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pasqal09:
Being submissive doesn't mean being a slave you know.

I hate that word. I hate that being with someone means I have to lose myself. Regardless of whether I'm dating or married, I'm still an individual with opinions and principles that may be different from my SO's. The idea of submissiveness means -to me- that I no longer get to be a person. I'm just supposed to be okay with whatever my SO says or does.

And I cannot picture myself living like that.

mascot87:
I bet ur bf got no class,no be by mouth o but with people like me, na u go dey beg to cook for my house even while dating

never mentioned boyfriend here...so y the attack on boyfriend

see this girls oooo!!!
to cook again don turn work abi??
see, the truth is if u ar not in his life, he will cook nd eat for sure, so cooking for him even at is place doesnt mean u ar a house maid or watever, you ar jst showing him love, care nd concern..
....lazy girls

pasqal09:
Then how would she graduate to become a wife?

Graduate to become a wife? I don't think that's how relationships work lol.

How would you "graduate" to become a husband?

u getting this wrongly

TahariX:
I hate that word. I hate that being with someone means I have to lose myself. Regardless of whether I'm dating or married, I'm still an individual with opinions and principles that may be different from my SO's. The idea of submissiveness means -to me- that I no longer get to be a person. I'm just supposed to be okay with whatever my SO says or does.

And I cannot picture myself living like that.

How does being submissive change who you are?

pasqal09:
Then how would she graduate to become a wife?

u judge by cooking skills.... chai... you are on a looooooooong tin....

pasqal09:
Then how would she graduate to become a wife?

so dts ur own way of picking a wify..d woman mxt play d role of a wife?lol she wil cook ur meals,do ur laundry,scrub ur house and later she gets dumped..smh some ladies should start having common sense..its called common buh not common..

Who go even allow make girlfriend cook for am these days sef, especially with the poison wey most of una dey cook?!

Pepper go dey one side, Maggi one side, Onions go dey play 5 and 6, salt and maggi go dey play world cup inside pot of soup!

Nonsense!

I initially thought the thread was about forcing a girl to cook.

If your bf asks nicely that you cook every time and you're in the mood to cook, what's wrong? Every relationship has its dynamics.
It's only a problem when he forces you to cook.

I don't like talking about girls and money but see this scenario - How many girls have complained that every time they go out, the boy spends his cash? What would he now spend when you marry then

As said earlier, if you wanna do it do it stop thinking about the when I become your wife story.

pasqal09:
How does being submissive change who you are?

sub·mis·sive·ness
səbˈmisivnis/
noun
the quality of being submissive.

sub·mis·sive
səbˈmisiv/
adjective
adjective: submissive
ready to conform to the authority or will of others

See what I'm saying?

Gloria3389:
u judge by cooking skills.... chai... you are on a looooooooong tin....

nomabeeee:
so dts ur own way of picking a wify..d woman mxt play d role of a wife?lol she wil cook ur meals,do ur laundry,scrub ur house and later she gets dumped..smh some ladies should start having common sense..its called common buh not common..

No, but its an important criteria though. Beside haven't you guys had this saying "the way to a man heart is through his stomach".

sapien:
Who go even allow make girlfriend cook for am these days sef, especially with the poison wey most of una dey cook?!

Pepper go dey one side, Maggi one side, Onions go dey play 5 and 6, salt and maggi go dey play world cup inside pot of soup!

Nonsense!

lolzzz... I can see you've not met a good cook before....

sapien:
Who go even allow make girlfriend cook for am these days sef, especially with the poison wey most of una dey cook?!

Pepper go dey one side, Maggi one side, Onions go dey play 5 and 6, salt and maggi go dey play world cup inside pot of soup!

Nonsense!

LMAO!!!!

@Op I have some friends who dont even allow any girl cook for them expect a relative. That your cooking for your 'love' should give you joy and he too can be able to do the same for you. If you feel too big to do some things for the one your dating then, your mind is not there a 100%. There should not be laid down rules regarding issues like cooking in a relationship.

TahariX:
sub·mis·sive·ness
səbˈmisivnis/
noun
the quality of being submissive.

sub·mis·sive
səbˈmisiv/
adjective
adjective: submissive
ready to conform to the authority or will of others

See what I'm saying?

Yeah, that still won't change you. Besides, somebody has to be the boss for God's sake

pasqal09:
No, but its an important criteria though. Beside haven't you guys had this saying "the way to a man heart is through his stomach".

the married ones....

pasqal09:
Yeah, that still won't change you. Besides, somebody has to be the boss for God's sake

There is no boss in a relationship. -_-

TahariX:
There is no boss in a relationship. -_-

Lmao! That my dear is very wrong

Gloria3389:
the married ones....

You'd have to get into his heart first for him to get you married naa.

pasqal09:
Lmao! That my dear is very wrong

wow. I can't even......

Anyi3:
I initially thought the thread was about forcing a girl to cook.

If your bf asks nicely that you cook every time and you're in the mood to cook, what's wrong? Every relationship has its dynamics.
It's only a problem when he forces you to cook.

I don't like talking about girls and money but see this scenario - How many girls have complained that every time they go out, the boy spends his cash? What would he now spend when you marry then

As said earlier, if you wanna do it do it stop thinking about the when I become your wife story.

lol..ur opinion shaa

pasqal09:
You'd have to get into his heart first for him to get you married naa.

not by cooking...


(the proverb do not apply in the case of dating )....

TahariX:
wow. I can't even......

Lol, you'll have to. Besides, if the love btw you guys is genuine, that wouldn't be a problem

Gloria3389:
not by cooking...


(the proverb do not apply in the case of dating )....

Permit me to ask this....
You are currently in a relationship right?

merit12:
Freedom of weed expression


Baby girls good point


*gather all the babes ,matching along rounabout ringroad (benin)

Singing

No more cooking for boyfriend(2x)
Because they are benfiting what they have not pay for



Hmmmmm


For me it different somehow
Cos if I love him I will take good care of him and show him I can cook ,he is not going waste his money marrying me or teaching me how to cook


Besides na 2 of us go enjoy the food .oh


All the d movement

Nor use ya jamz spoil my blues oh




Op are you black


Sig....never give up if you wanna try

merit pls I want to marry you

pasqal09:
No, but its an important criteria though. Beside haven't you guys had this saying "the way to a man heart is through his stomach".

its an old adage..the way to a man's hrt is no longer tru his stomach.. its tru character and submission bc dy re long lasting..buh food does not last..

pasqal09:
Lol, you'll have to. Besides, if the love btw you guys is genuine, that wouldn't be a problem

If the love between us is genuine, he won't expect me to be submissive and he won't think of himself as the boss in the relationship.

this is y most of u are not MARRIAGEABLE neither do MARRIAGES last again...
TOO MUCH MOVIES..
MY CANDID ADVICE:
-dont even bother cooking...because most of u feed us with OTAPIA PIA...(RODENTICIDE).
MEN hardly reason well again ..because u ladies have damaged our brains with only INDOMIE....
MEN now eat only SNACKS...
HARDLY can u get a lady that can prepare VEGETABLE DISH..
D other day, one dat visited me was GOOGLING how to make common YAM PORRIDGE..
DON'T COOK PLEASE...

pasqal09:
So what's the girlfriend suppose to do when she visits? Balance on his bed while he cooks for her?

yea she can balance on bed if she likes.... I can cook for my gf dat is if she's tired and afta she eat nd fully relax we do d bed tinzzzzzz

nomabeeee:
its an old adage..the way to a man's hrt is no longer tru his stomach.. its tru character and submission bc dy re long lasting..buh food does not last..

So u agree with submission and character? But, how can you show these when you won't even cook for him?

olusmarth:
yea she can balance on bed if she likes.... I can cook for my gf dat is if she's tired and afta she eat nd fully relax we do d bed tinzzzzzz

Perv!