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“Don’t marry the person you love, you love the person you marry.” - Pastor Tunde Ayeni

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“Don’t marry the person you love, you love the person you marry.”

- Pastor Tunde Ayeni pic.twitter.com/xVCm8c7kJ7

— @𝗼𝗻𝗲𝗷𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗯𝗼𝘆 (@OneJoblessBoy) August 24, 2026

You can give a woman respect, you can protect her and wisely care for her but NEVER show or tell her you love her.

Showing a woman love will make her disrespect you. She will NEVER submit herself to you.

I know it sounds odd to you readers but that is the TRUTH about women.

That girl you are having a crush on, is head over hills for a guy that doesn't show her love.

The men in bible times knew this, so they developed a hard-heart and encouraged divorce. They did not tolerate nonsense from women.

When jesus told his disciples that Moses permitted divorce, but God is against it, the disciples said, "if that is the case, then it is better not to marry"

The disciples could not imagine a world without divorce. To them, if divorce is bad then it is better to remain single.

Apostle Paul had to beg the men in those times to love their wives.

The reason the men were hard-hearted is not because they were wicked, it is because they knew that the moment you show love to a woman, your value and respect in her eyes will drop faster than the speed of light.

This is why marriages crash. How can you marry someone you don't love. There is no blueprint, just do what works for you.

They have come again.

DoWhatThouWilt:
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“Don’t marry the person you love, you love the person you marry.”

- Pastor Tunde Ayeni pic.twitter.com/xVCm8c7kJ7

— @𝗼𝗻𝗲𝗷𝗼𝗯𝗹𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗯𝗼𝘆 (@OneJoblessBoy) August 24, 2026

who be this one again

una no dey tire

DoWhatThouWilt:
You can give a woman respect, you can protect her and wisely care for her but NEVER show or tell her you love her.

Showing a woman love will make her disrespect you. She will NEVER submit herself to you.

I know it sounds odd to you readers but that is the TRUTH about women.

That girl you are having a crush on, is head over hills for a guy that doesn't show her love.

The men in bible times knew this, so they developed a hard-heart and encouraged divorce. They did not tolerate nonsense from women.

When jesus told his disciples that Moses permitted divorce, but God is against it, the disciples said, "if that is the case, then it is better not to marry"

The disciples could not imagine a world without divorce. To them, if divorce is bad then it is better to remain single.

Apostle Paul had to beg the men in those times to love their wives.

The reason the men were hard-hearted is not because they were wicked, it is because they knew that the moment you show love to a woman, your value and respect in her eyes will drop faster than the speed of light.

It is written : "Love your wife as Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it". How you go marry who you no love in the first place? Bia, be kiaful with words o.

This advice looks like the advice wey mothers dey give daughters when they talk say they no won marry suitors wey dey seek for their hands for marriage. You go hear the mother say:

My daughter marry am, with time you will love him. When I be dey your age, I no like your papa but after marriage to him, I come love am

100% love the person you marry

Good advice:
Marry the person you love and live happily after. Live your life full of love and peace.

Bad advice:
Don't marry the person you love.
Marry the person you hate and live hatefully after. Live your life full of hatred and violence.

Your choices determines the quality of life you will live. Simple.

I have always said this:

As a man marry a woman that loves you more than you love her. If you loved her more, be prepared for doom

These people don come again... election time, selection time, time to talk anything that enters their mind , time to sell conscience and buy anything that goes....oga didn't you love your wife before marrying her? Do you have marriage seminar and counseling your church as well? What first question do you usually ask them before you counsel them

Everything has turned upside down, and that’s why every generation, both old and young, seems to be confused and struggling to make sense of things.

Abi I no sabi english again?

I will marry the person I love and then love the person I marry.

Shikena!

Marry the person you love or love the person you marry…everything na the same remove the love everything go scatter 😁😁😁

I DISAGREE WITH YOU SIR I WILL NEVER MARRY SOMEONE THAT I DON'T LOVE

Good advice but only the wise ladies would agree with him. Wise ladies understand that marrying a man whom they love more than the men love them is like giving such men the rope with which they tie such women in the marriage. Men are to love their wives a 100 % because the men's love is what would help their wives stand firm in the man's family.

Cases where the woman is the one throwing herself to the man and loving him more never end well for the woman. I have seen several instances! The philosophers who wrote it in the Bible that "men should love their wives in the same way Christ loves the church" knew why they wrote it that way.

DoWhatThouWilt:
You can give a woman respect, you can protect her and wisely care for her but NEVER show or tell her you love her.

Showing a woman love will make her disrespect you. She will NEVER submit herself to you.

I know it sounds odd to you readers but that is the TRUTH about women.

That girl you are having a crush on, is head over hills for a guy that doesn't show her love.

The men in bible times knew this, so they developed a hard-heart and encouraged divorce. They did not tolerate nonsense from women.

When jesus told his disciples that Moses permitted divorce, but God is against it, the disciples said, "if that is the case, then it is better not to marry"

The disciples could not imagine a world without divorce. To them, if divorce is bad then it is better to remain single.

Apostle Paul had to beg the men in those times to love their wives.

The reason the men were hard-hearted is not because they were wicked, it is because they knew that the moment you show love to a woman, your value and respect in her eyes will drop faster than the speed of light.

Nawa. These nairaland women philosophers and toxic women are 5 and 6. You guys don't know anything other than toxic women. Which woman in her right mind will disrespect a man for loving and respecting her? Smh. You all need to start finding women who are not toxic honestly. Those kinds of women only entertain men who are not toxic so if you have your own issues that you haven't worked on, you may struggle to find and keep them. Maybe that's why you all think that all women are toxic. Smh

What he is trying to say is keep loving the person you marry no matter the circumstances, love him or her in all situations

They need magas to pay tithe

free2ryhme:
who be this one again

una no dey tire

Of course! Love is the foundation.

Even though I understand what's he's trying to say, but I believe he communicated this wrongly.

Also, don’t work the job you do; do the job you work. 🤓

If you marry the person you don't love, the house may not hold because you'll be in the marriage looking for the person you love.

I married the person I love and I love the person I married...

Pst Tunde Ayeni, don't confuse people...

Why I go marry who I nor love?

Woh if she doesn't love as much as I love her make everybody dey thier Lane abeg

Person wey i go first dey see when I wake every morning for the rest of my life go person wey I nor love, Una dey talk oh.

In his words 'Love the person you marry' Both of you are right.

pigmania:
It is written : "Love your wife as Christ loved the church, and gave himself for it". How you go marry who you no love in the first place? Bia, be kiaful with words o.

DoWhatThouWilt:
You can give a woman respect, you can protect her and wisely care for her but NEVER show or tell her you love her.

Showing a woman love will make her disrespect you. She will NEVER submit herself to you.

I know it sounds odd to you readers but that is the TRUTH about women.

That girl you are having a crush on, is head over hills for a guy that doesn't show her love.

The men in bible times knew this, so they developed a hard-heart and encouraged divorce. They did not tolerate nonsense from women.

When jesus told his disciples that Moses permitted divorce, but God is against it, the disciples said, "if that is the case, then it is better not to marry"

The disciples could not imagine a world without divorce. To them, if divorce is bad then it is better to remain single.

Apostle Paul had to beg the men in those times to love their wives.

The reason the men were hard-hearted is not because they were wicked, it is because they knew that the moment you show love to a woman, your value and respect in her eyes will drop faster than the speed of light.

u and the pastor na pure undiluted liars una b.

Man sent by devil to come and destroy marriages and make divorce rampant.

God for bid this advice…so make I go carry witch marry and force myself to love am?