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Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:40pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
holysaint1:enen wot hapen to it? |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:48pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Divorce is not the way out. Its not an option.
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Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by STENON(f): 5:52pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Two years with Two Kids?...are they twins or what?... Hmmmmm....If the foundation has been destroyed, then what can the righteous do? @ OP, what was the foundation of your marriage?, I hope you dnt have one of the two kids out of wedlock,...She Didnt Loves you at first instant, It maybe because of the frustration/Shame of unexpected Pregnancy which arose as a result of Premarital sex that forced her to go into Marriage with you. Instead of going back to Marriage counsellor/Her Parent. My advice is that you should go back to your creator(God), ask for the forgiveness of the past, look for a happy moment to discuss this problem with your wife,Beg her for the forgiveness of the past, and ask Master God to be the Leader of your Home. Surely, You will smile again.... |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by omoiseselagba: 5:52pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
mk3jax:bros u ar a total man.u are marid to d wrong woman if all what u said is true.i must av died if i go tru all dis frm a woman.a woman shd worship u for takin kia of her n her family.i want to bilv she grew up d bad way.na u go for yasef.a bitchy woman like dat doesnt deserve u.you are a saint. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 5:52pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Guardianangel:Holy Moses!!! Didn't u at least court him for some months before d marriage or was it arranged marriage Too many scary comments on this thread, na wa o 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by MrsAnyanwu(f): 5:53pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
pls op, i sincerely sympathise with u, but pls try and watch dis movie titled 'fireproof ' u myt learn a thing or two, from it, God preserve and bless ur union, more kids on the way. 3 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Morotov1(m): 5:56pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
podosci:Yes sir. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by InvertedHammer: 5:57pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
liyuboy:/ This is why men die before women. You are in a loveless relationship and you are still not doing the needful because of some stupid societal pressure. SMH. People are suggesting that you talk to her because it is the most plausible thing to say to get a million likes. It is not as if you have not talked to her about these issues in two years of marriage. A bad character is a bad character and no amount of talking, counseling can change it. It can only apply a soothing feeling for awhile before the despicable trait rears its ugly head again. Marriage should not be a life sentence. If anyone does not fulfil you, pull a stop loss and move on. Don't let her use the children as a leverage. Guess what? When you die from all the stress, she and the kids will still live. Grow some balls and move on. Just make sure your kids are taken care of very well. In as much as we abhor it, kids growing up in a loveless family is as bad even if not worse than growing up in a single household. / 3 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 6:08pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
elujah1:Truth! And one thing I have observed in ladies is this: they always place their family (parents n siblings) need above that of their husband. I have a relative and a family friend who were once in similar shoes with the op. They married ladies who are always demanding money from them to send to their parents/siblings. One even went as far as asking my relative to buy her parents a car (a specific car o), y If your husband must buy your parents car, let it be from his heart not out of persuassion pls n pls. This seems to be the most rampant cause of fight between married couples in Nigeria now- wife demanding excessively from her husband to give to her parents/siblings. Pls dear ladies, in as much as most men I know including myself would love to take good care of their in-laws, don't make it a priority to the detriment of your own marital success...if your husband goes broke, all those your relatives will definitely run away, leaving u and your hubby to suffer alone, so be moderate about this pls. This is another reason many financially buoyant guys don't want to marry ladies from broke or average family again, pls stop discouraging guys the more. @op, try and set up a business or something for your wife. Not just a street shop o, something more viable with possibilities of sustainability away from your continuous funding, I think that would go along way in ameliorating the problem of she demanding money for her family members- let her use her business profits and help them. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Homguy(m): 6:13pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
gistmelove:thread closed! A man that cheats on his wife has no respect for himself and doesn't deserve it either. That woman maybe giving Op all he's experiencing cause she found out he is a cheat, or worst case scenario, he is just looking for a way to send off the poor woman, so he can bring in his Cu_m drinking girl friend. 4 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 6:15pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
@ Op, you should listen to people like ayaomoade and co that have given you reasons to question yourself for being in such an unhappy marriage. I'm very sure that if your wife were to come to nairaland and give her own story, no one will see you as the saint you've portrayed yourself to be here. Don't listen to people here who don't respect their mothers, are not well bred to handle any woman and can't even afford just 1 room apartment. Do the needful and seek guidance from your creator and try every means to fix that marriage. Good luck. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Edusouls(m): 6:17pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Meeen, for how long will take u people to see that modern generation of women re no more women? They re men life eaters, they bring misery into ur home instead of support, these re end time women' men should realize and face the reality in time to save themselves from more life damage... 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 6:22pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
InvertedHammer:my own blood brother was a victim too! He was blessed financially, married this his long-time swthrt out of love...she was so awesome b4 marriage...was my best friend...everyone family member cherished n welcomed her. Just after marriage n 2 kids, she changed from good to bad...gradually to worst...God in heaven knows that every member of my family did all we could to savage d marriage...to please her...my mum went to virtually all prayer houses n churches praying for her...her own parents did n got tired of her...she started acting insane with strange behaviours showing someone possessed of evil spirit. Even got to d extent of not taking care of her kids...my brother changed cars n cars for her to please her to no avail...opened a big business for her to please her more to no avail. So he decided to marry a second wife n maybe divorce n settle her, me, my siblings n parents refused that no divorce in our family...we stopped him from re-marrying n divorcing...2yrs later, my brother died mysteriously, *tears* Life is just useless! In fact, op, whatever ur instinct tells you to do about this marriage, do it and don't listen to anyone b4 sth bad happens...cos some women are heavily possessed of demonic spirits that usually wake up after they marry an awesome husband. Be wise and also talk to God on your own. No one else can advice u best, talk to your God and follow your inner voice. Goodluck 7 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by MillerHenry(m): 6:26pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
liyuboy: Man!! D only way divorce is allowed in d bible is due 2 adultery nd dat is if u r a xtian duo, well due 2 hr bhvr u earlier mentioned she may be under d influence of d devil because i blv she waz nt lk dis wen u were courting. Plz my advice 4u is 2 take hr 2 a deliverance church whr she can b delivered. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by gidjah(m): 6:27pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
[quote author=mk3jax post=27195060] Well I have a similar issue with my wife. She was miss perfect agreeing to everything I want when she was looking for marriage and after marriage, her real self started to manifest. First it was constant complain about my family for no reason, then she graduated to wanting to control my life and determine who I am to give money or not and where I can and cannot go. She complains about everything and never appreciating anything I do. I provide all the financial need of the house 100% yet she want me to take care of her parent and siblings(both married and single ones) like i am their father and every time I refuse to send them money it is quarrel. She also expect me to praise her for almost everything she does like I demand same praise for putting her under a roof, paying all the bills, feeding her and our child and making her as comfortable as possible. my bro ,no be joke o!na d same thing ur guy dey face 4here,to born d second child na fear i dey so!god will see us tru |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 6:28pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
DailyNews: [size=20pt]You have said it all, and thanks for sharing this terrible event with us GOD will give you the courage to overcome it. @ OP a word is enough for the wise.[/size] 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 6:33pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
gistmelove:Can you imagine? I think the op has already made up his mind. Infact, since he is proving that his is a real african traditionalist,he would be doing his wife a favor by divorcing his decent wife in peace and wrecking what is left of his miserable life. Let him go for the 'akamu' drinkers or those women that are african traditionalists who like visiting shrines. Confused people. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by MillerHenry(m): 6:34pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Man!! D only way divorce is allowed in d bible is due 2 adultery nd dat is if u r a xtian duo, well due 2 hr bhvr u earlier mentioned she may be under d influence of d devil because i blv she waz nt lk dis wen u were courting. Plz my advice 4u is 2 take hr 2 a deliverance church whr she can b delivered. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Duchaello(f): 6:40pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
coogar:what kind of advice is this for crying out loud!! do you really have to say something? |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 6:41pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Febup:God bless u too Febup. You know, that comment I quoted brought tears to my eyes and I had to open up. I still remember with tears, how my brother used to cry to us for help- always calling my parents, elderly aunts, siblings & even d wife's parents/siblings just to restore love/peace in his marriage but d wife never cared- instead she waged war against everyone- her parents, mine (except my dad/mum), pastors, aunts, cousins, n even her fellow sister-in-laws. Everyone kept advising my brother to hold on n keep praying that she would come back to her senses. He cried n cired...pray he isn't angry with us wherever he is now, *tears*....but we pressured him to pls endure for a change. Finally he died...his death isn't far fetched from d wife...can't talk abt it here, *tears*....his kids we were concerned abt are all faring very well now he's gone! Life is just useless!!!! It hurts to remember this, sighs Ladies pls its not a laughing matter, go to God and ask for forgiveness of all ur crucade n evil ways while single before u go into marriage cos some underlying spirits always wake up once u ladies marry an awesome man...I am sure its not always ordinary like we all see it n feel marriage counsellors n advisers can solve. 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Bizibi(m): 6:43pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Bootybuttchic:exactly,the hypocrisy on this platform is just too much...many of them are single....... |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Sunshinelady(f): 6:49pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
gbadexy:. True sha. Som pple are naturally difficult. I pity men dat aint mature/ strong enof o, cos I know d solution to a stubborn woman is a tougher/more mature man dat can handle her. Once a 'troubl som' woman is in d hands of d 'right' man, all dose her trouble go melt |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Sunshinelady(f): 6:54pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
palma:. Nice one! I must say |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by gidjah(m): 7:02pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
LOTS of men die in marriage b4 their time ,can some one in d house tel me y its always in that like?,i hav to b believin god for my bp over my wife's case else,,some of d men would not want to hit ,they begin to bottle up emotions until sudden death come for him,i am a pastor and military man,all my breas of service forbids me from hittin so d only thing i do now is to struggle to pray and hope to find a divorce verse in my bible,gbam!straigt i go for that last one,for now,i wish i could use my video remote to do abackward rewind on my marriage!but so far,so right!THE last time they went for summer was about d best time of my life.(no messsin up),i had fun bin alone could think well but as she came back,status quo returned |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Sunshinelady(f): 7:03pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
dancok:. Lol, smh. His line of thought, not him k? |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 7:12pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
mk3jax:I would suggest you show her your original post and this one and see how it goes. I personally don't believe in suffering in marriage (I'm not married btw). They say there are 2 places you should be at peace - your grave and your home - so if you're more comfortable at work than at home, I don't think it's worth it. I think you should let her know without tempers flaring. 2 Likes |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by gidjah(m): 7:15pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
podosci:GOOD JOB YOUNG MAN,i hav always gave that kind of advice too,once u r not married pls keep away from funny comment and listen to what experience has for u ,pls stop bin in fantasy island and wake up to reality,all this holywood movies aint it,they will never work in your home,they are not real.MARRIAGE DON change me big time 1 Like |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Bizibi(m): 7:17pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
gidjah:hahaha....one have to look inward before stepping into the other side of life...it is really scary when one sees things like this in marriage |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by gidjah(m): 7:24pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
Laparicoo:THIS IS D 2ND recommendation,can some one in d house help me wit how to get this movie pls,some one give me a brief download |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by gidjah(m): 7:26pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
babeface3:WILL SURE WORK ON THIS DEAR,IT WILL WORK FOR THE MARRIED JARE! |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by meanest(m): 7:35pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
One area that many men ignore in their wives is their mental health. Once you as a husband begin to notice a behaviour that your wife never put up before, especially after birth it is important to seek professional help...fast. Nigerians are very spiritual in these areas and the stigma attached to it makes it even.worse. But believe me by the time it deteriorates it could be a nightmare (speaking from experience). Kindly consider this area for your wife/family's sake. |
Re: TWO Years In Marriage!!! The Feeling, The Realization And Surprise. by Nobody: 7:37pm On Oct 19, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Yeah right 1 Like |
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