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You need 2 4give, but coming back depends on u.

Ma dear the hediot doesn't want you. He is coming for his son, I will say you forgive him. As for going back to him , that depends on You
But it's better you let go so u can have inner peace.

You are having feelings because you don't have a man. You want him back. In the event you've moved on with your own life, what kind of feelings would you have then? None, your husband will be on your mind.

Don't waste your time, things are not going well for him is why he's returned.

Awwhh I see the reason you spite men on most threads. Really sorry
Truth is, you have to forgive but don't give in yet to his advances, take plenty of time to study him - if he has truly changed and is ready for something serious
I can see from your post that you really like the guy. So take all time you need, think about it. And if finally, you think he's not someone you can cope with, please don't bother. No one on NL will tell you whether to go back or not. The choice is entirely yours.

Please cut the crap about men being wicked.Didn't you hear about unprotected sex and its consequences before you started having it?Were you not loving it then?

Your boyfriend didn't treat you well and like a lot of guys like him,they get to a stage it starts to burn them.Seems your boyfriend may not be having things going well with him.It's okay if he wants to meet his son and wants your forgiveness.
However,if he says he wants a comeback,you need to weigh all things.Really,I think you should have moved on already.Unfortunately,you have not tried to find love again and that's why you are in a dilemma now.

Tashamania:
Awwhh I see the reason you spite men on most threads. Really sorry
Truth is, you have to forgive but don't give in yet to his advances, take plenty of time to study him - if he has truly changed and is ready for something serious
I can see from your post that you really like the guy. So take all time you need, think about it. And if finally, you think he's not someone you can cope with, please don't bother. No one on NL will tell you whether to go back or not. The choice is entirely yours.

Thank you. I hate that I spite them tho. I see them as devil's representatives on earth.
I have forgiven but going back? Hmmm..


Marieolae, Lekejob and obowunmi thanks.. Believe me I'm between the devil and the deep blue sea buh I know I'll be fine. Thanks again

thorpido:
Please cut the crap about men being wicked.Didn't you hear about unprotected sex and its consequences before you started having it?Were you not loving it then?

Your boyfriend didn't treat you well and like a lot of guys like him,they get to a stage it starts to burn them.Seems your boyfriend may not be having things going well with him.It's okay if he wants to meet his son and wants your forgiveness.
However,if he says he wants a comeback,you need to weigh all things.Really,I think you should have moved on already.Unfortunately,you have not tried to find love again and that's why you are in a dilemma now.

I'm sorry, but you did read read where in my statement I said I wanted to terminate the pregnancy but he refused saying he's got plans? Abandonin me when I needed him most? If he isn't wicked, why would he do such?

You said you both met in school,you are through with school and have a well paying job,now let me ask,were you doing all this without knowing that condom and contraceptives exist
You also didn't know that murder/abortion is a sin

If he had supported you on aborting that baby,this threads headline would have been "he doesn't want to accept his responsibility"


Everyone is taking your side and giving final verdict on a guy they don't know facially or otherwise...
Stop playing the victim and hear him out..


It wasn't easy for you then,was it rosy for him?

Don't make hasty decisions,
hear him out
and know why he left without your notice..

Concluding that he is back because of the boy is not the best.
Concluding that men are wicked is myopic here because it's only one that has done you 'strong thing'
or have you tasted all men?












What makes me think this your story is fake
I am aware of the increase in women bashing threads on here
and I understand your concern to make men feel bad
but this your story is just a poor way to start

cherryice:


Thank you. I hate that I spite them tho. I see them as devil's representatives on earth.
I have forgiven but going back. Hmmm..

Devils representatives? Aww hun that's abit too extreme, don't you think?
We, ladies have our flaws too
Its all about accomodating the other and trying to make the best out of them.
All will be well with you, don't worry

I think the "feelings" you are having for him are because u guys are bonded by the child you have together. I would advice you to forgive him, but to accept him back.... if u take the risk, well all the best!

cherryice:


I'm sorry, but you did read read where in my statement I said I wanted to terminate the pregnancy but he refused saying he's got plans? Abandonin me when I needed him most? If he isn't wicked, why would he do such?

Your boyfriend treated you wickedly but you have to realise there are guys who accepted responsibility in similar situations and stood with their partners.I want you to erase the notion that men are wicked.It won't help your future relationship.
This guy abandoned you when you needed him most and chickened out for whatever reasons.He ought to have gone through it with you.
I keep saying pregnancy prevention is the responsibility of both sexes.There are many things to do from knowing your safe period to using contraceptives.

Real strong thing.

Hear him out, find out why he left.

Odilafta:
Everyone is taking your side,have you had time to know what went wrong?

It wasn't easy for you then,was it rosy for him?

Don't make hasty decisions,
hear him out
and know why he left without your notice..

Concluding that he is back because of the boy is not the best.
Concluding that men are wicked is myopic here because it's only one that has done you 'strong thing'
or have you tasted all men?

Nothing can justify his actions, he was really really inconsiderate and wicked to say the least. They were in the shit together and he decided to bail out on her without a hint.
Whatever he was going through, she was equally going through same x2.

I'm wondering why it took him a whopping 5yrs to realize he made a mistake. That was real wickedness if you ask me, i'll be scared to live with such a man 'cause you may wake up one day only to realise the man you slept with the previous night has varnished.

Hmm, I don't honestly know what to advise you o cos I don't know the kinda explanation he'd give(were I in your shoes) for me to take him back.

Except he was kidnapped by aliens and just got his freedom, anything short of that go hard me believe.

Fake story.
Fake Profile
Fake Identity
Fake Gender.



I smell lies
[img]http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQN12pPNzO_jZimmFv8dH9KWi-nS8cki888ytuiX1SFOMkXXwZHTTIG6V-z[/img]

I don't need to hear this guy out. It's obvious that his disapperance was deliberate. How can a man travel out of the country without informing his pregnant girlfriend. If that's not wickedness, i wonder what adjective qualifies such a heartless man.

Cherryice, pls be smart. Don't let this man hurt you the second time. He's coming back for his son. He wants to get back into your life so that you can trust him with ur son and before you know it, all you've laboured for is taken away from you. WISE UP.

BTW, don't you think dt ds guy probably has a new fam now. Forgive him and make him responsible for the upkeep of his son but don't grant him access to him or you might have urself to blame.

DBestDoc:



Nothing can justify his actions, he was really really inconsiderate and wicked to say the least. They were in the shit together and he decided to bail out on her without a hint.
Whatever he was going through, she was equally going through same x2.

I'm wondering why it took him a whopping 5yrs to realize he made a mistake. That was real wickedness if you ask me, i'll be scared to live with such a man 'cause you may wake up one day only to realise the man you slept with the previous night has varnished.

That's strictly your opinion.

Same thing on my mind. Tho I have a song, a hymn rather that we used to sing in Methodist Church while growing up. It goes like this
come home come home
ye who are weary come home

tenderly, lovingly jesus is calling, ye who are weary come homecommmmmeeee hoommmmmeee


oya clap for me na, abi you no enjoy my hymn

Chillisauce:
Fake story.
Fake Profile
Fake Identity
Fake Gender.



I smell lies
[img]http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQN12pPNzO_jZimmFv8dH9KWi-nS8cki888ytuiX1SFOMkXXwZHTTIG6V-z[/img]

Chillisauce:
Fake story.
Fake Profile
Fake Identity
Fake Gender.



I smell lies
[img]http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcQN12pPNzO_jZimmFv8dH9KWi-nS8cki888ytuiX1SFOMkXXwZHTTIG6V-z[/img]

She is been around for quite a long time.

I unfollowed her when she unfollowed me, though one of the reasons why I unfollowed her was that she strikes me as someone that has a natural hatred for guys - Na so I carry my mat go krule for one side.

She is not fake

malaria:
Ma dear the hediot doesn't want you. He is coming for his son, I will say you forgive him. As for going back to him , that depends on You
But it's better you let go so u can have inner peace.

how can you call somebody's baby's dandy hediot?

Tashamania:


Devils representatives? Aww hun that's abit too extreme, don't you think?
We, ladies have our flaws too
Its all about accomodating the other and trying to make the best out of them.
All will be well with you, don't worry

Hello Tash,I think I like u ..not cos of d azz on ur profile pic..

SuperMartins:
Hello Tash,I think I like u ..not cos of d azz on ur profile pic..

Thanks

Tashamania:


Thanks

hmmm..ur thanks ain't so cool oo..we ain't fighting..ur comments actually drew me towards u..anyways,Nice body

SuperMartins:
hmmm..ur thanks ain't so cool oo..we ain't fighting..ur comments actually drew me towards u..anyways,Nice body

Nah we aint. I'm fine
Thanks again

If he left when you needed him the most why won't leave again? Abegi, if he wants to be there for his son as a responsible father let him but that should be it.

Hmmm.

A tiger can't change its spot.

His coming back will bring back another round of sorrow.

Well,you can give him a chance,but just be careful now,only God knows his plan..

I always have a bad feeling about a person pleading to come back into someone's life after so much damage he/she has done. People like that always come back with a lot of drama and conditions that are worse than before. Which is why i dnt take back EXES.

If he wants to be responsible over the child, No problemo! But if he is coming back to you, i would advise you dnt take him back.

If you take him back just be prepared that one day he'll leave again only by then he may leave you with 2or 3children

Him leaving the way he did shows he's the kind to bail out when things are tough. He is a selfish man who will chose what works in his interest ahead of you and your child. You can forgive him and let him know his child but even with that be careful because if he leaves again it will hurt your child after getting to know him.

Is not easy menh......... He feels ur pregnancy was an obstacle to achieve his dreams that's the reason he forsake u then.......i think u r still part of his life......that's why he want u back....... And me dey also think say u still luv am....... I ll say make u give chance am small.........

Kanwulia in WTF? mode!