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The virginity conversation never ends. Here is where I stand and my final submission on this matter.

To everyone who immediately demands male virginity whenever female virginity is raised I have one question.

Where in history has male virginity been a requirement for marriage? In which tribe, culture or religion?

When a man wants to marry, the woman's family asks what he does for a living. They want to know his capacity to provide. But when a man brings a woman home his own family sets aside everything else and looks at one thing. Her character and most importantly her purity.

Each gender carries what belongs to them.

Men are judged by what they can build and provide. Women are judged by their sexual discipline.

A woman who can keep her body in a world where women sell themselves to the highest bidder is not ordinary. She is rare. That discipline alone is the pinnacle of character.

The only man who argues loudest against female virginity is a man who regrets his own choice. The only woman who argues loudest against it is a woman who regrets how she spent her prime.

Virgins will never argue against this post.
Men who married virgins will nod quietly.
The ones performing outrage are the ones this is about.

Is the virginity standard still realistic and worth holding in the world we are living in today?

I have seen stubborn and rude virgin,that they will choke you with the behaviour
70% of this virgin are stubborn from statistics, even with there innocent face,
Even though they will most likely be faithful in marriage, but that stubborn behaviour can chase man out of the house or make them suicidal

But you see the word character
Pls value it above all in your marriage, pls show me a woman who has good character, and I will show you a man that is ready to die for his wife

marcusverum:
The virginity conversation never ends. Here is where I stand and my final submission on this matter.

To everyone who immediately demands male virginity whenever female virginity is raised I have one question.

Where in history has male virginity been a requirement for marriage? In which tribe, culture or religion?

When a man wants to marry, the woman's family asks what he does for a living. They want to know his capacity to provide. But when a man brings a woman home his own family sets aside everything else and looks at one thing. Her character and most importantly her purity.

Each gender carries what belongs to them.

Men are judged by what they can build and provide. Women are judged by their sexual discipline.

A woman who can keep her body in a world where women sell themselves to the highest bidder is not ordinary. She is rare. That discipline alone is the pinnacle of character.

The only man who argues loudest against female virginity is a man who regrets his own choice. The only woman who argues loudest against it is a woman who regrets how she spent her prime.

Virgins will never argue against this post.
Men who married virgins will nod quietly.
The ones performing outrage are the ones this is about.

Is the virginity standard still realistic and worth holding in the world we are living in today?

Wow, what lovely praise!
"A woman who can keep her body in a world where women sell themselves to the highest bidder is not ordinary. She is rare. That discipline alone is the pinnacle of character."

I feel so excited to receive such praise from you. It is so delightful to be a virgin just to receive your approval. Those words are truly touching my heart.

Is these all, or do you have more to offer? 🤣🤣🤣

See how confidently you are spitting out nonsense. You must feel very special to believe that others should live their lives according to what you believe just so they can earn mere, unnecessary words of praise.

I am a virgin, and I totally disagree with the nonsense you wrote. You seem to have forgotten that a virgin is simply someone who abstains from sexual intercourse. People don't need validation to be virgins.

History teller also tell us about the time when Black people were treated as slaves and considered inferior.

Character matters a lot

Semyflu:
I have seen stubborn and rude virgin,that they will choke you with the behaviour
70% of this virgin are stubborn from statistics, even with there innocent face,
Even though they will most likely be faithful in marriage, but that stubborn behaviour can chase man out of the house or make them suicidal

But you see the word character
Pls value it above all in your marriage, pls show me a woman who has good character, and I will show you a man that is ready to die for his wife

When you are not a virgin, you always try to downgrade the value of virgins.

If virgins are stubborn, is it non virgins that don't have the capacity to be stubborn?

With regards to character that you are harping on, a woman cannot be said to have good character if she surrenders her virginity willingly before marriage. If you can't close your legs before marriage, then how can you claim good character?

Baronthecelebri:
Character matters a lot

Marry an ashawo with good character then

Men thumbs up to you op!!!!!!!!

Make those with 200km mileage they claim virgin for your thread nor send them.
Most are above their prime without purity of a dignified virtue of a woman of value to the society.

Many in late 30’s without value and purity.


In a nutshell “a woman that loses her purity and dignity has no character to start with”

If you like marry a woman with 1000 body count cos of pretending to be well mannered in character is the biggest disappointment of any man.

Nobody is perfect, let her be stubborn with her dignity and purity that’s shows discipline of the highest order.

One even claimed virgin above but only God knows the true virgins without love machines.

Stop asking/demanding for what you don't have

Let male and female virgin be dealing with themselves. If you are not a one yourself, stop demanding for it

In a fascinating field of plastic surgery, woman can regain her virgin thru correctional surgery. There are numbers of hospital doing it like the way they do BBL, beautician, etc. so virginity can be fake.

However the manner of any woman cannot be faked. Her mannerism and respect will always resound and resonate in her home, relationship and family. Woman's good manners and respect transcend to inclúde faithfulness , sexual purity not absolute virginity, etc

Virginity is a day duty and leaves no mark.

I therefore value manner and respect over virginity

Op has said it all, for those who have ears should hear

ManknowThyself:
Men thumbs up to you op!!!!!!!!

Make those with 200km mileage they claim virgin for your thread nor send them.
Most are above their prime without purity of a dignified virtue of a woman of value to the society.

Many in late 30’s without value and purity.


In a nutshell “a woman that loses her purity and dignity has no character to start with”

If you like marry a woman with 1000 body count cos of pretending to be well mannered in character is the biggest disappointment of any man.

Nobody is perfect, let her be stubborn with her dignity and purity that’s shows discipline of the highest order.

One even claimed virgin above but only God knows the true virgins without love machines.

🤡 I just hope you weren't referring to me. If you were, you can cry more. Get this straight: I am not one of those hungry, desperate women you know who advertise virginity as their worth. 😂🤣🤣

Most times, the people who call others valueless are not even as valuable as the people they refer to as valueless. Virginity is not my value because it is just a choice I made.

Each time I even bring up my virginity status, it is just because one or more idiots said something that isn't true. I only use it as a point to banter with idiots. That is the only usefulness of virginity. 😂🤣🤣

How many men of importance do you see demanding virginity as a criterion for marriage? I am aware that it is often the most useless men on earth that demand virginity; men with poor sexual performance, impotent men, poor men, unindustrious men, unproductive men, useless men that only have praises to offer and so on. It is very unreasonable for someone to think a smart woman like me would need to lie about something so valueless.

Don't get think twisted I am not even keeping myself for a guy. Praises do not have effect on account balance. I am able to pay my own bills. Exchange of saliva and other bodily fluids doesn't even fascinate me. I was dating for fun, with a glimmer of hope that it might work. I just didn't have sex because I didn't have a reason to have sex. 🤣😂😂

I have absolutely no business with relationships anymore. What interests me right now is more and more connections, experiences, and opportunities.

After my last relationship ended, I became completely uninterested in anything called a relationship because I had genuinely thought I could make the relationship work. We agreed to get to know each other better and wait until we were ready to take things further, but he couldn't control himself. He started making moves to trick me into sex. I became quite uncomfortable around him. I didn't even do an official breakup; I just started ghosting him.

I am just a happy woman who hates pretence and unnecessary stress.

Virgin or no virgin, women were created to be naturally wicked so choose your own evil with caution. Know the limitations to what you can tolerate. As for me and everything in me, I don't tolerate a single nonsense so I refused to be entangled with any of them. Whether marriage or serious relationship, I'm not interested. I'm interested in my needs whenever I need one from them. Keeping everything transactional with women has kept me out of trouble and it's my secret of inner peace and happiness. When my boy was born, my family members except my father did everything they could to make me bring her home, I stood my ground. She herself did not bother to add to the pressure because she knew that no matter how much I like her, I can never in this life wife a woman.

History shows it op. In the past, even as recent as the 1900s, fornication was an abomination. Back then, once a male and female are seen together, it was presumed that they were about to marry. And should they not marry, without the direct and believable confirmation that the partners have not been defiled, no one in that community will marry them. So, the man's virginity too was also important

Being a virgin is a sign of sexual discipline.
Especially if the lady is sexually attractive as well.

I don't know about you o, but for me, I'm not paying for goods that I did not Unboxed myself.

None virgin ladies always use " you go marry virgin now and she get bad character" as a means to gratify why they themselves are not virgins and still unmarried, they get triggered by that word .

Character is what you cultivate as you journey through life, but your virginity (purity) is given to you from your maker the very first day you set your foot in planet earth, the two are not the same.

If I buy a brand new car direct from factory and drive it couple of years, definitely it's going to need maintenance, fixing or remodeling.

It is far more better than buy a used/beat up car for an outrageous amount and still be pumping same outrageous amount in buying parts, all because the dealer told you it has ac chilling and nothing to fix.

You cant tell me you love me and say for better for worst when you have given your pride to a hudlum. If he was that perfect man for you, why didn't he wife you up?