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I just entered my 34 years this august and I don’t have girlfriend so I thought it’s the right time I have a child but don’t know the OT and orientation I can go about it.

Pls I am not interested in marriage and this is the final decision I’ve made to myself and no one shud come preach to me that I must marry . This is my choice. I just want to give birth without getting married. I thought of just looking for one girl and impregnate her but I’m scared what if I impregnated her and she and her family member force me to marry her because of the pregnancy .

Pls I need relationship expert with strong OT and orientation to guide me on how to go about this . If you think we can discuss better on watsap I’m also open for that .
Thanks all

If you no guide no put body. Except you wan do am run. My baby mama is an Igbo girl. Guy wen she carry belle I first cast her because she no know me reached house. luckily for me she didn't abort the pregnancy I have to pay heavily to get my baby from the family up till now we never settle the matter finished. No mother go accept this your ideas for there daughter. You have to do it in strategic way. Because Na illegal movement. find one baby wen dey desperate to get pikin E go make the journey easy for you. immediately a man cross 35 desperation to get pikin go high

Why not adopt some of those almajiris roaming the streets?

Samantha125:
Why not adopt some of those almajiris roaming the streets?

this man why you be like this

lol u funny ooo..
Like that guy said…. Find somebody older or your age mate and is desperate to also have a child then you’re good to go.
Even me we don pass forty sef and not desperate like you

Ghetto baby, long time no see. Tell me something, where here in SA are you based? I feel like looting...😶😶😶

ghettochild:
lol u funny ooo..
Like that guy said…. Find somebody older or your age mate and is desperate to also have a child then you’re good to go.
Even me we don pass forty sef and not desperate like you

Oyaa nau

Starz825:
You wan born and you don't have the required resources to cater for that child, so why you do this to your self, the child and the child's mother??

Why?

Ask yourself, whats your plan for this kid

See, reasonable pple no just dey born pikin cos they are old enough to, dem dey get plan for a

Whats your plan for the kid

You yourself never feed well but you think you can feed a child

Oyaa nau

Where did he say he can't feed well?

Kriximpecable:
I just entered my 34 years this august and I don’t have girlfriend so I thought it’s the right time I have a child but don’t know the OT and orientation I can go about it.

Pls I am not interested in marriage and this is the final decision I’ve made to myself and no one shud come preach to me that I must marry . This is my choice. I just want to give birth without getting married. I thought of just looking for one girl and impregnate her but I’m scared what if I impregnated her and she and her family member force me to marry her because of the pregnancy .

Pls I need relationship expert with strong OT and orientation to guide me on how to go about this . If you think we can discuss better on watsap I’m also open for that .
Thanks all

This one dey find person daughter destiny wey im wan ruin.

You see all the bad-bad things wey una dey learn for this nairaland, the way wey e go take blow up for una faces ehn? E go shock una.

Mariangeles:
This one dey find person daughter destiny wey im wan ruin.

You see all the bad-bad things wey una dey learn for this nairaland, the way wey e go take blow up for una faces ehn? E go shock una.

You will not be the first person seeking a kid or two without the commitment that comes with marriage.

The problem is getting a like minded woman who also feels the same way and discussions can be had. But it is still not that easy. Why? Because the woman MUST FIRST SEE YOU AS SOMEONE DESIRABLE. Someone she feels is "worthy" enough to carry his genes and go through the near death process of childbearing. So, what I am saying is that:

-It is not only that you need to find a woman that thinks like you. It is beyond this.

-The woman must also desire you - she will have her criteria. She will not want to get impregnated by a lazy man with deformities, poor hygiene, lack of resourcefullness, lack of intelligence, etc. No.

-And you must also desire the woman as well- she will also have to meet your criteria. As a man I know you dont want to mix genes and procreate with a female olosho, runs girl, with zero accountability and no moral credit type of idiot.

I know because I have experienced this more than once. In my case, the women were doi my the seeking. And the sentiment and opinion in my own cases were the same from the Ladies involved. Their offers to me were the same. "If I cant have you all to myself, at least let me have something ( a baby by you) to remember you by- something so dear to me, that if I see it, it will be a consolation and remind me of you". Now these women were all successful. Very. In fact they can take care of the baby 1000% and the kid will lack absolutely nothing. When women love you, they try to make life easy for you when they are in the position to do so. Personally, I am not doing badly myself. So, ''equation balance'' as we say in Nigeria. But they were willing to do this without being a liability or burden to me. And it was the whole package they were interested in.

Now let me warn you. Do not listen to the counsel of people telling you to impregnate an innocent girl/lady who is expecting that upon pregnancy you will quickly perform at least traditional rites. When I say innocent, I am not speaking about age or morality here. A lady who doesnt agree to used as baby mama is innocent. Because If you do listen to the horrible advice asking you to trick a girl int getting pregnant for you, then Uncle, you are no bet ter than a witch or a wizard. A sorcerer. That is premeditated hurt you are planning for someone innocent. Premeditated emotional trauma, stigma, disappointment, etc. You need to understand what women go through when they get pregnant outside wedlock. It is traumatic in many ways. And for many it damages their futures and stunts or stalls their growth, aspirations, mission and purpose. In marriage, many of these personal goals of theirs can be supported by an ever present spouse/husband. Even the child rearing requires intermittent support by the man as well.

So my advise is still as follows:


1. Look for a girl you can pay to give birth and discuss and plan how you can handle the child care after birth and weaning. They are many now. But the required pay is huge and research first whether such form of surrogacy is even legal in Nigeria.

2. Look for a lady with the same purpose that both of you agree and are willing to assist each other.

3. Avoid an ''innocent'' girl that you did not brief of this your plan ab initio and did not agree or has not agreed to this plan hither to. I dont care if she is a street slut or the pastor's virgin daughter. As long as you didnt get her agreement and acceptance of this your plan, then do not do this with any girl. Whether a hook up girl or an innocent girl. Doesn't matter. Dont put misery, suffering, pain and trauma on an unwilling lady through deceit, just for a personal gain. Dont! It will be really bad.

ghettochild:
Why this guy Dey rush.. e no get money n he wan born n not marry..

my thoughts also, the guy would have had many ladies willing to become baby mamas to him without any stress only if he had money🤔

Samantha125:
Ghetto baby, long time no see. Tell me something, where here in SA are you based? I feel like looting...😶😶😶

Southies and looting. What a legacy to pass on to your unborns

I wasn't asking for your opinion, now shift abeg...😒😒😒

This is between me and our lovely ghetto bambino.

Sheffdon:
Southies and looting. What a legacy to pass on to your unborns

Kriximpecable:
I just entered my 34 years this august and I don’t have girlfriend so I thought it’s the right time I have a child but don’t know the OT and orientation I can go about it.

Pls I am not interested in marriage and this is the final decision I’ve made to myself and no one shud come preach to me that I must marry . This is my choice. I just want to give birth without getting married. I thought of just looking for one girl and impregnate her but I’m scared what if I impregnated her and she and her family member force me to marry her because of the pregnancy .

Pls I need relationship expert with strong OT and orientation to guide me on how to go about this . If you think we can discuss better on watsap I’m also open for that .
Thanks all

You need Jesus in your life. Your thought are not humanly let alone divine. Child bearing is a product of marriage, any thing aside this is an accident and uncalled for. Children need both father and mothers' presence in their lives and not one except in the place of death. Kindly, change your orientation.

Samantha125:
I wasn't asking for your opinion, now shift abeg...😒😒😒

This is between me and our lovely ghetto bambino.

;Dfunny girl. But wait oo watin u dey do for that SA. Or are you originally from SA. No let Dem kpie u there.

Samantha125:
Ghetto baby, long time no see. Tell me something, where here in SA are you based? I feel like looting...😶😶😶

Have been here in Mthatha, eastern cape and I work as a nails Tech-Artist.
WhatsApp 0737839889

Sheffdon:
Southies and looting. What a legacy to pass on to your unborns

lol u should understand her sarcasm na

Samantha125:
I wasn't asking for your opinion, now shift abeg...😒😒😒

This is between me and our lovely ghetto bambino.

Samantha u don learn to type pidgin finish ooo
Hope say u don Dey learn how to speak

Cum4me:
;Dfunny girl. But wait oo watin u dey do for that SA. Or are you originally from SA. No let Dem kpie u there.

lol I Dey wait make I hustle December work then January I go return home

Samantha125:
Ghetto baby, long time no see. Tell me something, where here in SA are you based? I feel like looting...😶😶😶

but but you know right from time Eastern Cape don’t like looting… it is a Zulu thingy 😃😃😃😃😃

Eastern Cape, well, I can't say I'm surprised... ... That province seems to be heaven for you guys that you even inaugurated your own King there.

ghettochild:
but but you know right from time Eastern Cape don’t like looting… it is a Zulu thingy 😃😃😃😃😃

How did we go from you being a teacher to a nails tech artist? A male nails tech artist?😑😑😑

I've never been to Eastern Cape before and must you give me your numbers, if I wanted them, I'd have taken them from your profile...🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️... All I want is your address so that I can come and loot.

ghettochild:
Have been here in Mthatha, eastern cape and I work as a nails Tech-Artist.
WhatsApp 0737839889

I just know only few Pidgin phrases.

ghettochild:
Samantha u don learn to type pidgin finish ooo
Hope say u don Dey learn how to speak

ghettochild:
lol u should understand her sarcasm na

i understand my boss

Samantha125:
I just know only few Pidgin phrases.

Come make I teach you

Samantha125:
How did we go from you being a teacher to a nails tech artist? A male nails tech artist?😑😑😑

I've never been to Eastern Cape before and must you give me your numbers, if I wanted them, I'd have taken them from your profile...🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️... All I want is your address so that I can come and loot.

Now that’s what is called life fucking you up…. So when life gives you a lemon , squash it and make lemonade.

Samantha125:
How did we go from you being a teacher to a nails tech artist? A male nails tech artist?😑😑😑

I've never been to Eastern Cape before and must you give me your numbers, if I wanted them, I'd have taken them from your profile...🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️... All I want is your address so that I can come and loot.

Now that’s what is called life fucking you up…. So when life gives you a lemon , squash it and make lemonade.
Plus you know how the system don’t give foreigners jobs, especially in the education industry…
The school I walk, then was a private school and we’re being exploited in terms of salary but we had no choice. We just wanted a means of sustenance.

Samantha125:
Eastern Cape, well, I can't say I'm surprised... ... That province seems to be heaven for you guys that you even inaugurated your own King there.

lol the thing with that issue was that South Africans misunderstood the whole context of the Igwe since they believe they watch Nigeria movies and IGWE means a king..
The Igbo usually have this kingship(not real ancestral}thing in anywhere to find themselves and it’s Kim or happened at the time when tension was boiling concerning foreigners taking jobs that were meant for South Africans. It was the period Jacinta was going about her March and March rally.
Well, I’ll be leaving and returning back home soon. I’m really tired. I’m frustrated and I’m done.

Samantha125:
How did we go from you being a teacher to a nails tech artist? A male nails tech artist?😑😑😑

I've never been to Eastern Cape before and must you give me your numbers, if I wanted them, I'd have taken them from your profile...🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️... All I want is your address so that I can come and loot.

54 Eagle street, Mthatha 5900
You are welcome
Thats my work address

Well, kudos to your wife, at least she wouldn't have to be spending a fortune on her nails when she has an expert at home.

ghettochild:
Now that’s what is called life fucking you up…. So when life gives you a lemon , squash it and make lemonade.
Plus you know how the system don’t give foreigners jobs, especially in the education industry…
The school I walk, then was a private school and we’re being exploited in terms of salary but we had no choice. We just wanted a means of sustenance.

Where is he now hiding? If you don't mind me asking...😶😶😶

ghettochild:
lol the thing with that issue was that South Africans misunderstood the whole context of the Igwe since they believe they watch Nigeria movies and IGWE means a king..
The Igbo usually have this kingship(not real ancestral}thing in anywhere to find themselves and it’s Kim or happened at the time when tension was boiling concerning foreigners taking jobs that were meant for South Africans. It was the period Jacinta was going about her March and March rally.
Well, I’ll be leaving and returning back home soon. I’m really tired. I’m frustrated and I’m done.