₦airaland Forum

"As a Nigerian, dating in UK will humble you" — Man shares experience with Ghanaian lady

A UK-based Nigerian man has shared his experience on a dating app after a woman he matched with allegedly unmatched him shortly after learning that he was Nigerian.

The man said the incident left him surprised and prompted him to reflect on the challenges Nigerians may face while dating in the United Kingdom.

Man recounts how Bumble match disappeared

According to the man, he was matched with a black woman on Bumble and began chatting with her.

He said he asked where she was from, and she told him she was Ghanaian but had been born and raised in the UK.

The conversation reportedly continued until she asked him about his own background.

Recounting the encounter, the man said

“As a Nigerian, dating in the UK will humble you.”

He explained that he told the woman he was Nigerian and had only lived in the UK for three years.

According to him, she immediately unmatched him after he disclosed his nationality.

He described his reaction to the sudden disappearance of the match, saying:

“She unmatched me.”

The man added:

“Bro, like the thing do me like say rapture don happen, the way her contact disappeared.”

He then questioned whether his nationality had played a role in the woman’s decision.

“Nigerians wetin, wetin, oh God.”

Nigerians react to his experience

The man’s experience sparked mixed reactions online, with some users suggesting that the woman may have had previous experiences that influenced her decision.

Rounder wrote: “This one fit say na Niaja way anything goes….the image of niaja people to the outside world is really bad,oga just manage ur Niaja babe for there oo,just dey una 2 na hustling una dey and tortoise dey fear tortoise….Pele my guy.”

BAO commented: “Maybe one Nigerian don break her or something.”

Pasture_bale sympathised with the man and criticised judging people based on nationality.

“It’s so sad & heart breaking when pple judge u based on ur country of Nationality not base on ur personality & character its rather unfortunate but u don’t blame them it’s the experiences they’ve had.”

Ifeanyi described dating in the UK as an experience that can change a person’s perspective.

“UK dating no be beans at all. Sometimes you go enter with full confidence and come out with character development. Na experience dey humble person…”

Damilola, however, offered a different perspective, questioning some Nigerians’ expectations when dating foreigners.

“Date Nigerian lady.. Una say dem too dey task. Okay, Data UK lady then. You say he go “humble me” abi Una just dey find free kitten wey no go stress Una?”

Kura also questioned the man’s choice of words.

“‘Humble you’ is a strong phrase; I wonder what specific cultural shock he encountered that made him use such a heavy word? Sounds like a real adjustment navigating those dating scenes abroad.”

“Dating in the UK as a Nigerian will humble you” — UK-based Nigerian man shares his experience pic.twitter.com/5vxKSzYOB4

— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) September 2, 2026

EmmyMaestro:
➜The man added: “Bro, like the thing do me like say rapture don happen, the way her contact disappeared.” He then questioned whether his nationality had played a role in the woman’s decision. “Nigerians wetin, wetin, oh God.” Nigerians react to his experience The man’s experience sparked mixed reactions online, with some users suggesting that the woman may have had previous experiences that influenced her decision.

Is this guy wanting us to believe that he never experienced rejection throughout his years in Nigeria, that he would now choose to make it about his Nigerianness?😒

She must had been dealt with by a Nigerian man in the past before


Well,that's her own cup of tea . She should ask south African women about us . other women from other nationalities can detest and hate us for no reason but so long we are always being cherished and loved by our beloved south African women,no problem .

A man who can't accept small rejection and move on with his life . He should come back and experience first class wereys pretending to be in relationship with you,only for her to defraud you and later say she doesn't want to be with you anymore

Wow! This is seriously serious. My fear for future about relationships still stares me in the eye.

People unmatch for various reasons not just because of your nationality.

Dating is a hustle abroad. Many ladies out there are looking for a 6ft tall, well established man, or with a great career.

If you’ve only been there 3 years and not from some royal wealthy family, you’re “a hustler” like them. They will unmatch you lol

Na date I come UK to date? Huh? Show me my work front pls. Only thing that matters to me is work, work, and work.

Cos I'm retiring early.

the issue is not your nationality

the issue is that your are fresh out of the boat

Many black women born in the UK, won't date you because you are an immigrant, it will reduce their status among their friends and families

calm down and follow other african women who are immigrant like yourself

you and your children will also discriminate against the next generation of FOB

Na God catch am. He leave Basirat for Ibadan run dey find black British babe.

Most Nigerians are yet to understand what Tinubu's record has caused Nigerians.


They will understand very very soon.


When people mention Nelson Mandela as their former president and Nigerians will mention Bola Tinubu a retired drug dealer criminal.


Oh my world!


🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱🥱

Sonnobax15:

She must had been dealt with by a Nigerian man in the past before


Well,that's her own cup of tea . She should ask south African women about us . other women from other nationalities can detest and hate us for no reason but so long we are always being cherished and loved by our beloved south African women,no problem .

A man who can't accept small rejection and move on with his life . He should come back and experience first class wereys pretending to be in relationship with you,only for her to defraud you and later say she doesn't want to be with you anymore

Good Post from you, since my several petition to DSS , and they cautioned you and you wrote an undertaking at DSS headquarters, you have stopped using the word BANNY ooooooooo mucheche kikikikikokk hahaha 😂

Any woman with options who has been on Nairaland will see the average naija man as a massive red flag

Defending sex with underage girls (check)
Defending cheating (check)
General disrespect for women (check)
Lower case Andrew take spouting red pill bs (check)


Too bad for the Naija men who don't roll like that. Their rep is already in the mud.

In UK, you dont take a lady to a restaurant and she will expect you to pay for her

Maybe she had a bad experience with a Nigerian man before.

Three years in the UK?...U never get levels.

Noted.

According to the man, he was matched with a black woman on Bumble and began chatting with her.

He said he asked where she was from, and she told him she was Ghanaian but had been born and raised in the UK.

The conversation reportedly continued until she asked him about his own background.

Recounting the encounter, the man said.

Our reputation is well earned abroad all thanks to our brothers that have gone ahead of you

It is damn expensive...e no easy

UK is literally nigeria but with snow and yt peeps.

Kobojunkie:
Is this guy wanting us to believe that he never experienced rejection throughout his years in Nigeria, that he would now choose to make it about his Nigerianness?😒

The very reason why a reasonable person will reject such people but they won't see that about themselves.

Was he in all honesty serious about the Ghanaian girl or just looking for a visa elongation path.

They want to eat their cake and have it.

Our blodas are developing Ghana.

Ghanians now hold a very negative view on Nigerians over the activities of developers in Ghana

Kobojunkie:
Is this guy wanting us to believe that he never experienced rejection throughout his years in Nigeria, that he would now choose to make it about his Nigerianness?😒

Just 3years in the UK, the guy obviously wants someone who can guarantee his stay in the UK.
The lady actually ran cos she knew the guy will never be sincere with loving her and only after “pali”.

[quote author=EmmyMaestro post=140521030]"As a Nigerian, dating in UK will humble you" — Man shares experience with Ghanaian lady

A UK-based Nigerian man has shared his experience on a dating app after a woman he matched with allegedly unmatched him shortly after learning that he was Nigerian.

The man said the incident left him surprised and prompted him to reflect on the challenges Nigerians may face while dating in the United Kingdom.

Man recounts how Bumble match disappeared

According to the man, he was matched with a black woman on Bumble and began chatting with her.

He said he asked where she was from, and she told him she was Ghanaian but had been born and raised in the UK.

The conversation reportedly continued until she asked him about his own background.

Recounting the encounter, the man said

“As a Nigerian, dating in the UK will humble you.”

He explained that he told the woman he was Nigerian and had only lived in the UK for three years.

According to him, she immediately unmatched him after he disclosed his nationality.

He described his reaction to the sudden disappearance of the match, saying:

“She unmatched me.”

The man added:

“Bro, like the thing do me like say rapture don happen, the way her contact disappeared.”

He then questioned whether his nationality had played a role in the woman’s decision.

“Nigerians wetin, wetin, oh God.”

Nigerians react to his experience

The man’s experience sparked mixed reactions online, with some users suggesting that the woman may have had previous experiences that influenced her decision.

Rounder wrote: “This one fit say na Niaja way anything goes….the image of niaja people to the outside world is really bad,oga just manage ur Niaja babe for there oo,just dey una 2 na hustling una dey and tortoise dey fear tortoise….Pele my guy.”

BAO commented: “Maybe one Nigerian don break her or something.”

Pasture_bale sympathised with the man and criticised judging people based on nationality.

“It’s so sad & heart breaking when pple judge u based on ur country of Nationality not base on ur personality & character its rather unfortunate but u don’t blame them it’s the experiences they’ve had.”

Ifeanyi described dating in the UK as an experience that can change a person’s perspective.

“UK dating no be beans at all. Sometimes you go enter with full confidence and come out with character development. Na experience dey humble person…”

Damilola, however, offered a different perspective, questioning some Nigerians’ expectations when dating foreigners.

“Date Nigerian lady.. Una say dem too dey task. Okay, Data UK lady then. You say he go “humble me” abi Una just dey find free kitten wey no go stress Una?”

Kura also questioned the man’s choice of words.

“‘Humble you’ is a strong phrase; I wonder what specific cultural shock he encountered that made him use such a heavy word? Sounds like a real adjustment navigating those dating scenes abroad.”

“Dating in the UK as a Nigerian will humble you” — UK-based Nigerian man shares his experience pic.twitter.com/5vxKSzYOB4

— Instablog9ja (@instablog9ja) September 2, 2026

get yourself a very good woman from East Africa

motymop:
the issue is not your nationality

the issue is that your are fresh out of the boat

Many black women born in the UK, won't date you because you are an immigrant, it will reduce their status among their friends and families

calm down and follow other african women who are immigrant like yourself

your children will also discriminate against the next generation of FOB

what then can we say of white women dating black immigrants. that one will be they wont even have any status at all among family and friends.

That one unmatched you cus you're a Nigerian doesn't mean that others do not fancy Nigerians either for dating or marriage.

One thing with Nigerians is that we love generalization too much.

What I think actually “humbles” Nigerians abroad
It is often the realization that your Nigerian identity doesn't automatically carry the same social currency abroad that it may carry at home.

In Nigeria, you may already understand the social rules: how to approach women, how courtship works, what is expected financially, how status is perceived, how families interact, etc.

Move to Britain and suddenly you're operating in a different ecosystem.

Your accent may be judged.
Your cultural expectations may be different.
Your approach to relationships may be interpreted differently.

Your nationality may trigger stereotypes.
And nobody is obliged to give you the benefit of the doubt.

That's the humbling part, not necessarily that Nigerian men can't get women in the UK.

GloriousGbola:
Any woman with options who has been on Nairaland will see the average naija man as a massive red flag

Defending sex with underage girls (check)
Defending cheating (check)
General disrespect for women (check)
Lower case Andrew take spouting red pill bs (check)


Too bad for the Naija men who don't roll like that. Their rep is already in the mud.

Hahahaha @ Lower case Andrew Tate.

I thought they said foreign women are waiting for them at the airport with cultural troops.

Silly people everywhere.

There’s a kind of rejection this guy is talking about that many people that has never left the shores of Nigeria will never understand.

This type of rejection comes with racism and profiling that you can’t explain but pains you to your bone.

I will advise OP to ignore Ghanaian ladies, they prefer their fugly brothers to any Nigerian. Go for East Africans.

Must he go to dating app to look for ladies to date?
Doesn't he come across ladies every day ?