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While women fvck different men looking for the one that will commit. She will not be loyal to the man that eventually commits; women are highly loyal to the men that deflowered them, they may no longer be close to each other, but it was that man that opened her eyes to the gateway of sex that she will ever be loyal to both consciously and instinctually, and this is the man that always owns her heart and has a genuine desire for

JESHAL007:
While women fvck different men looking for the one that will commit. She will not be loyal to the man that eventually commits; women are highly loyal to the men that deflowered them, they may no longer be close to each other, but it was that man that opened her eyes to the gateway of sex that she will ever be loyal to both consciously and instinctually, and this is the man that always owns her heart and has a genuine desire for

Old school paro. In this social media era wey average people worship so called pretty curvy lady

Woman were loyal to men they have deep respect for and fear deeply.

The fundamental strategy to create deep fear in woman is to create impressions/ possibility to walk away any time

Additional advantages to that particular bad guy is financial stability ( because of hardship, they fear suffering)and handsomenes (because of good genes they love their children to fine)

JESHAL007:
Good morning @ CaveAdullam would love a response to these question above, I'm currently dating someone that's a salary earner like me, I need more prudent guidance

The woman you choose is a reflection of you. The reason for your association with her and commitment is as a result of qualities you saw in her despite her career and ambitions.

Of course, women tend to exhibit "negative" masculine traits when they are deep into masculine role. It takes only an outlier woman not to allow herself to be corroded by it. Men can be arrogant, prideful, cunning, boastful in the line of work and still get praised for boosting the company's KPI. And it's also possible for men to leave office mode in the office by 4pm. But women can't. They take it everywhere they go.

And you can't fall in love with a career woman then, expect her to become a stay at home mum. That's very inconsiderate. It builds resentment that eventually crumble the union.

So, before you date, go where women that meets your criterias are dwelling. It makes the journey smooth because you both can easily understand yourselves.

And selecting a good woman starts from you being a good man and the way you see yourself. Because your spouse is a reflection of you. This enables you to be able to sieve and filter accurately.

What's her future and vision? Does it makes sense and will tally with yours?

What's her attitude towards you like?
What about her personality?

You have all the data to carry out your audit in ways that will draw you closer to the truth in making a better decision for yourself and the union.

Thanks.

And it's getting worse every day.

Kipaji:
I have been thinking about this too. And I also came to the realization that most men are not the gatekeepers of relationships/commitment.


First of all, let's see why women are the gatekeepers of sex.
As you said, "women control access to intimacy—they decide who gets it and under what conditions." Take a random woman out there, let's call her Abiola. Being a woman, Abiola has many guys who would like to have sex with her. There are colleagues, classmates, neighbors, clients, churchmates, online acquaintances, and many more who have made their direct or indirect advances. But, whether any of these men get to have sex with her depends on her. She is the person who decides whether any of these men get to have access to her body. In effect, she gatekeeps sex FROM THESE MEN. If there are 15 men that would like to have sex with Abiola, then Abiola is the gatekeeper of sex from these 15 men.
Since 99% of women out there have at least one guy that would like to have sex with her (regardless of her age, beauty, economic status, intelligence or personality), any woman is EFFECTIVELY gatekeeping sex FROM AT LEAST ONE MAN. Therefore, it makes sense to say that "women are the gatekeepers of sex."

Now, let's examine the men side.
It is said that "men are the gatekeepers of commitment." But I have come to the realization that most men are not "gatekeeping" commitment/relationships from anybody.
Think about it. How many men have girls that would like to be in a relationship with them? The average man out there is not being checked out by any woman. No woman cares about him, no woman thinks about being in a relationship with him, and women couldn't care less about his commitment. So, if he is the gatekeeper of commitment, WHO IS HE GATEKEEPING THAT COMMITMENT FROM when there are no girls that would like to be in a relationship with him? If you are a man, and you believe you are the gatekeeper of commitment, please take a pen and a paper, and write down the names of the girls you think you are gatekeeping that commitment from. If you can't think of any girl, just know that you aren't gatekeeping shît. If there are, say, three girls that would like to be in a relationship with you, then you are the gatekeeper of relationship (only AS FAR AS THESE THREE GIRLS ARE CONCERNED.)
Since most men out there have no woman that would like to be in a relationship with them, I don't think it makes sense to say that "men are the gatekeepers of commitment."

The truth is, nowadays, women are indeed the gatekeepers of BOTH relationship and sex. For most (not all) men, it is women who decide who gets into a relationship and who gets sex. Virtually any woman knows at least one man that would like to be in a relationship with her; she is effectively gatekeeping commitment from that one man. But can we say the same for the average man out there? Is there a woman he is effectively gatekeeping commitment from? Is there a woman he can get into a relationship with today, if he wanted to?

Only a minority of men (I'd say around 30%) are truly gatekeepers of commitment. The rest have NOBODY to gatekeep their (undesired) commitment from. They are at best spectators in the relationship and mating world.

Women have the upper hand cos most men lack what it takes to make a woman fall in love just by sight.

So it take certain game for women to get there

But a man can literally spot a lady pass by his side right now and begin catch crazy feelings just

You meet a girl you start catching feelings immediately, if she's sexy konji grips you, these girl is a total stranger, she no send and reason your papa, then you make moves, you approach, you game, you chase, next thing you try to please her and make her happy, lol 😆😂, fool, you think she would later like you, you want to build attraction, rapport and connection, I understand you are average, girls aren't streaming to engage with you, Wizkid, Davido, Rema have girls throwing their bras at them during shows, but that's not your reality, you must approach as a redpiller if you are still in these phase of life just know you have never experienced genuine desire ever, you are in scarcity better go MGTOW lol, scarcity leads to approach lead to low interest or rejection leads to desperation, leads to simping

Only the redpill can deliver you

Can't believe this space is still here. Wow.
Thought it would have gotten deleted by now. Keep up the good work

The way women are imprinted is whatever the first sexual experience is like, her mind tells itself "oh! So this is how sex must be like... mmhmm! We have learnt a new thing today and we'll look for more of this!"
The mind copies this Since there's no prior experience to provide the blueprint. So whatever the experience is like - good or bad, negative or positive - her mind picks this up and runs with it, forevermore locking her arousal system to that experience because it figures that's how this sex thing must work. The arousal system itself can't differentiate between right or wrong (hence a woman can have multiple orgasms during r@pe) it is not moral. So let's say a woman loses her virginity through r@pe what happens is that she will very well hate men who violate women, but her arousal system will remain locked to aggressive, rough and violent sex - which her mind has captured.

JESHAL007:
I will never get that part though. The part where men get small money and they rush to get married, especially to the same ladies who rejected them when they were broke. It's almost like men have this innate desire to watch themselves suffer. Then they still stayed in these marriages despite knowing they are not loved but tolerated because they can provide. The same set always tell me 'you better marry, you are not a complete man if you don't ' and when I point out how fvcked up their marriages are, they are like 'fear who no fear woman oh' and my mind is why dafuq did you have to marry who doesn't love or respect you? And you knew this yet you went ahead

This is my quote bro....

Acknowledge the source of the quote properly.

fattprince:
You are right, I started thinking about this when my babe start misbehaving somehow, I wanted to take a break but I don't want it to come from me, because I know if we take a break now I'm most likely not going to take her back when I become financially stable. So I've decided to take it one at a time. This might look like oneities. But trust me to start over again with another lady is scary. So I'm just being calm and let things unfold by themselves, but I've told her when she was complaining of me not giving money on a steady, I told her if she needs anything she should tell me, and not waiting for me to be sending her money, and me telling her to ask me doesn't mean i will automatically help, no I will only help if I have. It's been angry with me for not sending her money for hair, she will get angry and end call, I will not even bother to call her even for days until she comes back to her senses and calls me. I will not be the one spending little money inside our relationship and still put the relationship control into your hands. I think she's already getting the memo that no matter what she do, you can't coerce me into doing what I don't want to.

Omoh...you guys are trying sha.

I just imagine a girl constantly asking me money for hair and then she gets angry and cuts the call on me...

No girl ever asked me that...the notion of a woman who thinks it's your responsibility to give her all these things as a girlfriend never left first base with me.

fattprince:
You are just empty, I would not waste my time on you anymore.

No dey reply IT anymore.

We all ignore IT.

luminouz:
Omoh...you guys are trying sha.

I just imagine a girl constantly asking me money for hair and then she gets angry and cuts the call on me...

No girl ever asked me that...the notion of a woman who thinks it's your responsibility to give her all these things as a girlfriend never left first base with me.

That's the issue, she wasn't like that before. When she started insinuating it I told her directly she's being influenced but she denied it, but I told her as I've always told her whether she's being influenced or not and whether me choosing to do it or not is basically going to be down to our decisions and we all are going to face the consequences or not. I love you doesn't mean I'm in love because I do it with my head not my heart.

Our distant ancestors created patriarchal societies. These societies and the families in it were traditional and conservative. This means they brought up their daughters with strict traditional and conservative values, yet when these men married, they still indulged in serious mate guarding. Even Kings and Princes castrated men to keep a watch on their wives. grin Did they know something that we don't? grin

Kipaji:
And it's getting worse every day.

When I saw this comment, I wanted to agree with it maybe because it was a new observation for me, you know different from the female gatekeeper of sex and males gatekeepers of commitment but after absorbing it my experience came to disagree and this is coming from experience unless you are going to say I'm part of the 10% exception. First before Ubunja and redpill I usually believe if I truly love a lady that the lady will surely love me back, it worked then because I was young so I didn't get burnt, if I cut eye for you and you don't reciprocate, I believe what i had for you isn't love but lust and i move on fast. That's because I believe in soulmate. Then redpill and Ubunja post on the chosen and being the prize, then I just laid back and stopped hunting. Again before then when I'm not attracted to a lady that's is flirting, I go uncomfortable and when a very attractive lady flirts with me, so I go uncomfortable too but don't even see it as flirting sef. Sorry for diversion, then after chosen concept I went for a semina, somewhere far away from home. After 1 week, a lady wanted to join the training and I was the only male in midst of few ladies that stay in training hostel. We were like just 3 males but on that particular day I was only male outside gisting with female housemates outside, this lady came to make inquiry about the training, we talked till training started for the day and after training we just continued to talk till evening that she wanted to go home, didn't think much of it even when she asked for my number and texted me on WhatsApp before going and even when she got home. It was after then my mind went to maybe she likes me and not just wanting to know more about the training because by then we stopped talking about training and now about ourselves. Then 3 months and 3 rounds of after, I just remember randomly about that first day she came and how she smirk and smile and hints in her eyes when I was explaining training to her and I bet she was already thinking about us on bed. So tell me she doesn't want relationship from me that day, if I had offered? Doesn't that make me gatekeeper for commitment. Like Ubunja said then, men don't see when this ladies are flirting or choose them. And it really not that hard if you are in the right or should I say healthy mindset about yourself. And it's really not one time experience, I've had like 4 and this particular lady once told me if I find her worthy enough to have my child, when I joked with her about giving me one child. You can say all these doesn't prove they want commitments only if 80% of them didn't ask for exclusive relationship when we started dating, I think that's asking for commitment enough.

People need to realise that the following are top derailers of destiny:

1. Women
2. Alchoholism
3. Masturbation and sex addiction
4. Gambling

Etc.

The part of the brain that controls these things is same place where creative energy comes from and it’s such that you can’t be addicted to them and function optimally. Something has to give.

Bro
Good afternoon

Abeg who be this CRP? Is he like an online personality that we can check more of his works?

Regex:
CRP said, you should take at least 2months before asking a girl out. I didn't understand it till this day... It's now I read your conversation with ubunja that I completely understood CRP

HiideaConsole:
Bro
Good afternoon

Abeg who be this CRP? Is he like an online personality that we can check more of his works?

Coach Redpill. However the owner of the account died during the early start of Russian War with Ukraine.

Rest in peace Gonzalo Lira

Oh, okay

No wahala

Thank you. I'll check his YouTube sometime

Regex:
Coach Redpill. However the owner of the account died during the early start of Russian War with Ukraine.

Rest in peace Gonzalo Lira

By now it must be clear that women very much want to enjoy dick first before settling down in marriage. The men the women sleep with before marriage are their first and primary choice. Their favorites. IF WOMEN DIDN'T HAVE TO MARRY, THEY WOULD HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH BETAS.. In other words, IF WOMEN DIDN'T NEED MONEY THEY'D HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH 80% OF MEN. It's for this reason why many men are forcing marriage down women's throats. The reason many men want marriage to matter, because it's the only way they'll get a woman to give them unlimited sex.

JESHAL007:
By now it must be clear that women very much want to enjoy dick first before settling down in marriage. The men the women sleep with before marriage are their first and primary choice. Their favorites. IF WOMEN DIDN'T HAVE TO MARRY, THEY WOULD HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH BETAS.. In other words, IF WOMEN DIDN'T NEED MONEY THEY'D HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH 80% OF MEN. It's for this reason why many men are forcing marriage down women's throats. The reason many men want marriage to matter, because it's the only way they'll get a woman to give them unlimited sex.

Well unlimited stress if care is not taken..

JESHAL007:
By now it must be clear that women very much want to enjoy dick first before settling down in marriage. The men the women sleep with before marriage are their first and primary choice. Their favorites. IF WOMEN DIDN'T HAVE TO MARRY, THEY WOULD HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH BETAS.. In other words, IF WOMEN DIDN'T NEED MONEY THEY'D HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH 80% OF MEN. It's for this reason why many men are forcing marriage down women's throats. The reason many men want marriage to matter, because it's the only way they'll get a woman to give them unlimited sex.

Am not surprised anymore when I hear guys are banging guys. This your write up make sense to you?

CanadaOrBust:
But that's just human nature- we don't appreciate things too easily given. We appreciate things that are scarce. That’s why some people play hard to get.
Also, women generally don't know what they want. So all these your Church girls like me na lie. Women generally want what other women want or have

True, but it's something you can control. Like I use to say, I don't fall in love, I only love because that's what I choose to do. It's my choice, and I only love girls that love me. I don't know or even care if they fell in love with me or chose to love me too because that's not in my own control. That's why when I see a girl that loves me stopped loving me, I also stop loving her and move on. When I was talking about my girlfriend, and some were like I'm only simping. I later stopped trying to explain and concluded you guys don't know me so won't understand. Because she loves me now doesn't mean I don't know she can stop tomorrow and I'm only invested emotionally, physically or financially as much as the relationship can end today, and I've moved on tomorrow.

Giving money to a woman without a reasonable ROI that is worth the money is simping.

Giving money just to win attention and ingratiate her into commitment and loyalty is simping.

Giving her money when she has not been of service to you in any way is simping.

Giving her money as a responsibility, or with a regularity becoming of a responsibility, when you are not her father or husband is simping.

This excludes your sisters and other female relatives you deem worthy of charitable deed.

That being said, before you give a woman money, know that women (especially those you have no family ties to) see you as a mumu or client smitten by their vagina (or supposed charm) if you give them money *just like that.*


From @Martinez39s

JESHAL007:
By now it must be clear that women very much want to enjoy dick first before settling down in marriage. The men the women sleep with before marriage are their first and primary choice. Their favorites. IF WOMEN DIDN'T HAVE TO MARRY, THEY WOULD HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH BETAS.. In other words, IF WOMEN DIDN'T NEED MONEY THEY'D HAVE NO REASON TO DEAL WITH 80% OF MEN. It's for this reason why many men are forcing marriage down women's throats. The reason many men want marriage to matter, because it's the only way they'll get a woman to give them unlimited sex.

and how has this ideology been working out from them that finally got married? Are they getting the sex they envisaged before getting married?

Tenrack:
and how has this ideology been working out from them that finally got married? Are they getting the sex they envisaged before getting married?

Most married women are giving their husbands transactional chore duty sex

Having tons of women swarm you every now and then, is a sweet feeling, especially when your money and social status improves, but the stuff of great men is having a high level of control and discipline over your sexual urges and instincts. If you fail to develop this, the risk of setting up yourself for future disasters is high.

JESHAL007:
Having tons of women swarm you every now and then, is a sweet feeling, especially when your money and social status improves, but the stuff of great men is having a high level of control and discipline over your sexual urges and instincts. If you fail to develop this, the risk of setting up yourself for future disasters is high.

Very true.

When you finally learn about women and understand their nature you will be tempted to want to hate them. It's courage as a man to continue to deal with them normally. Because you will understand every motives behind what they do and how they do it.

You will be able to see your mother through the same lens of your father.

You will realise that women understand women that's why it's difficult for them to cooperate to achieve a common goal.

That when you realise that manipulation na water!

Having a woman or having women around you signals to the subconscious biological instinct of other females that you have superior genes. It could be aggression/violence, looks, social charm or bed game at base level. These attract these females to share in your genetic superiority.

JESHAL007:
Having tons of women swarm you every now and then, is a [b]sweet feeling, [/b]especially when your money and social status improves, but the stuff of great men is having a high level of control and discipline over your sexual urges and instincts. If you fail to develop this, the risk of setting up yourself for future disasters is high.

Nothing dey there.. just get woman of your taste to enjoy her to fullest