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One particular thing about the older Mellenials is that they transited in dating from one era to another...yes, the era of no electronic gadgets to an era that ushered the advent of electronic gadgets and social media.

Below are characteristics of 80s and 90s romance and dating.

1. Getting a response from a girl could take up to one, two, or even three months. Some of us never got any response till we stopped seeing each other.

2. If you impregnate a girl as a young man, the whole area would know because the girl's parents and extended family members would bring fight to your parents' house. 80s and 90s things.

3. There was no phone, tab, or social media. We used to send handwritten letters to our crush through someone. Back then, writing the letter was not a problem. The problem was who would deliver it to her?

4. There were stricter parents then. You would most likely talk to a girl if she was on errands, or sending a trusted person to call her from home. You dare not near her house. Her father's lion's roar would make you scamper for safety. Some boys chop beating sef.

5. There was no social media. You would not be bothered that your partner was chatting or communicating with someone else.

6. Long distance relationship was equal to maximum torture. If you send letter to your babe in Lagos and you dey Warri, she would receive it from Nigeria Postal Service after 3 months. Then you must have been in another relationship.

7. You could date a girl for 6 months, and you have not seen her pants. Nor be joke!

8. Baby mama was not common as it is today. If you give girl belle, dem go force you to marry her. Before 6pm that same day, her bags would be in your house. Na so Bros Ogbole take marry albino that year.

9. Many people entered relationships with marriage as the intention. Today, many people dey inside situationships

10. You could stay for days or weeks without speaking with your girlfriend/boyfriend, and both of you reside in same town. How una wan take see?

11. Guys that were fainthearted and could not toast females paid other bold guys to talk to babes they liked on their behalf. Some mischievous guys utilized the opportunities and converted the girls to theirs.

12. People bought request cards on radio to dedicate love songs to their partners at night. We disturb Radio Delta that year, nor be small.

13. There was no billing for iPhones and Peruvian hairs. Gifts were modest.

14. If una venture quarrel for inside relationship, just know say the quarrel fit reach 2 months if care is not taken.

15. Reputation mattered a lot. E get the kind person wey your parents go warn you say deh nor wan see you with again.

16. Having a date was simple. You could share one meat pie and a bottle of Fanta with your date. Please don't try that in these modern times, or else you go enter social media.

Last words: Even if every era has its own challenges, I usually view this with a nostalgic feeling.

The beauty of those times was the collective decency of the society. But everything has gone to the dogs now.

Well, now dating has become strictly transactional. Only the highest bidders can indulge.

WhiteIverson:
Well, now dating has become strictly transactional. Only the highest bidders can indulge.

Na so we see am for the society now. Life is more complex and relationships are highly complicated.

When i was younger i enjoyed some of this until everything changed.

Life is constantly changing. By the time we are im our 60s. Things will have really change beyond recognition.

Kalatium:
When i was younger i enjoyed some of this until everything changed.

Life is constantly changing. By the time we are im our 60s. Things will have really change beyond recognition.

Relationships today are loose, transactional and usually strictly undefined.

Now, Our GenZ ladies are in business, not love.

Rapmoney:
One particular thing about the older Mellenials is that they transited in dating from one era to another...yes, the era of no electronic gadgets to an era that ushered the advent of electronic gadgets and social media.

Below are characteristics of 80s and 90s romance and dating.

1. Getting a response from a girl could take up to one, two, or even three months. Some of us never got any response till we stopped seeing each other.

2. If you impregnate a girl as a young man, the whole area would know because the girl's parents and extended family members would bring fight to your parents' house. 80s and 90s things.

3. There was no phone, tab, or social media. We used to send handwritten letters to our crush through someone. Back then, writing the letter was not a problem. The problem was who would deliver it to her?

4. There were stricter parents then. You would most likely talk to a girl if she was on errands, or sending a trusted person to call her from home. You dare not near her house. Her father's lion's roar would make you scamper for safety. Some boys chop beating sef.

5. There was no social media. You would not be bothered that your partner was chatting or communicating with someone else.

6. Long distance relationship was equal to maximum torture. If you send letter to your babe in Lagos and you dey Warri, she would receive it from Nigeria Postal Service after 3 months. Then you must have been in another relationship.

7. You could date a girl for 6 months, and you have not seen her pants. Nor be joke!

8. Baby mama was not common as it is today. If you give girl belle, dem go force you to marry her. Before 6pm that same day, her bags would be in your house. Na so Bros Ogbole take marry albino that year.

9. Many people entered relationships with marriage as the intention. Today, many people dey inside situationships

10. You could stay for days or weeks without speaking with your girlfriend/boyfriend, and both of you reside in same town. How una wan take see?

11. Guys that were fainthearted and could not toast females paid other bold guys to talk to babes they liked on their behalf. Some mischievous guys utilized the opportunities and converted the girls to theirs.

12. People bought request cards on radio to dedicate love songs to their partners at night. We disturb Radio Delta that year, nor be small.

13. There was no billing for iPhones and Peruvian hairs. Gifts were modest.

14. If una venture quarrel for inside relationship, just know say the quarrel fit reach 2 months if care is not taken.

15. Reputation mattered a lot. E get the kind person wey your parents go warn you say deh nor wan see you with again.

16. Having a date was simple. You could share one meat pie and a bottle of Fanta with your date. Please don't try that in these modern times, or else you go enter social media.

Last words: Even if every era has its own challenges, I usually view this with a nostalgic feeling.

una don trun dating and romance to poverty alleviation programme

Nostalgic to say the lessss

Na handwritten love letter I take won Ronky's heart.... going old way in 20s...lo ba fo patapata.

She kept it for long hoping to show the kids we would never have someday...until she torched it.....saying final goodbye.

Man no dey serious with marriage talks then.

Baby mama was not common as it is today. If you give girl belle, dem go force you to marry her. Before 6pm that same day, her bags would be in your house. Na so Bros Ogbole take marry albino that year.

Then love is pure, but now love is all about who get money pass...no time for yeye love

Rapmoney:
Relationships today are loose, transactional and usually strictly undefined.

As it has always been in this part of the world

That time in does days when love letters were so sweet in writing and rub with perfume. Relationship was very interesting not now everything Don yakata ...

Rapmoney:
One particular thing about the older Mellenials is that they transited in dating from one era to another...yes, the era of no electronic gadgets to an era that ushered the advent of electronic gadgets and social media.

Below are characteristics of 80s and 90s romance and dating.

1. Getting a response from a girl could take up to one, two, or even three months. Some of us never got any response till we stopped seeing each other.

2. If you impregnate a girl as a young man, the whole area would know because the girl's parents and extended family members would bring fight to your parents' house. 80s and 90s things.

3. There was no phone, tab, or social media. We used to send handwritten letters to our crush through someone. Back then, writing the letter was not a problem. The problem was who would deliver it to her?

4. There were stricter parents then. You would most likely talk to a girl if she was on errands, or sending a trusted person to call her from home. You dare not near her house. Her father's lion's roar would make you scamper for safety. Some boys chop beating sef.

5. There was no social media. You would not be bothered that your partner was chatting or communicating with someone else.

6. Long distance relationship was equal to maximum torture. If you send letter to your babe in Lagos and you dey Warri, she would receive it from Nigeria Postal Service after 3 months. Then you must have been in another relationship.

7. You could date a girl for 6 months, and you have not seen her pants. Nor be joke!

8. Baby mama was not common as it is today. If you give girl belle, dem go force you to marry her. Before 6pm that same day, her bags would be in your house. Na so Bros Ogbole take marry albino that year.

9. Many people entered relationships with marriage as the intention. Today, many people dey inside situationships

10. You could stay for days or weeks without speaking with your girlfriend/boyfriend, and both of you reside in same town. How una wan take see?

11. Guys that were fainthearted and could not toast females paid other bold guys to talk to babes they liked on their behalf. Some mischievous guys utilized the opportunities and converted the girls to theirs.

12. People bought request cards on radio to dedicate love songs to their partners at night. We disturb Radio Delta that year, nor be small.

13. There was no billing for iPhones and Peruvian hairs. Gifts were modest.

14. If una venture quarrel for inside relationship, just know say the quarrel fit reach 2 months if care is not taken.

15. Reputation mattered a lot. E get the kind person wey your parents go warn you say deh nor wan see you with again.

16. Having a date was simple. You could share one meat pie and a bottle of Fanta with your date. Please don't try that in these modern times, or else you go enter social media.

Last words: Even if every era has its own challenges, I usually view this with a nostalgic feeling.

Loved every write up..
Put smiles on my face....

For the girl to meet you at the road side, she has to come along with her younger sibling.

When my father counsel you about woman to marry ehn you go dey wonder if the description of him kind of woman na from Venus, because the kind women nowadays find it disrespectful to tell them to please a man. Even to suggest a woman cook is disrespectful this days.

The period when women still get sense and were owned by men who deserved them, unlike now. Anyways, God still loves us, he sent Messiahs like gehgeh

Back then in my secondary school days (late 80s/early 90s), we boys have the same love letter we write to our lovers. Same content word to word. We will attach a love greeting card with the letter and send it to the girl in another school.

No 3, chaii...... Letters those year were something else. I had to dispose some I saw recently in my library. I can't stop laughing when I was reading them. Good old times.

Lol!! Fun memories, mine wasn't in the 80's though. That year na help me do my home work, and teach me so and so topic, or song. Heat period for Agric and reproduction for biology make me give 2 girls belle that year.
I'm on heat both parties don understand, no need for many forming, and billing, chop clean mouth go your papa and mama house shikena.

ruggedtimi:
For the girl to meet you at the road side, she has to come along with her younger sibling.

Even when they buy Fanta for me not to tell mama that boy friend came around, my little mouth will drink the Fanta and I will still tell my mama “ I have a special secret to tell you “
But they said I should not talk “
Mama: Tell me my daughter
Me: we went to see brother, he gave me a big Fanta bottle, only me ooo
Mama: which brother?

That’s how I spill everything 🤣🤣🤣
Next thing my sister will chop beating…🤣🤣🤣

Oh the letter writing years! My handwriting was adjudged to be so good so much so that ladies would gather to read my baby's letter in her hostel.
Lols...the good old days. Jesus is Lord!

lilyheaven:
Even when they buy Fanta for me not to tell mama that boy friend came around, my little mouth will drink the Fanta and I will still tell my mama “ I have a special secret to tell you “
But they said I should not talk “
Mama: Tell me my daughter
Me: we went to see brother, he gave me a big Fanta bottle, only me ooo
Mama: which brother?

That’s how I spill everything 🤣🤣🤣
Next thing my sister will chop beating…🤣🤣🤣

And she go begin take the neighbor's daughter or son (of your age) out instead.

now its all billings after billings

Mehn, look at the cars in the picture..
Truly 80's and 90's vibe!

I chop beating twice and I wasn't even a womaniser o.

ImoleNaija:
And she go begin take the neighbor's daughter or son (of your age) out instead.

🤣🤣🤣
My sister never liked me because of this attitude, meanwhile my mother loves me more because I will never hide anything from her.
Because I don’t lie🤣 I was the only one that was going to go to heaven.
But my sister no hear word

Those are the days when things are natural sweet and no much tension when things are too quality and not fake or copy, should i go on, so much good things good memories they are still with us, it will take god's grace to see half of those days now , by the way am a proud 1992 kid haha 😁

SeverusSnape:
Now, Our GenZ ladies are in business, not love.

😀😀 Asin no time to check time

WhiteIverson:
Well, now dating has become strictly transactional. Only the highest bidders can indulge.

so you mean dating was not transactional in the 80s and 90s?

so you are telling me that those army generals in dodan barrack and their side chicks were not transactional

so what was those alhaji carrying girls to london for holiday doing?

FYI, dating was transactionals in the 80s and 90s espcially among rich men and poor girls but i agree with you that it is now rampant among the poors

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