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So una never still stop all these mumu talk?
This is 2026, please stop dragging us back. Don't you get tired of cheating? How can you be married and just allow any man be pouring semen in you?
That level of betrayal is unrivaled and almost unforgivable.
I can't even associate with someone who thinks like you.
Disgusting!

nestanat1:
There is no sense in this post. You are insinuating that women should be able to choose whom they prefer to sleep with and look for a responsible father afterwards. As a man, you are only responsible for your own biological children. Any other responsibility is a choice. Silly.

joseph1832:
Another advocate of paternity fraud sited.

voortrekker966:
You mean licence to sleep around and give an innocent man the consequences of your reckless behaviour? Your heart is black, OP.

Not at all. This is Not about adultery. This about attempting to upend a child's and family's settled life by going on a DNA fishing expedition

StreetFight:
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This post is hunger induced

Never mind what it is induced by, just tell us why it is wrong

WatchYourSix:
Madam .. enough of this ur upadan rage bait…

It’s not interesting anymore after the 3rd comment of first page …

are the mentions not becoming tiring … u will just exhaust yourself ..

Who are you addressing as madam?
Can you please tell us the benefit of DNA test to a man about a child he's been raising from infancy, the child, the mother, or society

DigitalTribe1:
Scam
What if the woman who gave birth to her all of a sudden start a super story and return the child(ren) to the biological father - who will the man do?

Chances of that happening is almost zero because the woman herself is probably not sure.
But things can always happen, that doesn't mean you induce them by going on a DNA fishing expedition. Your wife can also run away with your bilogical children or divorce you and have custody

silibaba:
Go and be fighting for costody of other mens children and leave us alone.

We prefer our own biology children and not almajiris. So if your wife go to the street have sex and give birth and concede it from you, you will be dancing, drinking and throw big bash for that?

Seun please deactivate all these genZ nairaland account.

My friend this is NOT about sex or adultery. This is about unending a child's and family's settled life by going on a DNA fishing expedition.
Next time know what the topic is about before telling Seun what to deactivate

WatchYourSix:
Op is deliberately triggering all of you ….
She knows men dont wanna a hear such nonsense

OP is not a she at all. OP is a he. Now that's settled, point out the flaws in the reasoning. Tell how DNA fishing expedition benefits a settled (and likely happy) family

Ishilove:
Rage bait

Not at all. Kindly and patiently enumerate for us benefits of DNA fishing expedition to a settled, happy family

QuinQQ:
Simple resson: if you've had a child since infancy, he is your child and you're his father and you're obligated to take care of that child till age of maturity. That's how Nature intended it.
It is NOT sperm that makes you someone's father!
Other people fight for custody of children tooth and nail. You don't have to do any of that. He's your child and you get ALL the benefits of fatherhood. He carries your name, references you as his father, and if he ever becomes something ALL fatherhood glory will go to you!

The Poster is just a foolish person to have suggested. We should be clamoring for prosecution for paternity fraud. Any woman who brings another man's child to an innocent man should be locked up and have the keys thrown away.

Chris225:
Delulu

Ok, you're 40 years old and some stranger is introduced to you as your sperm donor. How is he dad? How does he compare to dad - the man you've known as your father from infancy??

kimjessey2019:
This one oblukus isn't working

At least you didn't call me madam. Thanks for that

Chris225:
Op is pregnant and don't know who the father is

Nothing wry u go tell me

So men get pregnant in your area. Hmm
Neve mind all that, just tell us how DNA fishing expedition benefits a settled, happy family or society

latieph:
See where the world is heading to
Encouragement of BASTARD is what you CHEATERS are praying for

You're out to create bastards where non exists by going on a DNA fishing expedition

LordReed:
You are defrauded if the person tells you this is your child when it is not. Substitution without information or with outright lies is a fraud. Why do you have to be lied to? Why are you not given the choice to accept fatherhood or not? Why do you want the state to force this paternity fraud?

You enjoy raising a child, you're the only father he knows, he carries forward your name, if he becomes something all the glory goes to you. Meanwhile people are paying millions in black market and fighting custody battles for children.
Can you tell us how exactly you're defrauded

ARISHEM:
Who asked or hired you to speak for their Mother.

What do you mean? It is not about the mother but the child and his wellbeing and the father's peace of mind

DMCA:
tell am
as for me, if i no be biological papa, i no want be anybody papa

Then there is no difference between you and lower beings. I'll tag you in the post above

Hezmatosky210:
But jokes apart, there's elements of truth here o. Because after the love and bond with my children from pregnancy to infancy to adolescent to adult, many times we've shared love, sufferings, laughter, pains and joy together then one idiot from nowhere wants to drag me to go and do DNA, as how naw? The fact is that, I will never ever want to think whether the children are mine or not. Children wey i nurture from pregnancy till now

Thank you! Some stranger is introduced to you at 40 as the sperm donor, and suddenly he becomes dad, no longer the only father you've known since infancy!

Now i see why many women were messing up,, they don't no that life is spiritual, every family has an ancenceral blood line, and bringing another blood line to the family has a consequence, training a child that is not your blood is not bad but if you die, in the spirit realm you don't have a root on the earth

bentenny:
There is a reason why paternity fraud exists and why it should be exposed instead of being condoned.
Why should I take up father responsibilities of a child that was born out of a lie?
What should happen is every child must be subjected to a DNA test to ascertain if the man taking care of them is their real father.
This will make mothers to be more accountable.

Well, DNA never existed all this while and humanity somehow managed to survive!
But this is not even about paternity fraud. This is about upending a child's and family's settled life by going on a DNA fishing expedition

CoolUsername:
Adoption is something that you go into voluntarily. Paternal fraud is making a man raise another guy's kid under false pretenses. These are completely different topics.

But how is it "another guy's kid" when you're the only father he's known and will ever know, carries forward your name, and references you as source of anything he becomes?
But this is not even about that. This is about upending a family's settled life by going on unnecessary fishing expeditions!

[quote author=Secretbloodline post=140030195][/quote]Quite interesting post. The whole point of the ban is to NOT go fishing for bastards where none exists! Throughout human history there were no DNA tests and we somehow managed to survive.
Also, there is no such thing as bastard. The act of copulation that results in a child makes a woman your wife while the act lasted. So bastard is impossible

QuinQQ:
Am I right or am I just somewhat rght?

Here's my OP (original post):

Simple resson: if you've had a child since infancy, he is your child and you're his father and you're obligated to take care of that child till age of maturity. That's how Nature intended it.
It is NOT sperm that makes you someone's father!
Other people fight for custody of children tooth and nail. Some pay millions for a child in the black market. You don't have to do any of that. He's your child and you get ALL the benefits of fatherhood. He carries your name, references you as his father, and if he ever becomes something ALL fatherhood glory will go to you!

You are correct.


If you observe that after you have nurtured the child to a certain age, to me, the best thing is pretend you don't know and let the child continue to be your child instead of throwing the child away out of anger.



In the west, many families raise children they never gave birth to and they take them as their parents.



As for me that love adopting kids, I don't think I have a problem with your suggestion at all.

Hungrychicken:
You should be ashamed of yourself as a woman, if you can't point your child’s father, so much that you need a DNA to help you out.

E.g the case of Davido, where the lady said that the artist impregnated her, but the artist denied ever meeting her. Now the child is a bastard.

Now imagine Davido married to this lady, happily raising their child, then all of a sudden that lalami guy says they must do a DNA test. FOR WHAT??

QuinQQ:
Not at all. Kindly and patiently enumerate for us benefits of DNA fishing expedition to a settled, happy family

What kind of "happy family" will thrive on paternity fraud? You are conveniently ignoring that side of the conversation.

Op honestly you're more than evil

Kobojunkie:
Well, OP refers to an old system that insists on giving the husband of the woman the right to claim all children born during a marriage as his own -- adoption in the case that the child is not his. That is why I included the mention of adoption in that response.

So you do get the old system. I thought you said you didn't get it. Women could even marry other women to have children for them (no lesbianism involved)

QuinQQ:
Simple resson: if you've had a child since infancy, he is your child and you're his father and you're obligated to take care of that child till age of maturity. That's how Nature intended it.
It is NOT sperm that makes you someone's father!
Other people fight for custody of children tooth and nail. You don't have to do any of that. He's your child and you get ALL the benefits of fatherhood. He carries your name, references you as his father, and if he ever becomes something ALL fatherhood glory will go to you!

You are just making it easy for married women to cheat and for men to get away wth secing married women. There is a lot of adultery going on right now. You are just making it easy to cover up

QuinQ:
➜So you do get the old system. I thought you said you didn't get it. Women could even marry other women to have children for them (no lesbianism involved)

. That's absolute nonsense, and I am certain you know this.

addictiv:
OP, you are completely wrong on this.Nobody is saying sperm is the only thing that makes a man a father. A man can knowingly adopt a child and love that child completely. The key word is knowingly. He made that decision with the full truth in front of him.

What you are describing is completely different. You want a man to be deceived, denied the truth and forced to raise another man’s child simply because he has already developed an emotional attachment. That is not fatherhood. That is fraud.

Like someone said, the same woman defending this argument would not be happy if she discovered that her baby had been swapped at the hospital. Nobody would tell her to accept the child simply because she had already cared for the child, loved the child and developed an emotional bond.

She would demand the truth and want her biological child returned to her. Nobody would accuse her of being heartless or tell her that biology does not matter. So why should a man be denied the same right to know whether a child is biologically his?

Women regularly check their partners’ phones looking for evidence of side chicks, even after the man has repeatedly said he loves them and is faithful. They say they need reassurance and want to confirm that he is telling the truth. So why should a man be insulted, threatened or emotionally blackmailed for wanting confirmation that a child is biologically his?

Paternity is not a small issue. It affects a man emotionally, financially and legally for the rest of his life. It also affects the child’s identity, medical history, inheritance and relationship with the actual biological father.

This is why DNA testing should be compulsory at birth. It should be treated as a normal medical and legal procedure, not as an accusation against the mother. That way, no woman can claim the man does not trust her, no man has to beg for the truth and no child grows up under a lie.

If the test confirms that he is the father, everyone moves forward with certainty. If it shows that he is not, he deserves to know the truth and decide for himself whether he still wants to raise the child. That decision should be made through love and informed choice, not deception.

The child is innocent and must never be mistreated. But protecting the child does not mean protecting the person who created the deception. A woman should not be allowed to use tears, threats, shame or accusations of distrust to stop a man from confirming paternity.

Fatherhood through love, truth and choice is beautiful. Fatherhood imposed through deception is not.

Erudite and well-said.
The thing is we haven't had DNA all this time and we have somehow managed to survive!
But this is not even the issue. The issue is not adultery or sex. The issue is upending a family's settled, happy life by going on a DNA fishing expedition! The govt ban gives them incentive not to be tempted to go down that part!

Guy below says it well:

But jokes apart, there's elements of truth here o. Because after the love and bond with my children from pregnancy to infancy to adolescent to adult, many times we've shared love, sufferings, laughter, pains and joy together then one idiot from nowhere wants to drag me to go and do DNA, as how naw? The fact is that, I will never ever want to think whether the children are mine or not. Children wey i nurture from pregnancy till now

Cj4charles:
You totally nailed it here...... don't mind the op

SamuraiXXX:
You need this advise more for yourself

Thank you! Please tell him!😅

Akir2025:
Men Use Your Brain ..Don't Train Bastard ( OMOALE) Simple as ABC ,don't be Fooled or Cajooles by this Nonsense Here .

Father of a Child should Take care of His Child .

The Mother should take the Child to the father simple .Don't Suffer to Raise a Child For one Lazy man somewhere then Coming Back to Lay Claim to that Child after U have Finished Training them ..

So how are you sure your father is your biological father or your ancestors are your biological?
Did they do any DNA test? What difference has it made. What we're discussing is a happy, settled family suddenly going on DNA fishing - trying to create "bastard" where none exists

TrainPark:
This one is planning to pin a bustard on an innocent man. Does it also mean that any child that a man has with another woman is his wife's child?

I'm a man like you.
And you're disrupting a,settled family, trying to create "bastard" where none exists.
The wife will be VERY happy to do that - women are always trying to take other women's children as their own - sometimes even killing full-term pregnant women to steal their child!

rapcy:
You keep talking about few people who choose adoption.

It is a fraud because you made a vow, why deceive your partner to believe the minor is his? It is a fraud because you're depriving the real father the joyhood of his child by keeping him with another man that is not his father, it is a fraud because you deprive the child of knowing who his real father and source of gene is by keeping him away from that gene to be shaped by the real owner.

Bit that's not the discussion. The discussion is a father with a happy, settled family suddenly going on a DNA fishing expedition. It is human nature to want to do that. Govt should step in and give them excuse NOT to do it because it helps neither the family nor society

Hmmmmm2024:
Either you are a man or woman, may you partner cheat on you to raise another person's child...day amen

Usmanovic95:
Mr abi Mrs OP ,NA you get this prayer come type amen.

The thread is not about this. The thread is about a happy, settled family suddenly embarking on DNA fishing expedition (because that is human nature). Govt ought prevent that because it doesn't do anybody any good