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MatrixCircle:
I live in the UK 🇬🇧, I also japa in 2022. While in Nigeria I was earning N150k monthly in Lagos which can barely feed my family for a month.

I relocated. Now I do care job and has rose in the ladder. My Children later joined me and are in good schools with free education in UK 🇬🇧.

I save N2 million naira (£1080) monthly transferred to my Nigerian Bank account. I also have my own house in Uk under morgage, I have a land in Lagos and Abuja. I can boast of having N25, million in my Nigerian bank account.
I have visited many sheghen countries from UK 🇬🇧 because it's as simple as ABC to get sheghen visa as a UK 🇬🇧 residence, even if you like to visit Canada 🇨🇦 or Australia 🇦🇺 from UK 🇬🇧, na ABC.

But when I was struggling in Nigeria for many years, I was unable to save upto N500k ever while in Nigeria, struggling.

Let no one deceive you, if you have opportunity. JAPA !!!!

You make money in GBP and save it in Naira ? 😂😂

UK is heaven to a poor man or middle class man in Nigeria.

Nobody comfortable in Nigeria that has seen opulence and comfort would love to live in the UK. It'a s cesspit full of the bottom barrel Caucasians of Europe with no morals, vile attitudes, no home training, debauchery, peasantry, theft and filthy dirty people. The origin of the word Barbarian.

If you've been across Europe and other parts of the world, you would wonder what Nigerians and Indians love about the UK. Blame it on colonization. Every Nigerian that comes to the UK for the first time has the reality check hit him when he sees the environment and the standard of living.

The only thing that makes UK stay above Nigeria is it's currency. The day that currency dies would be the end of their existence.

rapcy:
Thank you for your post. It's nothing but the truth. A family friend has been in the UK since 2007, he's a medical doctor, he got married to a uk citizen, but till today, he hasn't taken anyone from his family here in Nigeria to the UK, he always talk about life being different and saying people in Nigeria would not understand. He has no investment in Nigeria, he says investing in Nigeria would be a mistake for him and all that.

On the other hand is another family friend who left Nigeria 2023, she was a contract staff in a bank while she was here. Before leaving, she sold the only land that she had. She works as a support worker and other menial jobs in the UK. She's constantly talking about UK being the best thing that has happened to her, according to her, she does different shift, and any possible work she sees, she jumps on it. Presently, she bought a land in Nigeria early last year and she's done building and furnishing her duplex last month. What am I saying, mindset is the difference, some people earn 100k in Nigeria and they're good with saving and managing their cash, while some earn 700k and they're constantly in debt and always complaining. That's the reason i don't listen to those people always complaining about the UK because 95% of them are just lazy, ungrateful and have no money management skills.

lol. You have it the other way around. Very simply, the Medical Doctor is UK-facing, with an English wife, while the Support Worker is Nigeria-facing. Someone who is UK-facing is thinking of bringing out £500k-£1m to live in a good neighbourhood, and after that is thinking of UK property investments to secure their children's future. . . . while someone who is Nigeria-facing may be happy to pay rent in UK and send back any small money to build in Nigeria. The Nigeria-facing lives like a King in Nigeria and a pauper in UK, while the UK facing simply lives middle class in UK and is satisfied with that. There are Nigerians in the UK that are £ millionaires that won't easily send money back home because all money is spoken for and tied down in property, pensions etc.

ZaddyJ:
My dear hustle for yourself alone first. If u don stay and u find the place okay then u can send u wife over. My little cent

I think you ignored the part where he said they both laboured for the money.

You see the efforts cum sacrifices he's making for you now. When you get to the UK and make it hopefully or even become higher than him in life, don't, go and start forming boss untop the brother whom God used to make you. Or you marry one funny girl that would make you to lock up and forget these your biological family members whom God used to make you.
My two cent.
All the best and congrats in advance bro.

geelite:
My elder brother relocated to the UK in 2023. He currently works as a cybersecurity specialist, and his wife is also in the same profession. They both earned their master's degrees in Nigeria before moving to the UK.
After I completed my degree in Pure Chemistry, my brother advised me to go back to school and study Information Technology before he could bring me to the UK. At first, I was upset because I was already 31 years old and felt ashamed of going back to school at that age.
He then introduced me to the National Open University of Nigeria (NOUN), which offers distance learning. I enrolled in 2023, and I am now in my 400 level. I'm currently 34 years old.
One thing I truly appreciate is that my brother has been sending me ₦300,000 for my upkeep since I started the program. He also told me that I need to begin hands-on training in cybersecurity and advised me to make enquiries at NIIT. I have already done that, and he said he will pay for the training in January, which will be my final semester in school.
In addition, he wants me to take the ISO/IEC 20000-1 Foundation certification exam, and he has also promised to pay for it next year. After that, he plans to process my relocation to the UK so I can pursue a master's degree in cybersecurity.
The reason I'm sharing this is that if the UK were not a good place, my brother wouldn't be investing so much in my education or making plans to bring me there. We have video calls regularly, and he always tells me about the opportunities and the quality of life in the UK.

Liballo:
Why are you asking?
So you can find a way to take a jab at his wife if her contribution isn’t there, or if her contribution is not enough to you?

You are already assuming her contribution isn't enough or isn't there, thereby subconsciously belittling his wife.

Women are supposed to be partners to men. You are a terrible person and you ought to be ashamed of yourself for looking down on women.

concho:
You make money in GBP and save it in Naira ? 😂😂

Of course for projects back home to prepare for retirement. Without such I can be building my house in Lagos and Abuja. Naira is stable now for investment back home.

uche87:
Psychologically, the human brain is wired to remember pain more easily than good experiences. You might feed a man 100 times, and he may forget. But he will never forget the day you sent him away from your house, and that memory might define his relationship with you.

This is the problem the UK has. The country has been receiving a lot of bad press in recent times. As a writer, I have also been guilty of this. A poultry farmer recently criticised Nigerians in the UK, claiming they work three shifts just to survive. He also said that no Nigerian in the UK can boast of having £20,000 in their bank account. Similarly, a social media personality, Temi Ashebu, a 46-year-old single mother based in Florida, US, accused Nigerian men in the UK of mostly doing menial jobs to survive. This has become the strategy of people seeking social media attention, and it is unlikely to stop. It is rage bait.

The UK certainly has its challenges. However, people often become so accustomed to the positives of a place that they begin to focus almost entirely on the negatives. After the excitement of settling into a new environment fades, the mind naturally adapts and starts noticing imperfections instead.

I want this article to offer something beyond what you can easily find on Google, so I will make it a little personal.

In 2022, I met a lady at work who told me she had been earning less than ₦50,000 a month in Nigeria. Life became so difficult that a family member agreed to fund her relocation abroad with the understanding that she would repay the money later. She grabbed the opportunity. From earning ₦50,000, she began making the equivalent of over ₦2,000,000 a month doing blue-collar jobs. She proudly told me she was almost done repaying the money, much to the surprise of the person who financed her relocation. To her, the UK was the best country in the world.

I also met a teacher who earned ₦70,000 a month, and even those salaries were irregular. Sometimes, her employer simply did not pay. Moving to the UK transformed not only her life but also the future of her son, who was still in Nigeria at the time.

Another person is my benefactor. He was born into a large family in the suburbs of Lagos State. Life was hard. He lived with his family in an uncompleted building while pursuing a career in Accounting and trying his hand at business. The more money he made, the greater the financial demands from his extended family became.

One night, he sat down and reflected on his life. He realised that a rich man surrounded by poor people can still feel poor. He knew he needed to take a bold step, create a fresh path and open doors for his siblings. With the little money he had saved, he relocated to the UK about 12 years ago, long before the healthcare visa era.

According to him, life was difficult. Visa sponsorship required almost divine intervention. He worked in factories, warehouses, hospitals, bars, anywhere he could find work. During COVID, he laced up his boots and confronted danger daily. He eventually made enough money to buy a house, got married and started bringing members of his family to the UK. This man played a significant role in bringing me here, and I will always be grateful. Today, life is good, and most of his siblings are now in the UK working in professional careers.

I remember arriving in the UK in October 2021 with just £10, which I exchanged at Yaba Market in Lagos, two large travelling bags filled with foodstuffs that my mum packed for me, and about ₦100,000 in my account. I arrived alone. Today, if I choose to leave, I will be leaving with a beautiful family. I also went from doing a blue-collar job to sitting in a predominantly white office in a major government organisation.

What amazes me most is what the future could hold. I love the quality of education my son is receiving, and I look forward to helping him fulfil his potential. I now send my parents sizeable monthly stipends, and they can visit the UK whenever they wish. I could never have done that while living in Nigeria. One day, I told my dad, “Whenever you need anything, just call me. I am here for you.” He almost cried.

My story is not an isolated one. Many Nigerians who started with blue-collar jobs are gradually transitioning into technology, management and other professional careers. Is it easy? No. Is it possible? Absolutely.

I know an engineer who was working in healthcare and preparing to leave the UK because his visa was about to expire. Someone encouraged him to keep applying for jobs, even though it seemed like searching for a needle in a haystack. He gave it one last shot and landed a £79,000-a-year role with a well-known logistics company. The company sponsored both his visa and those of his family members for five years, covering all the associated costs.

The statistics also tell an interesting story. Nigeria is consistently listed by the Migration Observatory and the World Bank as one of the top recipients of remittances sent from the UK, alongside India and Pakistan. Official migrant remittances leaving the UK amount to roughly £9.3 billion each year. Nigeria receives a significant share of that money. The reverse is virtually non-existent.

Is the UK a perfect place? Certainly not. Life is expensive, visa restrictions can slow people’s progress, the cost of living is high, racism still exists, and good jobs can be difficult to secure.

The problem is that many Nigerians who are doing well value their privacy and rarely share their success stories. Those who are struggling often take to social media to vent their frustrations, while others pretend everything is perfect. In today’s world, the loudest voices often shape public perception.

To this day, there is still a huge demand for talented Nigerians in the UK, and there are many legitimate opportunities for those who are willing to work hard, develop themselves and remain consistent. The UK is not perfect, but for many people, it remains a place where lives can be transformed.

I often wonder what my life would have looked like if I had never moved here. For everything this country has made possible for my family and me, I remain deeply grateful.

https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid0247u4UVgftKcL5Usmzq7daqjmyebfN4Zg7ZFvVMwkeacHSFzynweMW7inogNwZVhzl

Very powerful. Thank you for sharing.

Okoyeeboz:
You are already assuming her contribution isn't enough or isn't there, thereby subconsciously belittling his wife.

Women are supposed to be partners to men. You are a terrible person and you ought to be ashamed of yourself for looking down on women.

Mirroring and reverse psychology.

Everything you typed here pretty much summed up the reason you asked that malicious question.

Ibime:
lol. You have it the other way around. Very simply, the Medical Doctor is UK-facing, with an English wife, while the Support Worker is Nigeria-facing. Someone who is UK-facing is thinking of bringing out £500k-£1m to live in a good neighbourhood, and after that is thinking of UK property investments to secure their children's future. . . . while someone who is Nigeria-facing may be happy to pay rent in UK and send back any small money to build in Nigeria. The Nigeria-facing lives like a King in Nigeria and a pauper in UK, while the UK facing simply lives middle class in UK and is satisfied with that. There are Nigerians in the UK that are £ millionaires that won't easily send money back home because all money is spoken for and tied down in property, pensions etc.

I think this is a very good explanation and honestly this is the first time I'm thinking of it this way. I think one thing that most people fail to understand is getting married to someone who understands you and your culture. Because there are a lot of white women that follow their partner back to Africa to stay. I've personally had conversation with some and most of them still advise going out of Naija and experiencing life over there before coming back to settle here. So when i see people online talking about UK being bad I just scroll pass their post with speed of light

Okoyeeboz:
How much is your wife contributing?

We both gathered the money while in school

ZaddyJ:
My dear hustle for yourself alone first. If u don stay and u find the place okay then u can send u wife over. My little cent

Alright, thanks

biggy00000:
My advice, dnt go to the 🇬🇧. However, when you decide to go, can I know what you ibtend to sell and their prices please.

. We have a house but not selling.

Liballo:
Mirroring and reverse psychology.

Everything you typed here pretty much summed up the reason you asked that malicious question.

You are a very callous person and you ought to be ashamed of yourself.

Ebubu6:
that one concern who wan give me bad advice. The only thing wey go prevent me aside from death to leave this country na say I get political appointment where I fit steal tens of millions of naira in a short while. Other than that I'm already in Canada/USA before 2030.

All I must learn are money management skills, lazy, I no dey lazy. Na just to invest any money I'll make there judiciously I go need learn, make I no waste am in solving one mumu family problem or helping any yeye friend cos I truly know friends I get now no fit help me.

You just hit the nail on the head. Complete statement, no addition, no subtraction

opera1:
We both gathered the money while in school

You should not have replied him. He had a hostile reason for asking that question.

opera1:
Alright, thanks

Na so them Dey run am,let no man put u for high jump . Naija baddies no Dey Dey loyal reach abroad. I ve a brother for cana d wife na she be the next holy angel after angel Gabriel but as dem reach Cana behavior change.

I always tell people that care to listen that if you've never spend 6months in UK,US,Canada or other good countries of the world, you won't know that Nigeria is a hell on earth.

The sheer opportunity to be whatever you dreamt of without knowing or related to any politician or big man is why Nigerians rush to all these developed countries.

God bless you for telling us the truth.....uk is a country where hardwork pays ...but Nigeria...is still a light years away

uche87:
Psychologically, the human brain is wired to remember pain more easily than good experiences. You might feed a man 100 times, and he may forget. But he will never forget the day you sent him away from your house, and that memory might define his relationship with you.

This is the problem the UK has. The country has been receiving a lot of bad press in recent times. As a writer, I have also been guilty of this. A poultry farmer recently criticised Nigerians in the UK, claiming they work three shifts just to survive. He also said that no Nigerian in the UK can boast of having £20,000 in their bank account. Similarly, a social media personality, Temi Ashebu, a 46-year-old single mother based in Florida, US, accused Nigerian men in the UK of mostly doing menial jobs to survive. This has become the strategy of people seeking social media attention, and it is unlikely to stop. It is rage bait.

The UK certainly has its challenges. However, people often become so accustomed to the positives of a place that they begin to focus almost entirely on the negatives. After the excitement of settling into a new environment fades, the mind naturally adapts and starts noticing imperfections instead.

I want this article to offer something beyond what you can easily find on Google, so I will make it a little personal.

In 2022, I met a lady at work who told me she had been earning less than ₦50,000 a month in Nigeria. Life became so difficult that a family member agreed to fund her relocation abroad with the understanding that she would repay the money later. She grabbed the opportunity. From earning ₦50,000, she began making the equivalent of over ₦2,000,000 a month doing blue-collar jobs. She proudly told me she was almost done repaying the money, much to the surprise of the person who financed her relocation. To her, the UK was the best country in the world.

I also met a teacher who earned ₦70,000 a month, and even those salaries were irregular. Sometimes, her employer simply did not pay. Moving to the UK transformed not only her life but also the future of her son, who was still in Nigeria at the time.

Another person is my benefactor. He was born into a large family in the suburbs of Lagos State. Life was hard. He lived with his family in an uncompleted building while pursuing a career in Accounting and trying his hand at business. The more money he made, the greater the financial demands from his extended family became.

One night, he sat down and reflected on his life. He realised that a rich man surrounded by poor people can still feel poor. He knew he needed to take a bold step, create a fresh path and open doors for his siblings. With the little money he had saved, he relocated to the UK about 12 years ago, long before the healthcare visa era.

According to him, life was difficult. Visa sponsorship required almost divine intervention. He worked in factories, warehouses, hospitals, bars, anywhere he could find work. During COVID, he laced up his boots and confronted danger daily. He eventually made enough money to buy a house, got married and started bringing members of his family to the UK. This man played a significant role in bringing me here, and I will always be grateful. Today, life is good, and most of his siblings are now in the UK working in professional careers.

I remember arriving in the UK in October 2021 with just £10, which I exchanged at Yaba Market in Lagos, two large travelling bags filled with foodstuffs that my mum packed for me, and about ₦100,000 in my account. I arrived alone. Today, if I choose to leave, I will be leaving with a beautiful family. I also went from doing a blue-collar job to sitting in a predominantly white office in a major government organisation.

What amazes me most is what the future could hold. I love the quality of education my son is receiving, and I look forward to helping him fulfil his potential. I now send my parents sizeable monthly stipends, and they can visit the UK whenever they wish. I could never have done that while living in Nigeria. One day, I told my dad, “Whenever you need anything, just call me. I am here for you.” He almost cried.

My story is not an isolated one. Many Nigerians who started with blue-collar jobs are gradually transitioning into technology, management and other professional careers. Is it easy? No. Is it possible? Absolutely.

I know an engineer who was working in healthcare and preparing to leave the UK because his visa was about to expire. Someone encouraged him to keep applying for jobs, even though it seemed like searching for a needle in a haystack. He gave it one last shot and landed a £79,000-a-year role with a well-known logistics company. The company sponsored both his visa and those of his family members for five years, covering all the associated costs.

The statistics also tell an interesting story. Nigeria is consistently listed by the Migration Observatory and the World Bank as one of the top recipients of remittances sent from the UK, alongside India and Pakistan. Official migrant remittances leaving the UK amount to roughly £9.3 billion each year. Nigeria receives a significant share of that money. The reverse is virtually non-existent.

Is the UK a perfect place? Certainly not. Life is expensive, visa restrictions can slow people’s progress, the cost of living is high, racism still exists, and good jobs can be difficult to secure.

The problem is that many Nigerians who are doing well value their privacy and rarely share their success stories. Those who are struggling often take to social media to vent their frustrations, while others pretend everything is perfect. In today’s world, the loudest voices often shape public perception.

To this day, there is still a huge demand for talented Nigerians in the UK, and there are many legitimate opportunities for those who are willing to work hard, develop themselves and remain consistent. The UK is not perfect, but for many people, it remains a place where lives can be transformed.

I often wonder what my life would have looked like if I had never moved here. For everything this country has made possible for my family and me, I remain deeply grateful.

https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid0247u4UVgftKcL5Usmzq7daqjmyebfN4Zg7ZFvVMwkeacHSFzynweMW7inogNwZVhzl

The worse part is that when i started the school journey back then in 2023, my girlfriend left me becauseshe cant date someone who's not working. She said all my plans wont work. Thank God i followed my brothers advice

AllLovingGod:
You see the efforts cum sacrifices he's making for you now. When you get to the UK and make it hopefully or even become higher than him in life, don't, go and start forming boss untop the brother whom God used to make you. Or you marry one funny girl that would make you to lock up and forget these your biological family members whom God used to make you.
My two cent.
All the best and congrats in advance bro.

Shedrack777:
If you get money, japa. Make nobody tell you otherwise

lol
Asin ehn

Tickles001:
Take this from me. Travel alone first and allow your wife and kids remain in Nigeria. You can bring her over after seven years or so, or if possible encourage her to stay back in Nigeria while you visit.

What kind of advice is this for pete sake.
What then is the beauty and enjoyment of that marriage when they are thousands of miles apart.
All in the name of living in the abroad, making money and living the foreign dream, yet you can't enjoy the company of your partner, you can't enjoy each other's warmth and comfort when the chips are down.

When life happens and you need someone to watch out for you, care for you, lend a helping hand, abeg is it the wife in Nigeria or the husband in YOUKAY that will help you in such situation?

Kaiiiiiii

Not everything be money oh
Material possession does not also replace the real JOY that comes from genuine partnership and companionship.

All the best sha.

I love this thread and this month will start doing whatever is possible to move out of this country

Someone says something up there that should resonate with anyone in this country

Apply the same hard work you do in Nigeria in the uk and it’ll pay

Uh

uche87:
Psychologically, the human brain is wired to remember pain more easily than good experiences. You might feed a man 100 times, and he may forget. But he will never forget the day you sent him away from your house, and that memory might define his relationship with you.

This is the problem the UK has. The country has been receiving a lot of bad press in recent times. As a writer, I have also been guilty of this. A poultry farmer recently criticised Nigerians in the UK, claiming they work three shifts just to survive. He also said that no Nigerian in the UK can boast of having £20,000 in their bank account. Similarly, a social media personality, Temi Ashebu, a 46-year-old single mother based in Florida, US, accused Nigerian men in the UK of mostly doing menial jobs to survive. This has become the strategy of people seeking social media attention, and it is unlikely to stop. It is rage bait.

The UK certainly has its challenges. However, people often become so accustomed to the positives of a place that they begin to focus almost entirely on the negatives. After the excitement of settling into a new environment fades, the mind naturally adapts and starts noticing imperfections instead.

I want this article to offer something beyond what you can easily find on Google, so I will make it a little personal.

In 2022, I met a lady at work who told me she had been earning less than ₦50,000 a month in Nigeria. Life became so difficult that a family member agreed to fund her relocation abroad with the understanding that she would repay the money later. She grabbed the opportunity. From earning ₦50,000, she began making the equivalent of over ₦2,000,000 a month doing blue-collar jobs. She proudly told me she was almost done repaying the money, much to the surprise of the person who financed her relocation. To her, the UK was the best country in the world.

I also met a teacher who earned ₦70,000 a month, and even those salaries were irregular. Sometimes, her employer simply did not pay. Moving to the UK transformed not only her life but also the future of her son, who was still in Nigeria at the time.

Another person is my benefactor. He was born into a large family in the suburbs of Lagos State. Life was hard. He lived with his family in an uncompleted building while pursuing a career in Accounting and trying his hand at business. The more money he made, the greater the financial demands from his extended family became.

One night, he sat down and reflected on his life. He realised that a rich man surrounded by poor people can still feel poor. He knew he needed to take a bold step, create a fresh path and open doors for his siblings. With the little money he had saved, he relocated to the UK about 12 years ago, long before the healthcare visa era.

According to him, life was difficult. Visa sponsorship required almost divine intervention. He worked in factories, warehouses, hospitals, bars, anywhere he could find work. During COVID, he laced up his boots and confronted danger daily. He eventually made enough money to buy a house, got married and started bringing members of his family to the UK. This man played a significant role in bringing me here, and I will always be grateful. Today, life is good, and most of his siblings are now in the UK working in professional careers.

I remember arriving in the UK in October 2021 with just £10, which I exchanged at Yaba Market in Lagos, two large travelling bags filled with foodstuffs that my mum packed for me, and about ₦100,000 in my account. I arrived alone. Today, if I choose to leave, I will be leaving with a beautiful family. I also went from doing a blue-collar job to sitting in a predominantly white office in a major government organisation.

What amazes me most is what the future could hold. I love the quality of education my son is receiving, and I look forward to helping him fulfil his potential. I now send my parents sizeable monthly stipends, and they can visit the UK whenever they wish. I could never have done that while living in Nigeria. One day, I told my dad, “Whenever you need anything, just call me. I am here for you.” He almost cried.

My story is not an isolated one. Many Nigerians who started with blue-collar jobs are gradually transitioning into technology, management and other professional careers. Is it easy? No. Is it possible? Absolutely.

I know an engineer who was working in healthcare and preparing to leave the UK because his visa was about to expire. Someone encouraged him to keep applying for jobs, even though it seemed like searching for a needle in a haystack. He gave it one last shot and landed a £79,000-a-year role with a well-known logistics company. The company sponsored both his visa and those of his family members for five years, covering all the associated costs.

The statistics also tell an interesting story. Nigeria is consistently listed by the Migration Observatory and the World Bank as one of the top recipients of remittances sent from the UK, alongside India and Pakistan. Official migrant remittances leaving the UK amount to roughly £9.3 billion each year. Nigeria receives a significant share of that money. The reverse is virtually non-existent.

Is the UK a perfect place? Certainly not. Life is expensive, visa restrictions can slow people’s progress, the cost of living is high, racism still exists, and good jobs can be difficult to secure.

The problem is that many Nigerians who are doing well value their privacy and rarely share their success stories. Those who are struggling often take to social media to vent their frustrations, while others pretend everything is perfect. In today’s world, the loudest voices often shape public perception.

To this day, there is still a huge demand for talented Nigerians in the UK, and there are many legitimate opportunities for those who are willing to work hard, develop themselves and remain consistent. The UK is not perfect, but for many people, it remains a place where lives can be transformed.

I often wonder what my life would have looked like if I had never moved here. For everything this country has made possible for my family and me, I remain deeply grateful.

https://www.facebook.com/thevillagetowncrier/posts/pfbid0247u4UVgftKcL5Usmzq7daqjmyebfN4Zg7ZFvVMwkeacHSFzynweMW7inogNwZVhzl

Thanks a lot for this honest review.

amazonguru001:
What kind of advice is this for pete sake.
What then is the beauty and enjoyment of that marriage when they are thousands of miles apart.
All in the name of living in the abroad, making money and living the foreign dream, yet you can't enjoy the company of your partner, you can't enjoy each other's warmth and comfort when the chips are down.

When life happens and you need someone to watch out for you, care for you, lend a helping hand, abeg is it the wife in Nigeria or the husband in YOUKAY that will help you in such situation?

Kaiiiiiii

Not everything be money oh
Material possession does not also replace the real JOY that comes from genuine partnership and companionship.

All the best sha.

You don't understand a bit of what he is trying to say. Carrying the whole of your family at once to a strange land is not a wise thing to do. Won't you provide for them? It is better to go alone first, prepare the ground for them, before bringing them over, or else all of you will suffer seriously before you find your feet. That is what the guy is trying to say. But you are only concerned about sex and warmth, you don't want to prepare the ground first before enjoyment, that is not wisdom

360who:
UK is heaven to a poor man or middle class man in Nigeria.

Nobody comfortable in Nigeria that has seen opulence and comfort would love to live in the UK. It'a s cesspit full of the bottom barrel Caucasians of Europe with no morals, vile attitudes, no home training, debauchery, peasantry, theft and filthy dirty people. The origin of the word Barbarian.

If you've been across Europe and other parts of the world, you would wonder what Nigerians and Indians love about the UK. Blame it on colonization because every Nigerian that comes to the UK for the first time has the reality check hit him when he sees the environment and the standard of living.

The only thing that makes UK stay above Nigeria is it's currency. The day that currency dies would be the end of their existence.

Lol..are you sure about that? I think you are trying to be funny here, if i asked you to list those things wonderful about Nigeria now your reply will be full of ...if not because of insecurity...if not because of corruption..if not because poor educational system...if not because of ack of constant power supply..etc. Compare Nigeria to Ghana, Kenya and other African countries and not the UK.

MatrixCircle:
I live in the UK 🇬🇧, I also japa in 2022. While in Nigeria I was earning N150k monthly in Lagos which can barely feed my family for a month.


I relocated. Now I do care job and has rose in the ladder. My Children later joined me and are in good schools with free education in UK 🇬🇧.

I save N2 million naira (£1080) monthly transferred to my Nigerian Bank account. I also have my own house in Uk under morgage, I have a land in Lagos and Abuja. I can boast of having N25, million in my Nigerian bank account.
I have visited many sheghen countries from UK 🇬🇧 because it's as simple as ABC to get sheghen visa as a UK 🇬🇧 residence, even if you like to visit Canada 🇨🇦 or Australia 🇦🇺 from UK 🇬🇧, na ABC.

But when I was struggling in Nigeria for many years, I was unable to save upto N500k ever while in Nigeria, struggling.

Let no one deceive you, if you have opportunity. JAPA !!!!

Thank you for the advice bro... I hope this your amazing story inspire all of us wey never see airport before to dream of living abroad and transforming our lives...

dollyjoy:
So he should leave his legally married wife in Nigeria and travel alone?
You must really have a miserable life to be praying for a stranger’s marriage to fail just so you can say, ‘I told you so.’ That’s a sad way to live

Very very sad way my brother

Tickles001:
Take this from me. Travel alone first and allow your wife and kids remain in Nigeria. You can bring her over after seven years or so, or if possible encourage her to stay back in Nigeria while you visit.

7 years is too long. After a year or 2 he should be able to if he means it. Particularly if they haven't got kids yet. If he is going to school then she can work or vice versa.

Somebody would have to work because school would kill the finance.

LordIsaac:
Lamba pro max!

Loool. Like we don't know those doing care job. And this one with wife and kids. Lol.

They're living well but all that extra na lamba.

Jman06:
My sister left Nigeria in 2024 for her MSc and now she's balling well. This is someone that could barely feed her family then. She graduated from school since 2009 but only managed to secure job in one private company that was paying her peanuts. My siblings then gathered funds and sponsored her abroad. Today, she can now afford to send money home for investment and to solve family financial needs.

With all due respect you really don't know how she's doing and in my experience most of you don't actually care. You only care about that money transfer at the end of the month.

You don't know how much debt she's laboring under. You don't know what she's having to deal with at work. You don't know her living conditions.