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I have noticed something over the years. Men are no longer chasing women like they used to. Not because they are shy. Not because they are scared. But because they are tired.

Tired of being used. Tired of being ignored. Tired of being an option while she keeps her options open. Tired of investing time, money, and energy into someone who does not even know what she wants.

Women are now asking: 'Why are men not approaching anymore?' 'Where have all the real men gone?'

The answer is simple: Men have learned. They have learned that chasing does not lead to love — it leads to being used.

Let me break it down


A man who has been through the fire knows that peace is more valuable than any woman who brings chaos

A man who is truly an option will eventually walk away. A man who is chosen will stay


A man with a purpose does not have time to chase a woman who does not know what she wants


Rejection is quick. Wasting time is slow death.

Women are not used to men walking away. And they do not know how to handle it.



This is not a hate thread. This is not a 'women are bad' thread. This is an observation. Men have changed. And women are noticing. The question is: what happens next?

Drop your thoughts below

The more you chase the more she looses interest, just leave her let her fly as high she can go, when she gets tired, she will fly low to the point that she can't even meet up to your standard

Women are like Shadow
When you go after them they run,
When you turn your back on them they come after you.

Dating site don carry their mind from chasing, but still folo shikina

Men also don’t care to pay for sex. That removes a lot of hassle involved with dating.

nnamdi640:
The more you chase the more she looses interest, just leave her let her fly as height she can go, when she gets tired, she will fly low to the point that she can't even meet up to your standard

You are right. Chasing lowers your value. Let her fly. When she comes back, you will have already outgrown her

tanigororo:
Women are like Shadow
When you go after them they run,
When you turn your back on them they come after you.

You are right. The more you chase, the more she runs. The moment you walk away, she starts wondering

dollytino4real:
Dating site don carry their mind from chasing, but still folo shikina

You are right. Some men say they are done chasing but still entertain nonsense. But the ones who have truly learned walk away early

eepeepook:
Men also don’t care to pay for sex. That removes a lot of hassle involved with dating.

Men are not choosing sex over love. They are choosing peace over drama

dollytino4real:
Dating site don carry their mind from chasing, but still folo shikina

Provide me with sure dating site

I need sure dating site?

Why should any human chase being billed?

Allow her give you greenlight for two to three times before you approach her....
Why men are paying for sex is because they are impatient, women knows this trick and use it again them....
Don't just approach a woman who never give you that greenlight because if you make the first move then you are going to spend a lot, you know she don't have you time but you want her badly and that is where steady billing comes in because you want to convince a total stranger who don't care about you......
The billing is the pay she get in return because you are wasting her time by calling and texting...
Women don't test the one they are dying for because she too can't afford to lose him....

Elders say marry the one that loves you and not the one that you love...
Be guided....

We are not tired of women or chasing women, we are just tired of
- the unnecessary bills,
-not our own expenses,
-drama,
-constant comparison,
-human liabilities,
-investments of no returns,
-constant where are you and who's that,

I love women, but if you give me headaches, I go run .

Solofresh2:
You are right. Some men say they are done chasing but still entertain nonsense. But the ones who have truly learned walk away early

Walk away to who, kwanu? Only to still end up with women?
Abi, is there something that we're missing?

I believe the appropriate title for this topic should be why men are tired of chasing women that play hard to get/uninterested , don't you agree?

Pursue woman??when I get beer and ps5 for house...highness and entertainment...e better make my money loss than make nigerian chop am without nothing in return

Mariangeles:
Walk away to who, kwanu? Only to still end up with women?
Abi, is there something that we're missing?

I believe the appropriate title for this topic should be why men are tired of chasing women that play hard to get/uninterested , don't you agree?

Walk away to peace of mind. And no, your title is wrong—we're tired of chasing period, not just hard to get

Starhearts:
Provide me with sure dating site

i am not single so i dont know anyone

Solofresh2:
You are right. Some men say they are done chasing but still entertain nonsense. But the ones who have truly learned walk away early

it is well with men o

Men not chasing again, because they have understood the act of getting money and see women chasing you for easily lay, with your money in your hands, you sleep with varieties of women you want.

Go to clubs or dating applications, you select as many you want.

dollytino4real:
it is well with men o

It is well with women o—until the men who truly learned stop chasing entirely. Then it's panic and 'where are the good men?'

Solofresh2:
It is well with women o—until the men who truly learned stop chasing entirely. Then it's panic and 'where are the good men?'

they are in warri

How I wish Nigeria was convenient to an extent like the USA, UK, Netherlands, Ireland and many other developed countries. Then you guys would have to confront your flaws instead of pushing the blame. While Nigerians are yelling, "No more love," many countries are still enjoying love. Women can experience attraction first before even knowing who he is or what he is worth because survival is not the biggest issue in their country. The economy situation of the country is simply what is enabling you guys to have excuses.

You guys would be shouting, "She played me. She used me. Look at how much I spent on her." How much have you actually spent on a lady? How many of you have used your money to actually turn a lady's life around? Or did you pick the lady from the zoo, forest or desert? 😂🤣 "I housed her. I fed her. I bought her cream." Useless things that people do even for strangers on the street.

If it is transactional love you want, why not just make your terms clear? There is no offence in it. People are doing it, and it is working even better than many normal marriages. All it needs is real money. There are many contract marriages or marriages of convenience out there, and they are working pretty well because the terms are clearly understood and each party plays their own part of the deal well.

The average Nigerian man's mentality is simply that money should create love for him, so he does the bare minimum when it comes to building a strong relationship.

If money is no longer the issue and the majority of people, both male and female, are living comfortably, what would you blame? Would you still stand a chance, or what would you be complaining about? Money is always your excuse for not finding love. Can you really stand among the many other guys and actually be loved if money is not even an issue? First, check yourself before you throw claims around. Do you deserve to be loved? Would you love yourself if you were the woman?

Money is one of the most inexpensive things. All some women ever want is safety and trust.

Love is easier to navigate in many developed countries because living is more comfortable in those countries, their men don't make excuses, they act. Nigerian men want to force "I am giving you some money, so you must love me," but things don't work that way.

Both men and women are conscious of being played. Just as your brain is telling you, "Is all she wants my money?" the woman is also asking herself, "Where do I stand with him? Does he see me as a commodity? Am I special to him, or am I just any girl he can purchase?"

Merry100:
How I wish Nigeria was convenient to an extent like the USA, UK, Netherlands, Ireland and many other developed countries. Then you guys would have to confront your flaws instead of pushing the blame. While Nigerians are yelling, "No more love," many countries are still enjoying love. Women can experience attraction first before even knowing who he is or what he is worth because survival is not the biggest issue in their country. The economy situation of the country is simply what is enabling you guys to have excuses.

You guys would be shouting, "She played me. She used me. Look at how much I spent on her." How much have you actually spent on a lady? How many of you have used your money to actually turn a lady's life around? Or did you pick the lady from the zoo, forest or desert? 😂🤣 "I housed her. I fed her. I bought her cream." Useless things that people do even for strangers on the street.

If it is transactional love you want, why not just make your terms clear? There is no offence in it. People are doing it, and it is working even better than many normal marriages. All it needs is real money. There are many contract marriages or marriages of convenience out there, and they are working pretty well because the terms are clearly understood and each party plays their own part of the deal well.

The average Nigerian man's mentality is simply that money should create love for him, so he does the bare minimum when it comes to building a strong relationship.

If money is no longer the issue and the majority of people, both male and female, are living comfortably, what would you blame? Would you still stand a chance, or what would you be complaining about? Money is always your excuse for not finding love. Can you really stand among the many other guys and actually be loved if money is not even an issue? First, check yourself before you throw claims around. Do you deserve to be loved? Would you love yourself if you were the woman?

Money is one of the most inexpensive things. All some women ever want is safety and trust.

Love is easier to navigate in many developed countries because living is more comfortable in those countries, their men don't make excuses, they act. Nigerian men want to force "I am giving you some money, so you must love me," but things don't work that way.

Both men and women are conscious of being played. Just as your brain is telling you, "Is all she wants my money?" the woman is also asking herself, "Where do I stand with him? Does he see me as a commodity? Am I special to him, or am I just any girl he can purchase?"

You wrote all that to avoid one simple truth: women in developed countries still chase money—they just hide it better.

Its also because men are tired of the economy.

Because when you are not tired of the economy you will not get tired of chasing women.

Ask pocohantas caaz and ishilove

Make women too do the chasing so that dem go know wettin we dey feel.

I go dey chase money, still come dey chase woman? Two chases at same time? How many legs I get?

Times are changing fast.

You'll stress me on date and I'll spend my money


Lose lose bro

marlow1962:
We are not tired of women or chasing women, we are just tired of
- the unnecessary bills,
-not our own expenses,
-drama,
-constant comparison,
-human liabilities,
-investments of no returns,
-constant where are you and who's that,

I love women, but if you give me headaches, I go run .

Emotonal blackmails, stress, I am tired very tired of all these.


I no chase again!

With this economy person go still dey chase urgent #2k ..... ??
Person go still dey chase liabilities....
Woman wey go dey tell you say, if you no dey earn over 1M l no fit date you, person wey herself no get work......
Na that kind person you go dey chase for this Tinubu economy.
Be like you dey ment.

DeepSight:
You know your hands are full of b l o o d

This is what he said to his girlfriend when she dumped him

I guess he would have something to say about the matter...