I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! - Romance (2)

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Goo0dHardDick: 6:22pm On Jul 06

Nnamdipapa:
Now, imagine you being married to her and staying with her for the next 10 years

That's why marriage isn't for we men of this generation. I have no intention of getting married

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by bluefilm: 6:23pm On Jul 06

WhiteIverson:
That's what 3 years of sex with the same person can do.

Even if that girl is Rihanna or Beyonce, after 3 years, you will eventually get tired.

Now you see what married people go through, even though they'll deny it.

Aswear

Married people dey go thru a lot

For someone like me wey dey easily get bored of people, sometimes I wonder what it will take to make me stay committed in a marriage

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by SamuelLoch: 6:24pm On Jul 06

You got into the relationship because of an attraction, then sex.
Now, that you've gotten and seen what you imagined, your hormones and subconscious state is at ease. Your conscious state is realizing this and now you're on the fence battling the self-awareness.

Sit down and access carefully. Don't let the flesh and lust lead you. If at the end, you realized that the reason you still like her is borne out of selfishness, please, let her go early so she can heal, move on with life and find someone deserving.

If otherwise and she has the attributes to give you peace of mind and progress, stay committed and look forward to collective prosperity.

There's more to healthy relationships than sex.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Goo0dHardDick: 6:25pm On Jul 06

rickpat:
You have gone pass the butterfly stage....this is the stage of stability, trust me,if you can past the stage,your relationship becomes very very strong, its good you still find things like her care and all that very important and enjoyable,those will keep you going till the sex rekindle again....

If you end it and get a new girl...at the early stages..the sex will be good but later on you will still get to this stage again...

Pass this stage and you have a way better and comfortable relationship

No relationship will work without emotional attachment and sexually urge. Dude, the OP has completely Lost all feelings whatsoever. He is irritated whenever he sees that girl. U won't understand until you have a girl staying with you. You'll be angry whenever you see her! The OP just wants to enjoy other girls which is valid.

He should send her out

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Felaincarnated: 6:25pm On Jul 06

You don't feel butterflies for her anymore is a normal thing cos u probably living together or u u don chop her kuntus belleful.
Start up a new relationship and see dozens of butterflies in ur stomach.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Goo0dHardDick: 6:27pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
Things choke for my side right now. Responsibility don full shoulder. Life hard guy….. thinking wan finish man

Send her away my brother before you go kpai before your time.

I sent mine away back to school where she was staying in her lodge years ago. The girl literally packed to my house and was living with me. I was completely tired and exhausted of her. I sent her back, regain my senses and replaned my life again

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Amovingman: 6:34pm On Jul 06

Anyone please 🥺 🙏🏿

Amovingman:
I disvirgin my gf but she don't have breast nipples

How will she breastfeed my future kids

Kindly help me too please

if I post the breast nipples here for you guy's to see I might get ban

I post it last week but the mods removed the post

I need help please 🥺🙏🏿

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Apcshit: 6:34pm On Jul 06

Amovingman:
I disvirgin my gf but she don't have breast nipples

How will she breastfeed my future kids

Kindly help me too please

What do you mean she doesn't have nipples? Do you mean her breast is small and flat? I have seen that kind of woman before she was flat breasted I couldn't Straff her without getting bored .We broke up 1 month later.She now has kids but I think she used instant formula to feed her because her breasts can't produce milk

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by TenQ: 6:35pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

You are suffering from immaturity.
WHY?
You think your feeling is the indicator of reality

LOVE is not an Emotion
LOVE is a CHOICE we make to Beautify and Build the Life of the other person at our own personal expense!

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by free2ryhme: 6:39pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

Na so dem go do your sister

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by oudesmond(m): 6:41pm On Jul 06

if u want the Gospel truth, then go n check ur testosterone level. and thank me later.

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Angelfrost(m): 6:42pm On Jul 06

Lol... You already know what to do. grin

I think you are trying to seek approval for what's already in your mind.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by femi4: 6:45pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

very easy

Let her go...she be gf, no be wife

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by felixzo1(m): 6:48pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.pls check your testerone levels, it's important

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by wisewaves(m): 6:53pm On Jul 06

You don't need any butterfly in your stomach, all you need is Jesus Christ in your heart. Flee fornication!

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Hhh4444: 6:56pm On Jul 06

Butterfly don enter extinction....when last anybody here see butterfly? Things have really changed.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by DrAda(f): 6:58pm On Jul 06*

Losing interest in other things including sex is a clear sign of depression. Seek help

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Yemoad: 6:58pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

Go back to God your creator, surrender to Him, peace

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Sethleeman: 6:59pm On Jul 06

Depression loading... Take care of your mental health bro, face Christ!

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by SmartyPants(m): 7:01pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

It's not normal to lose all desire for sex. You may be going through mental or physical challenges and you need to seek medical attention. I suspect your testosterone levels have dropped which can be caused by numerous things. Seek help.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Nnamdipapa(m): 7:03pm On Jul 06

Goo0dHardDick:
That's why marriage isn't for we men of this generation. I have no intention of getting married

A smart decision! We got married because our generation was programmed by religion and society to believe you cannot have children outside of marriage, and you are not complete unless you marry. I am glad the narrative is changing, and people are becoming wiser.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Nnamdipapa(m): 7:07pm On Jul 06*

SmartyPants:
It's not normal to lose all desire for sex. You may be going through mental or physical challenges and you need to seek medical attention. I suspect your testosterone levels have dropped which can be caused by numerous things. Seek help.

If the sex is dull and uninteresting, and the guy has tried, but the partner is not putting in enough effort to change, this kind of situation happens. It also happens if the wife or husband is no longer attractive, such as getting obese or not taking enough care of themselves. In the scenarios above, I would 100% abstain from sex I am not enjoying, or from someone I find not to be attractive anymore.

That is why in a relationship, both parties have to constantly work on themselves, have an open mind and not be afraid to try new things or adventures.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by zed7: 7:19pm On Jul 06

It happens to most men. When you keep living with a woman, with time you lose interest in sex. It's more common in marriage.

You don't hate your partner, you just get too familiar. Sex is almost more of a duty than a genuine excitement.

Unfortunately for you, you are not married and you already feel this way. Men should not live with a woman before marriage, it spoils a lot of things. I wish you good luck.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Godmind2022(m): 7:26pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

You need Christ. You are illegally banging other people's children without paying their bride price. Would you love your sisters to be in that kind of situation?

Make your way right.
Marry legally and watch your sex drive return, because you wouldn't be doing that again with a festering conscience.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by greypencils: 7:27pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

3 years of piping, you go done tire na. B4 nko. Better go and marry that girl. No one wants your leftover.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by franksam209: 7:29pm On Jul 06

But why would you date and cohabit with someone for 3 years without marrying her? Na wah oo, you are living a yeye life seriously

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Morgan710: 7:31pm On Jul 06

This is know as "THE MADONNA-MISTRESS COMPLEX". The motherly part of her is fully activated thereby making you not really see her as a lover anymore, but a mother. She takes care of you, advises you and does all those things you get most times from your mom. Hence the irritation when she tries to be your babe again. Babe wey dey pamper don pamper love d!e..... grin

You both just have to 'deliberately' work towards sparking the the romance again. Cheers bro

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by SmartyPants(m): 7:32pm On Jul 06

Nnamdipapa:
If the sex is dull and uninteresting, and the guy has tried, but the partner is not putting in enough effort to change, this kind of situation happens. It also happens if the wife or husband is no longer attractive, such as getting obese or do not taking care of themselves. In the scenarios above, I would 100% abstain from sex I am not enjoying, or from someone I find not to be attractive anymore.

That is why in a relationship, both parties have to constantly work on themselves, have an open mind and not be afraid to try new things or adventures.

If you notice he said he has lost desire for other women in general not just his wife.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by LordLicifer(m): 7:35pm On Jul 06*

Who in their right mind wants to stay or marry one woman for long? Men are not created that way even king Solomon the greatest man on earth took out him dikie and got around bang many women.

So far i have had sex with nearly 95 women cheesy

and i might keep going till i kpai

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by LIVINGICONREBOR: 7:38pm On Jul 06

You for talk locusts or grasshoppers. No be only butterflies.

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by greypencils: 7:46pm On Jul 06

Nnamdipapa:
If the sex is dull and uninteresting, and the guy has tried, but the partner is not putting in enough effort to change, this kind of situation happens. It also happens if the wife or husband is no longer attractive, such as getting obese or do not taking care of themselves. In the scenarios above, I would 100% abstain from sex I am not enjoying, or from someone I find not to be attractive anymore.

That is why in a relationship, both parties have to constantly work on themselves, have an open mind and not be afraid to try new things or adventures.

Sex gets boring in relationships when either or both couples are unambitious. Ambition takes you out, makes you meet people, either you have a business or you are working, you are genuinely busy, you are meeting people and dressing to impress the people you meet. You or your woman cant go on a 4 day trip without her looking delicious as soon as you or her returns. The urge for sex will come.

But in the case of the OP, I bet the woman moved into his place and She does nothing. She doesnt travel, She doesnt work. She is average looking and bland, a proper housewife without the ring, Why wont boredom set in?

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Re: I Don’t Feel Butterflies In My Stomach Anymore! by Nackzy: 7:50pm On Jul 06

Martdc:
We’ve been dating for 3 years now, but I’m starting to lose attraction towards her.

I do other things as a man ought to do, but sex is not included. Last time we had sex was 2 months ago, and we live together.

I enjoy her care, and every other thing aside sex. I feel irritated anytime she comes close, or touchy.

I’m not seeing anyone else. I’ve lost interest in so many things including having sex with my girlfriend or any other girl.

What do you guys suggest i do?

the only time don't sleep with my woman is when she's menstruating.. it's been like that die years

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