney:
The guilty will always feel uncomfortable when a post hits them.

This write up is very accurate and concise.

Personally, I tell young men and ladies I encounter to be weary of indiscriminate relationships if they don't want to be emotionally incapacitated. The average young lady these days are psychologically unbalanced due to many unproductive relationships in the past. Infact, don't ask her about the number of relationships she has been in the past. The answer is in her characters and emotional displays. A well thinking man should do everything to avoid such ladies...

My 2 cent 💯

Some changes occur due to adaptation to the environment too

Bluntguy:
If one's exes could influence his/character what then happens to the parent's gene?

Just asking o

Mendeleev

The problem is people complicate issues by not wanting to marry their types. An addict don’t want to marry an addict, the waywards want someone that don’t go to clubs.

Just look around, they all want to marry someone that’s opposite the lifestyles type they live.

Some ladies who have explored and seen it all, want guys that are innocent and quite churchy.

Noisy makers don’t want to marry their types. Manipulators detest their types.

Now, everyone should marry their types and heal over time…or they should all work on themselves before seeking a companion.

Rapmoney:
If his former partners did not tolerate that, he would not dare raise his hands on you that does not tolerate such.

I had a pretty, highly provocative and violence tolerant girlfriend before I got married.

Now I am married. Have been married for years and I will never beat my wife.

My point is this:
1. I am not under the influence of my ex-babygirl.

2. Na my decision wey matter.

3. Many times my wife had done slap-deserving stuff but me go just look her like pikin because I don DISABLE that part of my ability.

4. i fit still change am for my wife if she too vess me... but Nah... I WILL NEVER take that option. Na my pet she be and she no fit do pass pet. I don't beat my pet.

Rapmoney:
You should not blame your warped way of reasoning on my post. It was never stated in the post that it is only a man who can spoil a woman.

That's correct, perhaps he read it in a hurry

AllBlack:
I had a pretty, highly provocative and violence tolerant girlfriend before I got married.

Now I am married. Have been married for years and I will never beat my wife.

My point is this:
1. I am not under the influence of my ex-babygirl.

2. Na my decision wey matter.

3. Many times my wife had done slap-deserving stuff but me go just look her like pikin because I don DISABLE that part of my ability.

4. i fit still change am for my wife if she too vess me... but Nah... I WILL NEVER take that option. Na my pet she be and she no fit do pass pet. I don't beat my pet.

Meaning if you had no see such level of violence and provocation you might not have learnt why it is good to live with your current wife without beating her.

That's part of what the Op is saying.

achorladey:
Meaning if you had no see such level of violence and provocation you might not have learnt why it is good to live with your current wife without beating her.

Oga rest. learn wetin? It is inbuilt in me.

it is MY DECISION based on the update I embraced by rites of marriage.

As a man, when you crown a woman with the honour and title of WIFE and you still turn around to be beating her then there must be something wrong with you.

If this small wisdom no reach you to understand, make you no comment again. I dey meeting abeg.

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You are half right.
If you meet a lady who is disrespectful, you cannot just assume it is because she once dated a disrespectful person.
Yìí didn't consider the fact that she must have been dumped because she was disrespectful.
Everyone has his or her own character. Character is not shaped by someone you dated. Character is who you are and the influence of your parents.

Relationship talk is much easier than practicing

This talker will fail if given opportunity to be in love affair or in marriage.

Marriage is not something one can boast in advance. Marriage is something that is practical, experience and felt. If a wife of one of richest men (Bill Gates) in the world can divorce him who are you, your wife will not divorce

Marriage is not all about character because those that don't have "character" like you said are usually married first. What matters in marriage is sincere commitment by both paneers to that cause of marriage

AllBlack:
Oga rest. learn wetin? It is inbuilt in me.

it is MY DECISION based on the update I embraced by rites of marriage.

As a man, when you crown a woman with the honour and title of WIFE and you still turn around to be beating her then there must be something wrong with you.

If this small wisdom no reach you to understand, make you no comment again. I dey meeting abeg.

Still does not remove the influence that such provocation and violence hardened why you will not beat your wife based on what you have inbuilt already and the reason you abandoned the previous relationship to embrace this one

achorladey:
the reason you abandoned the previous relationship to embrace this one

The beauty of this your comment is the way you magically happened to know who abandoned what IN MY OWN RELATIONSHIP.

The beauty of writing my own history with such certainty and not even needing my own contribution to the story. All in a bid to arrive at a conclusion that puts you Right and me WRONG.

Kudos.