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Are angry mobs becoming prevalent in Nigeria?

Dem just dey hide under rock dey wait for unsuspecting victims.

CityNG:
Oponu Ide, it is not my place to consider any alleged suffering of the children. I continue to be proud of the Father returning to them.
Instead of asking me what or why am I proud of the father, you went on an assumptious and idiotic rant. If assumptious aholes are your idea of leaders then your lineage is apathetic.
A mouth breather like yourself has no iota of learning to teach even a lemming.
Go crawl back into the hole you came out of.

You refer to 8 years of abandonment as "alleged suffering" you must be a psychopath, perhaps you've abandoned your own kids hence your stance, after all which decent human being would make excuses for a man who abandoned his own flesh and blood for a whole EIGHT YEARS - YOU MUST BE A PSYCHOPATH WITH NO HUMAN FEELINGS WHATSOEVER!!! I pity anyone who comes into close contact with you.

Please if you have any intention of procreating just go for vasectomy now as your kind will only y create children who will grow up to become a danger to society due to the abuse they have endured in their formative years - a word is enough for the wise!

i wish my dad could do such

He is yoruba right?

Not surprised the slightest

donLEXY:
Who r wa not to forgive thee, you realized your mistakes, accepted it like you should, tender an apology also seek for forgiveness..... Well well my brother, go and sin no more and the best is the happiness the little kids witness. That is heavenly

Exactly.

The Father made a mistake, he realized it and he asks for forgiveness. I always proud of people who can put their self interest behind and be humble.

Many noisemakers on this thread and in that crowd are probably harboring much more worse than he did.

donbaba20:
i wish my dad could do such

Do what exactly? Abandon you or find you?

If it's finding you then have you reached out to him?

cap28:
You refer to 8 years of abandonment as "alleged suffering" you must be a psychopath, perhaps you've abandoned your own kids hence your stance, after all which decent human being would make excuses for a man who abandoned his own flesh and blood for a whole EIGHT YEARS - YOU MUST BE A PSYCHOPATH WITH NO HUMAN FEELINGS WHATSOEVER!!! I pity anyone who comes into close contact with you.

Please if you have any intention of procreating just go for vasectomy now as your kind will only y create children who will grow up to become a danger to society due to the abuse they have endured in their formative years - a word is enough for the wise!

I actually didn't make excuse for his actions but you are free to continue to demonstrate your lack of comprehension skills.

Now that you've resorted to screaming at the top of your voice, please understand that it doesn't get your point across any clearer. It just shows you as a rambling lunatic with little composure.

You are grasping at every branch as you continue to fall back into the dark abyss you crawled out of.

Enjoy your fall

[quote author= post=27505794]Ok sir. Its not necessary you believe. Thank you very much sir.[/quote]well, i just check out your blog and I think it's cool,
Just need a little spicing

Just wondering aloud, what about the mother that left her 3 kids for 8 years. Probably chilling with another Bobo for Abuja, failed parents. Just hope he will get it right this time around.

Mrkuvuki:
He messed up, its good he's trying to reconnect with his kids...In the America's or Europe the Govt will not allow him access to those children,[/b]He failed as a father

Of what good will it be, to the children especially, if though he messed-up, He was never allowed to "make-Up" and see his children again?

This is the "Good Thing" between countries like Nigeria and the so-called developed world!
We try to "correct" bad behaviour" ....
....while the Western system is focused primarily on "punishing" bad behaviour as a way of preventing future occurrence, ...futile as we may have observed!

At the end of the day, maybe he can still make things work out and show even more love to these innocent children.

In America or Europe, he will DEFINITELY be sent to jail!
And as an ex-convict, his prospect of getting a "any job" will be almost ZERO and thus his ability to assist the same children for which he was being punished, further jeopardized!
He then ends up becoming a liability on the same state which assisted in destroying him (in contrast to assisting him to become a better father!)

Thus, these Western Countries need to look themselves in the eye and ask: Is this Policy, made to ensure parents (fathers) do their responsibility to their children, HELPFUL to the same children, IN THE LONG RUN?

No matter what, a Father should NEVER abandon his children though, anyone matured and experienced knows that there are "some circumstances" where that may become inevitable ..... but a good father must be able to show in tangible terms, THE DETERMINED EFFORT he made, to see and care for his children ... and only left when his own life was maybe, being endangered by even trying to see them.

A case in point is when the MOTHER gets a spurious BARRING ORDER against her estranged Husband (father of the children), something very common and "given' in Western Countries.
Such a Father has NO CHOICE than to "completely avoid seeing his children"!
HE has to stay-away!
Even if he 'meets them by chance', he needs to quickly RUN AWAY before the woman calls the Police......otherwise, if he attempts to see them or make any contact with them, he will be arrested and JAILED....., even though he wants to be part of their life.

Curiously, l noticed that the MOTHER in this story, also abandoned these Children for the past Eight years! ...... as it is the father who is promising to go look for her, somewhere in Abuja!

If this were to be in the Western countries, she would "hold on to the Children very dearly".....
.... as it means a "lot of Money" for her, from Child benefit, to early child care, to free house, to 'back to School allowance', Lone Parent allowance, Deserted wife allowance, e.t.c, ......from the Government!

But since such "Freebie Money" are not available in Nigeria, she quickly abandon them as well!

It just shows you that if you remove the "financial inducement" available, most women in the Western Countries who "claim absent Fathers/Single Mothers", .........will do the same if not worse!

Children should be loved and taken care of, irrespective of the financial inducements.
When Parents "fall-out" with each other, the Children should never be used by any of the parties, for punishment or financial gain. Both must still continue to play their part in the children's life as the children, being still small, cannot decide who they want to live with and it is wrong for the "Legal System' to assume the want to stay with only the woman ......or man alone


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ADDENDUM:
And let me add that "Fatherhood" is not just about becoming an ATM ... simply providing money!

Though important to pay the bills, as a child (stepping into a child's mind), l would want my father to spend quality time with me, to teach me things, to mentor me, to provide "stable and dependable" support for me as l grow up, to boost my confidence, to lead me, teach me how to know God, laugh and roll on the floor with me, show me how to love and respect others, teach me how to be Clever, navigate my school work with me on a daily basis, be there when l wake up from a nightmarish sleep to re-assure me that "its okay", e.t.c

He may not be able to afford all the toys, best school or everything l need, but being there, his presence alone IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING A FATHER CAN GIVE A CHILD.

This is what l do/provide for my own children, as a father, despite catering for their financial needs.
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Ilekere:
Are angry mobs becoming prevalent in Nigeria?

Dem just dey hide under rock dey wait for unsuspecting victims.

Thing is MOST Nigerians are ANGRY..... and rightly so too!
Though, most dont know "where and How" to channel the ENERGY of such anger to.

Who would not be "angry" if you are born in a country so-blessed (from natural resources to a good climate and vibrant population) yet being ruled by Thugs, Touts, Fraudsters, Unrepentant Looters, inept and clueless politicians who have turned a once peaceful and near ecstatic country into a hell-hole for them?

If not for the unending perseverance and deep resilience of Nigerians, coupled with self-inflicted selfishness, Nigerians should have rose-Up against their oppressors but then..... they channel such anger into "Mob Action"!

Now, that is very disturbing.

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lastpage:
Of what good will it be, to the children especially, if though he messed-up, He was never allowed to "make-Up" and see his children again?

This is the "Good Thing" between countries like Nigeria and the so-called developed world!
We try to "correct" bad behaviour" ....
....while the Western system is focused primarily on "punishing" bad behaviour as a way of preventing future occurrence, ...futile as we may have observed!

At the end of the day, maybe he can still make things work out and show even more love to these innocent children.

In America or Europe, he will DEFINITELY be sent to jail!
And as an ex-convict, his prospect of getting a "any job" will be almost ZERO and thus his ability to assist the same children for which he was being punished, further jeopardized!
He then ends up becoming a liability on the same state which assisted in destroying him (in contrast to assisting him to become a better father!)

Thus, these Western Countries need to look themselves in the eye and ask: Is this Policy, made to ensure parents (fathers) do their responsibility to their children, HELPFUL to the same children, IN THE LONG RUN?

No matter what, a Father should NEVER abandon his children though, anyone matured and experienced knows that there are "some circumstances" where that may become inevitable ..... but a good father must be able to show in tangible terms, THE DETERMINED EFFORT he made, to see and care for his children ... and only left when his own life was maybe, being endangered by even trying to see them.

A case in point is when the MOTHER gets a spurious BARRING ORDER against her estranged Husband (father of the children), something very common and "given' in Western Countries.
Such a Father has NO CHOICE than to "completely avoid seeing his children"!
HE has to stay-away!
Even if he 'meets them by chance', he needs to quickly RUN AWAY before the woman calls the Police......otherwise, if he attempts to see them or make any contact with them, he will be arrested and JAILED....., even though he wants to be part of their life.

Curiously, l noticed that the MOTHER in this story, also abandoned these Children for the past Eight years! ...... as it is the father who is promising to go look for her, somewhere in Abuja!

If this were to be in the Western countries, she would "hold on to the Children very dearly".....
.... as it means a "lot of Money" for her, from Child benefit, to early child care, to free house, to 'back to School allowance', Lone Parent allowance, Deserted wife allowance, e.t.c, ......from the Government!

But since such "Freebie Money" are not available in Nigeria, she quickly abandon them as well!

It just shows you that if you remove the "financial inducement" available, most women in the Western Countries who "claim absent Fathers/Single Mothers", .........will do the same if not worse!

Children should be loved and taken care of, irrespective of the financial inducements.
When Parents "fall-out" with each other, the Children should never be used by any of the parties, for punishment or financial gain. Both must still continue to play their part in the children's life as the children, being still small, cannot decide who they want to live with and it is wrong for the "Legal System' to assume the want to stay with only the woman ......or man alone


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Thank you of this wonderful thesis.

This is the best response I've read on NL this year to any topic.

Thank you.

[quote author= post=27501004]Hmmmm, life o life. Very happy for them

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Really feel for him,welcome Man!

Ojestas:
I ain't still gonna retract my words about him.. '' Fu*k him, I repeat! He wasn't there when they needed him most.

oga..na u be Tupac? lol

The mob should have been allowed to beat him a bit, so he doesn't try it again. Anyway, I'm happy the kids have gotten their dad back. Being abandoned as a kid is a horrible thing! I just hope the man doesn't do it again, cause people don't just change that easily.

Abbey2sam:
well, i just check out your blog and I think it's cool,
Just need a little spicing

Thanks so much.

chux76:
For this passionate plea...consider me a frequent visitor to ur blog...but if its crap filled..I'm OUT!!!

Thank you sir...I will try not to mess up

Alhamdulillahi...so happy 4 d kids...
Their mother shud pls show up...

Some yoruba ppl behave lyk animals, sorry to say dis, but they would have lynched him if not for intervention. If they had succeeded in lynching him, how would they feel??.. Anyways d man was very wicked, hope he has changed for good.

That school deserves an award for not pushing the kids out while their father was in "abscondment"

To be fair enough, the man wey I dey see him picture with the kids no resemble person wey hungry dey hammer for d past 8yrs oo. Anyway, devil dey too as God dey also

Both GOD and devil work together for good in our individual life's.

I thank God for the school management for assisting the children all these yrs.

Am just too happy for the kids...and for the man may God create a new heart in him.

waoo, cant hold my emotional tears.

thank God for them,
i read the story two weeks ago, i felt so bad and i realy commended the effort of the owner of the school
what a kind woman.

i really hope for the sake of the poor children that he has changed.

i hope he is not trying to gain sympathy and financial gain from all this.

there is no other word for this man and his wife but WICKEDNESS!!

May God have mercy on them and help the children to forgive them.

only God knows the kind of emotional, verbal and physical abuse those children have endured for being at the mercy of the school.

He even posed for photograph ...?

[quote author= post=27501004]Hmmmm, life o life. Very happy for them

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Fellow Nairalanders, I have been a member of this forum for more than 8 years and one way I can benefit from it is for you guys to help patronize my blog at www..com ...Abeg, I have no where to run to
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See how fast the children embraced him without thinking twice. No questions asked or bitterness. That's good because he's their biological father. But if you were their step father who trained them how would you feel ? Another reason any man who marry's someone with a child and takes care of another man's child is a fool.