₦airaland Forum

Rapmoney:
Many people in this part of the world are not looking for love but comfort. Especially the female folks.

Pure facts. That’s is the goal now. Just help them escape their bills and that is it. If you get One trouble like this 😁, omoh you go see rainbow of characters

Na mumuuu dey find love for inside jungle.

Caaz:
I mistakenly wrote that I was looking for a husband....DM full yakpa.



So love dey this nairaland like this .

minsmd you most are just looking for who to flex with not to marry if you know you know men ain't scarce but good husband aint many so also Ladies plenty but wife material scarce

So like this nau... husband material scarce?

Walezy2020:
minsmd you most are just looking for who to flex with not to marry if you know you know men ain't scarce but good husband aint many so also Ladies plenty but wife material scarce

Babatunjo:
They're looking for how love makes them feel. The attention. The affection. The validation. The comfort of knowing somebody wants them.

But love itself asks for something from you too.

Love is finding someone whose needs can sometimes come before your own desires.

Love is staying when they're down and there's nothing exciting about the moment.

Love is giving without calculating what you'll get back.

Sometimes, love is the humiliated self being exalted. Putting your ego down so something bigger than you can survive.

Plenty people want to be loved.

Far fewer are prepared to love.

We are hungry and homeless.
We cannot afford love again.
It's people that have certified job, house, money that can find love.
They have something to give back
People that have nothing, have nothing to give back.

Babatunjo:
C.S. Lewis said it best:

"To love at all is to be vulnerable."

Once you genuinely love someone, you've given them the ability to hurt you.

You can't enjoy the good side of love and refuse the risk that comes with it.

This is what people dont know. . Once you made up your mind to love someone as a man, you are already vunerable and no matter how you think you are strong, it will pain you when someone breaks your heart. As a man prepare for the worst and be logical when you love a woman... No do pass yourself.

And they're right. I wonder why anyone should be looking for love in the first place, especially in the context you stated it. Love should be the ice of a healthy relationship, not the foundation. And the foundation should be built on mutual diligence, if the individuals involved value trust, respect, communication, and shared goals.

Where the individuals involved separately or collectively do not value diligence and healthy relationships in general - yes, there are some people who don't value diligence and healthy relationships in general - the foundation could be built on something else, like expediency, oppression, etc., and use lies, bullying, etc., to sustain it.

Women looking for a who will take care of financial responsibility and a psychiatrist to take care of her mental problem.
While men look for s..... x

Men are in love, women are in business

If you are lucky to find the one that genuinely loves you, hold on to her

Just do business with the one you can manage or pay for, 90% of Nigerian women are in it for what they stand to gain

Here, men are taught how to love a woman from childhood, but nobody teaches a Nigerian girl how to love a man

Hhh4444:
Lol...e go learn the hard way.

you Sabi

Samuels90:
😂 Bros be like that guy don suffer for we Naija girls hand😂

I swear 😂😂

This was me two decades ago. After getting played left and right, I decided to settle with releasing hormones; a sure bet before believing love was more valuable than bumping uglies.

Caaz:
I mistakenly wrote that I was looking for a husband....DM full yakpa.



So love dey this nairaland like this .

No be mistake, na because high class man never show. Unfortunately, such men don't really have the time to slide into your DM after the ad.

Doofus I m married...common sense didn't tell you that I was only catching cruise.


Abeg enjoy your mud ,do what what pleases you with my reply

pigmania:
No be mistake, na because high class man never show. Unfortunately, such men don't really have the time to slide into your DM after the ad.

Caaz:
I mistakenly wrote that I was looking for a husband....DM full yakpa.



So love dey this nairaland like this .

Stopppppppppppppppp. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

As in eeh...so nairaland men can be this lovely and dem go dey tag us Fellminiece

folake4u:
Stopppppppppppppppp. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

DM full with mentions.

In this days of ours, love is now transactional

Caaz:
As in eeh...so nairaland men can be this lovely and dem go dey tag us Fellminiece
DM full with mentions.

Lol I can only imagine. 😂

Babatunjo:
They're looking for how love makes them feel. The attention. The affection. The validation. The comfort of knowing somebody wants them.

But love itself asks for something from you too.

Love is finding someone whose needs can sometimes come before your own desires.

Love is staying when they're down and there's nothing exciting about the moment.

Love is giving without calculating what you'll get back.

Sometimes, love is the humiliated self being exalted. Putting your ego down so something bigger than you can survive.

Plenty people want to be loved.

Far fewer are prepared to love.

a) MEN ARE MOSTLY LOOKING FOR SEX AND SEXUAL PLEASURES (AND WHERE POSSIBLE WITHOUT INVESTING OR GIVING UP ANY OF THEIR RESOURCES).

b) WOMEN ARE MOSTLY LOOKING FOR MATERIAL, FINANCIAL AND OTHER RESOURCES (WHERE POSSIBLE WITHOUT GIVING UP SEX).

c) INBETWEEN YOU HAVE THE SITUATION REVERSED FOR A FEW AND A MINUTE EXECPTION.

THE RULE IS SIMPLE:

RULE FOR THE WOMAN --- KEEP YOUR DAMNED LEGS CLOSED TILL MARRIAGE. AT LEAST YOU KNOW YOU DID NOT JUST OPEN YOUR LEGS FOR ANY FOOL THAT STROLLS/STROLLED ALONG. IT IS MORE HONORABLE TO LOSE YOUR VIRGINITY UNDER THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE.

RULE FOR THE MEN --- KEEP YOUR PENIS ONE PLACE TOO, AND GUARD YOUR RESOURCES, YOUR ATTENTION, YOUR PROVISION, ETC PROPERLY. KEEP THESE TO YOURSELF AND SPEND IT ONLY THE WOMAN YOU MARRY. SO THAT YOU DONT JUST WASTE YOUR RESOURCES ON ANY FOOL THAT STROLLS/STROLLED OR COMES ALONG.



BUT YOU DONT LISTEN AND IT IS WORSE IN 2026. MANY MEN ARE GREEDY FOR SEXUAL PLEASURE AND THE BODY OF A WOMAN AND MANY WOMEN ARE GREEDY FOR MALE ATTENTION AND ACQUISITION OF MATERIAL THINGS. THE MEN PRAISE THEMSELVES FOR TRICKING AND BEDDING A WOMAN. IT MASSAGES THEIR EGO. AND, THE WOMEN PRAISE THEMSELVES FOR SEDUCING, MANIPULATING AND FLEECING A MAN. IT MASSAGES THEIR HYPERGAMOUS EGO TOO. BOTH GENDERS HAVE GONE MAD.

IF YOU DO DECIDE TO FOOL AROUND IT COMES WITH RISKS. EVEN MARRIAGE COMES WITH ITS OWN RISK IF YOU MARRY WRONG. EVENTUALLY ASK YOURSELF, WHICH RISK IS WORTH TAKING?

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS ''LOVE''. IT WILL CONTINUE TO BE IMAGINARY. IT IS HOW FOOLISH YOU DECIDE TO BE/GET AND FANTASIES YOU DECIDE TO CREATE FOR THE PURSPOSE OF AND TO JUSTIFY YOUR CONTINUED ACCESS TO SEXUAL INTIMACY, MONEY AND SELF PRIDE FOR LANDING THAT FINE MAN OR THAT FINE GIRL, ETC.

Na only God fit love us esp for this current dispensation of self centred pple.

We all want to be loved

So make we leave love for God!

Babatunjo:
They're looking for how love makes them feel. The attention. The affection. The validation. The comfort of knowing somebody wants them.

But love itself asks for something from you too.

Love is finding someone whose needs can sometimes come before your own desires.

Love is staying when they're down and there's nothing exciting about the moment.

Love is giving without calculating what you'll get back.

Sometimes, love is the humiliated self being exalted. Putting your ego down so something bigger than you can survive.

Plenty people want to be loved.

Far fewer are prepared to love.

Just say most women...na then dey catch feelings

Caaz:
I mistakenly wrote that I was looking for a husband....DM full yakpa.



So love dey this nairaland like this .

E fit be those way wan do you hit and pass....no day careful...day there day shine teeth like Christmas goat.

Zonefree:
There is nothing beautiful about love of a Nigerian woman.

the error of generalization is your undoing

StrangeListing:
This hits the nail completely on the head. Most people are simply in love with the luxury of being pampered, validated, and given attention, but they run away the moment real sacrifice is required. True love isn't just an emotional high or a transaction where you constantly calculate what you are gaining. It is about maturity, putting down the ego, and showing up even when the excitement fades and life gets heavy. Everyone wants the benefits of love, but very few are willing to pay the price of commitment.

How can i like this your solemn contribution 100 times?

95% of people above 30yrs of age have felt all manners of heart breaks, with financial struggles, that have rendered and turned their hearts into stone, so love isn't in their dictionary.