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Women often say they want to understand men. But most of what they hear is from other women, social media, or movies. This thread is for women who truly want to understand men — not the fantasy, but the reality.

If you are ready to hear the truth, keep reading. If you prefer to live in a fairy tale, stop here.

A man can survive without love. He cannot survive without respect. If you do not respect him, he will eventually leave — no matter how much he loves you

Men are not mysteries. They are simple. If he says he is fine, he is fine. If he says he needs space, he needs space. Stop reading into everything

But I'm curious, how come those men who are victims of domestic violence hardly ever leave their toxic union?

Samantha125:
But I'm curious, how come those men who are victims of domestic violence hardly ever leave their toxic union?

No no no, that's what Simpson's do

We REAL MEN marry a 2nd or 3rd wife that way anybody wey taayaa for the marriage is free to leave the man and go 🤗

We haff plenty sense

Samantha125:
But I'm curious, how come those men who are victims of domestic violence hardly ever leave their toxic union?

Low self-esteem,trauma bonding and the scarcity mindset of getting another woman to cherish and respect them for who they are.

Real men never hesitate to walk away when narcissistic women obviously disrespectful to who they truly are as a man.

Solofresh2:
Women often say they want to understand men. But most of what they hear is from other women, social media, or movies. This thread is for women who truly want to understand men — not the fantasy, but the reality.

If you are ready to hear the truth, keep reading. If you prefer to live in a fairy tale, stop here.

A man can survive without love. He cannot survive without respect. If you do not respect him, he will eventually leave — no matter how much he loves you

Men are not mysteries. They are simple. If he says he is fine, he is fine. If he says he needs space, he needs space. Stop reading into everything

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You are on point.

Bleep love, respect is the only key for a man to wife a true woman of value.

Beauty and love without respect is ugly.

Where do you guys get this ideology that men who are victims of domestic violence aren't real men though?

ManknowThyself:
Low self-esteem,trauma bonding and the scarcity mindset of getting another woman to cherish and respect them for who they are.

Real men never hesitate to walk away when narcissistic women obviously disrespectful to who they truly are as a man.

Samantha125:
Where do you guys get this ideology that men who are victims of domestic violence aren't real men though?

No true man accepts the red flags of disrespect and toxicity from any woman cos his peace of mind and mental health is always priority and not negotiable.


In a nutshell, only fake and weak men stay put in toxic relationship and marriage without walking away with dignity.

Samantha125:
But I'm curious, how come those men who are victims of domestic violence hardly ever leave their toxic union?

This is because leaving is not as simple as it looks — and society does not make it easy for men to leave.A man who stays is not weak. He is trapped — by shame, by the system, and by the belief that he has no way out.
A woman who leaves is brave. A man who leaves is seen as a coward. That is why men stay.
Men do not stay because they are weak. They stay because the world does not give them a reason to leave. They are expected to endure, to provide, and to keep quiet

SeeWahala:
No no no, that's what Simpson's do

We REAL MEN marry a 2nd or 3rd wife that way anybody wey taayaa for the marriage is free to leave the man and go 🤗

We haff plenty sense

That is not wisdom — it is deflection dressed as humor.You are not solving the problem.You are avoiding it. That is not sense — that is escape
If you cannot handle one wife, you cannot handle three. You are just multiplying your problems
A man who marries multiple wives to avoid dealing with one is not a real man — he is a man who is running from responsibility. Real men face their problems. They do not collect wives to distract themselves

ManknowThyself:
Low self-esteem,trauma bonding and the scarcity mindset of getting another woman to cherish and respect them for who they are.

Real men never hesitate to walk away when narcissistic women obviously disrespectful to who they truly are as a man.

Your analysis is correct — but it is incomplete. Men stay not just because of mindset, but because the world does not make leaving easy for them
A real man walks away when he is disrespected. But a real man also understands that leaving is not always simple. The system, the shame, and the fear of losing his children keep him trapped

Samantha125:
Where do you guys get this ideology that men who are victims of domestic violence aren't real men though?

The ideology comes from everywhere — from how we raise boys, how we talk about men, and how we mock male victims. It is learned, not natural

ManknowThyself:
No true man accepts the red flags of disrespect and toxicity from any woman cos his peace of mind and mental health is always priority and not negotiable.


In a nutshell, only fake and weak men stay put in toxic relationship and marriage without walking away with dignity.

Walking away is dignified. But staying does not always mean weakness.Sometimes it means being trapped.

Let's continue from where we stopped

A man without purpose will eventually lose himself — and you. If you want him to stay, support his mission. Do not try to become his only mission.

A man will notice your looks first. But he will stay for your character. If you have nothing beyond your looks, he will leave.

Solofresh2:
Your analysis is correct — but it is incomplete. Men stay not just because of mindset, but because the world does not make leaving easy for them
A real man walks away when he is disrespected. But a real man also understands that leaving is not always simple. The system, the shame, and the fear of losing his children keep him trapped

No real man live his life to the validation and approval of the family, society, church and people's opinions except for his divine peace and positive mental state of mind.

Children will always exist without him, when he loses himself without peace and depressed to health failure and death due to toxicity.

Life goes on with the kids and the abusive spouse will eventually move ahead with life and ride on dicks to her satisfaction.

Na who die lose.

ManknowThyself:
No real man live his life to the validation and approval of the family, society, church and people's opinions except for his divine peace and positive mental state of mind.

Children will always exist without him, when he loses himself without peace and depressed to health failure and death due to toxicity.

Life goes on with the kids and the abusive spouse will eventually move ahead with life and ride on dicks to her satisfaction.

Na who die lose.

You are right that a man must prioritize his peace. A man who stays in toxicity will eventually break — mentally, physically, and spiritually.You are not wrong about the outcome. But you are wrong about the ease of leaving. For many men, leaving is a war — not a walk
A man who stays in toxicity will die — slowly. But a man who leaves may also lose his children, his home, and his peace. The choice is not as simple as you make it sound

Solofresh2:
You are right that a man must prioritize his peace. A man who stays in toxicity will eventually break — mentally, physically, and spiritually.You are not wrong about the outcome. But you are wrong about the ease of leaving. For many men, leaving is a war — not a walk
A man who stays in toxicity will die — slowly. But a man who leaves may also lose his children, his home, and his peace. The choice is not as simple as you make it sound

A true dad can never neglect is true blood and flesh, nothing on earth can ever make him imagine that for a second of his life time.

Their needs and care is always SPECIAL and prioritize over anything else.

He can only do that always when he has peace, good health and good mental state of mind for productivity and provision for his family.

When he hesitate and lose himself, he can never be able to be there for his children.
Any man can be a father but not all men can be dad to their kids.

Real men take time to make a choice of wife cos they know deep in their heart walking away is a must when there's toxicity in their marriage.

To your last paragraph, when he dies from toxicity due to staying put that's worst.
Walking away is the only true reason to stay alive and be there for his children.

Life is beautiful and everyone is replaceable but only energy of persons can never be replicated.

Life is all about choice and your choice and understanding must not determine mine choice.

Good night

Solofresh2:
That is not wisdom — it is deflection dressed as humor.You are not solving the problem.You are avoiding it. That is not sense — that is escape
If you cannot handle one wife, you cannot handle three. You are just multiplying your problems
A man who marries multiple wives to avoid dealing with one is not a real man — he is a man who is running from responsibility. Real men face their problems. They do not collect wives to distract themselves

Ju - Ju - Just look at this man

So I marry woman wey no wan gree me rest, you say make I do wetin? Kee myself because of am or allow am kee me? ME WEY LIKE WOMAN DIE?

Ol boy, me I go marry another wife join am for house so that she go free me face the new one if dem finally turn padi - padi then I go for wife number 3 😁 and each succeeding wife go dey 'LARGER' than the last ones in All The Right Places too

You think say my mama born me come this world to come suffer for only one woman hand? me I'm a STRONG MAN LOVER BOY I can suffer at the hands of 3 women and live a long and happy life

See you talking about if I can't handle one wife . . .Mschew 🤧 you yourself, have you asked the wives IF THEY CAN HANDLE ME ? or do you think I'm like you that only one woman can handle?

Abeggi make I hear word ò jàré 😏 wife wey I suffer target pursue marry, na him you want make i 'walk away' 😆 🤣 this guy na comedian I swear

I will marry new wives for enrichment and not distractions they can only distract themselves, me my target is always moist and ready for my Rod of Ages

Samantha125:
Where do you guys get this ideology that men who are victims of domestic violence aren't real men though?

Any wannabe male that can be physically intimidated by a woman he is dating or married to is definitely not a man.

ManknowThyself:
A true dad can never neglect is true blood and flesh, nothing on earth can ever make him imagine that for a second of his life time.

Their needs and care is always SPECIAL and prioritize over anything else.

He can only do that always when he has peace, good health and good mental state of mind for productivity and provision for his family.

When he hesitate and lose himself, he can never be able to be there for his children.
Any man can be a father but not all men can be dad to their kids.

Real men take time to make a choice of wife cos they know deep in their heart walking away is a must when there's toxicity in their marriage.

To your last paragraph, when he dies from toxicity due to staying put that's worst.
Walking away is the only true reason to stay alive and be there for his children.

Life is beautiful and everyone is replaceable but only energy of persons can never be replicated.

Life is all about choice and your choice and understanding must not determine mine choice.

Good night

You are not wrong. A man who stays in toxicity and dies is no good to his children. Leaving is sometimes the only way to stay alive for them but you are wrong to make it sound easy. For many men, leaving means losing everything — including their children
For many men, leaving is a war — not a walk

And you wonder why suicide rates amongst men keep increasing in number, because many end up resorting to dying in silence than speaking up due to fears of being mocked and ridiculed by their fellow men like you.

You guys would keep talking about how women don't care about men's feelings as if you do, when you don't... Some of those men who are victims of domestic violence are suffering from childhood trauma and one thing about childhood trauma is that it can have long term effects on someone's mental health.

socoharley:
Any wannabe male that can be physically intimidated by a woman he is dating or married to is definitely not a man.

Samantha125:
And you wonder why suicide rates amongst men keep increasing in number, because many end up resorting to dying in silence than speaking up due to fears of being mocked and ridiculed by their fellow men like you.

You guys would keep talking about how women don't care about men's feelings as if you do, when you don't... Some of those men who are victims of domestic violence are suffering from childhood trauma and one thing about childhood trauma is that it can have long term effects on someone's mental health.

Any man who ever kills himself over a woman who didn't want him is a fool and deserves to die and end the menace of his DNA..

If a woman loves her man, she will respect him. No that about women too.

Without women men no go get wahala

But men need women just as they need food


Wahhallaa! Wahhallaa!!!

Love and respect goes together, u can't love someone u disrespect...simple...as for u op I don't think you have been in marriage for atleast a decade...human beings naturally desire respect and love..both men and women ...but if a man don't have money is difficult to find a woman who will love and respect you...except you are God fearing ....in such case God leds u to a humble person that will love and respect you irrespective of your social status.....

Solofresh2:
A man will notice your looks first. But he will stay for your character. If you have nothing beyond your looks, he will leave.

A very bad mistake any man can make is marrying a woman just because of her beautiful face.....

Beauty can be deceitful and is fleeting.

If you are not within this sphere as a man, u r not real

Solofresh2:
This is because leaving is not as simple as it looks — and society does not make it easy for men to leave.A man who stays is not weak. He is trapped — by shame, by the system, and by the belief that he has no way out.
A woman who leaves is brave. A man who leaves is seen as a coward. That is why men stay.
Men do not stay because they are weak. They stay because the world does not give them a reason to leave. They are expected to endure, to provide, and to keep quiet

I don’t agree with you. Men who stay in a toxic marriage are simply cowards with scarcity mindset. The mere thought of another man sleeping with their wife is the reason some men will endure nonsense trying to mend what is broken.

Respect is earned, not demanded.

For people to respect you (as a person), you have to be worth respecting.

most of these woman tormenting and disrespecting their husband, and the man remains in the toxic maraige is not ordinary.
Most of these women are diabolic.they have planted the man strength in a calabash.the men are been weaking spiritually.fear women.