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passionate88: I bn wan write smtin bt I jst dey get 2nd thought. See eh, ppl go say @ 23 u still dey young make u no do this n that, me no too believe in those things o. Yes u dey young bt wit each passin day u dey get older bt e no mean say u go rush go do smtin wey u go regret. U say u want guy wey no go shine ur kongo till una marry ba?, bt u no want church brother?. My sister if u see any wassup guy wey no ask u for sex till him propose marriage to u, that guy get serious problem wit him tool. As u dey say no sex till after weddin, u b v?.

u just spoke my mind in pidgin tho, if d OP refuse to asnwer dis question, then she is nt yet ready for a relationship. If u be girl, and u nor be V, u hav no RIGHT to tell me NO SEX B4 MARRIAGE! Dnt try it!

Jenams: u just spoke my mind in pidgin tho, if d OP refuse to asnwer dis question, then she is nt yet ready for a relationship. If u be girl, and u nor be V, u hav no RIGHT to tell me NO SEX B4 MARRIAGE! Dnt try it!

wat is dis aproko sayin? So, jus cos someone is no more a virgin means he/she shld continue engagin in pre marital sex and have no right to repent and stop. U have a negative digit IQ

And to d OP, b careful of dos droppin their numbers and contacts and dos PMing u. Some are golddigger.

passionate88: As u dey say no sex till after weddin, u be v?

If a woman is no longer a virgin then she must open her "honeypot" to every musa, okafor and seun, huh?

That one was a mugu before doesn't mean she/he should continue to be a mugu.

busolaJ: I have good friends however most of them are in relationships.. I don't want to sound like a loser but sometimes i just wish I had someone who genuinely cares about me..Like is it because I'm surrounded by people who are all boo'd up & in love or Is it normal to be 23 & been single all your life?? with no real love interests?

I don't like to talk about being lonely with people cos I'll look weak but it really bothers me

Sent you a PM

I can see desperation here but wait oh! what should our aunties who are in their early 30s do

jmoore: If a woman is no longer a virgin then she must open her "honeypot" to every musa, okafor and seun, huh?

That one was a mugu before doesn't mean she/he should continue to be a mugu.

Obviously u dnt read many thread in the family section. Many girls/lady do complain after marriage that their husband's dnt last long, they have small tools, they re nt good in bed, etc. And u will read where many girls will say they want to marry a guy that's good in bed bt they won't have sex till after marriage. And u as a guy hw would u feel when u eventually get married only to discover that your wife hate having sex?, or her hole is wider than the size of ur member.
I still maintain what I said. @op, are u a V?.

How I wish we are close! Buh no kwalms, God has unique ways he unites. U are free to add me for more talks @262675d6. Cheers!!!

The main issue here is that u want to have the 2 ends of a stick, eat ur cake and ave it back. A godly relationship devoid of sex but with loads of fun. That's going to be very hard, most guys that offers the latter will most likely demand for sex.
During my campus years, fellowship girls also wanted the same thing- a churchee wazzup guy, they remained single thruout their student days. These 2 things are diametrically opposite and rarely reconciliable.
Few sociable guys who may respect your views are those who wants to settle down soonest. At 23 are u ready to be a wife and a to be mother? U need to know that inside marriage fun, party, clubbing, and social life evaporates into thin air, nobody talks about them. Its all about responsibilities.
So my girl, u need to get ur priorities right. I really wonder why u're lonely and bored. London isn't that a boring place and I'm not convinced u really need a guy to overcome loneliness.
Besides, what are u doing at the moment? At 23 a nigerian girl is most likely exiting university, in NYSC service, engaging in skill acquisition, preparing for professional exams, working or searching for a job. Things may be different over there, but u adapt to the needs of ur environment to get busy.
But if u insist u need a man in ur life, talk to ur pastor. He will definitely hook u up with a man for the purpose of holy matrimony.

toluene12: But if u insist u need a man in ur life, talk to ur pastor. He will definitely hook u up with a man for the purpose of holy matrimony.

The last thing I would ever advise even my enemy to do.

OP, I will be blunt but I hope you get the message. You are mentally in the early 1970s. When having sex, you are NOT giving anything to a man, you are not doing anyone a favour. The sex after marriage mentally is so 70s and that's greatly going to affect you.

If you feel like having sex, you should have sex. If you need a boy friend, you should be able to start dating people without considering religion. That's going to greatly affect you.

At 23 is when you should make mistakes and learn from them, not to be cautious now and make mistakes later when you are already getting to 30s.

Your type is rare, is not a good word in 21st century, it means you are alone, which is why you are lonely. You MUST become like the rest to succeed matrimonially in today's Earth. Cos the very husband you are keeping your kettle for, is slamming, slamming and slamming as I type this message and I mean it.

Good luck in your dilemma but believe me, mehn love the adventurous on bed, you better start to learn, its no more a missionary experience.

I nominate 190 he doesn't like sex=====>but he talks about it

busolaJ: BTW I'm not looking down on 'church guys' but I'm wondering Is it possible to come across young Christians who are considered 'new generation' and have same thinking and upbringing as I do.

Yes, there are many of your kind.

Go out more alone rather than with your hooked up friends.trust me I understand d feeling..just take a chill pill and have fun in whatever u do.sooner than u think somebody who wuld understand and love u wuld come around.those over churchy guys are suicidal.very boring!

Patience, my dear. You're not the only 23 year old without a boyfriend. Everything in its time.

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You be man and you suggesting if she gets a man finally,she would wish she never got one?
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l'm presently in the OP's shoes. l would advice that she makes a lil compromise about the shallow parts of her requirements e.g. money and looks. KEEP TO YOUR MORAL AND SPIRITUAL VALUES!! Gd luck.

busolaJ: I'm not desperate neither am I a loser, I'm not here to look for a boyfriend I just really need to vent some of my frustrations and share my feelings without being judged hence why I to opened an account.

I live in London,I'm 23, educated with a good job and I've never had a boyfriend,I'm not picky when it comes to men, realistically I'm not that bad looking I rate myself a 7/10 and most people describe me as sweet and easy going.Its not that I don't get Male attention but its always from the wrong type of guys, I assume that all the guys that approach me just want to smash which in most cases I'm right .

I don't believe in sex before marriage, am I being unrealistic with myself?, I don't go clubbing and party all the time so its not that I always surround myself with the wrong kind of guys. my close friends tell me everyday that its not possible to find a guy that will wait till marriage before sex but I don't want to settle for any old school guy at my church just because of my belief . BTW I'm not looking down on 'church guys' but I'm wondering Is it possible to come across young Christians who are considered 'new generation' and have same thinking and upbringing as I do.

please I need some advise and encouragement. Is this normal or am I being too hard on myself?.

I've tried so much to focus on myself and my relationship with God and making Busola (Me) a better person but I'm just really tired and fed up of waiting on Mr right

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busolaJ: I'm not desperate neither am I a loser, I'm not here to look for a boyfriend I just really need to vent some of my frustrations and share my feelings without being judged hence why I to opened an account.

I live in London,I'm 23, educated with a good job and I've never had a boyfriend,I'm not picky when it comes to men, realistically I'm not that bad looking I rate myself a 7/10 and most people describe me as sweet and easy going.Its not that I don't get Male attention but its always from the wrong type of guys, I assume that all the guys that approach me just want to smash which in most cases I'm right .

I don't believe in sex before marriage, am I being unrealistic with myself?, I don't go clubbing and party all the time so its not that I always surround myself with the wrong kind of guys. my close friends tell me everyday that its not possible to find a guy that will wait till marriage before sex but I don't want to settle for any old school guy at my church just because of my belief . BTW I'm not looking down on 'church guys' but I'm wondering Is it possible to come across young Christians who are considered 'new generation' and have same thinking and upbringing as I do.

please I need some advise and encouragement. Is this normal or am I being too hard on myself?.

I've tried so much to focus on myself and my relationship with God and making Busola (Me) a better person but I'm just really tired and fed up of waiting on Mr right

you are not too hard on yourself, and at 23, i believe you have a very good chance of hooking up with the best, just take your time, you idea man will come knocking soon. Don't measure your happiness by the people around you, what i'm trying to say is that, don't go into relationship because everyone around you are in a relationship or because that is expected of you, go into it because you are ready and you've found someone you have feelings for.

I wish you the best.

Billyonaire: If you feel like having sex, you should have sex. If you need a boy friend, you should be able to start dating people without considering religion.

Has the world gone as bad as this? Would you maintain this position if she was your daughter? The multitudes that are 'experienced' are the ones that are daily lamenting. Only God gives a happy home, not experience in fornication, abortion and heartbreak.

Busola can you contact me at eternalreloaded@yahoo.com?

Thanks.

Op I feel your pain, but you of all people would have known that this is not the best way to go about this. Its too early to panic, and pls there is nothing wrong with wat you want as an individual. Being a gal, you have little or no control as to who walks up to you, that's why the wrong ones are inevitable. You just have to work on your level of socialisation, relate with as many as you want. Enjoy the company of both the good guys and gals you meet. Your happiness is resident in you and not from any external being. You seriously need to walk on staying happy with yourself cos your type will end up committing suicide if you end up in the wrong hands. Godforbid

abdulkayus: wat is dis aproko sayin? So, jus cos someone is no more a virgin means he/she shld continue engagin in pre marital sex and have no right to repent and stop. U have a negative digit IQ

Don't mind Jenams, ASUU is frustrating him dats y.

busolaJ: I'm not desperate neither am I a loser, I'm not here to look for a boyfriend I just really need to vent some of my frustrations and share my feelings without being judged hence why I to opened an account.

I live in London,I'm 23, educated with a good job and I've never had a boyfriend,I'm not picky when it comes to men, realistically I'm not that bad looking I rate myself a 7/10 and most people describe me as sweet and easy going.Its not that I don't get Male attention but its always from the wrong type of guys, I assume that all the guys that approach me just want to smash which in most cases I'm right .

I don't believe in sex before marriage, am I being unrealistic with myself? , I don't go clubbing and party all the time so its not that I always surround myself with the wrong kind of guys. my close friends tell me everyday that its not possible to find a guy that will wait till marriage before sex but I don't want to settle for any old school guy at my church just because of my belief . BTW I'm not looking down on 'church guys' but I'm wondering Is it possible to come across young Christians who are considered 'new generation' and have same thinking and upbringing as I do.

please I need some advise and encouragement. Is this normal or am I being too hard on myself?.

I've tried so much to focus on myself and my relationship with God and making Busola (Me) a better person but I'm just really tired and fed up of waiting on Mr right

Yes you are!!! Why don't you want to have s*ex before marriage, what difference does it make, if that's what it's going take, are you better than those who do? Or what value would being a Virgin until marriage add to your life?

No wonder you cry of loneliness.

chukstoney: well swtie am sure u should av gotten enof advise bliv we r goin tru d same shit am also like u any gal I date brks up wit me cos am nt interstd in sex because marriage, I tink u r wat am lukin 4 pls reach me on +2348032360625 n u won't regret knowin me trust me

Lol naija boys ain't smiling, he tells her what she wants to hear!!