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A young vibrant man hustling to make ends meet. Though it wasn't easy,but he kept on grinding and getting some money here and there just to survive.
He decided to settle down and got married.
The wife delivered a baby girl and he was very happy looking forward to the future.
He was always hustling and hoping one day he will make it big.
His wife wanted glamour and wanted it now.
She processed papers to travel out of the country to France for herself and leaving the daughter with her husband.
She finally got the French visa and travelled out of the country
When she got to France, she married a white man so that she will have documents to stay in the country.
To be continued

Men's method of thinking and perception, isn't the same as that of woman. Your struggles don't really matter.

The young man was not happy finding out that the wife was now married to a white man as it made him depressed.
His life never remained thesame again as he vowed never to get married.
He vowed to stay alone and care for his only daughter and give her the best of care.
The harsh conditions of the country never favoured him as he kept on struggling.
He struggled and struggled and with the little money he had,his daughter was able to travel to an obscure East European country.
She was in the refugee camp where she got the news that her dad was in the hospital battling for his life as he has fallen ill
The man died with nobody beside him on his dying bed.
One of the greatest fears of a man is dying alone.
Rest in peace.

RealityKings1:
Men's method of thinking and perception, isn't the same as that of woman. Your struggles don't really matter.

So true, the man is on his own most times in life .
Any setback on a man may be his doom.

guobe:
So true, the man is on his own most times in life .
Any setback on a man may be his doom.

Everyone is on their own not only man.
Did the know anyone before you were born? Oyo

Fekumzi123:
Everyone is on their own not only man.
Did the know anyone before you were born? Oyo

The life of a man is more complicated, pressures and bills are mainly on his head alone.

guobe:
The life of a man is more complicated, pressures and bills are mainly on his head alone.

You will need to carry pregnancy for 9months and might die during delivery but you still go ahead and carry the belle anyway. One, two, three, four....men are trying but not everything is bills.

The whole story is more than pathetic.

Fekumzi123:
You will need to carry pregnancy for 9months and might die during delivery but you still go ahead and carry the belle anyway. One, two, three, four....men are trying but not everything is bills.

Everything is bill yes !
Even while you are pregnant you no go chop?
Who will clear your hospital bill?
Life technically is bill because no money no life
After all everything was going fine until Eve ate the apple after being warned not to
Very stubborn gender

If life was a nollywood script, the man would not have died as a lonely man.This thread actually got me reminiscing about LUKAS GRAHAM song "7 years".

RealityKings1:
Men's method of thinking and perception, isn't the same as that of woman. Your struggles don't really matter.

You are right. A woman will always get help whether she wants it or not. Men will get help from their mother or God alone.

It's a human nature thing. some men dnt really care if the wife or child leaves. same tin wit the female gender.

wat makes most persons irrespective of the gender afraid is not having a trusted person he can run to .

Call it A support system.

same thing wit the female gender.

A man may not feel the absence of his absent wife if he is surrounded by a trusted frnd, associates, acquaintances dt got his back.

Do you tink dos men dt the wife divorce nd left wit the child/children to an unknown location. Do you tink it bothers dem?

They get rattled for sometym after dt they pik up their jeans trouser and start living their life as if notin happened.

Most of those agberos in Lagos have children for a woman dt either the wife left dem or they left the woman .

They find solace and comfort in the midst of their fellow agberos at b/stop nd under the bridge drinking and smoking. Fellowshipping wit oda agberos is their own support system.


The person providing support is wat eliminates fear frm the mind of the oda dependent party.

your wifes fear is dt you dnt get broke or poor as her husband. DTS her fear.

support system is wat we all fear. Not really the presence per say.

As a man, my own greatest fear is that I shouldn't be in any condition where I'm penniless because a broke man is a living dead!

If the man was still financially o.k, trust me, he would have remarried a younger and more beautiful woman. His family members would have "donated" their children to him to raise. He would have been surrounded by lots of people, all of whom are dependent on him for their next meal & survival. He wouldn't have been lonely. But as money don finish for Baba hand, that other gender (both old & young) found him worthless and left him to his fate.

What a sad end!

ravensckar:
As a man, my own greatest fear is that I shouldn't be in any condition where I'm penniless because a broke man is a living dead!

If the man was still financially o.k, trust me, he would have remarried a younger and more beautiful woman. His family members would have "donated" their children to him to raise. He would have been surrounded by lots of people, all of whom are dependent on him for their next meal & survival. He wouldn't have been lonely. But as money don finish for Baba hand, that other gender (both old & young) found him worthless and left him to his fate.

What a sad end!

You nailed it

RealityKings1:
Men's method of thinking and perception, isn't the same as that of woman. Your struggles don't really matter.

You are right; an average man thinks of how to make more money to take home and make his family (mostly wife, kids then parents) happier while a woman thinks of how to get a better life by dating or marrying a financially richer man, she hardly thinks of making more money to take home and make her husband happier, instead the more money she earns more than her husband earns, makes her see her husband as not good enough for her level, so she starts admiring richer and more successful men than her husband, sadly that's how nature wired most if not all women

ravensckar:
As a man, my own greatest fear is that I shouldn't be in any condition where I'm penniless because a broke man is a living dead!

If the man was still financially o.k, trust me, he would have remarried a younger and more beautiful woman. His family members would have "donated" their children to him to raise. He would have been surrounded by lots of people, all of whom are dependent on him for their next meal & survival. He wouldn't have been lonely. But as money don finish for Baba hand, that other gender (both old & young) found him worthless and left him to his fate.

What a sad end!

You are very correct. The greatest challenge a man have in life is financial buoyancy. Once a man is financially buoyant, most of his life problems are half solved except sickness/death.

guobe:
He struggled and struggled and with the little money he had,his daughter was able to travel to an obscure East European country.
She was in the refugee camp where she got the news that her dad was in the hospital battling for his life as he has fallen ill
The man died with nobody beside him on his dying bed.
One of the greatest fears of a man is dying alone.
Rest in peace.

Them the mother and daughter reunited and lived happily every after.
I bet the man's tears will be longer than river nile from heaven

BItt:
Them the mother and daughter reunited and lived happily every after.
I bet the man's tears will be longer than river nile from heaven

Such is life

Alright, let’s have it! What’s the real deal, this little debate about masculinity? AcadaWriter

The greatest fear is far from loneliness and dying alone



Poverty is the greatest fear of a man, I’m on this trajectory and I’m smartly fighting it every means possible, should incase I don’t win, bringing another life to suffer it will be my worst mistake, I’d rather dying alone and end it all, no one deserves this kind of life

franchasng:
You are right; an average man thinks of how to make more money to take home and make his family (mostly wife, kids then parents) happier while a woman thinks of how to get a better life by dating or marrying a financially richer man, she hardly thinks of making more money to take home and make her husband happier, instead the more money she earns more than her husband earns, makes her see her husband as not good enough for her level, so she starts admiring richer and more successful men than her husband, sadly that's how nature wired most if not all women

Same way most if not all men are wired to sleep with as many women as they can - and brag about it!

RealityKings1:
Men's method of thinking and perception, isn't the same as that of woman. Your struggles don't really matter.

It's not all of us o.

guobe:
The young man was not happy finding out that the wife was now married to a white man as it made him depressed.
His life never remained thesame again as he vowed never to get married.
He vowed to stay alone and care for his only daughter and give her the best of care.
The harsh conditions of the country never favoured him as he kept on struggling.
He struggled and struggled and with the little money he had,his daughter was able to travel to an obscure East European country.
She was in the refugee camp where she got the news that her dad was in the hospital battling for his life as he has fallen ill
The man died with nobody beside him on his dying bed.
One of the greatest fears of a man is dying alone.
Rest in peace.

If he was a good man, he didn't deserve it. This story is quite touching 😭

The man did not learn his lessons from his first mistake. His wife travelled and gone. That is enough reason he would stop his only child from traveling to oversea. There are many ways to earn good livelihood here in Nigeria.

An Igbo adage says a stick should not strike to one's eye twice. If it does mistake must be from the person.

Merry100:
If he was a good man, he didn't deserve it. This story is quite touching 😭

He was a good man,always jovial, no stress type of person and very respectful

galantjoe:
The man did not learn his lessons from his first mistake. His wife travelled and gone. That is enough reason he would stop his only child from traveling to oversea. There are many ways to earn good livelihood here in Nigeria.

An Igbo adage says a stick should not strike to one's eye twice. If it does mistake must be from the person.

It will be selfish of him to stop his daughter from travelling out,Nigeria is tough and most people are barely surviving.

I beg to differ

Being someone who has stared death in the eye on more than five occasions, I have no problem if death comes when I am home alone and my body decays before anyone finds me. It wouldn't be any different if I am about to die, surrounded by everyone I know.

If you have ever reached that point, when you survive it, you will learn the ultimate lesson... NOTHING REALLY MATTERS.