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Kachisbarbie: yels...my people say I'm stubborn...
But I say I'm strong-willed

scosco1: Keeping Grudge could be as a result of deep hurt and offence someone did against us intentionally or without knowing . It diminishes our joy aπϑ inhibits our relationship with others . We keep grudge because we choose not to overlook ,ignore the wrong the other person did against us . Letting go frees us . G-d commands, "You shall not hate your brother in your heart..." (Lev. 19:17)

To understand this crucial idea, let's look at the commandments which immediately follow it:

You shall rebuke your fellow
You shall not bear a sin because of him
You shall not take revenge
You shall not bear a grudge
You shall love your fellow as yourself.

Whom do we rebuke?
- The fellow who is doing wrong YET IS WISE ENOUGH to accept rebuke. We do not rebuke scoffers (Proverbs 9:.


How do we rebuke?
- Privately! We must not humiliate our fellows. ( "this is the meaning of "You shall not bear a sin because of him."
- Gently! Or the rebuke will not be heard.

What is revenge?
- Reuben asks Simon if he can borrow a hatchet. Simon says, "No."
- The next day Simon asks Reuben if he can borrow a sickle. Reuben says, "No, because you would not lend to me."

What is a grudge?
- Reuben asks Simon if he can borrow a hatchet. Simon says, "No."
- The next day Simon asks Reuben if he can borrow a sickle. Reuben says, "Yes, because I am not like you."

How do I love my fellow as myself?
- this is the fundamental rule of the G-d's word
- If we were unknowingly doing wrong, we'd want to be told, yet it is so hard for any of us to hear criticism.
- Great indeed is the person who can give rebuke so gentle that another person will hear it.

jimmy4x: and extremely determined ....I'm Taurus too, May 8

priscaoge: Wow...That's Nice!

jimmy4x: yea, wats ur day??

priscaoge: 30th April

Kachisbarbie: Chai...you go do party for us be that. , you too @Jimmy4x, no try use location collect excuse o.

softsparkyy: I thank God for the kind of heart he gave to me.I forgive and forget easily, dont even know how to keep malice, Sometimes I wonder what people gain in holding grudges when the person you are starving and killing yourself might not even know. I like being free and happy.

priscaoge: Yeaa it can be very discomforting. To me it's like having a heavy burden,people actually feel comfortable bearing a grudge 4 years. It amazes me

softsparkyy: Yeah it's like having a heavy burden and it gives me migraine so if you hurt me so bad, I will just cry and let go.

priscaoge: Lmao,U don give me expo be dat

Kachisbarbie: Chai...you go do party for us be that. , you too @Jimmy4x, no try use location collect excuse o.

priscaoge: I just want to have Ur views on this. Why do
people hold on to or continue to harbour this ill feelings when there's nothing to gain from it? I know I am extremely emotional so I sometimes take things to heart and but seriously I can't stand bearing grudges against someone, it keeps me uncomfortable anytime I remember that am not in talking terms with d person. It seems to me holding a grudge is more like to hate which takes energy and emotions,or as somewhere U are burying feelings or holding some energy and it prevents U frm really moving on. So my question is what do u think that actually make people to hold on to grudges for a long time??

I wonder ooo
Some people eat grudges like food.

if they don't bear a grudge, they will just go thin overnight.

Lemmee nuh lie sha, if someone I love/value hurts me and doesn't make it up to me as is expected of them (depending on rank)
Well
That one is not grudge, is it?
Okay, maybe advanced grudge.

But then I think the crux of the matter here is bearing grudges against a general hood of people, that's a bah to me.
A big no! no!

softsparkyy: I thank God for the kind of heart he gave to me.I forgive and forget easily, dont even know how to keep malice, Sometimes I wonder what people gain in holding grudges when the person you are starving and killing yourself might not even know. I like being free and happy.

MizMyColi: I wonder ooo
Some people eat grudges like food.

if they don't bear a grudge, they will just go thin overnight.

Lemmee nuh lie sha, if someone I love/value hurts me and doesn't make it up to me as is expected of them (depending on rank)
Well
That one is not grudge, is it?
Okay, maybe advanced grudge.

But then I think the crux of the matter here is bearing grudges against a general hood of people, that's a bah to me.
A big no! no!

priscaoge: U mean it's in their nature to bear grudge?

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priscaoge: Was just wondering Y people harbour hates n grudge n still feel comfortable

tpia6: its their nature, same way other people are unable to keep grudges and malice.

naijaaone:
lìfe is too brief to habour grudges. Grudge is a slow killer disease that has more negative effect on the bearer than the offender. So as that sharp guy with a liberal mind i treat mr grudge as an enemy i don't need in a twenty first century.

priscaoge:
Spot on

naijaaone:
my dear, i can't stop people from offending me but i can choose to be happy.

priscaoge:
Exactly! Been Happy is just what u need. Sometimes I use music to relax my nerves. No one can make me unhappy again unless I choose to be

naijaaone:
being happy is a delibrate choice. If u want to be happy start treating offences as none-essentials. Shalom