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If you re based abroad as a man like in the USA or UK or Germany or Belgium or Canada or Netherlands or japan or Australia 🌏 etc. and you have to choose a wife to settle down with and you have access to different ladies from all over the world in any of these countries such as Jamaicans, Latinos , black Americans,Africans whites Asians and Nigerians all single ladies, which of these will you choose for a wife.
Wether for a rich man or a poor man.
Most especially if you re based abroad. Which of these will be your choice. There seem to be so much fear and concern for men when trying to choose a wife

Please share your thoughts and opinions

Asians.
They're more humble, respectful and up right. I'm not saying that our Nigerian ladies are not humble and respectful, but 90-95% of them have a naughty attitude.

Below 15-10% of our Nigerian ladies are marriage worthy. Asians and Latinos are exceptional expect you come across the crazy ones that their love is do or die (especially Latinos).

I'm talking from experience, as most of the ladies I've dated when I was in US and UK ( not for long tho) was Asians and Latinos.

Brazil ladies also makes a good wife, except you meet the crazy ones too.

I do t fancy dating my fellow Nigerian when I'm overseas, I rather date other African ladies than date a Nigerian lady.

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I read and laughed

I think from the little I know

Culturally Asian are good but some Asian countries or communities also have racial tendencies

Ethiopian, Estonia and those Scandinavian countries also have some very good one especially not those woke ones

I never travel from African. Make I read comment

marlow1962:
Asians.
They're more humble, respectful and up right. I'm not saying that our Nigerian ladies are not humble and respectful, but 90-95% of them have a naughty attitude.

Below 15-10% of our Nigerian ladies are marriage worthy. Asians and Latinos are exceptional expect you come across the crazy ones that their love is do or die (especially Latinos).

I'm talking from experience, as most of the ladies I've dated when I was in US and UK ( not for long tho) was Asians and Latinos.

Brazil ladies also makes a good wife, except you meet the crazy ones too.

I do t fancy dating my fellow Nigerian when I'm overseas, I rather date other African ladies than date a Nigerian lady.

While I do agree with your assessment of Asians as being very lenient and much so a very good partner in my experience it is almost a necessity type of situation. And most of the time a symbiotic and an opportunity sort of relationship. Particularly for them. An Asian lady who is plus 35years of age is already considered old in their culture and in that spirit will likely settle in one way or the other. Especially Chinese. You will hardly see a 24 year old Asian dating or having a serious relationship with any race besides white, let alone black and even Nigerian at that. it just doesn't happen. Even when it does, it is extremely rare. Latinos on the other hand, I have never had any experience with them, but from afar you can tell how intense they can be.

Now as for our own Nigerian ladies. I actually find it more appealing to date a Nigerian lady in diaspora that's if that should be the case. And I will give you my reasons.

First, an average Nigerian lady in diaspora is a completely independent person. Reasonably, that is a solid ground for raising children and a stable family. As she is also a contributory body to the future of the family, when and if God calls the man first.

Second, Nigerian ladies in diaspora are usually well grounded and have a strong attachment to their roots(morally). To speak unbiasedly it is mostly men that adopt the lifestyle of the foreigners whenever they crossover.. The women on other hand stay grounded, have stable communication with people back home and surround themselves mostly with their fellow Nigerians.

Now third and most important, a Nigerian lady knows being in a foreign land is mostly an opportunity and they will use every bit of their capability and capacity to attain what they actually came for. Be it growth, opportunity, establishment and so forth. As a man, stability matters in building for long term purposes. And this trait most Nigerian ladies share that with the men.

Now the major difference is character. This is where I feel some Nigerian ladies in diaspora are lagging behind.

As a man, you can see and control 100 million naira in your account without breaking a sweat even with the pressure it attracts, but let a Nigerian woman have just 10-20% of that by herself in her account, you will be tip toeing around her no matter how much richer you actually are than she is. Which is where that independence is a gift and a curse to them at the same time.

Conclusively, I will still say I'd very much prefer a Nigerian. However mind you, I am not talking about ladies that came through madam stuffs, no offense to anyone but I mean an average industrious Nigerian lady will be more appealing to me any day any time. She doesn't have to be in educated class even if that is a plus on it's own, however more importantly so long she understands and still keep the regard and regale of what being a Nigerian in diaspora is all about, they are a great choice.

Oyibo wife na only she you marry. Half her family member sees you as a tale of caution. In Yoruba we say, you can marry a bad wife, but you should be more wary of being mixed with unsatisfiable inlaws.

Your Nigerian lady with attitude can still be cautioned by her parents and family regardless of how much abundance of resources she has surrounding her. Oyibo wife with a Nigerian man, no get who deh follow ham talk. Many Nigerian men have fallen from grace just by one mistake with a foreign wife, while many are already on the verge of that catastrophe.

This is just my own personal preference and opinion.

Hightablevoice2:
While I do agree with your assessment of Asians as being very lenient and much so a very good partner in my experience it is almost a necessity type of situation. And most of the time a symbiotic and an opportunity sort of relationship. Particularly for them. An Asian lady who is plus 35years of age is already considered old in their culture and in that spirit will likely settle in one way or the other. Especially Chinese. You will hardly see a 24 year old Asian dating or having a serious relationship with any race besides white, let alone black and even Nigerian at that. it just doesn't happen. Even when it does, it is extremely rare. Latinos on the other hand, I have never had any experience with them, but from afar you can tell how intense they can be.

Now as for our own Nigerian ladies. I actually find it more appealing to date a Nigerian lady in diaspora that's if that should be the case. And I will give you my reasons.

First, an average Nigerian lady in diaspora is a completely independent person. Reasonably, that is a solid ground for raising children and a stable family. As she is also a contributory body to the future of the family, when and if God calls the man first.

Second, Nigerian ladies in diaspora are usually well grounded and have a strong attachment to their roots(morally). To speak unbiasedly it is mostly men that adopt the lifestyle of the foreigners whenever they crossover.. The women on other hand stay grounded, have stable communication with people back home and surround themselves mostly with their fellow Nigerians.

Now third and most important, a Nigerian lady knows being in a foreign land is mostly an opportunity and they will use every bit of their capability and capacity to attain what they actually came for. Be it growth, opportunity, establishment and so forth. As a man, stability matters in building for long term purposes. And this trait most Nigerian ladies share that with the men.

Now the major difference is character. This is where I feel some Nigerian ladies in diaspora are lagging behind.

As a man, you can see and control 100 million naira in your account without breaking a sweat even with the pressure it attracts, but let a Nigerian woman have just 10-20% of that by herself in her account, you will be tip toeing around her no matter how much richer you actually are than she is. Which is where that independence is a gift and a curse to them at the same time.

Conclusively, I will still say I'd very much prefer a Nigerian. However mind you, I am not talking about ladies that came through madam stuffs, no offense to anyone but I mean an average industrious Nigerian lady will be more appealing to me any day any time. She doesn't have to be in educated class even if that is a plus on it's own, however more importantly so long she understands and still keep the regard and regale of what being a Nigerian in diaspora is all about, they are a great choice.

Oyibo wife na only she you marry. Half her family member sees you as a tale of caution. In Yoruba we say, you can marry a bad wife, but you should be more wary of being mixed with unsatisfiable inlaws.

Your Nigerian lady with attitude can still be cautioned by her parents and family regardless of how much abundance of resources she has surrounding her. Oyibo wife with a Nigerian man, no get who deh follow ham talk. Many Nigerian men have fallen from grace just by one mistake with a foreign wife, while many are already on the verge of that catastrophe.

This is just my own personal preference and opinion.

Hahaha
Oyinbo is a no no.
But there are some counties that their culture is still a bit preserved like Norway, Holland very few.
As for Nigerian lady, na this era this their Rogbodiyan started.
Before u could go to village and pick a decent one.
God will help the men of today sha.
I don't envy them at all.

I will always choose a Nigerian girl for marriage, twice on Sunday!

All those inter-racial marriage nonsense is not for me

My bro, the bad attitude of our ladies abroad is not encouraging to sincere ready young men for marriage. I see many Nigerian guys marrying American blacks here and raising families, the blacks here do help them in their business. But our women wanna compete and be combative with their husbands, this frightens me. I believe Couples should build together. So but the fear of most elders married to these foreign women is that their kids never want to identify with their father land (naija) due to reasons known to them like insecurities, and their safety. Our successful naija ladies here don't have the heart of building with a man or helping him that is to be their husbands but a foreign lady will do whatever it takes to help you. I m at a point of making a decision on who to choose. Family back home prefer naija ladies because the kids will remember their roots compared to a foreign lady of which your kids may never visit naija

Can't go wrong with the Brazilians, Guatemalans. Also Asians (Chinese, 'some' south Koreans). Also good are Lebanese, North Africans, Moroccoans (if their parents allow you 😅, Tunisians, Algerians are cool.


Avoid Filipinos for your own good. Thai, Vietnamese, Indians, Paskitanis, middle eastern *cough*

Jamaicans & those foreign black ladies, give them a kilometer pole. Mexican, Colombians, Argentines, run o

American ladies are too much trouble.

In the EU, the Dutch can be open. Run from french, Spanish, Germans 😅

If you see a Norwegian wey her head correct too 💪🏾. Good for you. Others, I don't know

kwenu:
My bro, the bad attitude of our ladies abroad is not encouraging to sincere ready young men for marriage. I see many Nigerian guys marrying American blacks here and raising families, the blacks here do help them in their business. But our women wanna compete and be combative with their husbands, this frightens me. I believe Couples should build together. So but the fear of most elders married to these foreign women is that their kids never want to identify with their father land (naija) due to reasons known to them like insecurities, and their safety. Our successful naija ladies here don't have the heart of building with a man or helping him that is to be their husbands but a foreign lady will do whatever it takes to help you. I m at a point of making a decision on who to choose. Family back home prefer naija ladies because the kids will remember their roots compared to a foreign lady of which your kids may never visit naija

It is a very good decision that are you thinking about settling down. And that should be your foremost priority. To settle down as a man is more than just man and woman living together as a couple. It takes a whole lot to build a family, a home and extensively a favorable future. So this should be a major priority.

Now as for the elders back home and the inclusivity of their children outside the country, as a Nigerian we know how much this matters in our culture. It cuts across all ethnic groups in our society. Home is home. No matter how far we travel and this extend to our children mostly.

Now as man, while I did say I find Nigerians more appealing, the reality is you are the one who knows what's best for you. Within the spirit of your understanding and strength you know the sort of woman or relationship that will bring out the best in you as a man. Be it Nigerian or a foreign wife. A woman who abides by a man's interpretation and interest in life is always more favorable. Knowing yourself and knowing what matters to you, finding a suitable partner will be up to you. When you make your values, purposes and goals understood properly, a woman who shares the same value system will surely follow through. If na Oyibo, it doesn't mean you can't come every Xmas or holidays as most people do. Even if she is Nigerian, you guys won't just move back to Nigeria just because you got married, your business and path still lies where you both came from. The children, I belief is a matter of drumming the culture into them from the very start. Make them understand their culture and why it matters and things we as Africans good dearly while encouraging the roles it plays in a family. And most important you as father and leader of your family and house.

I can go on but I am sure you already get my gist.

So more than anything brother, I sincerely wish you well and your endeavors be favored as you are contemplating taking this next step in your life as a man.

For those ones being competitive, there are also ones who are very submissive. It's just a matter of meeting them. And I have seen certain women, who are very intense when dealing with outsiders and even in nature however they are surprisingly very much submissive and protective when it comes to their home.. While some people find such behavior intense, some find it as a means of back up. As I have said, everyone with their preferences.

I dey on top woman, I will answer this question when I come down